“Does This Make Me Look Fat?” The Best Way to Respond
Posted Feb 22, 2011
Picture this. You are shopping with a girlfriend. She comes out of the dressing room, turns to you and says, “Does this dress make me look fat?”
Your first impulse might be to immediately say, “No,” You cringe and feel backed into a corner. It’s a no-win situation. Before you answer, think about this advice. Consider what she is really asking. Don’t take this question literally.
2) Reassurance. Let’s look beyond the dressing room situation. Now, imagine that it is your spouse or your child asking, “Do I look fat?” Sometimes the question comes out of the blue and isn’t referring to clothing. This is often seeking something very different. It’s looking for reassurance. Essentially, your loved one is asking, “Do you think I am okay?” Or, fill in the blank with any other word that fits such as attractive, loveable, great etc. Your responds: “Are you asking how I feel about you? I think you are amazing.” When you have a solid self-esteem, you can typically work past self-doubt by yourself. When you don’t, you often need a little help. Consider if this person may benefit from more verbal feedback and validation from you in general.
3) Healthy Weight? Yet another version is really asking, “Is my weight unhealthy?” It’s understandable why he or she may be seeking another opinion. There are so many confusing messages about what is a healthy weight. A fashion magazine may make you feel overweight but you may be the thinnest person in your family. If you feel this is what is really behind the fat question, reframe it to, “Are you worried that you are overweight?” Defer to a physician. “You may want to ask your doctor. The doctor can help you determine a healthy weight for you.”
4) Self-Esteem. What if you are constantly asking, “Do I look fat?” Again, this is a red flag that you are possibly asking for reassurance not exactly validation on how you look. Remember that your significant other can tell you until they are blue in the face that you look great, but really, only you can make these words stick. When you don’t really believe it yourself, it doesn’t matter what others say.
5) Feelings. Finally, imagine that someone who has body image issues or an eating disorder asks if they look fat. This is often a sign of anxiety. Getting into a debate about “fat” completely misses the boat. In this case, try “When you ask me that it tells me you are worried about something. What’s wrong?” It might be concern over appearance. But, often it’s about feeling something uncomfortable like too full, overwhelmed or stressed out. Focus on the feeling.
The lesson: When you or someone else asks the question, “Do I look fat,” don’t answer with a “yes” or “no.” Instead, consider what they are really asking, reframe the question and put it back in their hands. More often than not it is signaling a need for reassurance. Let’s stop perpetuating the use of the word “fat” to express things that can be clearly and more accurately stated in other ways.
Since the dawn of time, women have asked men the world’s most feared question, “Does this dress make me look fat?” I, being the master of epiphanal thoughts, have at last produced a solution that spares men having to answer, saving lives and marriages in the process.
Menfolk have long struggled with the no-win question every time it is asked.
Answer yes and you’ll be met with a venomous look. Your plans for the evening will be immediately cancelled, and your wife will jump on the treadmill, clad in the unflattering dress, and work out marathon-style until the dress fits. Or she’ll snag a bucket of ice cream and gulp down spoonfuls of self-pity and mint chocolate chip. Either way, you lose.
Understand the historical significance of this question. It has perplexed world leaders throughout time.
Julius Caesar dodged the question, responding, “Vidi Vini Vicensi,” which translated means, “I came, I saw, I was wondering if you’ve seen my cufflinks anywhere?’
Henry the VIII, chose to make a preemptive strike rather than answer, beheading his wives often while they wore the dress in question.
Eva Braun, knowing she was about to be captured by the Allies and wanting to make a good impression, posed the question to Hitler in the bunker. Der Fuhrer knew suicide was a more palatable alternative than bumbling through an answer.
The other morning, the dread question was put to me. Instinctively, as every man is taught, I sought cover. I dropped to the ground and started dragging myself with my elbows behind the couch.
My wife snagged me by the belt, and dragged me back into the kitchen, where the overhead fluorescent light shone in my eyes, third-degree style.
“Does it make me look fat or not?” she growled.
