How to be romantic on the phone

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After a long period of time, the passion in a marriage can begin to fade. Keep the flame alive with these ten ways to romance your wife:

1. Learn her love language, and then use it every day.

Read The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary Chapman and figure out what you can do to become fluent in your wife’s love language. Then use what you have learned every day.

2. Date your wife.

If you asked her out again today, would she still be excited to say yes? You must have been pretty good at this at one time or she wouldn’t have married you! So why stop now? One date a month at a minimum. Use your imagination, get creative, and make it special.

3. Make her feel special (don’t take the relationship for granted).

“She already knows she’s important to me,” is not a useful response. If you haven’t done something to demonstrate how special she is in the past four hours, then you’ve already waited too long. This is not a high budget item; it’s high consideration item. How about an I love you phone call, a simple card slipped in her purse, a midweek lunch date, or flowers delivered to her office. Do you still open the car door? Serve her hot tea, wash her car, deliver an unexpected embrace, a foot rub, or candles with dinner? You get the idea.

4. Use some imagination.

Plan events, dates, evenings at home, vacations – even stolen moments – with the kind of creative thinking that motivated you when you first asked her out. There’s a psychological concept known as the “self-fulfilling prophecy.” Simply put: Believe she’s worth the trouble and she will be; stop trying hard and so will she; and bring some creative intention to your romance as if she still knocks your socks off – and she will.

5. Take care of yourself.

Check the scales, think about how you dress around your wife, throw away the cigarettes, start some regular exercise, don’t be a slob. When she sees you, does she take a second look – or does she look away? Does the way you present yourself tell your wife you want her to be attracted to you or do you take all that for granted?

6. Say I love you and say it often.

The #1 misnomer believed by unromantic men is this: I shouldn’t have to say it, she should know.

7. Be kind.

Kindness could well be the “X Factor” in romance. Being kind is underplayed, undervalued, underrated, and certainly underutilized. Want romance? Be Mr. Kindness. Learn to make thoughtfulness and consideration your second nature. Nice guys really do finish first and she’ll fall for you all over again.

8. Be a gentleman.

Gentlemen are courteous, respectful, well-mannered, faithful, generous, modest, and charming. Stand up when she leaves the table, open the car door, walk on the street side of the walkway, help her on with her jacket, run to the car for her umbrella… you get the picture.

9. Tell her she’s beautiful.

Women who hear their husband tell them they’re beautiful become more beautiful. Men who tell their wives they’re beautiful believe it with more conviction every time the words leave their lips. Love expressed = beauty; beauty = romance. It’s win-win. It doesn’t hurt to back up your words with a thoughtful text either.

10. Spend uninterrupted time together.

There are only 168 hours in each week – the number never varies. The amount of time we offer our relationships can appear like a vote as to how much we value the people we say we love. Romance like anything else worthwhile is worth the investment of time and attention. (Make sure you know the different definitions of romance that you and your wife have.)

Be sure to share this and this with her as well—she’ll find lots of ideas there for how to romance you, too!

Huddle Up Question

Name three things you think of when I say the word: romance.

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Your wife desperately needs to hear it. She says she wants for you to show it, too. How can you say, “I Love You” through your words and deeds without using those three words all of the time? Here are fifty great ideas:

1. Take off an hour or two early from work and surprise her by making dinner. Make a program for the evening, complete with a description of the meal and a bill offering: “Now Appearing — the most beautiful woman in the world!” Hand it to her as she walks in the door.

2. Give her a flower for each month you have been together. Write a card (you fill in the time):”x seconds, y minutes, z months and counting. It’s been the greatest time of my life.”

3. Give her a facial massage.

4. Take her to the ballet or theatre.

5. Plan an overnight at a bed & breakfast. If the budget won’t allow it, create your own b&b. Serve her breakfast in bed then go downtown for some antique store window shopping.

6. Swap babysitting with another couple. Have a “babysitting date night” one Friday and the next week enjoy free babysitting and time alone together.

