How to appreciate yourself

How to appreciate yourself

I’ve spent much of my life—as a student, an athlete, in business, in relationships and in general—demanding perfection of myself, and, of course, falling short and then feeling inadequate on a regular basis. Most people I know and work with have some version of “I’m not good enough” that runs their life, their work and their relationships.

Self-love, however, is what you’re searching for at work, in your relationships and your life. Sadly, people spend most of their time thinking someone or something else can give them what only they can give themselves. To be truly fulfilled in life and relationships, you have to find the love within you and give it to yourself. No other person, material possession or accomplishment can do it. It’s up to you.
Especially when it comes to relationships, self-love is essential. One of the best gifts you can give to the people around you is to love yourself in a genuine way. As my mom used to say to me when I was young, “You can’t love anyone else until you love yourself.”

How to appreciate yourself

Here are a few things to think about and practice as you deepen your own capacity for loving yourself:

    Notice your relationship with self-love. How do you feel about it? How comfortable are you with it? What resistance do you have to loving yourself? Being honest about your relationship to self-love is the first step in altering it. Many people have not been encouraged or taught to love themselves. Also, you may not have seen many healthy models of self-love around you. And people are often much better at being hard on themselves than they are at being kind and loving toward themselves. Based on these and other factors, self-love can be a bit tricky. Once you tell the truth about how you relate to self-love, you can start to expand your ability to love yourself in a more real way.

Let go of your conditions. When it comes to loving yourself, even if you give it a lot of attention, you often do so in a very conditional way. You love yourself only when you do good things, succeed in specific ways or take care of yourself in ways you deem important. While there’s nothing wrong with you feeling good about yourself in relation to these and other positive things, truly loving yourself is an unconditional process, which means accepting, appreciating and celebrating all of who you are—both light and dark. By letting go of your conditions and loving yourself unconditionally—like how you love babies, animals or others you have little or no specific expectations of—you can start to deepen your authentic love for yourself.

Start practicing, right now. Do anything and everything you can to express love for yourself—right now, not after you think you “deserve” it. Because you may have some resistance to loving yourself, taking any and every self-loving action you can think of is important. There are lots of things you can do—both big and small—to practice loving yourself. Speaking kindly about yourself, taking compliments graciously, taking care of yourself, honoring your emotions, pampering yourself, celebrating your successes (and failures) and appreciating your flaws are all simple—although not always easy—things you can do to practice self-love. Also, be willing to ask for help and look to others who seem to do a good job at this, so you can get the support and guidance you need. Loving yourself is a lifelong, never-ending practice.

Self-love is the starting point, not the endgame, of your conscious growth and development. For most people, myself included, it’s much easier to talk about loving yourself than it is to actually practice it. However, when you put your attention on loving yourself in an authentic way, everything in your life that is important to you—your work, relationships and goals—flows from there with a sense of ease, joy and, most important, love.

Mike Robbins is a best-selling author, sought-after motivational keynote speaker and personal growth expert who works with people and groups of all kinds. Robbins is the author of the best-selling books Focus on the Good Stuff and Be Yourself: Everyone Else Is Already Taken. He and his work have been featured on ABC News and in Forbes, Ladies Home Journal, Self and many others.

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How to appreciate yourself

We often think of the larger things to which we show our bodies and minds appreciation, but we generally dismiss the lesser known, more trivial simplicities that we do each day. While showing gratitude for a big work presentation or landing a promotion should be duly noted, so should smaller things that we should be appreciative of.

As a certified health coach, I work with clients on being thankful for the positive elements in their lives, as feel connected, supported and proud on a daily basis can make a huge difference to our total wellbeing. In addition, feeling grateful for your body and mind, and all the wonders it can do, is an especially helpful way to feel healthier and to develop and maintain healthy habits, such as regular exercise, proper nutrition and self-care rituals. We should try and bring ourselves up, not down, in order to boost self-esteem and performance in achieving our goals. Negativity can happen, but by thinking of small, simple things that we do each day that we should show gratitude for, we can remember just how awesome and fortunate we are and ban any negative thoughts that could be derailing us from our daily tasks. Here are eleven little things that we should look upon with pride and thankfulness, that we haven’t already thought of before.

