How to be fun at parties

How to be fun at parties

I’m allergic to alcohol—yes, that’s a thing. And I inevitably end up at booze-centric functions explaining my glass of seltzer. Fielding the questions helps fill the time, but there are still plenty of moments where I’m standing around not getting sloshed. As a result, I’ve had years of research to find ways to entertain myself when I’m the only sober person in the room. Here are some of the best ways I’ve found to enjoy a party when you’re the only one not drinking.

1. Be the bartender.

When you start making drinks for the party, you get to talk to everyone. And everyone is impressed that the sober person makes a damn fine cosmo!

2. Learn some secrets.

I always use get-togethers as an opportunity to practice my social skills. I read somewhere that conversations are made up of two or more people vying for attention. Intentionally or not, people often try steering the conversation back to themselves. When I’m at a party, I make a conscious effort to keep the other person talking. People will tell you all sorts of things!

3. Pretend.

Just go ahead and sip that straight tonic like it’s a gin and tonic. It’s like you’re under cover. And the weird thing is, people treat you differently when you act like one of them, which leads me to believe that acting drunk is, in large part, psychological. One time, without realizing it, I started slurring my speech after too much time around too many drunks. Lean in to that slur.

4. Order fancy mocktails.

Just because you don’t drink alcohol doesn’t mean you can’t have fancy drinks. There are a number of soft beverage recipes out there that are delicious and look classy AF. One of my favorites is a drink from Hong Kong called the gunner. One part ginger beer, one part lemonade, a lime, and several dashes of bitters, the gunner looks like a cocktail and tastes amazing. (Yes, the bitters has alcohol, but the drink calls for so few shakes that it is diluted beyond any sort of perception.)

5. Eat.

You have more room for food. Take advantage of that.

6. Practice your stand-up.

I think everyone at one time or another has wanted to be a stand-up comic—making someone laugh is a rush. What better place to work on your routine than a party. Not only drinkers easier to make laugh, they won’t remember if you bomb.

7. Just watch.

When I am at any sort of function with drinking, I channel my inner Jane Goodall. One of my favorite things to do is pick a spot in the middle of the action, preferably by the food, and stay there the whole night and just watch. A party is the perfect place to study all kinds of drunk, human behavior. Witness complex mating rituals, overt displays of dick measuring, bizarre eating habits, and other wildly interesting behavioral patterns. Who am I kidding? Sit back and enjoy the drama!

How to be fun at parties

Many young children can spend hours hosting a tea party for their dolls and stuffed animals. It’s a time of imagination that kids really love because they can act like adults. Take that to the next level and invite some of your child’s friends over for their very own tea party.

It’s an easy event to plan for an afternoon and can include all the typical elements of tea time, from frilly linens to tea sandwiches and cookies. There are also some fun activities and games centered around the tea party theme that the kids will love.

Set the Tea Table

How to be fun at parties

A tea party is one of those occasions where the table setting really does matter. No plastic tableware here! It’s time to break out the fancy linens and pretty china. Each setting should have, at the very least, a teacup, a saucer, and a bread plate.

Don’t forget to leave room on the table for the star of the show: the teapot. Place one in the center, or, if you have a lot of guests, set two or three of them along the table.

You might even want to dress up the table with a few cute accessories:

  • Lace doilies
  • Flowers
  • Mini framed place cards
  • Strings of faux pearls (fun to wrap around napkins)

Take It Outside

How to be fun at parties

When the weather is warm, host your tea party out in the garden, on the patio, or on the lawn. It is a beautiful way to enjoy the fresh spring or summer air and the picnic-like setting can make tea even more enjoyable. Set up an outdoor table covered with a pretty floral table cloth or spread a blanket on the lawn so the little ones can enjoy their very own tea party, just like “Alice in Wonderland.”

Invite Your Teddy Bear

How to be fun at parties

For little kids, make it a teddy bear (or any plush animal) tea party. Children will love to bring their favorite stuffed friends along with them to enjoy an afternoon of tea and games. You can even have them dress up their bears in tea time fashion as one of your party activities.

