There are many reasons why you shouldnвЂ™t add close family members on Facebook, but many people still go ahead and do it without considering the consequences, and find that they regret it later. While itвЂ™s true that if a parent or grandparent adds you first, they may be a little hurt if you refuse them, itвЂ™ll be less painful than you blocking and deleting them later on and could save a lot of hassle. Here are the reasons why you shouldnвЂ™t add close family members on Facebook.
Yes, top of the list of why you shouldnвЂ™t add close family members on Facebook is the same reason youвЂ™re hesitant about introducing them to a new boyfriend or taking them to certain places. But itвЂ™s not them showing photos of your having your nappy changed to one person youвЂ™ll have to worry about, but to hundreds!
2 TheyвЂ™ll Know Everything
You donвЂ™t necessarily want your mother to know exactly everything you might get up to on a girlsвЂ™ night out when youвЂ™ve had a few too many glasses of wine. This is definitely a very good reason not to add relatives on Facebook, although youвЂ™ve got nothing to worry about if you never do or say anything that your family wouldnвЂ™t approve of.
3 TheyвЂ™ll Share Everything Too
If you think your mom seeing that photo of you falling over with your panties showing is bad, wait until the whole family has seen it. Or even worse, you become the center of a piece of gossip that someoneвЂ™s learned on Facebook and after a bit of Chinese Whispers, everyoneвЂ™s talking about something terrible thatвЂ™s barely got a shred of truth in it.
4 Too Much Information
Are anyone elseвЂ™s grandparents way too willing to share detailed information about their bowel movements, ingrown toenails or even their sex lives? If you add them on Facebook, you could get a continuous stream of information just like that.
5 Friends with Your Friends
If youвЂ™ve got family members, especially parents, on Facebook, you could soon find that all of your friends have added them and theyвЂ™ve accepted. Some people may be fine with that, but others may feel a bit awkward about their friends and their parents chatting online.
6 Coming to Your Defense
If you ever have a bit of a row (or even a silly play fight online that someone not вЂinвЂ™ on it could confuse for a row) you could find granny wading in to defend you. You really donвЂ™t need family getting involved online as if theyвЂ™re protecting you from bullies in the playground.
7 Can You Show Me How toвЂ¦?
If your relatives, especially the older ones, arenвЂ™t as tech-savvy as you, you may find yourself being inundated with questions about how to upload pictures, tag, write on walls, share posts, and plenty of other things too. You donвЂ™t want to be giving Facebook lessons when all you wanted was to pop in for a cup of tea.
Has anyone had any bad experiences from adding family members on Facebook? Or perhaps you completely disagree, and really like keeping in touch with your family on Facebook? At the end of the day, there are advantages to having relatives on Facebook too, so you just have to weigh up the pros and cons and decide what is best for you.
When I first joined Facebook 6 years ago, my “family” consisted of mostly friends that sent me a family request to be my “sister”/“brother” etc. Well now, its still like that, but with actual family members as well. The point is, its 6 years later, and I find that its childish and unnecessary to list someone as your family member that isn’t actually in your family.
So, my questions are, how do I remove them as “family”, and will they get a request saying that I removed them?
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go to “edit profile”
on the left side bar, go to the tab that says “friends and family”
you can edit there as you wish. 🙂
Will they see that I removed them?
it won’t give a notification, but you can do what I did: I hid my entire friends list, so NO one can see ANY of my friends except me 😛
@Glow is right, they wont get a notification, but they will be able to see on your page if they have a special title or not unless you “hide” all your friends from your public profile.
Take the reins of your loved one’s memorial page.
What happens to someone’s Facebook account when they die? Well, if they had the foresight to designate a legacy contact prior to passing away, Facebook will hand the reins of their account over to their designated contact upon proof of their death. But what if your loved one — like the majority of young, invincible social media users — never got around to getting their social media affairs in order?
If one of your Facebook friends has passed away and their account is still active, here are your options.
