How to be quiet

There are obvious benefits to an open office. Have a question for your manager? You can just walk right over to her. Want to have an impromptu conversation with your team? You don’t even need to go into a conference room.

But there are also times when you really need to get something done—and all that ruckus around you makes it hard to focus. You could just shout, “Hey, jerks! I need some quiet time!” But that’s not only rude, it probably won’t work, either.

If you’re at a loss for ways to tell your co-workers to be quiet in your open office, here are a few ideas to help you get what you want.

1. When Someone Won’t Leave Your Desk: Meet Them in The Middle

The flipside of being able to walk over to someone’s desk? They can do the same to you. And it usually happens just at the moment when you need to hunker down and get some work done.

There are probably two reasons you’ve experienced this. Your teammate might have something work-related to talk to you about, which is totally reasonable. But he also might want to talk about a certain football player’s personal life, which you just don’t have the time for.

If it’s a work-related conversation, you can say:

“I’d love to chat about this, but I have a firm deadline coming up. Can you grab some time on my calendar for us to chat later?”

But if it’s just friendly banter, try saying:

“Hey, I have a lot to say about this and can’t wait to discuss this. But I have to get this done before I can step away.”*

2. When the Entire Floor’s Loud: Be a Little Blunt

There’s one universal truth about open offices: You’re bound to get wrapped up in fun, yet completely unnecessary, conversations on a regular basis.

Maybe it’s a reality TV show that you all watch. Or maybe you all had a really terrible taco for lunch and can’t stop talking about it. You could put your headphones on and try drowning out the noise. But sometimes you just need a little quiet, right?

Want to shut down the conversation without sounding like a jerk? Try something like this:

“Can we bring the volume down a bit? Or could you take this into the kitchen? I have to meet this deadline and can’t focus now that I’m thinking about that terrible taco we just had.”

3. When It’s Just One Person: Ask Them Face-to-Face

Sometimes there’s that one guy who can’t stop laughing at a podcast he’s listening to. Or he keeps taking personal calls at his desk. Whatever it is, he’s kind of loud, even when everyone else is laser-focused at their desks. And because you know he’s not doing it maliciously, it’s hard to find ways to tell him to pipe down.

But that doesn’t mean you can’t approach him about his volume. Instead of shouting back at him from your desk, get up to talk to him. And when you get to his desk, try something like this:

“Hey, I know you’re not doing this on purpose, but it’s getting a little loud. I’m trying to get something urgent done, so could you be a little quieter?”

These are all guilt-free ways of asking people to be quiet, but that doesn’t mean you’ll feel comfortable doing it as soon as you’re finished reading this article. It’ll take practice and you’ll probably make mistakes along the way.

The good news is that it’s perfectly OK as long as your intentions are in the right place (and you’re not just being straight-up rude). Do it right and I promise nobody will hate you for it. In fact, they might respect you even more for being the person to pipe up.

Most teachers have a method of calling for quiet, and we’ve collected a variety of good ideas for elementary, middle, and high school.

How to be quiet

One day, in front 36 riotous sophomores, I clutched my chest and dropped to my knees like Sergeant Elias at the end of Platoon. Instantly, dead silence and open mouths replaced classroom chaos. Standing up like nothing had happened, I said, “Thanks for your attention––let’s talk about love poems.”

I never used that stunt again. After all, should a real emergency occur, it would be better if students call 911 rather than post my motionless body on YouTube. I’ve thought this through.

Most teachers use silencing methods, such as flicking the lights; ringing a call bell—see Teacher Tipster’s charming video; raising two fingers; saying “Attention, class”; or using Harry Wong’s Give Me 5––a command for students to:

  1. Focus their eyes on the speaker,
  2. Be quiet,
  3. Be still,
  4. Empty their hands, and
  5. Listen.

There’s also the “three fingers” version, which stands for stop, look, and listen. Fortunately, none of these involve medical hoaxes.

Below you’ll find a collections of lesser known techniques for all grade levels.

How to Quiet Early Elementary Students

Novelty—such as the sound of a wind chime or rain stick—captures young students’ attention. Beth O., in Cornerstone for Teachers, tells her students, “Pop a marshmallow in.” Next she puffs up her cheeks, and the kids follow suit. It’s hard to speak with an imaginary marshmallow filling your mouth.