Serve Tea Bag Biscuit Cookies

How to be fun at parties

Every tea party needs a sweet snack. What could be more perfect than cookies shaped like little tea bags? Your guests will be absolutely delighted when they see these chocolate-dipped shortbread cookies, complete with cute labels that you can customize. They’re easy to make and you can do it a couple of days in advance. Wrap them up as delightful little tea party favors or just lay them out on everyone’s bread plate. Either way, they’re simply adorable!

Serve Tea Sandwiches

How to be fun at parties

It’s true that kids may turn their noses up at sandwiches stiffened with watercress or arugula. Thankfully, there are many tea sandwiches designed to please kids.

You can stick with tradition, but change it up just enough for your young guests. Ideas include simple fillings like peanut butter and jelly, ham and cheese, or turkey and mayonnaise, and a strawberry cream cheese spread is a guaranteed winner. Simply trim off the crust and kids’ favorite sandwiches become a little fancy bite suitable for any princess or rock star.

Play Tea Party Games

How to be fun at parties

Every party needs a few games to keep kids entertained and a tea party is no exception. You can have lots of laughs with a round of “I’m a Little Teapot” Freeze Dance, or try a sugar cube stacking race. There’s even a traditional Victorian tea party game called Lookabout, which is a fun activity for indoor parties. No matter which you choose, ​playing games at a children’s tea party will stir just the right amount of entertainment into your event.

Give Tea Party Favors

How to be fun at parties

Send your tea party guests home with a special keepsake. A teacup filled with small wrapped chocolate candies is a lovely idea for a party favor. You can also package cute cupcakes or cookies in decorative boxes or wrap a pretty ribbon around a box of tea. Your guests may also like to keep the tea party going when they get home, so a little play tea set or a beautiful tea party hat would be nice as well.

How to be fun at parties

How to be fun at parties

How to be fun at parties

How to be fun at parties

This is your party’s backbeat, so if your collection is less than stellar, why not ask your invitees to bring their own iPods or CDs? Hire a DJ or, says Rafanelli, just play these five albums over and over:

    After the Playboy Mansion, by Dimitri from Paris (“Great pop, loungy and cool”)

Samba Soul 70! (“Cocktail, not totally authentic samba”)

Ultra Chilled 01 (“A great house-y feel, but sophisticated enough so that if you’re 55 you won’t be turned off”)

Waltz for Koop by Koop (“Remixed waltzes, which sounds dreadful, but it’s pretty cool”)

  • Verve Remixed (“Modern spin to jazz classics”).
  • How to keep from holding yourself back.

    When is the last time you really had fun—the last time you just let yourself go and had a good time? When did you last forget about all your daily responsibilities and live in the moment? If it’s been too long, one of these assumptions about fun may be holding you back.

    Read on to discover how to get over them and get yourself back out there:

    1. You’re worried what other people will think. You don’t want to look silly in front of other people. You’re afraid they’ll judge you. Guess what? Other people don’t think about you nearly as much as you think they do. Besides, you’re not a mind reader: You can’t know what is going on in other people’s minds. And if they are judging you for being silly and having a good time, then they’re people you don’t need to know anyway. To quote Dr. Seuss: “Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.”

    2. You think you need to spend money. It’s true: Some of the best things in life are free. You don’t need to go on a pricey vacation or buy a lot of stuff to have fun. Many times it’s just being in the moment with the people you care about. And that costs nothing. Check newspaper listings or local websites for ideas of fun low-cost activities in your community.

    3. You think you don’t have the time. There is always time to have fun. I don’t care who you are or how little time you think you have—you can make the time. Also, fun is found in the little moments; you don’t need to carve out your whole day. Block out a half-hour to do something you enjoy, just for the fun of it.

    4. You think you need to plan it. If you’re a Type A planner, keep in mind that the most fun can be found in spontaneous unplanned moments. Let things happen naturally. Let yourself experience spur-of-the-moment trips and last-minute get-togethers. Be in the present moment.

