How to be a feminine guy

For individuals born male, getting shapes and curves as a woman can be challenging and a difficult procedure. Being a beautiful crossdresser requires you to build femininity in yourself, both your body and mind. The size and shape of your body broadcasts your gender to the world. You need to wear the right undergarments to create your best feminine shape and female mannerisms.

Steps to get your body feminized

Follow the steps below carefully to achieve a more feminine figure. Go through each and every step carefully to obtain the best results.

1. Take shower often.

Wash your body and moisturize it on a regular basis. A crossdresser must have a very soft and smooth skin and always be clean.

2. Shave your body

Shave all the hairs in your face, your legs, your chest, your arms, everything. While it’s true that women do have body hair, men have a lot more of it. Women can get away with having unsightly hair, but men do not have this luxury and will get found out quickly. So it’s best to get all the hair off.

A close shave is a must and take your time. Be gentle; you don’t want to irritate your skin. Close your pores with a gentle skin toner, and of course, moisturize.

Try using a dab of non-greasy sun block. It’ll protect your skin from wrinkles caused by UV-damage. If you really want to keep stubble away, try waxing, electrolysis, or laser hair removal.

3. Get the curves

Our first impression of somebody’s gender is based largely on their shape, to the point where it’s almost instinctive. You want to look the part, but naturally, guys just don’t have the curves that women have. It’s nature, but there are ways to obtain feminine curves for men using different methods and tools.

Say hello to the girls. Nothing says “female” more than having lady lumps. Entire industries, from garments to cosmetic surgery to publishing empires, have been built on the foundation of our fascination for breasts. For convincing cross dressing, this will help bring you where you want to be, both physically and emotionally.

• Wear breast forms or get good padding. To obtain a fine feminine figure, you need to have lady lumps. Get breast forms or stuff your bra with padding or fillings. It is very important that you feel the sensation of having breasts and wearing bras, try to get the closest breast figure you can get by getting breast forms or padding as well as a well fitting bra. There are a lot of breast forms available in the market and the best ones do feel like the real thing. Having your own tender, soft, firm breast will make you feel really girly.

• Tuck and tape the boys with a pair of pantyhose/tight panties/slacks and some tape. Make sure you have curves in all the right places and pay attention to where you “shouldn’t” have bulges. Padded bras, breast forms, hip pads and tight panties (or bikini bottoms) are a good place to start. Corsets, gaffs, breast forms, and other specialized body-shapers are also available.

• Women have more weight in their hips and back section, so they look more curvy. To get a full feminine figure, you can do exercise focusing on your hip and back section as well. To achieve a more feminine look, you can use waist clinching undergarments or corsets to achieve a more hourglass figure. You can also add padded panties, or silicon butt pads as well as hip pads. Wear a “Corset”, to give you feminine curves. Make sure you breasts and butt is proportionate.

4. Improve your posture

Realize and learn all the feminine gestures–even slight ones–are very important. Watch a woman speaking naturally, her postures while doing different things and note her gestures and facial expressions. Smile. Walk with your legs, not with your shoulders. Suck in your gut. Stand up straight. Be femme.

5. Dress the part.

Wear the most feminine outfits that best suits your frame. Plunging necklines draw attention from broad shoulders. Empire waists de-emphasize narrow hips, beer bellies, and flat asses. Your legs are your best feature, so feature them.

Knowing your body, and working with it, is essential to passing the crossdresser test. Get the right fit by trying on your clothes that match your figure. You don’t want to buy a dress only to find out it doesn’t fit with your new cleavage. Take your measurements to determine your needs:

• Your chest is measured with the tape snug under your arms and above the cups of your bra.

• Measure your bust across the fullest part of your bra cups. Don’t pull the tape too tight—you don’t want to squish things down unnaturally here.

• Measure your waist at the narrowest part, between the top of the hipbone and the bottom of your rib cage.

• Your hips are measured at the largest part of your butt and hips.

• A rule of thumb when buying a dress is to use the largest of the measurements for your dress size.

6. Fragnance

Smell is an important detail if you want to be a girl because scent is strongly linked to emotions. You aren’t fully dressed without perfume, so choose a scent that makes you feel fabulously feminine and crossdresser.