Legacy contacts are named by the account holder prior to their death — a family member or a friend who will be able to manage the person’s memorialized account when they die. Legacy contacts can post a pinned post at the top of the deceased user’s Timeline, respond to new friend requests, and update the person’s profile picture and cover photo. They can also, with the deceased user’s permission, download an archive of the user’s photos, Timeline posts, and profile information.
Legacy contacts cannot log into the deceased user’s account and see any of their private information, such as Facebook messages. They also cannot remove the user’s past posts, photos or friends.
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To choose a legacy contact, open up your Facebook account and go to Settings > Security > Legacy Contact. Click Edit, type in your friend’s name, and click Add.
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You will have the choice to send them a message about your choice immediately — click Send to send them the message, or click Not Now if you’d prefer they not know about your decision. You’ll need to eventually tell them, of course, because they will need to ask Facebook to memorialize your account when you die.
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Once you’ve chosen a legacy contact, you’ll see the option to allow them to download a copy of your Facebook account under Data Archive Permission. To allow your legacy contact to do this, click the checkbox and click Close.
If you do not choose a legacy contact before you die, nobody will be able to manage your Facebook account — but they can still memorialize it.
Memorializing someone’s Facebook account
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If your friend has passed away without setting up a legacy contact, you can still request that Facebook memorialize their account using this form. You will need to provide the person’s name, approximate date of death, and optional proof of death (such as a link to an obituary).
A memorialized account will have the word “Remembering” in front of the person’s name, and will not show up in Facebook ads, “People You May Know,” or send out reminders on the person’s birthday. Memorialized accounts cannot be logged into, so memorializing someone’s account also prevents the account from getting hacked.
If you’re an immediate family member, you can request that the account be deleted instead of memorialized. To do this, use Facebook’s Special Request for Deceased Person’s Account form. You will need to provide the deceased person’s full name, email address, date of death and the URL of their Timeline. You will also need to provide proof that you are an immediate family member — you can do this with a birth certificate, death certificate, or proof of authority.
Editor’s note: This article was originally published on March 2, 2016. It is being republished as part of CNET’s series “Logging Out,” CNET’s look at death in the digital age.
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Not ready to unfriend or block that friend? Try restricting them instead
What To Know
- Go to Facebook or open the app. Open the friend’s profile, and press Friends. Pick Edit Friend Lists, and choose Restricted.
- To restrict a post’s visibility, write it normally, select the Public globe icon, and switch it to Friends.
- To un-restrict, select their profile, press Friends, pick Edit Friend Lists, and select Restricted again to remove the check.
This article explains how to use Facebook’s Restricted list is a feature that allows users to hide posts from specific friends on the social network by adding them to the Restricted list. Any Facebook friend can be added to or removed from this list at any time and there’s no limit to how many people can be on it.
How Do I Add Friends to a Restricted List on Facebook?
Open the official Facebook app on your iOS or Android smartphone or tablet. If you prefer to use a computer, open your favorite web browser and go to the official Facebook website. Sign in if you’re not already.
Go to the Facebook profile of the friend you want to add to your Restricted list. If you’re having trouble finding them, type their name into the search bar at the top of the Facebook website or app.
Once on your friend’s profile page, look for the button that says Friends. Tap on it.
A small menu should pop up. Click on either Edit Friend Lists or Add to another list. The menu text will change depending on what app you’re using or if you’re on the Facebook website but the function is the same regardless of what it says.
You will be shown a list of numerous Facebook lists designed to categorize the people you communicate with on the social network. Scroll down to the bottom of this list to the one named Restricted. Tap on it to add your friend to the Restricted list.
What Facebook Posts Can Restricted Users See?
Facebook friends on your Restricted list will still be able to see all of your posts published with the Public privacy setting as well as any posts published with the Friends privacy setting that they are personally tagged or mentioned in.
Public posts are identifiable by the globe icon while Friends posts have the icon that looks like two people. Any post can have its privacy setting changed simply be editing them via the ellipsis menu in the post’s top-right corner.
How to Post on Facebook With a Restricted List
After adding at least one friend to your Restricted list, create a new Facebook post as per usual.