1. Getting Out Of Bed

This may seem silly, as don’t we all need to get out of bed in order to get to work and be productive? Yet, it’s not as easy as it seems. Pulling ourselves from the covers and motivating ourselves to get ready and brave the new day’s tasks is something we should be grateful for. “Getting up in the morning to start your day,” suggests holistic health coach and personal trainer Jen Bruno with J.B. Fitness and Nutrition over email with Bustle, is the ultimate step towards finding more accomplishments during the day.

2. A Small Kind Gesture

Doing something nice for others, whether it’s through a compliment or gesture, can really boost their wellbeing and make their days so much better. This kindness in turn will affect your positivity as well, making you feel proud for adding a sense of value to another’s day and making you feel connected to the world around you. “Holding the door for someone or doing something else for others,” suggests Bruno, are examples of little acts of kindness.

3. Being Able To Forgive

Being able to forgive both yourself and others, says Bruno, should be truly appreciated, as it is hard to overcome the challenges in relationships and to break the tension to find reconciliation. If you open your heart to others and choose to forgive, you will not only be happier, as you’ll most likely have more relationships and think of those around you as positive aspects in your life, but you will also cut yourself some slack when mistakes are made. Being too harsh with yourself can hurt your wellbeing over time.

4. Not Comparing Yourself To Others

It’s hard to not compare yourself to others, with appearances, money and other indicators of success prevalent on social media. However, shutting out the noise is a huge, and difficult accomplishment. “Instead of trying to live up to the superficial highlight reel of others’ lives, recognize and appreciate yourself for the dignity with which you treat other people, the sacrifices you have made for your loved ones or to achieve a worthy goal, your commitment to persevering through a life that is often challenging and the small acts of kindness you do that go unnoticed by most,” says therapist Chelsea Hudson, LCPC, over email with Bustle.

5. Staying In Touch With Relationships

Between work, immediate family commitments, geographic proximity, and the desperate need for solo, downtime, it’s challenging to maintain the effort to stay close with friends and family. Appreciate yourself for calling your parents once a day or two to check in, or your old high school and college friends who moved across the globe. It’s not a small feat keeping these connections alive, so appreciate the amount of effort you put in and know that it’s certainly appreciated back!

6. Your Weird, Little Quirks

Nobody is alike, and it’s important to appreciate and love yourself for all of your little quirks and hidden talents. “Your unique talent or skills or unique sense of humor,” says Bruno, make you who you are and should be seen as a positive attribute that plays into how well you hold yourself in work, social relationships and in your personal ability to remain resilient, fun, and accomplished.

7. Good Intentions

Often when we make mistakes we are overcome with guilt, as we know that we messed up and hurt the people we care about. Yet, the intention gets dismissed, as we only focus on the negative outcome of the situation. If you had poor intentions, then maybe guilt is appropriate, but if you had good intentions and just didn’t do the right thing in the end, then you shouldn’t beat yourself up over the loss. Appreciate the fact that you had meant well, and try and use this outcome as a lesson for next time, says Bruno.

8. Your Ability To Stay Strong

It’s easy to feel low when things don’t go our way or we are met with failure, especially when that failure happens again and again. However, not everyone can bring themselves up after hitting a road block, and such resiliency and mental toughness should be noted as inspiring, as it can dramatically enhance one’s power over life and the likelihood of future success.

9. Your Physical “Imperfections”

Whether you feel insecure about a certain body part, or you have a birthmark, scar, burn or other physical impair from either birth or life’s experiences, these physical “imperfections” are actually perfect, as they define you and your journey, states Bruno. Personally, I have a large birthmark on my right arm and back. I used to cover it up and avoided tank tops, but once I realized it made me who I was and defined a personal aspect of my life that is hidden to most, I found a new appreciation for it and now bare at ease.

10. Your Ability To Live In The Moment

Experts suggest that living in the moment can boost mindfulness and wellbeing and can make us more productive, appreciate of life and more mentally aware of our surroundings and where we lie in relation to the world. The idea of “be here now” is something that is hard for most to achieve, as our thoughts are consumed with work, stress, and never-ending tasks throughout the day. It’s hard to disassociate from these things, so if you can, you should be grateful for your ability.

11. A Great Conversation

Between small talk and work talk, deep, personal and stimulating conversations can be less common. However, finding a great conversation can make us feel connected and heard and can build greater relationships that we can then appreciate going forward. Even if you never see this person again, be thankful for that moment of inspiring words, because it’s truly beautiful and rare.