    5. You mistake solemnity for seriousness. As Jim Morrison wrote, “No one gets out of here alive.” You’ve got one life, and it’s short. Enjoy it. It is possible to take something seriously and still inject some fun and humor into it. For example, if you’ve ever flown Southwest Airlines, you’ve seen how the company takes something serious, like safety instructions, and turns it into something fun. By doing this, not only will people enjoy themselves more, they’re also more likely to pay attention. So whoop it up at your next staff meeting.

    6. You think conditions have to be perfect. Many fun moments occur when things go unexpectedly awry. Allow yourself to be imperfect and enjoy the imperfections of life. Humans are imperfect creatures, after all, and you’re one of them. Telling yourself, “I’ll have fun when…” is counterproductive and, frankly, a bummer. Have fun now: There’s no time like the present.

    7. You think it has to be big and spectacular. News flash: Every day will not have 4th of July fireworks, parades, and parties. You can find fun in small moments. If you think real fun only happens at big events, you’re depriving yourself of some good times. Fun is what you make it. It doesn’t need to be spectacular, by any means. Sometimes it’s found in 5- and 10-minute increments.

    8. You’re bored. There’s a symptom of depression called anhedonia, in which you no longer find interest or fun in things that previously got you excited. Also in ADHD it can be difficult to keep up novel tasks to excite the brain. On the other hand, if you’re just plain bored, that is a choice. You make the changes and opportunities in your life. Get out there and have fun.

    Is your inner party planner just dying to come out? Everyone needs that one friend who knows how to throw a killer party because honestly, it’s an art form.

    Not everyone has the vision or can handle planning a killer event, but most people like to attend them. If you want to start planning the parties and events that you wish you were invited to, here are some tips for shaking things up a bit.

    1. Introduce something new.

    Everyone loves a bit of newness in their lives now and then, so why not be the person to give it to them?

    Bring a little bit of education into your event and open the eyes of your guests to new things. After returning home from three years abroad, I threw my own welcome-home party that had a travel theme.

    I made authentic dishes from the countries I visited and hung up quite a few maps that detailed where I had been. My guests loved hearing my travel stories while getting to taste food that they otherwise may not have experienced.

    2.В Give it a theme.

    If you can’t introduce something new, at least make your event based on a theme. A theme will give your party an edge and get people excited to attend because it has the appeal of being “different.” You don’t have to revert back to college and demand everyone wear togas. Murder mystery, decades and ugly sweaters are all fun ways to get people together.

    I attended a Prohibition party that required everyone to dress in 1920s attire. The venue was full of liquor and beer tastings as well as an authentic band and dancers straight from the dance floors of the 1920s. I honestly wouldn’t have attended if it weren’t for the theme.

    3. Inspire your guests.

    A little inspiration can go a long way for your guests, and make them especially interested in attending your event.

    While opening up their eyes to new things and giving them an intriguing theme to follow can serve as inspiration, you can take it a step further. Offer a donation jar to a charity of your choice. Invite a local musician to play your party for some exposure.

    4. Offer a variety of activities.

    Give the people attending your event something to do. Don’t bore them to death with your standard song playlist or a strict itinerary.

    Make sure there are plenty of different activities for everyone to try. Add in games, different dance floors with more than one style of music and make sure there are comfortable places for people to chat. If you have access to the outdoors, it can be the perfect opportunity to get some competitive games going as well.

    5. MixВ up the guests.

    Keep the party interesting by inviting a variety of guests. Don’t keep it full of only your closest friends who already hang out on a regular basis.

    Try inviting some co-workers, acquaintances from yoga class or your favorite barista at the local cafГ©. Give your guests (and yourself) a chance to mix and mingle with people that they haven’t met before. It may make the night more interesting for everyone.

    6. SendВ out quirky invitations.

    Whether you do it online or via snail mail, make sure that your invitations rock. If the party is themed, make sure those invites go along with it. Use your own creativity and make the invitations just as memorable as the party promises to be.

    Write a poem, make a video invite or use an everyday object instead of an actual card.

    Whatever event you happen to be planning this year, don’t let it be ordinary!

    Is your inner party planner just dying to come out? Everyone needs that one friend who knows how to throw a killer party because honestly, it’s an art form.

    Not everyone has the vision or can handle planning a killer event, but most people like to attend them. If you want to start planning the parties and events that you wish you were invited to, here are some tips for shaking things up a bit.