7. Give her a romantic basket. Fill it with bubble bath, chocolates — whatever her favorite little treats might be. Then place notes all over the house like scavenger hunt to make her find it. At the end you can remind her, “You are my treasure.”

8. Give her a key with a note that says, “You have the key to my heart” or, “You’re the key to my happiness.”

9. Send flowers to your sweetie’s workplace.

10. If you go on a business trip for an extended period of time, send your mate cards timed to arrive the beginning, middle, and end of your trip.

11. Take a polaroid of yourself holding your breath. Stick it in her lunch or purse with a note that says, “I’m holding my breath till I see you again.”

12. Ask her to share her lunch break with you. Pack a basket or order Chinese take-out and go to a park for a picnic.

13. Give her 10 red roses and 2 white ones in the middle with a note that reads “You will never stand alone.”

14. Try to pay her at least one compliment a day.

15. Praise her in front of people. If you have children, tell them “You have a great mom. She is so beautiful, or talented, or such a great cook, etc…”

16. Wake up early on a Saturday morning “just to cuddle.” Explain the night before: “I’m setting the alarm 20 minutes early because I’d really just like to hold you close tomorrow morning.”

17. Make your wife breakfast in bed.

18. Do her chores for a week.

19. Wash her car. Then wax it. And vaccum the inside.

20. Always look into her eyes when she’s talking to you.

21. Give a map – “I can never be lost with you around.”

22. Give her a pocket dictionary – Write “You” as the meaning next to the word “Life”, mark the page and give it to them “Without you, life would have no meaning.”

23. Turn her birthday into a birthday month.

24. Sit down and write your goals together.

25. Return to those goals six months later to discuss them and re-evaluate.

26. Massage her shoulders whenever you get a chance.

27. Bake cookies together.

28. Take a bath together.

29. Send a greeting card for no reason. Mail it from your office to the house.

30. Better yet, create your own homemade card.

31. Give a fish & fish bowl with a note attached that reads, “Out of all the fish in the world I pick you!”

32. Start a journal of your thoughts and present it to your wife.

33. Call her mother on your wife’s birthday to thank her for her lovely daughter. Send your mom-in-law flowers.

34. Ask the question, “What can I do for you today, honey?”

35. Hold her hand whenever you walk together.

36. Tell her that she is the best thing that has ever happened to you in your entire life.

37. Renew your wedding vows.

38. Learn to say, “I was wrong. I’m sorry. Can you forgive me?”

39. Write 100 reasons why you love your wife on 100 post-it notes and place them all over the house.

40. Create a jar filled with “Love Coupons.” Make the coupons redeemable for hugs, kisses, back rubs or any number of special favors. Give the jar to your lover and let him/her redeem the coupons over time.

41. If your partner is stressed out, let her take a nap and keep all distractions and emergencies away during that time.

42. Talk about your dreams together and where you two are going in life.

43. Say, “You mean the world to me.”

44. Call your wife right now to say “I Love You.”

45. Catch her eyes in a crowd and wink.

46. Place a card on her steering wheel that says “You drive me crazy!”

47. Unplug the TV and leave a card on top that says “Turn me on instead.”

48. Write a personalized love story and have it bound.

49. Pray over dinner every night.

50. Say, “I Love you” three times a day for the rest of your life.

All the tips you need for a night of slow. crazy intimate sex with your partner.

How to be romantic on the phone

How to be romantic on the phone

No doubt about it: Fast, hot, rip-your-clothes-off sex can add plenty of excitement to a relationship. But when it comes to overall coupled-up bliss, slow, sweet, sensual nights in bed have the biggest impact. These sexperiences capitalize on the power of bonding hormones to make you both feel more physically and emotionally intertwined. So try the following (scientifically proven!) moves to max out on lovey-dovey feelings.

Have a tantric kiss

During positions in which you’re face-to-face, bring your lips in super close so that you’re almost (but not quite) kissing, then inhale when your partner exhales. “The sensation that you’re almost breathing for each other is extremely potent and quite erotic,” says Tantra educator Xanet Pailet, author of Living an Orgasmic Life.