Now what is fat? Is fat anything that doesn’t look like one of the emaciated fashion models from New York or Paris that look like a tinker-toy project gone awry? Or is fat like those obese people who hunker down at the all-you-can eat food buffet, and proceed to consume all-there-is-to-eat?
Really, my answer doesn’t matter. Because most women, or at least the woman who was hunched over me, threatening me with a rolling pin, only compare themselves to the most perfect lady body in the history of the solar system. Never mind that this woman has never been seen in real life — only airbrushed onto the pages of a magazine. It’s the standard they measure themselves by whenever confronted by a mirror.
The rolling pin hung in the air like the Sword of Damocles. I gulped, recited a little prayer, and that’s when my epiphanal powers manifested in a thought so revolutionary that it actually brought tears to my eyes.
I cleared my throat, and I told her to go ask our daughter.
“Good idea,” my wife said, placing the rolling pin back in the drawer. Still lying on the floor, I wept, praising Allah, Jesus Christ and any other powers-that-be for saving my miserable life.
I also listened to the conversation upstairs. It really doesn’t matter what my thirteen-year old daughter said. What matters is that my wife accepted it, without question. This was good. This was very good. I thus decided to pursue the natural course of action whenever a true American capitalist receives a string of good luck: I decided to monetize it.
Within two days, I had created a website and an iphone app with the domain, “doesthisdressmakemelookfat.com.” I strapped a headset on my daughter, and set her down at the computer.
“What do you want me to do?” she asked.
“Just answer the question,” I replied.
She rolled her eyes, and I immediately bestowed her with employee of the month for her positive attitude.
The website allowed for a two-way view. Desperate men dialed in, held their smart phone up so it would show a picture of the wives in question, and then my daughter would deliver her honest, straightforward critique.
As you would expect, word of this amazing service spread among the male population like wildfire. I heard grown men weeping their thanks to my daughter, as the sounds of rolling pins being returned to kitchen drawers was audible in the background.
Homicide rates began to plummet. Restaurant business skyrocketed as dates were no longer cancelled. We serviced men of every race, creed, and socioeconomic standing. Even the President of the United States called in for a quick counsel, fearing for his own life and the lives of the Secret Service men, all imperiled by conflicted Michelle.
For years, our service worked wonders, until, as it usually does with my epiphanies, the wheels came off.
My daughter, now twenty-three, had fallen in love with a terrific fellow. They were to be married in the same church my wife and I had recently renewed our vows in. (We were so happily in love now I had the perfect answer to that damned question.)
On the morning of the wedding, my wife and I received a phone call. It was the police. My daughter had been arrested.
The charge? Homicide. She’d killed her husband-to-be.
We made a beeline to the police station, where we found my daughter behind bars, wearing a blood-stained wedding dress.
“She beat him to death with a rolling pin,” said a police officer.
My blood ran cold as I realized what had happened. My daughter had tried on her wedding dress, and posed the infernal question to her fiance. The poor sap had undoubtedly tried to contact our website for a response, but I had neglected to staff a replacement for my daughter. The rolling pin followed soon after.
As my wife and I left the cellblock, I turned for one last look at my little girl. She was being held in a large cell with a group of men – a collection of thugs, murderers, drug dealers, rapists, gang leaders, and maniacs.
She gestured to her blood-stained wedding dress as she asked them, “Does this make me look fat?”
En masse, the hardened thugs dropped to the floor, and began crawling for cover.
Coronavirus doesn’t have to put a damper on every personal interaction. Here are some tips to liven up your phone calls and text messages.
When you don’t leave your house for days on end, it can be challenging to be a dazzling conversationalist when friends and family call. Anytime someone asks me what’s new lately, my mind goes blank. Looking around for inspiration, I usually mumble something about the weather. There’s also a lot of heavy sighing on my end, which isn’t particularly entertaining for the other person.
It’s hard to strike an equilibrium in conversation if you’re feeling overwhelmed, unhappy and drained. “Some may be struggling to have positive conversations because the world is dark,” said Alison Wood Brooks, an associate professor of business administration at Harvard Business School. “Others are struggling with conversational fatigue as they manage crowded households. Still others wish they could have more conversations as they combat profound loneliness.”