While tangible accomplishments, such as making more money, going up a grade in school, or nailing a case or presentation, are all stark accomplishments, it’s really the little things that we do or that we are fortunate to experience that add up. By being thankful for less obvious qualities, we can feel more confident and happy in our day.

Do you ever ask yourself why you can’t be like others? Do you envy other people that are more beautiful and successful than you? In this modern world, social media is a top priority for people. It controls our everyday lives. Since we are constantly reminded of how great things are going for our friends, we feel the pressure of fitting in. We end up pitying ourselves for being below their level. However, doubting your worth is not the way to go. It is never going to make you happy. Instead, consider reading these tips to learn about having more faith in yourself.

Table of Contents

1. Stop comparing yourself to others.

Looking at other people’s lives and then feeling sorry for yourself after will not help at all. If you complain about not having what they have, would your life be any better? Will you make any progress? No. What you need to do is focus on your own life. Sometimes, it’s okay to put yourself first. Instead of wishing to be like them, why not start being a better version of yourself?

2. Take a break from social media.

Although social media has different advantages, it can also be toxic. It forces onto us the concept of “fitting in.” The demands of posting how pretty your looks are, how privileged you are as well as your different milestones in life will always be there. You do not need to share every snippet of your life with other people. You do not need validation from others just to feel happy and fulfilled. Talking to your friends and family can be an alternative. Share your stories with them, ask for advice if you have problems, or maybe listen about what they want to share. This way, you can breathe out your rants while learning to socialize more.

3. Have a self-talk session.

Whenever you have free time, or you are in the middle of your 3 am thoughts, you can always talk to yourself. Ask yourself questions that you have been pondering about. Who knows? Maybe you already know the answers all along! Think about what you have, not what you don’t have. You have a roof above your head, you have family and friends, you’re healthy. Be grateful. Always keep in mind that if you do not believe in yourself, nobody will. At the end of the day, the very person who got your back is yourself.

4. Explore different hobbies.

To know yourself, you need to try different things such as writing, singing, dancing, and others. If you wanted to do something that interests you or you have a deep passion for, do not be afraid to try. By doing this, you can find yourself again. You will know what you are good at, improve your talent in that field and, at the same time, have fun.

5. Exercise.

A simple breathing exercise or stretching every morning can already do a lot. It will help you relax and get ready for the day. If you want, you can also do workouts every time you feel like it. You can make it your habit, but you should not force yourself. It will help motivate you to stay fit and healthy. Furthermore, this is a good way to relieve your stress.

6. Read.

Reading poems, quotes, and books can be inspirational. Whenever you come across a good quote or poem, save it to your gallery. Buy books and read them during your free time. See them as your notes to yourself. It can teach you life lessons, and some will even stay with you forever. That’s how big its impact is. You can apply what you learned from them to your way of living. Whenever you are sad, you can always read them again to feel better.

7. Have a journal.

It is understandable that some of us may not be comfortable in sharing their thoughts with others. If that is the case, write it out. You can write them as it is or maybe convert them into your own poem or quote. It’s good to let your emotions and thoughts out so that it wouldn’t be too heavy for you to bear. One day, you can go back and flip through your journal. You would be proud of how you overcame these obstacles and how far you’ve become.

These are just a few tips to appreciate yourself more. Always keep in mind that your well-being still lies in your hands. You are the only person who can fix and build yourself. Nobody will do it for you. So why not start today? Go and experiment on the tips above. Believe in yourself. Know that there are people who are cheering for you, and if you think that there are none, then root for yourself. Do it, because you can.

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by Danijela Jokic Vaislay

You should always have in mind that in order to give away the love, you have to cultivate it within yourself first and if you want other people to love and respect you, you need to treat yourself with love and respect!

If you start practicing these 5 self-love rituals, not only you will love and appreciate yourself more, but other people around you will love and appreciate you even more as well:

1. Treat yourself with a gift.

How many times have you bought a gift for your partner, birthday gift for your friends, surprise gifts for the ones you care about? When was the last time you bought a gift for yourself, as a token of appreciation and love for that amazing, lovable, caring and compassionate person that you are? When was the last time you bought flowers for yourself, just to brighten up your day (many of us wait for a partner to show a gesture of love in this way, but why to wait for them? If you love flowers, get yourself a gorgeous bouquet). Remember, you are worth it!