An equally imaginative approach involves filling an empty Windex bottle with lavender mineral oil and relabeling the bottle “Quiet Spray.” Or you can blow magic “hush-bubbles” for a similar impact.

If you want to go electronic, check out Super Sound Box, Class Dojo, or Too Noisy––an Apple and Android tool that detects the noise level and produces an auditory signal when voices become too loud.

Late Elementary and Middle Grade Attention Getters

Back when I taught middle school students, I would announce, “Silent 20,” as a way to conclude an activity. If students returned to their seats and were completely quiet within 20 seconds, I advanced them one space on a giant facsimile of Game of Life. When they reached the last square (which took approximately one month), we would have a popcorn party.

One of the best ways to maintain a quiet classroom is to catch students at the door before they enter. During these encounters, behavior management expert Rob Plevin recommends using “nonconfrontational statements” and “informal chitchat” to socialize kids into productive behaviors.

Two approaches for securing 100 percent attention are modeled in a short video narrated by Teach Like a Champion author Doug Lemov––a minimally invasive hand gesture and a countdown technique (“I need two people. You know who you are. I need one person. ”).

Another idea is to use a content “word of the week” to signal that it’s time for silence. Examples: integer, renaissance, or circuit.

Quieting High School Students

Sometimes, rambunctious high school classrooms need a little longer to comply. In An ELT Notebook article, Rob Johnson recommends that teachers write the following instructions in bold letters on the chalkboard: “If you wish to continue talking during my lesson, I will have to take time off you at break. By the time I’ve written the title on the board you need to be sitting in silence. Anyone who is still talking after that will be kept behind for five minutes.”

The strategy always, always works, says Johnson, because it gives students adequate warning.

Another technique, playing classical music (Bach, not Mahler) on low volume when learners enter the room, sets a professional tone. I played music with positive subliminal messages to ninth graders until they complained that it gave them headaches.

Call-and-Response

This is a collection of catchy sayings that work as cues to be quiet. The first ones are appropriate for early and middle grade students, and the later ones have been field-tested to work with high school kids.

  • The teacher says, “Holy.” The students respond with, “Macaroni.”
  • The teacher says, “1, 2, 3, eyes on me.” The students respond with, “1, 2, eyes on you.”
  • The teacher says, ”I’m incredible.” The students respond with, “Like the Hulk. Grrrrrr!” (Kids flex during the last sound.)
  • The teacher says, “Hey.” The students respond with, “Macarena.”
  • The teacher says, “I get knocked down.” The students respond with, “But I get up again, you’re never going to keep me down.”
  • The teacher says, “Oh Mickey, you’re so fine.” The students respond with, “You’re so fine, you blow my mind, hey Mickey.”
  • The teacher says, “The only easy day.” The students respond with, “Was yesterday.” (A Navy SEALs slogan.)

Implementation Suggestions

For maximum effect, teach your quiet signal and procedure, as demonstrated in this elementary-level classroom video. Next, have kids rehearse being noisy until you give the signal for silence. Don’t accept anything less than 100 percent compliance. Then describe appropriate levels of noise for different contexts, such as when you’re talking (zero noise) or during a writing workshop (quiet voices), etc.

by David F. Kramer

Few things touch the heart of a cat lover more than those first few mews of a newborn kitten. In reality, however, the language of the cat has much more to do with humans than with cats. Over the course of thousands of years of domestication, the modern cat has turned the humble meow into a unique way of communicating with its people, rather than with other cats. This employment of exclusive human-feline communication is indeed a thing of mystery.

“Cats communicate to each other through body language, body positioning, scent marking, and facial expression, as well as through purrs, chirps, hisses and howls. Rarely do they meow around and to each other when people aren’t present,” says certified cat behavior consultant and Cat Coach Marilyn Krieger. “Meows are reserved for people—they communicate a cat’s state of mind and emotions. They also convey needs, such as wanting to be fed, petted, or let in or out.”

So, pet owners are the true masters of the meow. With all of this meowing business meant just for us, you’d think we’d be happier to hear from our cats on the regular. But if your cat’s vocalizations are getting on your last nerve, here are some potential causes, as well as some techniques that might just quell all of this cat-speak.