Even though there’s plenty we can’t control right now, there are things we can control when it comes to the conversations we’re having. We can pick what things we read and listen to so we have fodder to comment on. We also control the attention we bring to the conversation. We can listen deeply and ask follow-up questions.
We can also choose who we communicate with.
“Try to choose to talk to the people that bring you joy,” Dr. Brooks said. “Think about how you feel during and after your conversations.” If someone consistently drags you down, “you may be better off interacting with others for now.”
Finally, we are in charge of our attitude about this situation, too. We can crack jokes and be silly. Research suggests that humor is an excellent coping mechanism that helps distract — and heal — from negative news. So, Dr. Brooks said, try to make people laugh. And don’t forget to laugh at yourself! “Even if you must discuss serious topics, the whole interaction isn’t required to be serious, dreadful or dark,” she said. “You’re allowed to cry and smile at the same time.”
With these basic principles in mind, here’s how to keep conversations interesting when life is feeling drab:
Do a little homework. In Dr. Brooks’s research, she found that jotting down one to three topic ideas before the conversation starts lowers anxiety during the conversation and increases the enjoyment of the interaction. “Even just thinking about one or two ideas in the 20 seconds before a conversation seems to help,” she said.
Start the conversation off on the right foot. When people ask Debra Fine, author of “The Fine Art of Small Talk,” how she’s holding up, she responds with something lighthearted but real: “I haven’t reinvented myself yet!” Or, “I have one more episode of Ozark to watch. I can’t wait.”
“This gives others a factoid or topic to keep the conversation going,” she said.
Ms. Fine also starts conversations by saying things like:
How are you entertaining yourself?
What is your favorite quarantine outfit?
Tell me about your best meal so far.
Avoid one-upping each other. Yes, things are hard for both of you, and it might feel like you’re sympathizing — I hear you! Life is hard for me, too! — but it makes the other person feel dismissed. So, don’t do this:
First friend: “Ugh, I’ve been in Zoom meetings all day. I am completely drained.”
Second friend: “You think that’s bad? At the end of my work day, I need to entertain and feed two teenagers.”
First friend: “I am feeling claustrophobic now that parks and trails have been closed.”
Second friend: “Try living in a one-bedroom apartment in Brooklyn.”
Instead, Ms. Fine said, we should listen and offer empathetic responses. Say things like, “That does sound draining,” “I feel for you” and, “What’s worked for you when managing stress like this?”
Ask about the day-to-day business. Sherry Turkle likes it when people ask her what she’s been up to, as she is engaged in interesting work at the moment. The M.I.T. professor and author of “Reclaiming Conversation: The Power of Talk in a Digital Age” wants to talk about everything she’s been doing to adjust in this new normal. “Similarly,” she said, “my quarantine-mates are doing the most fascinating work in business, finance, strategy and thinking about the future of human resources, hiring and marketing.” With them, she says, getting into the nitty-gritty of their lives is the best talk. It’s “endlessly interesting.”
It’s also important to be sensitive to those who have been furloughed or are out of work for the foreseeable future. If your friend seems open to talking about what the world may look like once restrictions are lifted, follow their lead. “Together you may actually have interesting ideas about how their skills will fit,” Professor Turkle said. Make sure the person who is out of work feels supported, whether they want to address their work concerns at this time or not.
Keep the conversation balanced. There has to be give and take. Avoid constantly bringing the focus back to yourself, a habit many people may not even realize they have. This tendency annoys conversation partners, who then “leave the conversation feeling tired and like you weren’t interested in them,” Dr. Brooks said.
Find a way to make unexciting things exciting. Marvel at the absurdity you’re finding in everyday life. R. Eric Thomas, a senior editor of Elle.com and author of “Here For It: Or How to Save Your Soul In America,” loves hearing about the most mundane trivia when he connects with his people. “You would be surprised how interested I am in hearing about what my friends are putting on their toast in quarantine,” he said. “Tell me more about your life and less about the uncertainty of the future.”
