I need a way to ask her out. I know she likes me because she actually told me. But I was too shy to tell her back.
spits out cereal* A girl never tells you she likes you! OK, maybe a girl about 8 or 9, but still. At an older age. You should be worrying at middle school, when things start to get a little over hand.
dude she says she likes you .what do you have to lose?i’m dealing with another case. i don’t even know if she even likes me.we eat laugh and play together.just like regular friends she is so cute.i want to ask her but will i be hilmiliated or embarresed how ever you spell it.so you got it easy.wish i could be in your shoes.or she just admit it.because i have this thing with girls.if i’m to shy or she doesn’t like me.its like her face stop to glow and she dont look as cute as she used to i am so serious man.become your fears i got to too hope it works
If you only see her in the summer than cherish the times that you spend with her. Plus in 6th grade many things happen, like love won’t last too long. If you really like her than smile to her and just ask her out.I have had trouble asking a girl once and the only way to try is if you find courage.
Dates are for married people ONLY! Don’t ask her out!
Children ask lots of questions, but now it’s time to turn the tables. Here are 63 fun “get-to know-you” questions for kids to get a conversation started.
Studies have shown that young children ask over 300 questions each day. But while you might get frustrated with the constant barrage of “why,” answering the questions actually keeps your child’s mind open, says author and parenting expert Michele Borba, Ed.D. It also lets kids know that imagination and curiosity are wonderful things.
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So how can we encourage kids to keep inquiring? Ask them questions in return! After all, it’s proven that kids mimic the words, patterns, routines, and behavior of their parents. Plus, Dr. Borba adds, “You’re modeling what a good question looks and sounds like.”
Move beyond the basic “How was your day?” and consider this list of 63 fun questions to ask kids to get them talking.
Questions for Toddlers and Preschoolers
1. If your stuffed animals could talk, what would they say?
2. What does it feel like when I hug you?
3. If you drew everything that came to your head, what would you be drawing right now?
4. What do you think you’re going to dream about tonight?
5. What sounds do you like?
6. You’re outside for a whole day: what would you do?
7. What makes the best fort?
8. How do you think animals communicate?
9. Describe a great day. What are you doing that makes it special?
10. What animal would make a great driver?
11. Do you like it when other people share with you? Why?
12. Who is your favorite storybook character?
13. What one thing do you do now that you need an adult for but would like to try to do all by yourself?
14. If you had to give everyone in the family new names, what would they be?
15. What makes you happy?
16. If you could do anything right now, what would you do?
17. If you had a pet dragon, what would you name it?
18. What would you do together?
Back-to-school photos are flooding my Facebook feed this week, which I love — the smiling faces and the newness of it all: new school supplies, new beginnings, new dreams for the year ahead.
My kids don’t start until after Labor Day (one thing I hope Chicago Public Schools never changes), but this week has me thinking about their new year too. My son will enter second grade; my daughter will start fifth.
Second grade I remember fondly, mostly thanks to Mrs. Mayer, my wonderful teacher who had a loving smile and took the time to come to my ballet recital at Elgin’s Hemmens Cultural Center on a Friday night.
Fifth grade was trickier. I remember friendships — which, up to that point, seemed rock-solid, as constant as oxygen — starting to feel tenuous. Like something I had to keep earning back, and not always for reasons that made sense to me. I remember arriving at school wondering which friends still liked me and which friends would keep me at a distance. And I remember racking my brain for ways to win the distant ones back.
It was a precursor to middle school, which I suppose was a gift of sorts — practice makes perfect and all. But mostly I hated it.
I’ve been wondering how to talk to my daughter about this. Her friends, so far, have been the rock-solid kind. When I see them together, I’m so grateful for their silliness and kindness and ability to gracefully stand up for themselves and each other. Maybe they’ll continue on that path the whole way.
But maybe they won’t. I jotted down five principles I want to share with her as fifth grade looms. We’ll talk about them before the first day, and probably many times after that.
And I’ll do my best to put them in practice myself.
Treat your friends in a way that makes you feel proud. This is pretty easy when you’re getting along, but do it even when they make you feel neglected. Sometimes friends are going through difficult times that have nothing to do with us — parents split up, siblings get sick, cousins move away. Friends sometimes pull away when they’re hurting, but good friends turn toward you again when they’re ready for help. When that happens, you’ll be proud — and grateful — you didn’t say or do anything to jeopardize their trust in you.
Then again, some friendships aren’t meant to last. If a friend starts to mostly make you feel neglected — or embarrassed or ugly or like you don’t measure up — she’s no longer being a friend. Friendships involve humans, and humans make mistakes and trip over each other’s feelings. But when someone used to make you feel fun, and now they make you feel disappointing? That’s when you get to gracefully move on and surround yourself with people who take joy in you just the way you are.
Look for elevator people. My friend Bela Gandhi is a professional matchmaker. She coaches men and women to look for “elevator people” when they’re dating. Look at who you feel safest and happiest and most loved around, she tells people. Do they laugh at your jokes? Ask about your day? Celebrate victories with you? Remind you why you’re great? They’re elevator people. They lift you up. The same goes for friendship, I think. You don’t need to seek out the most popular kids or the flashiest kids or the kids who have the coolest phones. Seek out the kids who lift you up — and lift them up in return.
Speak up about your feelings. People are generally terrible at reading each other’s minds and hearts. If your friends say or do things that make you feel uncomfortable or degraded, tell them. If they’re treating you or others in ways that don’t match your values, tell them. They’re your friends, so you get to assume the best about them. They probably deserve a chance to redeem themselves. (If they prove otherwise? See No. 2.)
Believe people about their feelings. I’m a broken record on this one, but I’ll say it again because it matters. One of my favorite quotes is attributed to comedian Louis C.K.: “When a person tells you that you hurt them, you don’t get to decide that you didn’t.” You don’t need to be perfect. You get to make mistakes, particularly in the company of trusted friends. But when you mess up and your friends find the courage to call you on it, find the courage to own it.
What did I miss? Email me what you want the kids in your life to know about friendships. We’ll hash over it in a future column.