Speaking up as the action intensifies can boost the happy chemicals serotonin and -dopamine in your brain, says sex and relationship therapist and board-certified psychiatrist Dion Metzger, MD. Here are three intimate AF ways to express yourself.

Whisper sweet things

Murmuring to bae prompts an automatic bodily response that can feel like arousing -tingling down their neck. Use the word you (as in, “You turn me on so much”) to let your S.O. know you’re zoned in on them, says relationship expert Dori Gatter, PsyD. Bonus: Research suggests they’re likely to follow your steamy instructions if you whisper in their right ear.

Draw out the details

As you’re making love, go out of your way to express your reaction audibly to every good touch and sight. “It doesn’t even have to be a sexual reference,” says Gatter, who suggests trying flattering phrases like “I love the way your skin feels” or “I like how you curve right here.”

“When you let your partner know what you see as special about them, it builds your bond,” she explains.

Make moans meaningful

People love hearing their own names. “It lets us know that we matter, which may seem silly, but the subconscious thrives on recognition,” says hypnotherapist Kimberly Friedmutter, author of Subconscious Power. Moan your lover’s name whenever the sex feels amaze. Or as you’re about to orgasm, call out their name (“Oh, yes, Dave. ”)
to experience a powerful emotional connection as you climax.

Close to the heart

Fun fact: Having your boo gently suck on your nipples releases -oxytocin, aka the cuddle hormone, which triggers your brain’s reward center and can make you feel more in love. For super-intense foreplay, have your mate roll your nips around with their tongue, then slowly lick or blow on them, suggests Elle Chase.

How to be romantic on the phone

Another sultry option: Have them lightly trace each of your headlights with their fingers and a drop of warming lube, then -return the favor (nipple stim has a -similar arousing effect on about half of men, according to a study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine).

Keep your eyes up

As you’re going down on your partner, look into their eyes with a sexy, steady gaze. “Eye contact with a lusty grin can communicate volumes in one look,” says clinical sex ­educator Elle Chase, author of Curvy Girl Sex.

Try a tender touch

Gentle strokes. “Often when we’re having sex, it’s ­passionate grasping, which is delightful,” says sex therapist Stefani Shaffer-Pond, “but switching up the intensity of our touch can create new ­sensations that enhance the romantic bond.” During intercourse, try caressing your mate softly, running your hands and fingertips over their skin to stimulate nerve cells that respond to light touch.

. in surprising spots Roaming over unexpected areas of each other’s bodies—your faces, jawlines, collarbones, inner thighs, or legs—signals that you’re enjoying every inch of one another, not just the sex. “Use your hand as a magic wand of exploration,” says Tantric-embodiment coach Maisha Aza. “If it wants to go somewhere it typically wouldn’t,
go there anyway.”

Be open to receiving

All too often, people—and especially women—enter sex with the expectation that they need to be the giver throughout the session. But allowing yourself to receive pleasure can help you feel more love and attention from your mate, says Aza. “By being vulnerable and letting go of what you think you should be doing, you can accept the full breadth of what your partner is offering you.”

Bask in the Afterglow

Post-sex, a bunch of pleasure chemicals host an after-party in your brain, making you feel relaxed, sated, and—mmm—swoony for up to two full days. A University of Toronto study found that experiencing this yummy effect is actually more important than having break-the-bed sex when it comes to relationship satisfaction. Here’s how to get it.

Cuddle your hearts out

This ups oxytocin, which can make you both happier in your bond (yup, even more than sex can). Whether it’s for one minute or 15, snuggle up and try to sync your breathing, says Jessica O’Reilly, PhD, host of the Sex With Jess podcast. “As your breath becomes one, you’ll likely feel more connected.”

Have some pillow talk

While you’re still recovering from the physical, hormonal, and emotional sex high, open up and be vulnerable with each other, O’Reilly suggests. Kick off a convo by asking, “What would constitute a perfect day for you?” (That’s one of psychologist Arthur Aron’s 36 questions that may make you fall in love with someone.)