Talk about what you’re reading, watching and making. Mr. Thomas has had success getting people gabbing by commenting on pop culture: books, television shows and movies, and music. People also love lingering on nostalgia. He recommends asking friends:
Who is your favorite Disney princess?
What is the first film you remember seeing in a theater?
What TV show episodes do you always rewatch?
What music never fails to get you in a good mood?
“We are surrounded by a world of mood-lighteners, and sometimes it’s a welcome respite to revisit them,” he said.
You can also share your silliest pet stories, too. Has your dog been barking up a storm while you’re on conference calls? Is your cat chewing on your prized stash of toilet paper? Talk about it!
Be honest. If you’re feeling like you’re not in a place to hold a conversation, you can let the other person know. Sometimes, Mr. Thomas said, it’s OK to just be present and not engage. Or, it’s OK to say, “I’m having a hard time finding positivity right now.”
“In fact,” he said, “it may free others up to be honest about the ways that they feel, too.”
I need to be able to tell my daughter that her outfit is not flattering! My daughter is plus size. Going shopping can be a real struggle since there are a lot of things that don’t fit and just aren’t flattering. When I tell her that something isn’t flattering, she gets really angry. How can I say it in a nice way. I’d like her to avoid buying things that make her look even larger than she is.
Signed, Shopping Mama
Dear Shopping Mama,
I understand that buying clothes when we live in a larger body can be stressful. Clothing designers have done a terrible job at clothing us, and it’s hard not to feel ashamed doing something that other people seem to enjoy so much.
I hear you when you say that you want to be able to tell your daughter that an outfit is not flattering.
But I need to challenge you immediately on your belief that your child should only buy clothing that is “flattering,” which I think you mean “slimming.” Your daughter should buy clothing that fits her body, that feels good, and that she likes. Her clothing should not be chosen to minimize her body size or make her appear to be anything other than the beautiful person she is. You need to let go of the idea that she will be more beautiful if she is thinner.
Our children are living in a disordered eating ecosystem. This means that they are bombarded daily with messages about the thin ideal and see images of models who weigh less than almost any other person can without seriously disordered eating and/or an eating disorder.
When parents tell a daughter that her outfit not flattering, what they are really saying is that their child’s body is unacceptable.
Our children live in this ecosystem, and they know what they *should* look like. They know exactly what the weight loss, fashion, and beauty industries say is “beautiful.” And there is not a single chance in hell that they will ever look exactly as they are told they could/should look.
Going into any clothing store is a stressful time for most people living in a larger body. Most of us suffer from some form of body dissatisfaction if not full-on body dysmorphia.
When a child who is living in a larger body goes shopping with her mom, she is exquisitely aware of the fact that many of the clothes she sees will not fit her or, if they do, will not look “good” on her body.
You may think it’s kind to tell your daughter that an outfit not flattering. But all kids know that “not flattering” is code for “not slimming” or, if we’re really being honest, “makes you look fat.”
If we want to raise children who are truly healthy, then we need to help them feel completely accepted and loved by their parents, regardless of their body size. When we make comments about how their bodies look in clothes, even though they may come from what we believe is a good place, we draw attention to their bodies, which does not help their self-confidence.
If you go shopping with your child, and a piece of clothing doesn’t look good to you, look at your child’s face. Look into her eyes. Does she feel happy? Does she like that t-shirt? Then let her enjoy it. Ask her what she likes about it.
Does she seem insecure? Ask her what she thinks of the color, and how the fabric feels against her skin. Ask her if the clothing allows her to move the way she wants to. There’s no need to reference her body size at all.
If she asks you “do I look OK?” tell her that what matters is how she feels in her clothes. It’s OK if she rolls her eyes. Even if she pushes you, don’t fall for the culturally-prescribed bait of women asking whether they “look fat.” Fat is not a look. Fat is not a feeling. Fat is a cellular structure on our bodies. Push her to define beauty on her own terms, not anybody else’s.
Then step back, and let her make her own choices. You may see them as fashion mistakes, but you have been engaged in this fashion/beauty/diet culture, too. So just relax, and remember that your child is wonderful no matter what she wears.