How to be a feminine guy

It’s difficult to keep up that flirtatious, playful, and sexy attitude while constantly getting blasted in the face with stuff life keeps throwing in your way. You literally forget to be a woman when you’re always in a rush to meet the expectations of the people in your life. When trying to prove that men are not at all superior to us, we lose so much of what’s precious in femininity. And times like this require some reminders on how to be more feminine through embracing and loving our femininity.

As a person who pays for her own dinner, doesn’t rely on men for rides, and always ruins foreplay, I don’t know the first thing about being “girly” or “feminine”. But a remark on my “dominance” and “bossiness” by the first person I fell in love with made me extremely self-conscious about my attitude.

And it made me realize that growing up in an incredibly male-dominated environment made me act more like my brothers because I wanted to be taken seriously. At the same time, it made me realize that giving up your own femininity is a huge sacrifice! That’s why faking it until I made it worked out great for me.

I’m proud of who I am. At the same time, I’d like to enjoy my feminine side whenever I feel like it. If that’s you, keep reading.

Being more feminine and attractive has nothing to do with showing more skin. But it has everything to do with your mindset and attitude. Femininity is a mindset. You need constant practice until you fully internalize it.

When you do that, you bring your mindset in alignment with your attitude. And when that happens, your femininity shines through the way you talk and walk.

It doesn’t matter if you want to be feminine to be more attractive to some guy or you just want to feel more classy and elegant. It’s the same path. To help you touch base, we’ll cover everything on how to dress, talk, act, and become more feminine.

While being in touch with your feelings is great, looking for signs of a feminine man is a must if you prefer someone who’s a little more masculine.

If you are someone who likes the idea of a man who’s very in touch with his feminine side, here are the most obvious signs of a feminine man to be on the lookout for.

16 signs of a feminine man

A man can be anything he wants to be and still be attractive to other people. The beauty is certainly in the eye of the beholder. For some, a particularly feminine man is found extremely alluring. Of course, a feminine man isn’t attractive to another group of people, perhaps those who prefer the typical traits of a masculine male. [Read: How to be more masculine by listening to your inner voice]

We all find different things attractive, and that’s a good thing. Otherwise, we’d all fancy the same people and the world would be an even bigger war zone than it is now.

#1 He uses a lot of skincare products and possibly cosmetics. While there’s no problem in looking after yourself, if a man uses a lot of skin and hair care products, and even dabbles in a little makeup now and again, it’s likely that he’s quite feminine on the inside. That’s no problem for a lot of people, apart from the fact he might use your makeup… [Read: How to awaken the divine masculine within yourself]

#2 He likes to sit back and allow the other person to take control. If you’re someone who likes a masculine man, i.e. someone who takes control and leads the way, you may find this sign a little off putting. A traditionally feminine man has no issue with someone else taking control and steering direction. It’s not that he’s particularly submissive, he simply doesn’t feel the need to dominate either.

#3 He has no problem showing his emotions outwardly. Most men have a problem with crying in front of people they don’t know well. If a man has no issue with showing his feelings via tears, that’s one of the signs of a feminine man. Again, it’s a good thing to let everything out from time to time, so maybe you find this attractive? [Read: How to be a man the way he really should be]

#4 He will easily talk about his emotions. Traditionally, a man doesn’t like to open up and talk about his emotions. He will instead deflect the conversation somewhere else, usually with humor as a shield. A man who has no problems talking about his feelings is likely to be quite feminine in his character.

#5 He’s a fan of social media and loves to get online attention. While not a particular deal breaker, if he’s posting selfies and quotes, it’s likely that he’s showing his feminine side to his followers! Most men don’t really care about likes and shares. A feminine man is likely to do so.

#6 His style is flamboyant or out there. A traditional female trait is the ability and desire to explore fashion and show off personality via clothing and accessories. If a man does this, it’s quite likely that he’s feminine. He wants to show off his personality via colorful clothing, different designs, and pieces which are far less traditionally masculine.