This article was verified for accuracy by Dr. Katie Grzyb, DVM

Boredom and Breed

When we find ourselves bored or anxious, we might be prone to making small talk to fill the void. Your cat is no different, and a lack of things to do or play with might very well bring out the orator in your feline. If late-night yowling performances from your cat have become the norm, there are some actions you can take to keep your cat interested in doing things other than vocalizing.

“Don’t leave cats alone for long periods of time without anything to do,” says Krieger. “It’s a great idea to adopt bonded pairs of cats—they keep each other entertained.” She adds that it’s important to “provide lots of enrichment, including vertical territory, boxes, paper bags without handles, scratching posts, ball and track toys, and other safe toys that can’t be dismembered and swallowed.”

The answer to fighting boredom, says Krieger, is to get involved in your cat’s life. Have regular play sessions, treasure hunts with puzzle toys that hold treats, or begin a program of clicker training that can modify some undesired behaviors. Some cat breeds, Krieger advises, are considered to be chattier (Siamese, Abyssinians, Burmese, Bengals, and others), so potential owners should be aware of what they might be getting into when they choose a breed to own.

Hunger

Not surprisingly, a prime source of increased feline vocalization is hunger, whether actual or perceived. If your cat believes that a noticeable dent in its food constitutes it being “empty,” then you’re bound to hear about it—and will probably continue to hear about it until the bowl has been topped off. According to Krieger, you might be better served by changing your cat’s feeding regimen.

“Cats that demand food should be fed small meals 4-6 times a day,” recommends Krieger. “There are timed, automatic feeders available that will dispense food on a schedule. Some have ice packs—perfect for wet food. Also, enriching the environment with vertical territory and places to hide, along with ball and track toys, can help.”

Owner Encouragement

Some people enjoy the sound of their cat’s voice. “When people like the meowing, they can reinforce it with attention and treats,” says Krieger. But, she adds, “there are times when the meowing is problematic, such as in the early morning or late night, while people are trying to sleep. In addition to not reinforcing the behavior, the reasons behind this behavior need to be identified and addressed.”

Training your cat to “unlearn” this behavior can be difficult, and the fact that folks love holding conversations with their pets doesn’t help much. “Many cats and people do answer back and forth to each other, holding ‘conversations,’” Krieger says. “It works both ways. People enjoy the interaction—they like that their kitties answer them, and the kitties like the attention.”

Pay Attention to Me!

The fact remains that the reason your cat is so noisy and demanding might just be your doing. There’s a fine line between positive and negative reinforcement of your cat’s behavior—and staying on the right side of this line can be difficult.

As mentioned previously, the most common reason for your cat’s meowing is probably the most obvious one—it gets results. In the same way that a human infant discovers that by crying it can receive food, comfort, and attention, your cat is just as quick in making the mental leap between the meow and being rewarded with what it wants.

This habit can be tough to break—for both you and your cat. Rewarding quiet behavior is a possible remedy, says Krieger, but it will require you to ignore your cat’s pleas for attention, and rewarding your cat with affection when she is sitting quietly. Attention seeking meowing, claims Krieger, can be stopped gradually, and without the use of negative reinforcement when your cat is vocal.

“First, it’s important to address the need for attention when the cat is not demanding attention with play sessions, treasure hunts, clicker training, and other activities,” says Krieger. “At the same time, the meowing is never reinforced with attention. When the cat is quiet, she is reinforced. Clicker training is a very effective tool for this.”

Advanced Age

As cats age, they can lose their faculties in the same way we do. “There are a number of factors that can cause an elderly cat to meow more or louder. Kitties who are losing their hearing often increase the volume since they can’t monitor the level of their vocalizing,” says Krieger. “Diseases and pain can also cause cats to vocalize,” she says.

Physical and behavioral changes related to age can manifest as stress, anxiety, compulsive disorders, and litter box problems; any one of these physical or mental changes can lead to changes in your cat’s vocalization. “Kitties that have feline cognitive dysfunction often walk around meowing,” says Krieger.