Here are some of the thoughts that may go through your mind. These are ‘normal’ thoughts, but that doesn’t mean you have to believe them. There’s a rule that says that the first thought is socially-constructed. Read on for the second thought, which is where we want to try and arrive for our child’s sake.
But she could look so much better if she wears something else.
Your child is not an ornament to be admired. She is a human being with much more important things to think about than how a t-shirt looks on her body. Parents don’t ever need to instill cultural body ideals upon their children – our culture does that all by itself. Be a safe haven in a culture that is very cruel to bodies.
But she will be teased if she wears that.
One of the first reasons kids get teased is that they feel insecure. If a mom has suggested that a shirt is “not flattering” and a kid wears it anyway, she will get teased because she feels insecure, not because of the shirt itself. If a child knows that she is not an ornament and a t-shirt is just a freaking t-shirt, then she may get teased, but she won’t care, and the teasing won’t continue, nor will it impact her sense of self-worth.
I know a lot about fashion, and I’ve learned a lot about what flatters me. I have so much wisdom to impart!
It’s OK if you really care about fashion and what people think about your appearance, but please don’t impose those beliefs on your child. Clothing does not make a child healthy and happy. Parental attachment and self-confidence make a child healthy and happy. If your child wants to wear a neon yellow t-shirt with a unicorn on it, and you think the color “washes her out” and you think it makes her belly look large, get over it. She is responsible for her body’s presentation, not you.
She’ll only wear it once, and then she’ll never wear it again.
First of all, that may happen. It happens with all people of all sizes. Everyone makes clothing selections that we later decide we don’t like. It’s not different because of her body size. Secondly, look carefully at past patterns. It’s quite possible that previously when you disagreed over a piece of clothing, you gave in and purchased the item, but first made your opinion that it was “unflattering” clear. Then, when she put it on at home, you wrinkled your nose in disgust and said something like “I still don’t like it.” Hmmmm. Maybe that has something to do with why she never wore it again.
I owe it to her to tell the truth.
First: you owe it to her to love and accept her for who she is, not for how she looks.
Next: the truth according to whom? According to the diet, fashion and beauty industries that show body types that can only be achieved by 5% of the population and, even then, require Photoshopping? Watch your bias carefully here. We have all grown up in this toxic ecosystem, but we can also do better for our children.
Don’t subject your daughter to the same narrow view about her body to which you have been subjected. There is no objective “truth” about what looks good or doesn’t look good. Self-confidence is the greatest beauty trick we can teach our children, and self-confidence doesn’t come off the rack.
Check your bias at the door and remember: your child is a person, not an ornament. Give more love, not more fashion advice.
Sending Love … Ginny
Ginny Jones is on a mission to empower parents to raise kids who are free from eating disorders and body hate.
For some of us, buying a piece of clothing in a larger size feels simply awful; in some cases, it even plays with our sense of self worth.
Woman trying to close jeans button with difficult from fat (Photo: wckiw, Getty Images/iStockphoto)
The other day I asked my Facebook friends if (clothing) size matters.
I asked them because I had just had an awful incident involving a skirt.
It was full and floral. A little bit retro, too. And just the thing I needed in my wardrobe.
And while the store didn’t carry the skirt in my regular missy size — which is extra large, though sometimes after a carb-free week, a generous large will do — it did have larger sizes 1x-3x on the rack.
Which meant the skirt was sure to fit.
Except it didn’t, and I was horrified.
The clerk told me the skirt is sized oddly, which made me feel a little better because that meant I was not at fault for its failure to fit.
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But I also started wondering: If one of the larger sizes had fit — say a 2X or 3X — would I have even bought the skirt?
I know that size is just a number, at least I know that intellectually speaking.
But at the same time, society, reinforced by the fashion and advertising industries, tells us that the most valued women are thin. The message is so loud and clear that for some of us, buying a piece of clothing in a larger size feels simply awful; in some cases, it even plays with our sense of self worth.
I asked my friends on Facebook what they’d do: if they’d rather wear something tight than go up a size.
Here’s the way that conversation went:
Debora: Definitely go up a size.