Before you publish your post, make sure that the Friends (people) icon is showing. If the Public (globe) icon is showing instead, tap on it and select Friends.
Publish your post. It will now be viewable by all of your Facebook friends except for those that you’ve added to the Restricted list. Anyone on your Restricted list will automatically be unable to view posts you make for Friends from this point forward.
Can Friends Tell If They’re on a Facebook Restricted List?
Facebook users are not notified of being added to or removed from lists on the social network so there is no direct way for your friends to find out that they’ve been added to your Restricted list.
How Do I Remove Friends From a Facebook Restricted List?
To remove a Facebook friend from your Restricted list, open their profile page in a web browser or within an official Facebook app.
Click on the Friends icon on their profile.
From the new menu that’s popped up, click on Edit Friend Lists or Add to another list. The exact text will vary depending on how you’re accessing Facebook.
Scroll down the list of Facebook lists to Restricted. There should be a check mark next to the list name. Tap on it to remove the check mark. They should now be removed from the list.
Why Should I Use a Restricted List?
Restricted lists can be useful for when you want to write posts or share a link about something without having to read negative or controversial comments from close friends or family members. The Restricted list can also be a practical way to stay connected with co-workers on Facebook without them seeing more personal posts from you relating to your home or love life.
Use privacy features to keep your family’s info in the family
by Steve Morgenstern, April 14, 2011 | Comments: 0
- Control who has access to your family page
- Contact everyone in the group at once
- Understand the privacy features and make them work for you
Everybody loves Facebook for staying in touch, but that doesn’t mean you necessarily want to share family-related material with your friends and business colleagues. The solution: create a private Facebook group just for family members. You control access, you can allow whomever you like to share messages and photos with the group, and, of course, it’s free.
Building a Facebook group page is a great way for family members to stay in touch.
For starters, you’ll need a personal Facebook account (the odds are good that you already have one — more than half of 50-plus Internet users enjoy social networking today). Be sure you understand the privacy settings used to limit who sees what you post online. You’ll find these controls in the drop-down Account menu at the top far right of the page, under Privacy Settings; your options are explained in detail here.
A Facebook group page isn’t that different from your personal page. Members of the group can post messages, photos and video; leave comments; create events, “like” posts that appeal to them; and have live chat sessions with each participant typing messages back and forth. But there are some interesting added capabilities, too. For example, instead of sending messages one at a time to group members, you can contact everyone at once with the click of a button.
Another intriguing option is creating group documents, which everyone can work on together. Wish you had all the family recipes in one place? Create a group document and invite everyone to kick in their favorites.
You don’t have to look far to find the “Create Group” option. There should be a clickable link in the right-hand column on your Home page (you may have to click “More” if you’ve already joined several groups). If you still don’t see the link, just go to Facebook.com/groups.
Click “Create Group” and a box pops up asking you to name the group, choose an icon, add members and set the group’s overall privacy level. Let’s take a moment to explore each of these tasks. And remember, you can change any of these choices after the group is created.
The icon is a little picture that shows up next to the group name in listings. There are lots of choices in a drop-down menu.
When choosing a name, you’re allowed to duplicate one that’s already in use, but you might want to come up with something distinctive if you want family members to find it by searching. Pity poor John Smith scrolling through page after page of Smith Family groups!
In the Members section, you can add any Facebook friend to the new group. They don’t have to confirm anything (it’s easy to drop out if they don’t want to participate). When you start typing, a list of existing Facebook friends’ names matching what you’ve entered so far appears, so you don’t have to worry about misspellings. And, of course, you can always add more members later on.
The Privacy setting here controls the group’s online visibility. If you want the group to show up in Facebook searches and be completely visible to anyone, including the member list and anything that’s been posted, choose “Open” here. For more privacy, choose “Closed”: Facebook members will be able to find the group, see the members list and ask to join, but they won’t see the postings. To fly completely under the radar, choose “Private.” That way, the group won’t show up in a Facebook search and nobody but members will be able to see it — the group name won’t even show up in your profile.
Now just click “Create” and — voilà — your family has an online home!