“Sometimes, these little ones can be found at night sitting, facing a corner, and meowing. Whenever there are changes in behavior, including meowing, cats need to be checked out by a veterinarian.”

Pain and Other Medical Factors

Dr. Adam Denish of Rhawnhurst Animal Hospital in Elkins Park, PA, says that excessive vocalizations from your cat can be a sign of pain or illness and shouldn’t be ignored.

“Pain is the most common cause of increased vocalization,” he explains. “The source of the pain can often be difficult to find, as cats tend to hide when they’re hurting. The pain might be dental, orthopedic, or abdominal, among others. In addition to pain as the cause, we see animals that are blind, diabetic, with thyroid problems, as well as cancer,” all of which, he says, can lead to increased vocalization. “For some cats, vocalization just says that something is wrong, and it’s the job of you and your vet to find out what that is.”

Finding a Solution

If “cat-erwauling” has become a problem in your home, it’s always best to take your cat to the vet for a full medical evaluation, says Denish.

“If your pet is deemed medically healthy, then the vet will look for environmental or neurological causes such as stress or anxiety, as well as abnormal interactions with other pets and humans at home,” he says. “Medications can be given, but only in cases where your vet feels that it would be beneficial. These might include herbal meds as well as real medications to calm a pet down or decrease its level of anxiety.”

How to be quiet

When you and your partner are staying in a crowded house (or, say, visiting family for the holidays), you’re faced with one big question: Do you risk it and have sex with someone in the next room, or do you keep it in your pants until after (or during, if you’re adventurous) your flight home? While celibacy or public sex are calls you’re going to have to make for yourself, if you want to try to do the deed with someone in the next room, there are are few silent sex moves that will totally minimize your chances of disrupting anyone else’s sleep.

“Having quiet sex doesn’t need to be an inconvenience. Quiet sex is exciting because it is a little bit naughty,” says Tristan Weedmark, We-Vibe’s Global Passion Ambassador. “There is the element of getting caught. Knowing you and your partner have to be quiet despite the toe-curling sex can be a turn-on.”

To prevent anyone from knowing what a toe-curling experience you’re having, Astroglide’s resident sexologist Dr. Jessica O’Reilly recommends moving extra slow. “When you slide an object inside of you as s-l-o-w-l-y as possible, your nerve endings react in the most explosive of ways,” she says. “Not only does that object feel like it never ends, but as the arousal sensations build, so too will the power of your orgasm.”

If you don’t trust yourselves to stay quiet enough to prevent the bed from squeaking, you can try moving to the floor or a chair, covering yourselves with blankets or pillows, lining the bottom of the door with a towel, or using one of these positions that cause minimal motion.

1. Standing up

You may need to be conscious of who’s on the other side of the wall, but standing sex does eliminate the possibility of jostling furniture. It’s also good for shower sex, in case you’re sharing a room with a relative, says Weedmark. (Another plus to shower sex, O’Reilly points out, is that the shower can drown out any noises that come out of your mouth.)

2. Spooning

With both partners lying down and one entering from behind, spooning sex doesn’t require a lot of movement—since you’re already close enough to “grind and rub without all of the ruckus,” says O’Reilly. It’s a surprisingly common sex position that can be, uh, retrofitted for silent sex. Just try to be quiet!

3. Edge-of-the-bed doggy-style

One person bends down and rests their elbows on the bed while the other stands behind them for this one. “Use the side instead of the end of the bed so the headboard doesn’t rattle,” Weedmark suggests.

4. The “cavity search”

For this out-of-bed position, one partner stands up with their legs spread and bends down to grab their ankles, and the other enters from behind. O’Reilly considers it “the perfect alternative to bouncing around in a creaky bed.”

5. 69-ing

Oral sex involves less of an in-and-out motion, so it’s less likely to displace any objects. In fact, pretty much any other kind of sex will be quieter than PIV. “Take the spotlight off of intercourse for the weekend and focus on all of the other less-squeaky types of sex,” Weedmark suggests. “Knowing that your go-to sex style is off the table will open up tons of opportunity to try new techniques, and you can spend more time reacquainting yourself with your partner’s body.”