Lona: Yeah, you can always snip out the incriminating label!
Rachel (who happens to own a women’s clothing store): There’s a difference between form-fitting and the wrong size.
Lisa: Go up a size. Tight clothes make you look fatter.
Rachel: Form-fitting can be more slimming if done right. I’ve seen many women wear very flowy pieces that make them look larger.
Margaret: SOOOOO true. I used to wear flowy, boxy clothes . But what I was doing with that approach was losing my tight waist. I own my curves now and find that it is a MUCH more flattering strategy.
Nancy P: Up a size. My “women of a certain age” figure looks much better with some camouflage.
Julie Ann: Depends on the fabric and silhouette.
Sally: Up a size. But like Julie Ann said, it depends on the fabric and silhouette. A sweater shouldn’t be baggy unless it was intended to be worn baggy. I think the biggest thing is to flatter your figure whether or not you’re thin. A size too big makes heavy people (like me) look even heavier.
K: No option #3, such as lose a few pounds?
Jamila: Wear clothing that fits, no matter the size.
Lona: Besides, sizing of clothes has no universal standard. It’s all relative!
Mark: You should wear clothes that fit. Period. That is the single most important thing you can do to look good in what you wear. . If you need to have clothes tailored to properly fit, then you should have clothes tailored. If money is an issue — and when is money not an issue for everyone? — then start figuring tailoring costs into your pre-purchasing budget.
Elio: Definitely stop eating so I don’t have to go up a size. I want to be buried wearing 30w pants, as I do now. Well, maybe 31w but if I’m wearing 32w don’t come to the funeral.
Becca: You don’t mean that about the funeral 🙁
Elio: I’m joking, as I usually do.
Lori: You’re asking a woman currently stuffed into a pair of jeans like a pork sausage.
Becca: Up a size. Comfort matters. Plus it looks better loose than tight.
Jessica: Look like a stuffed sausage or ignore the number and have a good fit? Hum. good fit
Tina: Up two sizes. As Lincoln said (kind of): Better to go up a size and be thought fat than to wear tight clothes and remove all doubt.
Rachel: Most women here are saying to go up a size, but my evidence says we do otherwise on average. I hate to say this, but my stock room is a graveyard of busted dress zippers because many women would rather break a zipper than ask for ask for a more appropriate size. Our egos are fragile, and thinness has been prized in our society for so long that we are intimidated by a number on a label. Not to mention, manufacturers play with our feelings by cutting proportions too small for the average body.
Georgea (me): I agree 100%
Chrissy: . the people saying they’d rather go a size up are lying to us and themselves! No way. They will try another brand in their size that fits better.
Now, after all of this I’ve decided a few things. I’ve decided that my Facebook friends are funny and clever and unwilling to tie their self worth to the size of their clothing.
Still, I think many, many women — including, sometimes, myself — are not comfortable going up a size or two or three. And I grew up with a mom whose shopping motto was: better too big than too small.
I see women every day who are sacrificing zippers and seams and, in some cases, I’m quite convinced, their circulation, by wearing clothing so tight it’s practically a tourniquet.
Now, how about you?
What would you do — buy something too tight or go up a size?
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I was watching a porno and it was just this fat dude crying and jerking off
My doctor told me I was fat
I told him I want a second opinion.
So he told me I’m ugly, too.
Fat shaming is wrong.
I would make a joke about how yo mama so fat.
How can you tell your girlfriend is getting fat?
I walked in a pub last night and saw a fat chick dancing on the table
It doesn’t matter whether you are tall, short, fat, thin, rich, poor; at the end of the day.
Wife to husband: “Did I get fat during quarantine?”
Husband replies: “you weren’t really that skinny to be begin with!”
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Cause of death: Covid-19
Tell a girl she’s beautiful one hundred times and she’ll not believe you. Tell her once she’s fat and she’ll always remember
Not saying my Ex was fat
Yo momma so fat.
People be like I am fat because my mother cooks good food.
I have seen a lot of fat jokes recently, and I honestly think we should be nicer to them.
How do you make a few lbs of fat look good?