#7 He has far more female friends than male friends. One of the biggest signs of a feminine man is that he has a lot more female friends than male friends. This is because he connects better with females and bonds more easily.

#8 He takes a while to get ready when going out. You can easily find a masculine man who takes a while to get ready. This is far more likely to be the case if a man is more feminine. If he takes longer to get ready than you do, that’s something to look out for.

#9 He doesn’t connect with anything considered masculine. If a guy is feminine, he’s likely to find things traditionally masculine either a waste of time or possibly even offensive.

#9 He’s very coordinated in terms of clothing and accessories. Most masculine men won’t really care whether their shoes match their top. However, a feminine man will show far more concern in their outfits. [Read: 10 things to know about living with a metrosexual man]

#10 He’s quite sensitive and takes things personally. If he is easy to offend, takes things personally, or sensitive in general, these are all clear signs of a feminine man.

#11 He’s far more likely to be a cocktail drinker than a beer guzzler. When you’re out on the town, if he prefers the typically feminine drinks, take notice of that sign! Of course, one cocktail doesn’t make a guy feminine. If this is his go-to drink of choice, that’s a clear sign.

#12 He loves his man bag. Does he carry a bag around with him? I’m not talking about a backpack full of sports clothes. If you notice a guy regularly carrying a satchel-style bag, usually containing, wallet, beauty items, etc, then that’s a pointer towards femininity.

#13 His sensitivity causes him to cry at films. While normal to sniffle a little when a film is sad or harrowing, if you notice a guy crying at rom-coms and other emotionally-charged films, it’s likely that he’s particularly feminine.

#14 He is always keen to know where he stands. A masculine man is far more likely to go with the flow and see where things end up. However, one of the signs of a feminine man is a willingness to have a chat about where a relationship is going and where he stands. This is a great sign if you’re someone who likes to know exactly the same thing! [Read: 15 reasons you should avoid immature men]

#15 He’s into shopping. Everyone needs to go shopping from time to time. But if a guy finds an afternoon out at the local mall to be a great use of his time, that’s a sign he’s in touch with his feminine side.

#16 He takes pride in his surroundings. The home of a feminine guy is likely to be tidy, clean, and attractive. This guy isn’t someone who can live with dirty clothes on the floor or dishes from the previous day!

These signs of a feminine man are clear. Now, if you notice one or two, that doesn’t mean the guy in your life is particularly feminine! We all do certain things from time to time. Perhaps go through phases of liking a particular fashion, but if you notice several of the signs over a prolonged period of time, it points to a guy in-touch with his feminine side.

That’s no bad thing!

A feminine guy will communicate far easier, open up about his feelings, and isn’t afraid to show his vulnerable side. However, if you prefer a masculine man, these signs should point you towards incompatibility. We all prefer different traits, after all!

[Read: Avoid dating these types of men if you’re looking for true love]

Noticing signs of a feminine man doesn’t really mean anything. The guy in your life is simply in touch with his feelings, sensitive, and takes pride in his appearance and surroundings.

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Men are picky when it comes to dating. If you are single and out there dating, I am sure you are very aware of just how choosy men are. Women are particular too, but somehow the men seem to be worse. Usually, men have an idea in their head of a type of gal to whom they are attracted, and either you fit the mold or you don’t. However, occasionally a man will fall for a girl who is outside of his wheelhouse. Wouldn’t it be great if you could be that woman who could attract ANY GUY (within reason of course)?

Here are 10 tips to get you on your way:

Be a flirtatious woman. Men love when a woman is a good flirt — not cheesy, not sleazy, just fun. Learn how to “smeyes” — smile with your eyes. The guys love that and will love you.

Be sexy. Men love women who are sexy and who KNOW they are sexy. The word sexy has no real definition these days — the key ingredient is that you FEEL sexy and then he senses it and thinks you are H-O-T, hot.

Be feminine. Keep in mind that if a man wanted to be with a man, he would be. So be girly, be feminine, be a woman. What does that mean? Smell good, cook him a meal once in a while, mother him when he needs it — find the cavewoman in you.

Be the woman all his friends are lusting after and who lights up the room with your smile. It’s a fact; if all of his friends are “ooohing and ahhing” over you, he will be attracted to you all the more.