    1. Introduce something new.

    Everyone loves a bit of newness in their lives now and then, so why not be the person to give it to them?

    Bring a little bit of education into your event and open the eyes of your guests to new things. After returning home from three years abroad, I threw my own welcome-home party that had a travel theme.

    I made authentic dishes from the countries I visited and hung up quite a few maps that detailed where I had been. My guests loved hearing my travel stories while getting to taste food that they otherwise may not have experienced.

    2.В Give it a theme.

    If you can’t introduce something new, at least make your event based on a theme. A theme will give your party an edge and get people excited to attend because it has the appeal of being “different.” You don’t have to revert back to college and demand everyone wear togas. Murder mystery, decades and ugly sweaters are all fun ways to get people together.

    I attended a Prohibition party that required everyone to dress in 1920s attire. The venue was full of liquor and beer tastings as well as an authentic band and dancers straight from the dance floors of the 1920s. I honestly wouldn’t have attended if it weren’t for the theme.

    3. Inspire your guests.

    A little inspiration can go a long way for your guests, and make them especially interested in attending your event.

    While opening up their eyes to new things and giving them an intriguing theme to follow can serve as inspiration, you can take it a step further. Offer a donation jar to a charity of your choice. Invite a local musician to play your party for some exposure.

    4. Offer a variety of activities.

    Give the people attending your event something to do. Don’t bore them to death with your standard song playlist or a strict itinerary.

    Make sure there are plenty of different activities for everyone to try. Add in games, different dance floors with more than one style of music and make sure there are comfortable places for people to chat. If you have access to the outdoors, it can be the perfect opportunity to get some competitive games going as well.

    5. MixВ up the guests.

    Keep the party interesting by inviting a variety of guests. Don’t keep it full of only your closest friends who already hang out on a regular basis.

    Try inviting some co-workers, acquaintances from yoga class or your favorite barista at the local cafГ©. Give your guests (and yourself) a chance to mix and mingle with people that they haven’t met before. It may make the night more interesting for everyone.

    6. SendВ out quirky invitations.

    Whether you do it online or via snail mail, make sure that your invitations rock. If the party is themed, make sure those invites go along with it. Use your own creativity and make the invitations just as memorable as the party promises to be.

    Write a poem, make a video invite or use an everyday object instead of an actual card.

    Whatever event you happen to be planning this year, don’t let it be ordinary!

    How to be fun at parties

    It’s the freaking bachelorette weekend, and you’re about to have some fun. One way to get the party started off right is with cocktails, of course, followed by a fun game or two to help loosen up the group. This is also a great way to incorporate some quirky icebreakers, so everyone gets to know one another—a must if you’re mixing friend groups. That said we know there are some pretty lame games out there (we encountered the gamut during our thorough research and vetting process), so we curated a list of the créme de la créme of party-starters. Here are 14 your friends are guaranteed to love.

    The Newlywed Game

    It’s a game we all love to watch total strangers play, and it’s even more fun when you know the couple involved. Have the bachelorette party host email the bride’s spouse-to-be a list of questions beforehand (even better, get their responses on video to play for the group later). Then have the bride guess what their partner answered for each one. If the answer is right, everyone but the bride takes a sip of their drinks. If the answer is wrong, just the bride does.

    If you play the game with all guests in attendance, have each person answer questions beforehand. Then someone reads the answer aloud at random, and the bride has to pick the person who said it.

    A Scavenger Hunt

    This is the perfect game for a night on the town. The good news is there are tons of sites where you can instantly download pre-made bachelorette party scavenger hunt lists full of fun “dares” to be captured on camera throughout the evening. Etsy is our go-to for loads of options like this one (some quite crazy and others tamer, depending on the vibe you’re going for).

    The “Drink If” Game

    This one is similar to the concept of “Never Have I Ever” except, well, different. Basically, you have a healthy list of “drink ifs” written down that will get passed around. Each guest reads off one line, and if that line applies to you, you drink. Then the card gets passed. Some examples of fun drink-ifs include, “If you’ve known the bride for 10-plus years,” “If you’ve gone to the couple’s honeymoon destination,” “If you’ve hooked up with someone who has the same name as the bride’s soon-to-be spouse,” etc.