How do you get a fat person into bed?
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A fat women was riding her bike very fast down a hill in the country near my home, I yelled out “COW” the bitch gave me the finger
What do you call a fat person in Europe?
A fat man meets a skinny man
The fat man tells the skinny man: “when people look at you, they think the world’s starving to death”
And the skinny man responds: “when they look at you, they know why”
Your mama’s so fat.
Your mom is so fat
A fat man goes into a fast food restaurant and orders his food. The cashier says that it will be a minute or two for his food. Finally his food is ready. The cashier hands the food to the fat guy and tells him,
I ran over a fat girl today
She asked me why I didn’t go around her.
I said I didn’t think I’d have enough gas.
Yo mama so fat.
The fat acceptance movement is the only movement
Yo mama so FAT
I’m not fat!
Fat-free French fries
A boy read a restaurant sign that advertised fat-free French fries.
“Sounds great,” said the health-conscious boy. He ordered some.
He watched as the cook pulled a basket of fries from the fryer. The potatoes were dripping with oil when the cook put them into the container.
When telling a fat man to lose weight you should not sugar coat it
If I had a dollar for every girl that thought I looked too fat,
Yoh mama so fat that when she buys a fur coat.
In which city do fat people stay?
The son comes home crying and tells his mother “the lady next door hit me!”. So the mother goes over and asks why she hit her and the lady replies “your son called me fat!”. To which the mother replies.
You shouldn’t fat shame people.
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A fat man goes to a unique Health Centre that advertises weight loss and sex.
It gets me very angry to see people fat-shaming
I’ve got plenty of fat friends.
Never ever call a lady fat!
Why doesn’t Bernie Sanders like low-fat milk?
What’s fat, orange and that everyone avoids?
*what did you expect?*
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What did the infomercial actor say after realizing he was getting fat?
Yo mama soooo fat
What do you get if you eat 3.14 cakes?
Fat. You get fat.
You were expecting a joke about pi? On my cake day?
Fats Domino died after falling onto another family member.
People seem to really hate fat.
everywhere I go, I get people saying
Sorry for the weight.
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Early one morning a fat kid was sitting in an airport terminal eating a giant size candy bar.
An older man strolled by and saw the boy.
He stopped abruptly and asked “Hey kid, do you think it’s a good idea to be eating a giant candy bar for breakfast?”
The boy replied “I don’t know, but my grandpappy lived to be 102 years old.”
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What do u call a fat girls stalker?
Why are demons fat.
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Years ago I used to work at the circus and we had some wonderful acts I remember the fat tattooed lady..
Your momma’s so fat.
Joe mama so fat
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A wife is tired of all the problems that need fixing in her house
She asks her husband, “Can you please fix the leak in the bathroom? “, the husband says “Do i look like a plumber?”
She asks him “Well can you please fix the light in the living room, its been flickering for ages?”, he replies “Do i look like and electrician?”
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why didnt the fat kid go trick or treating?
An fat old man lying in bed calls in the nurse.
A polite woman rushes in to the aid of the obese man who has been placed on a strict diet.
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“After a while you get used to people being like, ‘Why don’t you just throw yourself in a bag so no one will see you?'”
Kristin Chirico, 31, doesn’t consider herself a particularly style-savvy person. A senior editor at BuzzFeed, she had developed a particular idea about what looks best on her figure but after a while, she found herself in a fashion rut. “I do the best I can with what I’ve got,” she told Cosmopolitan.com with a self-deprecating laugh, implying that her 5-foot-3, size-16/18 frame put her at something of a disadvantage when it came to fashion. “I like what I wear and I try to have fun,” she added, “[but] I’ve trained myself to think that cinched waists and A-line skirts are the only things I can wear. I wondered, ‘Is that true, or are there other options out there?'”
To answer this question, Kristin enlisted the help of five fashion professionals — personal shoppers at Bloomingdale’s, Macy’s, Nordstrom, Mod Cloth, and Saks Fifth Avenue — asking them to choose outfits that they thought would flatter her. (You can read her personal account of the experience here.) Many of these stores only stock a limited selection of pieces in larger sizes, and given that Kristin usually shops in the plus-size section of stores like Forever 21 and ASOS, finding flattering outfits that fit her body was not going to be easy.