Be confident. Men love ladies who have that “je ne sais quoi, that little intangible confidence that make them untouchable, yet so desirable all at once.

Be adaptable in any situation. Men want you to fit in at a fancy party, with beer and pizza on sports night and at a boring work function. And, he wants you to do it with ease and with no complaining. If you think that men fall in love with the “hard to get” women, think again. Not in today’s world. Today men really fall for easy-going gals who can go with the flow.

Be a woman who makes him feel great about himself and makes him feel needed. Men love the girls who play to their ego and make them feel like Superman. If a guy doesn’t understand how he is needed in your life, he won’t fall in love with you.

Be the woman who encourages a guy’s night out. A woman who, not only allow a guy’s night out, but also insists on it is a rockstar to any guy. The catch is that you have to really mean it. And if you do, he will be thinking about you the whole time he is out and won’t even notice the other girls around him.

Be a woman with interesting things going on. Men love a woman who has her own life with fun and different things happening. No man wants a girl who is always sitting at home waiting for him or a woman who needs him to provide 100 percent of the fun.

Be intelligent, but not a know-it-all. Men like women who have it together and who won’t embarrass them in a conversation; they like women who know something about a lot of different things. It doesn’t have to be politics and sports, it just has to be something you are passionate about and truly understand. And they hate know-it-alls; drop that quality immediately.

How to be a feminine guy

Have you ever suffered a breakup, knowing it was for the best but went back to him anyway hoping things would change? Or have you ever reached out to a guy that doesn’t even deserve your time and attention because you are lonely?

Maybe you’re the kind of gal who sends a text to a guy when your better judgment says wait for him to reach out to you instead. Do you ask guys out?

If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, you need to know how to attract a man using feminine energy.

No matter how far we have liberated ourselves as women, men are still men. You don’t need to be like them to gain their affections. You need to be you, your authentic female self. That is why, especially in this overly masculine world, it is important to know how to use feminine energy to connect with a man.

What I am referring to is your authentic feminine energy to connect with a man. The result will be you attracting a guy who is authentically interested in you. When this happens, it is very nurturing to your feminine soul.

So how do you use your feminine energy to connect with a man in a way that gives you what you are looking for? You do it by connecting to your authentic feminine as opposed to your inauthentic feminine.

In other words, you first need to connect to the brighter side of the feminine within you. Secondly, you need to become aware of the dark side of the feminine that is operating within you and your interactions with men.

The Dark Side of Your Feminine

It is important for you to notice if your behavior, when connecting with a man, is coming from a place of fullness or not.

Are you connecting to him because you are lonely? Are you connecting with him because you want to feel attractive? Are you connecting with him in hopes he will pursue you? In other words, is he filling some type of hole in you that you should first fill within yourself?

I see it often. Women connect with a man because of their insecurities.

Do you remember an old movie with Diane Keaton called “Looking for Mr. Goodbar”? It is about a woman seeking love outside of herself.

She begins to go clubbing at night and picks up men for one night stands as a way of getting excitement and sexual fulfillment without commitment. It doesn’t end like the fairy tales we are programmed to believe. She ends up being murdered during her professed last hookup.

I am not here to judge sexual activity or your choice with whom you decide to share your body with. What I would like to stress here is the way women are wired. Women, women’s bodies, sexuality, and sensual expression all loved to be honored and revered.

If you do not feel honored by a man, your Yoni (your female parts) will know it. Your head keeps trying tactics to get his attention but your Yoni knows different. The dark side of the feminine is when you are disconnected from the wisdom of your Yoni and won’t listen to her.

And when you are disconnected from the wisdom of your Yoni, you do things that are not in your highest good.

Dark Expression of the Feminine

The dark side of your feminine is expressed when you do things like have unenjoyable sex for security. Date a guy, not because you are truly interested in him but rather because he provides other benefits like taking you on trips, buying you nice clothes, or taking you out to dinner and entertainment.

The dark side of the feminine is also expressed through disempowering neediness. Things like staying in an abusive relationship because you don’t have the confidence to leave. Or being with a guy because you say to yourself, “he needs me.”