2. Take time for yourself.

Women, in general, get so busy taking care of others that they forget to take some time to rest and recharge. Sometimes, we even feel guilty for taking the time to rest or to do some activity which brings us joy. We often believe that in order to be loved and feel worthy we have to give and give all the time. Being compassionate is a beautiful thing, but exhausting yourself to the point of burning out will not make you a more compassionate person, but more selfish.

When we overwork and overextend ourselves, we steal the time, energy and joy that we were supposed to give to ourselves and we aren’t able to give ourselves as well to others. Not to mention, overextending ourselves can go as far as harming our health, creating stress, anxiety and chronic tiredness.
Taking time for ourselves is crucial in order that we can show up greatly for others, with our love tank full and energy recharged!

3. Take care of your body.

If your partner would tell you that he loves you all the time but he wouldn’t touch you, would you believe him? Do you state or believe that you love yourself and your body, but you do not take the time for a self-care routine? Nourishing your body with good quality cosmetics, lotions, getting a massage, eating nutritious meals, moving your body in a way that brings you joy (dancing, Pilates, yoga, swimming, jogging), getting enough rest and sleep, will help you build a loving relationship with your body and feel more confident, sensual, desirable, feminine and seductive.

4. Let go of negative self-talk.

In order to truly love and accept yourself, you have to let go of negative thoughts about yourself and your body. When we use language like,
“I am so stupid/clumsy/naive…!”
“I always mess things up!”
“I am not good enough…”
“I look so fat/ugly/skinny…”
“I am fat like a cow/pig/elephant…”
we only make ourselves feel worse, more disappointed, frustrated and even end up hating or despising ourselves. Write down in your journal or on a piece of paper all the negative thoughts you keep on repeating in your head and make a commitment to yourself that you will not think or say them out loud anymore! I

f you ever catch yourself in this old habit, become aware of these thoughts and replace them with positive ones. Instead of focusing on your weight or other “imperfections” on your body, find something beautiful on your body and give yourself a compliment. Write down 10 of your biggest achievements and keep that list with you to read, for those days when you catch yourself thinking or saying how incapable (or something else negative) you are.

5. Forgive yourself.

Forgive yourself for all the mistakes, failures, bad choices, negative self-talk, weaknesses, bad habits, goals you did not achieve, or for allowing yourself to trust someone who hurt you in the past. All this is now part of your past and you do not need to keep on carrying that heavy load on your shoulders. Whatever wrong you may feel you did in your past, you have hopefully learned from it and when you know better you can do better! Accept all your mistakes and your past with love and gratitude as it has been your LWA (“Life Wisdom Academy”) and it has shaped you and molded you to become the kind of a person that you are today. Today is a new day and a bright new chance to start building the amazing life that you have always been dreaming of!

Last week I made a big mistake.

I thought my team could deliver the design strategy by the end of last week. I was wrong. We needed more time. I put my team in a bad situation because I felt pressure from our partners to get them something that they could use.

The dialogue in my head was vicious.

Some of the words I used to describe myself were:

  • Stupid
  • Stressed
  • Dumb
  • Lame
  • Overwhelmed
  • Idiot

I’m leaving out the expletives so as not to offend anyone.

It wasn’t a nice scene in my head. I was making a huge mistake and I knew it. I’ve been teaching mindset growth for a while, and calling yourself names is not on the lesson plan.

I fell back into bad habits. This wasn’t how I wanted to run my thought process.

The hard part was digging myself out of this mental hole. I had to get back to the basics.

I asked myself, “What am I grateful for right now?”

  1. I’m grateful for my walk into work this morning. The weather was quite nice.
  2. I’m grateful for my cup of green tea this morning because I needed the boost.
  3. I’m grateful for packing my lunch because I love peanut butter and jelly sandwiches.

I started to feel better. Now I needed to turn the focus onto myself.

I asked myself, “how am I grateful for myself?”

  1. I’m grateful that I noticed my anger and took a pause before I spiraled out of control.
  2. I’m grateful that I trust my team to allow myself to take risks and make mistakes.
  3. I’m grateful that I can learn from my mistakes.

The tide was turning.

Then I asked myself, “What did I learn from this situation?”

  1. I learned that I need to listen to my gut and tell our partners that we need more time to get it right.
  2. I need to pause and think before I commit.
  3. I have an amazing team that tried to deliver the work on time.