How to be quiet

Do you see red when someone says something nasty that you do not deserve? Does your blood boil when you are not included in an important decision? Is your favorite way of responding to curse or kick a can? Does minor bad news make you shout obscenities?

Hey, it happens all the time.

You feel used, ignored or judged. Sometimes you just happen to be standing in the wrong place at the wrong time. Sometimes it was an innocent mistake and you get reamed for it. The big question is what to do in the heat of the moment?

Much pop psychology suggests that the best thing is to either ignore the situation or simply not react. While this advice may keep things quiet for the moment it usually shows up later.

Like the gal who was furious with her boss for constantly giving her way too much work, especially pouring on extra projects every Friday afternoon. She did not speak up directly, instead she took a walk, counted backwards, and visualized her boss as an angel.

The resentment kept building internally although she smiled her way through the weeks. That was until the team dinner when the boss asked her to pass the butter and she said “Here, take the damn butter and by the way I hate your guts you overbearing jerk and I hope you choke on your food!”

Ignoring upset will cost you sooner or later.

I have learned that the best ways to handle the mad is to face it and not brush it under the rug. Here are some techniques that will keep you true to yourself, let you be heard and yet not cause a major rift:

  1. Stop: Take five seconds and drink a glass of water. This is enough time to cool the heat of the upset. No water around? Then take some swigs of air and blow the air out like you are blowing out a flame.
  2. Detach: Notice where the anger resides in your body. Put your hand on your head, neck, or gut and observe the feelings. Just doing this and the fury will begin to subside.
  3. Vent:Find someone you trust and use your most creative language to let the mad out. No one around? Talk to yourself and let it rip. Ride the upset like a wave that will soon come to shore.
  4. Visualize: See the other as a little child who was powerless. Often the one who makes you feel like crap is really a frightened child inside. This makes the other less intimidating as you prepare to discuss the situation.
  5. Identify: Look at your own triggers and notice why you became so challenged by what was said or done. Hint: Often is has to do with how conflict was resolved in your own family as you were growing up.
  6. Restructure: Change the negative thoughts of revenge and disappointment to the positive of “I can handle this successfully.”
  7. Ask: Prepare to discuss the situation by having accountability questions ready such as “What do you want as an outcome of what just happened?” or “What was the purpose of what you just said.”
  8. Emote: Use “I” statements that include how you feel. Hint: you have to feel a feeling such as sadness, hurt, anger, etc. You cannot feel “that” the other person did or did not do something such as “I feel THAT you gave me too much work.”
  9. Listen: Once you say how the situation made you feel you are ready for the last part of the equation to say “And now I would like to hear from you.” And then the task is to again take deep breaths and be quiet.

Let me know any other techniques you think can be added to this list. I believe how we handle conflict is one of the most vital frontiers to conquer for relating more effectively at work, at home, and in the world. Let’s find the best solutions to face disputes and disappointments and get rid of avoiding or denying anger or fighting win-lose battles.

Allie is a pessimist-turned-optimist healthy food junkie who blogs about happiness, healthy living and travel. Read full profile

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“The quieter you become the more you can hear.” — Baba Ram Das

I spent years and years battling my quiet temperament, trying to become the extroverted personality that it seemed everyone wanted me to be. It was not until I paused for a moment to appreciate the natural strengths that quiet people possessed, that I was able to embrace the person I was.

In a world that often values extroverted, action-oriented characteristics, such as chatty communication skills and busyness, characteristics in which quiet people excel are often overlooked and forgotten. These characteristics, however, hold a heck of a lot of value. Here are 8 characteristics in which quiet people shine.

1. Quiet people know how to really listen.

How many times have you found yourself in the midst of a conversation with a colleague, friend, or romantic partner only to look over and notice a glazed look in their eyes and that they’re not really listening to the words you are speaking? If you’re anything like me, a heck of a lot. In a world that rarely stops talking, its rare to find someone listening with quiet intensity to every word you speak. Enter, quiet people.

2. Quiet people are keen observers. They don’t miss much.

In such a fast-paced world, it’s rare to find a reflective, keen observer. Quiet people, however, with less time spent chatting, have more energy to invest towards observing situations and people. Ask a quiet person their thoughts on a situation or person and you may be surprised to receive an extremely reflective and thorough answer. Less talking translates to more reflecting and observing.