Another dark side of the feminine is being in a relationship where you are the only one in it. Your man benefits from all the wonderful things you do for the relationship but it goes barely or totally unreciprocated.

You allow yourself to be in a relationship where it isn’t a partnership of caring and sharing. Possibly one of more duty and service or low-grade misery and frustration.

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Women who are stuck in any of these patterns need to learn how to use their authentic feminine energy to connect with a man.

The Bright Side of Your Feminine

When you are connected to the bright side of the feminine you are playful, transparent, and real. You aren’t overly concerned with what others think. You understand outer beauty has a short shelf life therefore the foundation of your interactions with men come from your inner radiance.

When you are connected to your bright side of the feminine, you know, all you need is this powerful inner radiance. It will attract to you all that you need. You no longer need to “energetically dance and prance and put on a happy face” to feel accepted by others.

You enjoy stillness, sensuality, and self-nurturing, always making sure you have enough time to take care of yourself emotionally. You are at home in your body. You have no need to overly flaunt yourself in front of men because men are already attracted to you by your authentic feminine radiance.

The most wonderful part of this is that the right kind of men are attracted to you because of the radiance you have cultivated within. Men look up to you and feel lucky to be able to spend time with you. A man loves to be in a radiant woman’s energy field.

Develop Your Authentic Feminine Radiance

Knowing how to use feminine energy to connect with a man is a matter of becoming receptive. Men are the “outies”; women are the “innies”. Masculine energy is focused outward energy; feminine energy is receptive and nurturing.

You develop your authentic feminine radiance by become receptive and nurturing to you.

Stop obsessing about a guy. Stop trying to get a guy. Stop asking guys out. Believe me, if they want you, they will come to you. Your radiance will attract him to you from the other side of the country. Really!

All you have to do is take care of you. Make sure you are being true to you.

Make sure you are taking care of the feelings that arise in your body, like being there for yourself when you are emotionally upset. Doing those things for yourself that allow you to feel supported, nurtured, and authentically loved. Loved for who you are, not for who someone wants you to be.

The Right Guy Shows Up And Wonderful Things Happen

When you know how to use your feminine energy to connect with a man, you will feel confident and joyful in your interactions with him because you won’t care if he finds you interesting, attractive, intelligent, or anything.

You will connect with him on a human level instead of with some agenda in mind. And he will consciously or unconsciously know that.

If the guy isn’t authentic himself, he will fall to the way side. This is a wonderful way to protect yourself from attracting the wrong guy. If he is a guy worth being with, he will stick around.

When you learn how to use your authentic feminine energy to connect with a man and become intimate with him, the sex will be much deeper and profound. Your aura (energy field around you) becomes larger and you attract even more wonderful things into your life.

Your creative expression is also ignited and you may find yourself producing amazing creative projects. When you learn how to connect with a man using your authentic feminine essence a whole new world will open to you.

Anna-Thea is an intimacy coach. She supports women in reclaiming their bodies and speaking authentically from their hearts. She has on-line programs educating women about cultivating their feminine side. If you would like to find out more about how you can cultivate more of your feminine side visit her website or Leader of Love.

How to be a feminine guy

Sometimes, I often wonder if I should have been born a woman. There isn’t an ounce of masculinity to my personality, my mind is covered with romance and love-struck feelings all the time (hence why I love reading about relationships/dating a lot and spending most of my time with my girlfriend), I adore cute things like chibis, anime/manga beyond belief and cooking/doing chores is one of my favorite pastime hobbies! Being submissive is in my blood with my girlfriend being the leader and dominant all the time, I have empathy towards how people feel and I’m gentle in every way. I just feel like I’m a woman in a man’s body ever since I was young.

I’ve heard of tomboys being praised all the time but what about the other way around? What’s your point of view of men who have a feminine personality? How to be a feminine guyWhat do you think of feminine men?

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Here is the deal, their is a reason why these behaviors are shamed. In short women can reproduce men cannot. What men can do is fight, protect, provide. So when a man is insulted by being told he is feminine, what is being said isn’t that being a woman is wrong, its that a man who is a woman is worthless to society. He cannot reproduce, he cannot provide, he cannot protect, he cannot be strong so what is he good for?