This last list helped me a lot. I stopped beating myself up and I began to appreciate my own contribution to my team. I know I need to be more compassionate with myself. If I don’t treat myself better, I could fall back into a depression again.

Failures

The real reason behind your failures is not your boss, your spouse, or your parents. It’s because your foundation has some cracks in it. It all starts with your inner dialogue. Are you your biggest critic or your biggest fan?

To put it bluntly, “Do you appreciate yourself?”

A lack of appreciation can really hold you back.

If you don’t appreciate how talented you are, you will be afraid to put yourself out there because of what others will think of you.

You have to be able to appreciate what you bring to every interaction. I’m saying this to splash some cold water on your face. If you aren’t where you want to be in life, it’s because of one person.

I didn’t believe in my talents for many years. I played the game of trying, but not trying that hard. Enough to get by, but not thrive. The only way to make an impact in life is to believe that you can make an impact. After that, it’s all about trying, failing, adjusting, and trying again.

I’m on my 6th book. Only 2 were published and only 1 is good. I didn’t give up because I came back to being grateful for what I bring to the people in my life. I have a lot to offer them and I have to do everything in my power to give them my best.

This mindset shift didn’t happen overnight and as you can see I’m still a work in progress.

Small Steps

Tomorrow I want you to keep track of the words you use to describe yourself. If you catch yourself calling yourself “stupid” then jot it down.

If you catch yourself being positive and reassuring yourself, please jot this down. I know the thoughts come fast and furious and we don’t always have time to jot down the internal dialogue that we have, but I want you to try your best.

Then look at which type of dialogue you did more often. If you are anything like me, the negative self talk usually happens more often.

Then ask yourself, “What is a better way to do this? How can I bring a little more positive self talk into my life?”

I created the Bring Gratitude card deck because I wished there was a product like this out in the world to help me with my mindset. It’s a 30 Day Mindset Reboot. The card deck is filled with 34 cards. Each one has a positive question that you can ask yourself each morning.

Here’s how it works: You’ll pull out one card each night and put it by your toothbrush. Then, you allow your subconscious to noodle on the question as you sleep. When you wake up, you’ll see the question and while you brush your teeth you’ll think of the answer.

Then you’ll jot your answer down or say it out loud to yourself. It’s important that you either hear it or see it to help it sink into your brain.

This is where the magic happens. You’ll kick start your day with a positive question which will help your brain be more positive and resilient throughout the day. After 30 days, you should see a good boost in your productivity and ability to enjoy your life just a little bit more.

How to appreciate yourself

“I celebrate myself, and sing myself.” – Walt Whitman

“Your task is not to seek for Love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” – Rumi

This is Part 1 of the 2-part series on deeply loving and appreciating yourself.

I am guessing that you are juggling many different roles in your life.

While taking great care of everyone else at home and at work, you may sometimes feel a little left out.

Now, don’t get me wrong. Kindness, politeness and genuine warmth towards others are wonderful habits to practice.

However, you may become eager for some love and appreciation directed towards you.

How can you avoid feeling burnt out with the constant giving and not receiving enough love and appreciation back to sustain your heart and spirit?

Here are 13 practices to immediately take charge of loving and appreciating yourself.

“The heart is a thousand-stringed instrument that can only be tuned with love.”

Allow yourself to drop the conditions that you have created to love yourself. Let go of: “I will love myself better if I am…” and choose to accept yourself as you are.

From your vantage point, you may not be able to see your own greatness.

You may have gathered some dust on the journey of life but your true nature is radiance and pure genius. Step into your most radiant form. Continue stepping into your radiance till it becomes second nature.

The amazing Louise L. Hay, one of my favorite teachers, says:

“Love is the great miracle cure. Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives.”

Action Tips:

Become aware and catch yourself if you are placing conditions on loving yourself completely.

Make a list of all the preconditions and restrictions that you are placing on loving yourself completely. Then continue to delete or let go of that list.

Release the idea: I will love myself if I do this or become that.

Instead, choose to love yourself unconditionally in the moment and continue to make subtle changes to improve your life from that point onwards.

Here is an Affirmation that you may choose to use in you life: I love myself deeply and unconditionally, I am insanely grateful for who I am and what I have and I radiate the warm beauty of that self-love and gratitude to the universe!