As the creator of the group, you’re automatically considered a group administrator, which means you can change settings, approve new members and remove members who make nasty comments about you at a family wedding. You can share these privileges with other members by making them administrators, too. Just click “See all” next to the Members List on the group home page and you’ll see the “Make Admin” option under each name. You’ll also see a little “x” next to each name. Click one of these to remove a member from the group.
If you look to the left of the group name at the top of the page, you’ll see a drawing of two heads in a box — boring! Click on it, though, and things get more interesting. Now you can upload a family photo or even crowd around the webcam (if you have one) and take a picture then and there. Now that photo will be the face of the group, much like the Profile Picture in your personal Facebook account.
Another feature worth setting up is a group email address (you’ll find this option under “Edit Group”). You create the first part of the address (say “AARPMember” as an example) and Facebook adds “@groups.facebook.com.” Now, whenever anyone sends an email to [email protected], the message will appear automatically in every group member’s News Feed.
That takes care of the basics: If you need additional information, Facebook has a comprehensive help section for group features here.
And, of course, now that you have the family site under your belt, it’s time to think about additional opportunities for quick-and-easy group sharing. Do you play on a sports team, or belong to a club or congregation? Are there a group of friends at work who’d like to share private messages during off-hours? Facebook lets each member join up to 300 groups, so the only effective limitation is your imagination.
Relative, step-relatives and in-laws can all be added to your Facebook Timeline. When you add a person, his profile picture and a clickable link that connects to his Timeline are added to your profile. Your privacy settings also determine who can see the family you’ve listed on your profile; you have the choice to keep you entries private or show them to any friends, connections or the general public. Family entries don’t have individual privacy settings — the settings you choose apply to your entire family.
Click “About” on your Timeline.
Scroll down to the box that says “Family,” and then click “Edit.”
Click “Add Another Family Member,” and then type in the name of the person you want to add. If the person is connected to you on Facebook, her name appears in the drop-down menu; click her entry to link her Timeline to your family entry. If you’re adding someone without a Facebook account, finish typing the name, and then enter her birthday using the drop-down menus below her name.
Click “Choose Relationship,” and then pick the best description of your relationship with that person from the drop-down menu. Click the button with the circle and the arrow next to the drop-down menu to choose whether the update will be displayed on your Timeline; choose “Allowed on Timeline” or “Hidden from Timeline.”
Click the privacy icon at the top right of the Family box. It will have a different icon displayed depending on your current privacy settings — either silhouettes, the Earth, a padlock or a gear. Select the privacy settings you want from the drop-down menu to determine who on Facebook or the Internet can see your family connections. Click “Save.”
Have you heard about Facebook’s Close Friends feature? Here is a step by step by steps guide you can follow to add people to close Friends list on Facebook.
Facebook, one of the most used social media applications across the globe allows its users to create close friend lists. Close Friends list is a friend list on Facebook which separates some friends from all other friends on the list. If you post anything on Facebook and select Close friends option, then only the people inside your Close friend’s list will be able to view it and the actions will not be visible to any other Facebook users from your account.
Close Friends feature comes in handy at times when you want to share an update with only certain friends. Use this feature and separate your professional contacts from personal ones. Now, if you are wondering how to add other Facebook users in your close friend’s list then you use this article as a reference.
Here is a step by step by steps guide you can follow to add people to close Friends list on Facebook using web, Android and iPhone.
Desktop: Steps to add friends to Close Friends list on Facebook
Step 1: Visit the Facebook official website, www.facebook.com
Step 2: Next, log in by entering your user Id and password.
Step 3: After login, go to your friend’s profile.
Step 4: Click Friends at the top of their profile.
Step 5: Now from the from the drop-down option, select Close Friends.
Android: Steps to add friends to Close Friends list on Facebook
Step 1: Open the Facebook app on your Android device.
Step 2: Next, go to your friend’s profile.
Step 3: Tap Friends below their profile picture.
Step 4: Tap Edit Friend List.
Step 5: From the given options tap Close Friends.
iPhone: Steps to add friends to Close Friends list on Facebook
Step 1: Open Facebook app on your iPhone
Step 2: Next, go to your friend’s profile.