    A Panty Party

    If the panties fit, right? For this game, each guest should bring a pair of unwrapped panties that is reflective of their own personality. All the panties get hung on a clothesline type thing (or however you can manage it) and the bride has to guess which guest gave them which pair of panties. Like always, you can choose to turn this into a drinking game if you like—it’s a fun way to shower the bride and get some good laughs at the same time.

    Ring Hunt

    If you’re looking for something a bit more laid back than the scavenger hunt, we’ve got just the thing. Hide a bunch of plastic rings around your home base for the weekend and have guests try to find them. Up the ante by writing a little note with each one that includes an action the sleuth must take upon finding it, like a mini-dare.

    Adult Pictionary

    So most of us know the general objective of Pictionary (split into teams and have one person draw a randomly chosen word or phrase while others try to guess what it is), right? Well, let’s put an X-rated spin on that. Stack the deck with lots of naughty phrases and acts, and watch as hilarity ensues.

    Lingerie Shower Bingo

    This is perfect if guests are planning on showering the future-Mrs. with gifts that might not be appropriate for the bridal shower (read: sex toy). Hand lingerie bingo cards out as the bride-to-be is opening gifts, and see who can complete a row first. The gifts can range from super spicy items to simple lacy undies.

    Bachelorette Roulette

    While this may not be your typical game of skill, trust us when we say that a certain type of skill is definitely needed. Drinking skills, that is. First, you will need a spinner and then each guest takes turns to see either who takes a drink or what type of drink to take (depending on the spinner type you choose). You can easily DIY this, too.

    How Well Do You Know the Bride?

    Test out who’s been paying attention all these years. Compile a list of questions about the weekend’s VIP or print a pre-made one, and see who can get the most right answers.

    Pin the Kiss on the Spouse-to-Be

    Pretty self-explanatory, here. Much like the Pin the Tail on the Donkey, each guest is given a kiss cutout (or puts on a coat of lipstick and gets ready to smooch) that they have to pin on a photo of the bride’s spouse-to-be. For an extra treat, personalize some satin sleeping masks to take home after wearing them as the blindfolds.

    Prosecco Pong

    Beer pong, but make it fashion. This glamorous take on a frat-party classic is always a huge hit. Just replace red Solo cups with chic coupette glasses and beer with your favorite bubbles—or buy a set that’s ready to go—and see which team can get the most pong balls in their opponents’ glasses. Just don’t forget to account for the fact that these glasses are shallower than the usual cups when taking aim.

    What’s in Your Cell Phone

    Consider this the fun love child of a digital scavenger hunt and bingo. Participants get points for finding something on the list within the contents of their phone. Award fewer points for more common items (think: the wedding date in your calendar) and more points for the serious goods. Up the ante with things like a belfie or X-rated search history.

    Dirty Minds

    See who’s got the dirtiest mind in the bunch by compiling a list of seemingly naughty descriptions and having the guests guess the answers. The answers are always completely respectable and ordinary, but the guests tend to get pretty creative.

    Bachelorette Jenga

    Take the classic game of strategy and skill, and add interesting challenges and dares. Just make sure to have those libations handy—you’ll need them.

    Celebrating a party during quarantine? It’s possible! Here’s some fun Quarantine Party Ideas when you’re on lockdown!

    Who says you can’t celebrate major milestones in your child’s life because of the COVID-19 (Coronavirus) pandemic? These Fun Quarantine Party Ideas are just what you need to make light of the situation.

    While it’s important to prioritize safety above everything, it’s also essential (to our sanities!) to make sure that your child, and your entire family, still get a semblance of normal life during these difficult times. Throwing a safe corona party or quarantine themed birthday party in the safety of your own home is an excellent way to celebrate your kid’s or teen’s birthday while staying at home and practicing physical distancing.