“Self love is the elixir of an immortal heart.” ― Amy Leigh Mercree

Even if it just taking a few minutes to relax and unwind, allow yourself to take some “you” time. Take care of yourself today and make a habit of it and the various aspects of your life that need fixing will fall in place.

You will be more energized and present to deal with the problems of life when you allow your desires and little wishes to be fulfilled.

When you take the time to regularly do something nice and nourishing for yourself, you are better available to address the needs of others. If you continually place others before you, sooner or later you will feel the burnout and resentment.

Action Tips:

Ask yourself: Are you allowing yourself to have a few moments and some time to unwind and do the activities that nourish your body, mind and spirit?

Ask: Am I on give, give and more give mode? Take some of the “give” time and transform it into “me time.” Explain to others that you can give better if you have some self-time for yourself.

“The only person who can pull me down is myself, and I’m not going to let myself pull me down anymore.” ― C. JoyBell C.

Instead of hoping and wishing to receive kind words and approval from others, give yourself the gift of kindness and self-approval.

Detaching yourself from the burden of wanting approval from others is like dropping a big load of weight from your shoulders while on the journey of life.

The relief and energy you feel and gain back by self-approval is immediately perceptible.

Action Tips:

Realize that there will always be people who will not approve of you.

Instead of outsourcing approval to others, establish a solid core of self-approval and feel and act from that core.

“The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.”― Pema Chödrön, When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice For Difficult Times

If there is one major lesson I have learned from life, it is that we take criticism too seriously and have a tendency to be very difficult on ourselves. How would you treat a beloved best friend? Why is it that you do not offer the same courtesy to yourself?

Become aware of the areas of your life that you are allowing criticism to get to you and as a result you are beating up on yourself.

Choose to let that go of self-criticism and self-blame and flood your consciousness with love and self-compassion.

Action Tips:

Is there a voice inside you that is always ready to jump on the bandwagon of criticizing you?

Realize that you can choose to not engage with the self-criticism and thoughts that put you down.

Louise L. Hay explains that we are all doing the best we can with the knowledge, wisdom and understanding that we have. Remembering Louise’s advise works wonders for realizing that we need to go easy on ourselves.

Allow yourself to make mistakes and play in this world without too much self-criticism.

“Lighten up on yourself. No one is perfect. Gently accept your humanness.”― Deborah Day

“If the only prayer you said was thank you, that would be enough.” ― Meister Eckhart

When is the last time that you thanked yourself? Take a few moments to thank yourself and feel the gratitude permeating your consciousness.

Thank yourself for being such an inspiration and thank yourself for everything that you do and that you are.

A very powerful way to thank yourself and love yourself is an affirmation that I learned many years before from Louise L. Hay’s wonderful books and audios. The affirmation: “I love and approve of myself.”

Deep, heartfelt gratitude is a wonderful way of nourishing your spirit and giving thanks to yourself.

Action Tips:

Deeply feel and be thankful for yourself and who you are today.

Make a list of 3-5 items about why you think that you are an amazing person.

Be grateful for your amazing body that breathes on its own, for your astonishing mind that is more powerful and intuitive than any supercomputer we know and the tireless spirit and inspiration that moves you.

Read Part 2 here!

Now over to you. Please let me know in the comments below if this post resonated with you? What do you do in your life to deeply love and appreciate yourself?

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Do you ever ask yourself why you can’t be like others? Do you envy other people that are more beautiful and successful than you? In this modern world, social media is a top priority for people. It controls our everyday lives. Since we are constantly reminded of how great things are going for our friends, we feel the pressure of fitting in. We end up pitying ourselves for being below their level. However, doubting your worth is not the way to go. It is never going to make you happy. Instead, consider reading these tips to learn about having more faith in yourself.

Table of Contents

1. Stop comparing yourself to others.

Looking at other people’s lives and then feeling sorry for yourself after will not help at all. If you complain about not having what they have, would your life be any better? Will you make any progress? No. What you need to do is focus on your own life. Sometimes, it’s okay to put yourself first. Instead of wishing to be like them, why not start being a better version of yourself?