Step 3: Next, tap Friends below their profile picture.
Step 4: From the given option, tap Edit Friend Lists.
Step 5: Tap Close Friends.
According to the Facebook official website, you can add friends to more than one list or remove friends from a list.
Use Facebook’s people search and other tricks to find someone online
Searching Facebook is a great way to find someone online. With it being the largest social networking site in existence, your odds of finding the person you’re looking for is fairly high.
Facebook lets its users add lots of information about themselves to their profile, and the inherent function of the site is to bring people closer together through information sharing. You can leverage this to help you find someone on Facebook, whether it’s a friend you used to know, an old coworker, neighbors, family, etc.
Facebook isn’t the only way to find someone on the internet. Dedicated people search engines are also helpful, even more so if you don’t know the person’s name, you have no friends in common, they’ve blocked you, or if you and/or them don’t use Facebook.
Do a Facebook Search by the Person’s Name
The main search bar at the top of the website is one method for finding people on Facebook by their name. You can type the person’s name and then filter the results to narrow them down.
Here are some tips to remember when using Facebook’s people search tool:
- When you’re searching for just people on Facebook, select People at the top to avoid finding business pages, events, and other content.
- Use the filters off to the left to make the results more relevant. For example, find old classmates on Facebook using their name and the Education filter (choose your school), or pick a business you’ve worked for from Work to find coworkers with that name.
- You don’t have to have been associated with the person to locate them on Facebook. Select Choose a City, Choose a School, and/or Choose a Company to find profiles with that information in them.
Search Facebook by the School They Went To
Don’t know the person’s name? You can still do a Facebook search for someone even if you’re not sure what their name is. Knowing what school they went to or currently attend, for example, makes it a lot easier to find them online.
Search Facebook for the school, and then choose People to filter the results by people on Facebook who have that school listed on their profile. Since lots of users add to their profile the school(s) they currently or used to go to, finding someone on Facebook suddenly gets a lot easier.
Piggyback on Your Friends’ Friends
Using one of your Facebook friends to find someone else is one of the best ways to find someone if you suspect that the person has anything to do with one of your existing friends.
For example, if the person used to work with you and/or another friend, or you used to all go to the same school or live in the same town, a mutual friend search is your best bet in finding them.
There are a few ways to do this:
- Visit a friend’s profile and select the Friends tab to see all of their friends. You can view and search through the full list or read through their recently added friends and friends from groups, such as their workplace, hometown, or high school.
- Another way to search for a friend’s friend is to browse the People You May Know page, which is a list of people you might know based on your Facebook friends.
- Follow Step 1 above but use the Friends of Friends filter.
Search for People in Public Groups
Groups are another way to find people online with Facebook. If you know that the person is interested in a particular topic, you can browse groups they might be in.
To do this, search for a group from the search bar at the top of Facebook, and then select Groups from the menu. Once you’re on the group’s page, open the Members section to find the search bar.
Be sure to select Public Groups if you want to be able to see its members (closed groups require you to be a member to see the other people that have joined).
Do a Facebook Search by Phone Number
Trying to figure out who owns a phone number that called you? Facebook can also be used for a reverse number search; just type the number into the search bar to see what shows up.
It’s unlikely that you’ll find public posts that contain the person’s phone number, but you might have luck digging up an old post made by one of your Facebook friends. This is an easy way to find an old friend’s phone number.
Use Facebook to Search for Related Information
Something else you can do is use Facebook to find someone’s presence elsewhere on the internet. You’d do this if you already have their Facebook information but you’re wanting their other social media account details, too, like to see if they also have a Twitter, Pinterest, online dating profiles, etc.
Every Facebook profile has a unique username at the very end of its URL. Search Google or another search engine for that username to see if other accounts show up.
Another idea is to do a reverse image search on a photo from the person’s profile. It can be their profile image or any other picture of them from their account. If they’ve posted that same exact image elsewhere, you might be able to dig up their other online accounts. Google and TinEye are great for this.