    A super mom with super ideas, Kylie Najjar made the most of the lockdown while keeping her family safe at home by staging a fun quarantine themed photoshoot and simple birthday party with cake and dancing. After posting an adorable photo of her one-year old with a quarantine birthday banner behind him and some hazard tape for decorations, her idea went viral on Facebook and Instagram! She was even featured on the media for her creativity!

    Keeping that in mind, there are so many ways for you and your kids to have a fun birthday celebration even if you had to cancel their birthday party with friends. From virtual parties to birthday parades, more and more people are coming up with wonderful ideas to celebrate and share the joy while still keeping safe.

    While this situation is scary, it’s okay to poke fun at what’s happening in the world right now to lift everyone’s spirits. Check out the photos below for some awesome quarantine party ideas that practice safe social distancing!

    How to be fun at parties

    Quarantine Birthday Party Ideas

    • Quarantine themed birthday banner with fun, witty messages
    • Clever use of hazard tape for decorations
    • Encourage friends and family to make video birthday cards
    • Have a virtual birthday party through Zoom or Houseparty
    • Send out virtual invitations to your online party
    • Enjoy some interactive fun with kids such as baking and dance parties
    • Have a birthday parade with handmade signs from friends and family or get your local police and fire departments to conduct a parade
    • Stage an online karaoke party
    • Setup up online board games and video games that your kid can play with friends without leaving home
    • Host an online watch party for your kid to watch movies with friends
    • Incorporate quarantine themed desserts like a toilet paper cake, poop emoji cupcakes, etc.
    • Get a fun ball pit or small bounce house for some indoor or outdoor fun

    How to be fun at parties

    Quarantine in style with these fun party decorations.

    How to be fun at parties

    Set up a fun mini photoshoot at home like this adorable Quarantine Dinosaur Party.

    How to be fun at parties

    Plan a neighborhood birthday parade with signs and balloons.

    How to be fun at parties

    How to be fun at parties

    Invite your local police officers to surprise your child for his or her birthday.

    How to be fun at parties

    Toilet paper is suddenly in high demand. Surprise the birthday celebrant with a funny toilet paper cake.

    How to be fun at parties

    Everyone will get a kick out of these funny quarantine themed sugar cookies.

    How to be fun at parties

    Add a fun twist to your quarantine birthday party with these hilarious toilet paper and poop emoji cupcake toppers.

    How to be fun at parties

    Add this quarantine cake topper to your funny toilet paper cake.

    How to be fun at parties

    Surprise your loved one with this clever Covid-19 Quarantine birthday cake.

    How to be fun at parties

    Make the best of out the situation with a quarantine themed birthday party and decorate with this quarantine birthday banner.

    Quarantine Birthday Party Supplies and Decorations:

    • Quarantine Party Backdrop
    • Cake Toppers and Centerpieces
    • Quarantine Cupcake Toppers
    • Custom Quarantine Birthday Banner
    • Quarantine Banner
    • Virtual Party Invitations
    • Quarantine Party Printables
    • Quarantine Birthday Sign
    • Birthday Parade Yard Sign
    • Virus Piñata
    • Quarantine Birthday Welcome Sign

    When it comes to having an awesome quarantine birthday party, it’s all about the mood! Decorating your home with clever quarantine backdrops and party banners can help set the tone but, of course, you need to be in a party state of mind too!

    If you want to stay inside as much as possible, consider using any of the party supplies and decorations you’ve already bought and just add a quarantine twist to it. Just make sure to use yellow and black! Digital downloads are a great way to decorate without spending too much, and there are many customizable digital files around, some you also get for free.

    Taking advantage of the internet and technology is also important when planning your kid’s quarantine birthday party. Apps like Zoom and Houseparty or other video conferencing tools allow your friends and family to join the fun even while in the safety of their own homes. You can also send out virtual invitations or e-vites to make everything feel more like a real party! Set up online gift registries on different shopping sites so that your little one can still get presents from friends and family. Reach out to friends and family in advance if you’re planning a birthday parade, so they can prepare homemade banners to greet your birthday boy or girl.

    How are you planning to celebrate your little one’s birthday while on quarantine? Do you plan on doing any of the quarantine birthday party ideas above? Share your thoughts about having a lockdown party in the comments section below! Stay safe everyone!

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