So my stance with this is conflicted, on the one hand we have the above issue, a man unable or unwilling to make the sacrifices needed for society to function and to protect and provide for his woman and family (as she despite what society is currently claiming, is weak and his fragile and cannot withstand violence and pain like a man can (she is biologically built for an entirely different task, giving life and nurturing it (both vitally important jobs that I think are far to easily dismissed in favor of masculine roles in our current culture)), isn’t of value as you cannot do what a man can do but you cannot do what a woman can do either so your the worse of both worlds rather then the best of both.

Now the reason why I’m conflicted is because we have on the other hand, a completely different society then we had previously. We can afford to have a few men not conform (though this will be to your detriment generally speaking (due to how we reproduce women’s value is innate (child birthing is far more dangerous and they take the risk of it) a mans value is earned through sacrifice and hard work (because he has no reproductive value due to having the least investment (she risks her life giving birth, he can waste a couple of minutes and the few calories required to produce sperm. These are not comparable)), however to many and society will start to crumble (innovation is driven by men who have to prove themselves, if you behave as a woman who doesn’t, that will start to effect innovation and production).

So taking that into account, we live in a different society then what we evolved to deal with. Threats are rarer, we went from near 50% or more of deaths being through violence (some hunter gatherer tribes have it as high as 90%) to less then (at least in the US) .005% of people dying from violence (and that number is dropping all the time). So if you cannot protect her, is that an issue now? Not really.

Thanks to modern technology she no longer needs your brute strength to provide food for her nor do we need your brute strength to manufacture anything (historically 90% of all work was manpowered, after the industrial revolution it was 70% man powered (i. e. all work being done by men), now its only about 30%). So do you need to be strong? Not really.

So you need to be masculine to create personal value, but at the same time with how society has changed many of those traits while useful are not necessary from a purely physical standpoint (women and men both are psychologically wired to want these traits and these traits help drive society as a whole but individually they may be less vital). So to answer your question, I don’t know. I am a bit uncomfortable with it (I understand it if you were transgender or what have you (that’s a biological issue, it makes sense) do to its implication as one person isn’t an issue but if we ignore it will that have broader affects in the long run (this is what social shaming is for, to keep the members of the society functioning in a certain way)? But on the other hand its your life and a firmly believe you have to live it as you see fit. So I guess the real question is are you willing to live with the consequences of it (which may be minor or major, again, I don’t know)?

If so then keep doing what your doing because its your life and no one else can tell you how to live it.

Can you be feminine and smart, strong and successful?

When I was young, my mother told me it was more important to be smart than feminine. Being feminine meant I was weak. If I were to take care of myself in a world I couldn’t trust with men I couldn’t depend on, I needed to be smart, strong and independent. I assumed this was the opposite of being feminine.

It took me many adult years to allow myself to appreciate clothes that flattered my body and wearing pretty pink nail polish while being smart, strong and independent in the business world. I still don’t know how to cook, I disturb my nest by moving about every three years, and my male partner does the grocery shopping. Am I still fighting off my femininity?

I don’t think so. I think we are in the process of redefining what it means to be a woman in today’s world. As women become more self-reliant and self-sufficient, they have more choices. They are free to discover their passion and contribute in ways that feel meaningful for them. I think this is what my mother really wanted for me because she never got to live out her dreams. She just didn’t know we could blend feeling beautiful with feeling accomplished.

So we don’t have to give Barbie some muscle to go along with her brains. I believe we are past the stage where a woman has to be a man to be successful. Unfortunately, it’s not clear yet who a woman should be at work, even when she is being “authentic.” Maybe we should encourage young women, and men, to be who they want to be without defining masculinity and femininity and judging people by their gender.

If acceptance and inclusion are feminine qualities, I guess I have strong feminine tendencies after all. And so does my strong, body-building male partner.