3. Quiet people think before they speak.

“I am a minimalist. I like saying the most with the least.” — Bob Newhart

Ever had the experience of engaging in a work discussion with colleagues? The quiet man or woman in the group, who hardly ever speaks suddenly interjects. What’s the response? The whole room listens. With less time spent talking, quiet people have the time to really think before they speak. In this way, they not only offend few, but also take the time to make sure that what they are saying has true substance. Because they are so selective with words, when they speak, it seems like the whole world stops to listen to what they have to say.

4. Quietude makes them approachable.

With their quiet, relaxed temperament, quiet people are often viewed as fantastic confidants. They are often the ears that others run to for advice, respected for their good listening skills, calm temperament, and cautious words.

5. In the midst of alone time, great productivity is born.

Many quiet people are also introverts, who become charged from alone time. Free from the distractions that often come from being around people all day long, quiet people are able to accomplish a lot with their quiet focus. It is not uncommon to observe a quiet co-worker, alone in his or her office for hours at a time eschewing a quiet focus.

6. Quiet people rarely intimidate others.

With their lack of loud words and exaggerated actions, quiet people rarely offend others in their presence. It’s rare to see a quiet friend speak rashly, or a quiet co-worker reprimand a boss. Because they don’t intimidate others in their presence, they often make others feel at ease.

7. Quietude exudes calm.

Ever had the experience of approaching a calm, quiet co-worker over a stressful project? Before you knew it, your entire attitude probably changed as their relaxed temperament rubbed off on you. Quiet people tend to have a calming effect on others.

8. Quiet people embrace solitude and all its benefits.

“The monotony and solitude of a quiet life stimulates the creative mind.” — Albert Einstein

In a fast-paced world, the quiet ones are often forgotten. But more often than not, they are the writers, artists, musicians, and creative thinkers who find their greatest inspiration from one thing and one thing only: solitude.

What are your favorite characteristics of quiet people?

Many people desire to understand how to quiet the mind; or how to achieve a completely silent mind during meditation. It’s something that takes practice, but with the help of this simple exercise, you can do it, too.

As you learn to silence the mind, it might seem weird at first to be without that inner noise. Scary, even. So do it in stages and small increments, and get used to ever-increasing periods of silence.

Quieting The Mind

Note: you can use this trick, once you’ve learned it, in any situation — whether you’re stressed out and anxious, you can’t sleep, you’re stuck in a worry loop, you’re trying to calm yourself before exams, presentations, or competition.

First, find a quiet place you can relax and listen to your favorite track. Put on your headphones, get comfortable, close your eyes, and take a few deep breaths. Make sure the volume is not too high (so that it doesn’t intrude on the exercise). Even at low volume you’re still benefiting from the entrainment frequencies.

Take a few deep cleansing breaths. This will help your body and mind relax.

The rest of the exercise can be done as many times as you like. Warning: It’s deceptively simple but actually quite challenging!

First, connect with the breath. When is the last time you really paid attention to your breathing? It’s something we do unconsciously most of the time but to silence the mind, there really is no better tool. In this exercise, don’t control the breath in any way. Let it be how it is and become an impartial observer.

Bring your focus to the inhale. Become aware of the breath as it enters your nose and moves through the breathing passages. Feel the expansion of the abdomen as your lungs fill up. Note the pause — the silence — between inhale and exhale. This silence and stillness is what you’re aiming for, both physically and mentally. Now focus on the exhale.

How to be quiet

What are the sensations you feel as the air leaves your body?

Again, take note of the pause between exhale and inhale, that momentary stillness and silence.

Do this for a few minutes to allow your body and mind to relax deeper. Now you have a quick idea how mental silence feels. It’s actually pretty relaxing, isn’t it?

As your mental chatter slows down, you will start to count to ten on every half-breath: one on the inhale, two on the exhale, three on the inhale and so on until you get to ten (feel free to repeat as many times as you like). Again you’re not controlling the breath in any way, just counting the breaths and noticing the silence/pause between inhale and exhale.

In the beginning as you’re learning this practice, it will be hard to stop thoughts from intruding and interrupting your count. That’s okay! Just make it part of the meditation by being a silent witness to your thoughts.