2. Take a break from social media.

Although social media has different advantages, it can also be toxic. It forces onto us the concept of “fitting in.” The demands of posting how pretty your looks are, how privileged you are as well as your different milestones in life will always be there. You do not need to share every snippet of your life with other people. You do not need validation from others just to feel happy and fulfilled. Talking to your friends and family can be an alternative. Share your stories with them, ask for advice if you have problems, or maybe listen about what they want to share. This way, you can breathe out your rants while learning to socialize more.

3. Have a self-talk session.

Whenever you have free time, or you are in the middle of your 3 am thoughts, you can always talk to yourself. Ask yourself questions that you have been pondering about. Who knows? Maybe you already know the answers all along! Think about what you have, not what you don’t have. You have a roof above your head, you have family and friends, you’re healthy. Be grateful. Always keep in mind that if you do not believe in yourself, nobody will. At the end of the day, the very person who got your back is yourself.

4. Explore different hobbies.

To know yourself, you need to try different things such as writing, singing, dancing, and others. If you wanted to do something that interests you or you have a deep passion for, do not be afraid to try. By doing this, you can find yourself again. You will know what you are good at, improve your talent in that field and, at the same time, have fun.

5. Exercise.

A simple breathing exercise or stretching every morning can already do a lot. It will help you relax and get ready for the day. If you want, you can also do workouts every time you feel like it. You can make it your habit, but you should not force yourself. It will help motivate you to stay fit and healthy. Furthermore, this is a good way to relieve your stress.

6. Read.

Reading poems, quotes, and books can be inspirational. Whenever you come across a good quote or poem, save it to your gallery. Buy books and read them during your free time. See them as your notes to yourself. It can teach you life lessons, and some will even stay with you forever. That’s how big its impact is. You can apply what you learned from them to your way of living. Whenever you are sad, you can always read them again to feel better.

7. Have a journal.

It is understandable that some of us may not be comfortable in sharing their thoughts with others. If that is the case, write it out. You can write them as it is or maybe convert them into your own poem or quote. It’s good to let your emotions and thoughts out so that it wouldn’t be too heavy for you to bear. One day, you can go back and flip through your journal. You would be proud of how you overcame these obstacles and how far you’ve become.

These are just a few tips to appreciate yourself more. Always keep in mind that your well-being still lies in your hands. You are the only person who can fix and build yourself. Nobody will do it for you. So why not start today? Go and experiment on the tips above. Believe in yourself. Know that there are people who are cheering for you, and if you think that there are none, then root for yourself. Do it, because you can.

About The Author

Yehor Raidnik

Shortly about myself. My acquaintance with sports began with the usual horizontal bar and grew into a passion for a street workout. The possibilities of our body are endless, train hard, eat healthy food and make each day your masterpiece. You can contact me via email or find me on Twitter.

How to appreciate yourself

Do you find yourself feeling low when things get tough and you can’t seem to get anything right? If so, you should know that more than ninety percent people face difficulties in anything they do, because they don’t know how to appreciate themselves. Learn to appreciate yourself because you need motivation and belief —n o matter what field you work in or what situation you are currently dealing with.

Most of the times it is pressure from others that gets you down and you find yourself giving up, but if you learn to appreciate yourself, you will not be quitting soon in the face of adversity.

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Believe in yourself

Never stop believing in yourself. Believing in yourself will take more than just putting confidence in your skills, as you have to constantly remind yourself of your capabilities. If you are working in a field where competition is tough and risks are high, you cannot afford to underestimate yourself and let others walk all over you. Do not let the disappointment ruin your career, since at many points in your life you will be expected to stand up for yourself.

Focus on your positive points

It is up to you turn the negative into positive. Assess yourself and try to find out what you are really good at. There must be some traits that distinguish you from others and these traits (positive points) will encourage you every step of the way. While it is also common for people to have flaws in their personalities and they face failure on multiple occasions, but letting your weak points overcome you is the worst thing you can possibly do. If you are good at highlighting your positive points to yourself and others, you are also able to overshadow all your flaws and negative points.

Learn from mistakes

The best way to appreciate yourself is to learn from your mistakes. Everybody makes mistakes and you are no exception to this. But not learning from your mistakes is the thing that keeps you from making progress. If you have made a mistake, assess what went wrong and what can be done to avoid it again.

Do not let others’ actions upset you

Most of the times, it is the actions of other people which haunt you and keep you from moving ahead. Whether you are working at a company or running a business, it is common for you to encounter people who are always ready to discourage you with their actions. Be ready to take them on and prove your worth.