In advance of her appointments, she sent each shopper a list of her measurements and a full-length picture of herself so they could get an idea of her proportions. Beyond that, she gave no instruction, leaving it up to them to choose whatever they thought would look best on her based on what was available in the store at the time. “I tried to kind of remain neutral,” she said, “to see what they really thought would work for me.” Here’s what happened.
Kristin’s personal shopper pulled a sad assortment of long, baggy sweaters, wide-leg pants, and shapeless sack dresses, mostly in shades of black and gray. When Kristin asked her personal shopper why she had chosen a particularly heinous knit, she told her it “hides a multitude of sins,” implying not so subtly that the body she had been hoping to flatter was best just covered up.
“I think I’ve come to expect [that sort of attitude],” said Kristin. “After a while you get used to people being like, ‘Why don’t you just throw yourself in a bag so no one will see you?'” She even briefly considered buying the hated top. “When I’m told this looks flattering, it lights up something in my brain that causes me to doubt any and all opinions of my own,” she wrote in her post.
This time, Kristin’s personal shopper surprised her by selecting an array of bright colors and bold prints. There were even some trendier items added into the mix, like a blue cold-shoulder dress and a fringy black top. Unfortunately, they didn’t really like any of them. Not that this was the shopper’s fault necessarily; Kristin provided no direction to any of her personal shoppers beyond asking that the looks be “flattering.” She didn’t say which parts of her body she was trying to accentuate or what style of clothing she was most drawn to, so at the end of the day, she couldn’t help but praise the stylist for taking a chance and putting her in something besides a blah beige sack. “Hats off to the stylist,” Kristin said, even if the red-top-and-black-pants the woman chose for her made her feel like “the mom on Halloween who hits on all the single dads who are out with their kids trick-or-treating.”
Kristin is not generally a fan of pants, so she was skeptical when her personal shopper suggested she try a pair of bootcut jeans with a long white top and an olive parka. When Kristin asked the shopper what made the jeans so flattering, she was told that they were “very slimming for [your] midsection,” which Kristin was pretty sure was code for “they cover your stomach.”
After trying on a few more unsuccessful outfits, including a wrinkled gray sack dress intended to “skim my body shape without clinging too much,” Kristin left yet another store without a single purchase.
4. Mod Cloth
Because Mod Cloth is an online retailer, Kristin was not able to work with a stylist in person, but she sent in her measurements and a full-length photo of herself and, this time, actually got some clothes she liked. There was a printed navy top that she thought was quite flattering, even if it was a little bit too long on her, and a green faux-wrap dress that hugged her curves and accentuated her waist.
In the end, though, she kept just two items: a sleeveless red top and a black A-line skirt. True, it was in the same general silhouette that she had been hoping to break free from, but at least it wasn’t another sad beige sack.
5. Saks Fifth Avenue
Kristin was pleasantly surprised by the selection pulled together for her by the tall, thin personal shopper at Saks Fifth Avenue. Many of the pieces were things she never would have selected for herself, but actually seemed to like — a horizontal striped T-shirt, a long leather vest, and a boxy little black dress that she actually bought, despite the fact that it did nothing to accentuate her waist. “I loved the pockets, the high-low hem, and honestly, just the way it felt.” It also probably didn’t hurt that Kristin spent about twice as much time with the shopper at Saks (90 minutes), as she did with the shoppers at any of the other stores, allowing the woman at Saks to work with her more thoroughly to help her find something she actually liked — even if it was just a simple black T-shirt dress.
In the end, Kristin says the biggest lesson she learned from the whole experience was not to let other people’s ideas about what will flatter your body dictate your personal style. “No one agrees about what flattering is,” she wrote. “That means you’re free.”
Still, the objective of her experiment had been to break out of her fashion rut. Did she do that? “Well, I previously thought pants were no good on me at all,” she said, “but now I’m more open to the idea.” It’s not much, but it’s a start.