I just returned from teaching leadership and coaching skills classes for two weeks in China. I loved the beautiful, young women in my classes. Their clothes were exquisitely feminine as were their smiles, embraces and dancing eyes. To my surprise, when they handed me their business cards, they held titles of Director, Regional Vice President, and Managing Partner.

China may be lagging in development as a country, but their glass ceiling if full of open windows of opportunity. Young educated women have equal opportunity to advance. The decisions are based on competency, not gender. Femininity is accepted in female business leaders in China as long as they are smart, focused and willing to learn.

I wondered if I would have enjoyed being a woman more when I was younger if I didn’t think it would get in the way of my success.

At this stage in my life, I’m inclined to say that being feminine means I am okay with who I am, no matter what type of girl I am, what clothes I like to wear, or how I relate to the concept of family in my personal life. I enjoy my feminine side when it shows up and my masculine side when it emerges. And I accept others for who they choose to be.

No one should define femininity for me. And I should not define it for them. I accept others for the choices they make as long as they aren’t blocking mine.

I think it is good that women are rising in power around the world. As women gain in economic and political power, there are corresponding gains in world health and education. Companies who promote their top talent women do financially better than those who don’t.

Does being successful in the world take away from being feminine? I believe the opposite is true; that the more there are smart, strong, independent females successful in the world the more we can all openly express our true selves.

My desire is that we look each other in the eyes and with a lovely sense of curiosity, seek to know the person standing in front of us. Who is the person beyond the labels? What strengths, gifts, talents and perspectives does he or she bring to this moment? When we truly honor each other as humans, we are feminine in the sense of creating community and masculine in the sense of acknowledging the individual. I believe this is the balance we should seek to achieve.

Men are picky when it comes to dating. If you are single and out there dating, I am sure you are very aware of just how choosy men are. Women are particular too, but somehow the men seem to be worse. Usually, men have an idea in their head of a type of gal to whom they are attracted, and either you fit the mold or you don’t. However, occasionally a man will fall for a girl who is outside of his wheelhouse. Wouldn’t it be great if you could be that woman who could attract ANY GUY (within reason of course)?

Here are 10 tips to get you on your way:

Be a flirtatious woman. Men love when a woman is a good flirt — not cheesy, not sleazy, just fun. Learn how to “smeyes” — smile with your eyes. The guys love that and will love you.

Be sexy. Men love women who are sexy and who KNOW they are sexy. The word sexy has no real definition these days — the key ingredient is that you FEEL sexy and then he senses it and thinks you are H-O-T, hot.

Be feminine. Keep in mind that if a man wanted to be with a man, he would be. So be girly, be feminine, be a woman. What does that mean? Smell good, cook him a meal once in a while, mother him when he needs it — find the cavewoman in you.

Be the woman all his friends are lusting after and who lights up the room with your smile. It’s a fact; if all of his friends are “ooohing and ahhing” over you, he will be attracted to you all the more.

Be confident. Men love ladies who have that “je ne sais quoi, that little intangible confidence that make them untouchable, yet so desirable all at once.

Be adaptable in any situation. Men want you to fit in at a fancy party, with beer and pizza on sports night and at a boring work function. And, he wants you to do it with ease and with no complaining. If you think that men fall in love with the “hard to get” women, think again. Not in today’s world. Today men really fall for easy-going gals who can go with the flow.

Be a woman who makes him feel great about himself and makes him feel needed. Men love the girls who play to their ego and make them feel like Superman. If a guy doesn’t understand how he is needed in your life, he won’t fall in love with you.

Be the woman who encourages a guy’s night out. A woman who, not only allow a guy’s night out, but also insists on it is a rockstar to any guy. The catch is that you have to really mean it. And if you do, he will be thinking about you the whole time he is out and won’t even notice the other girls around him.

Be a woman with interesting things going on. Men love a woman who has her own life with fun and different things happening. No man wants a girl who is always sitting at home waiting for him or a woman who needs him to provide 100 percent of the fun.

Be intelligent, but not a know-it-all. Men like women who have it together and who won’t embarrass them in a conversation; they like women who know something about a lot of different things. It doesn’t have to be politics and sports, it just has to be something you are passionate about and truly understand. And they hate know-it-alls; drop that quality immediately.