Just as you’re watching your breath, momentarily watch your thoughts. Notice them, acknowledge them, and return to your breathing exercise. Continue the exercise by starting over at the count of one whenever you notice that a thought has intruded.

It sounds simple, but in truth it can be a very difficult exercise when first learning how to quiet the mind.However, it leads to amazing mental mastery and with practice, you WILL get it, and feel such a great sense of accomplishment when you do!

The next phase is to count to ten on every full breath. Once you master counting to ten on the half-breath without any intruding thoughts, start counting to ten on every full breath: the first inhale/exhale is one, the next inhale/exhale is two, etc. Keep focused on the silent and still moments between the exhale and inhale.

As you can imagine, this slowed down version is even more challenging.

The more you do this exercise, the more comfortable you’ll get with mental silence. Blissful, peaceful silence. Learning how to quiet the mind takes time and patience. And then it will be easier to make that silence a normal part of your meditation!

You can practice this anytime, even outside of meditation. It’s a great way to self-soothe in a difficult situation, give yourself some inner peace and even help you relax and get some sleep if you’ve been having sleepless nights.

And, best of all, enjoy the silence of a peaceful mind.

You’ve Probably Got Meditation All Wrong.

A lot of people don’t do it, because they just can’t seem to ‘clear their minds’.

They try to empty their thoughts, and when that doesn’t work, they think they suck at meditation and give up.

But you see, the mind is designed to think. It does so automatically, just like how your heart beats.

The truth is, meditation isn’t about clearing your mind. It’s supposed to improve performance in all other aspects of your life.

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How to be quiet

How to be quiet

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How to be quiet

How to be quiet

Sherri Kuhn

Got kids? Then you know how much they talk. We spend the early months of their lives encouraging that first word, a simple sentence or even just a babble. Truth is, once they start they just keep talking. And talking. We have a few ideas to help you get some peace and quiet. You’re welcome.

How to be quiet

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Admit it — you would love a bit of peace and quiet. Whether you’re at the grocery store, carpooling between school and soccer practice or just hanging out at home, those chatty little people you are raising just won’t stop talking. Ever. Why not try one of our tried-and-true methods?

Salt-water taffy

A long-time favorite sweet treat of beach town tourists, but have you ever considered how chewy it is? Keep a stash of taffy on hand for times when you really want a bit of peace. Chatting on the phone with an old friend? Taffy for everyone under the age of 14 and your conversation will be kid-free.

Telepathic story

Got a kid into science fiction who can drag an alien story line all the way to Grandma’s house and back home? Since his active imagination won’t shut up, it’s time to up the ante. Convince him that he has telepathic powers, and that he needs to “send” his latest long-winded story to you telepathically. Make sure to nod occasionally and smile here and there, so he knows his story is being “received.”

Doctor’s orders

Why not throw the pediatrician under the bus for a change? Tell your kid there is a virus that’s been discovered that’s voice-stealing, and that you are under doctor’s orders to “save” her voice. No talking while out in public, lest her voice be stolen. This one is particularly handy during cold and flu season. For extra effect, have your child wear a surgical mask to “keep his voice inside” while out in public.

Ladybug hunt

What kid doesn’t love ladybugs? When you want some peace and quiet to enjoy your monthly book club selection, send your kiddos into the backyard to hunt for ladybugs. Be sure to explain that ladybugs hide when they hear voices, so that only the quietest hunters will find them. Bonus points if you offer a piece of taffy for each ladybug captured safely (see above).

Carpet counting

Ever wonder how many strands of fiber are in your family room carpet? Who knows, but it makes a great excuse to keep a kid busy (and quiet) for at least as long as it takes you to watch that DVR’d episode of Mad Men. This one works best for older kids, who can actually count past the number 7. Tell them you need an accurate count before you can call the carpet cleaner, who charges by the fiber.

Word hunt

Got an old paperback you won’t read again? Give it to your kid with a highlighter and tell him to find all the instances of the word “the” and highlight them. Tell him you know how many there are, and if he gets it right he gets a penny for each one. No, you don’t really know — but it’s the challenge that will keep him quiet.