Send a flashback text

Sentiments like “Missing our bed,” “We were so amazing the other night,” or “The look in your eyes completely wrecked me” let your partner know you’re still basking in a warm sex glow and thinking about them—triggering a dopamine rush for bae that’s similar to winning a prize. Which they kinda did, duh: It’s you.

Three positions for making sweet lurve

As the little spoon, hook your upper leg back over your man. Have him rub your clitoris with one hand.

How to be romantic on the phone

Why it’s romantic

Maximum body contact ­signals “You. More, please.”

Have your guy sit on the edge of a sofa, then sit on his lap. Rock gently while holding him tight.

How to be romantic on the phone

Why it’s romantic

It’s basically a hug with orgasm potential. And it’s easy
to make out face-to-face.

Lie on your back with your knees raised and bent and a pillow under your butt. He can grind against you in slow circles.

How to be romantic on the phone

Why it’s romantic

The friction gives you both time to build up to an intense climax.

This story was originally published in the December 2018 issue of Cosmopolitan.

Here are a few pointers from sex experts to help alleviate any awkwardness.

How to be romantic on the phone

How to be romantic on the phone

Phone sex might not have been something you ever seriously considered doing with a partner up until recently. With COVID-19 keeping us indoors and separated from our partners, we’re looking for novel ways to connect and experience sexual release. So if there was ever a time to start exploring phone sex, it’s right now. “Keeping connected to your sexuality during this time of social chaos is really important for mental well-being and staying grounded in your body, pleasure, and happiness,” says Gigi Engle, Promescent brand advisor and author of All The F*cking Mistakes: a guide to sex, love, and life.

It’s important to block off time within your day where the conversation isn’t about the coronavirus, says Daniel Saynt, founder and chief conspirator of The New Society for Wellness (NSFW), a private members club for the adventurous. “We’re being bombarded by bad news right now, and the added stress is affecting our libidos and many of us are seeking any kind of release,” he says. Scheduling a time to have a conversation focused on intimacy and mutual pleasure can help you find this release—“offering you a moment of bliss that also helps another person in lockdown do the same.”

What’s the appeal of phone sex?

Phone sex is a way to share a sexual experience with your partner when you’re not in the same room together. It’s not a requirement, but you and your partner might choose to masturbate as you hear each other’s voices and surrounding sounds through the phone.

“Oftentimes, talking on the phone will encourage you to open up in new ways, as you won’t be distracted by trying to interpret your partner’s body language or facial expressions,” says Dr. Jess O’Reilly, Astroglide’s Resident Sexologist. “And some people find that they’re willing to explore fantasies over the phone that they’re too nervous to discuss in person as there is no pressure to act on them from a distance.” So, for example, perhaps you fantasize about being gagged, but don’t want to feel the pressure to follow through; the distance of phone sex can assuage feelings of undue pressure.

Dr. Jess loves the idea of phone sex (as opposed to video sex) because she thinks it can feel less intimidating and leaves more room for the imagination. Additionally, she notes that many people are aroused by sounds, from the melody of a lover’s voice to the rustling of sheets in the background.

What do you say during phone sex?

Most of us aren’t born phone sex pros, so it’s helpful to have a rough idea of what you want to say (or topics you want to discuss) while having phone sex. According to Dr. Jess gave some suggestions for what to talk about: what you’ve done in the past; what you’re doing right now; what you want to do in the future; your most exciting sexual memories; your hottest sexual fantasies; and fantasies you may not want to explore in real life, but turn you on nonetheless. That last option speaks to one of phone sex’s strengths: There are certain things that you might not want to do in real life, but you can explore over the phone.

The DOs of phone sex

Set the mood

Even though your partner can’t see you, you should still create an arousing sexual atmosphere for yourself. “Light some candles, bring the lights down low, and wear something that makes you feel sexy—or don’t wear anything at all,” recommends Saynt.

Get rid of all other distractions

You want to be as present as possible during the conversation. “Give yourself at least 30 minutes where you’ll be uninterrupted,” says Saynt. That means lock your dog in the other room and don’t have any calls planned for after the session; it would suck to be in the middle of something hot and then need to hang up because you have a work call you need to take.

Turn your phone on to “Do Not Disturb,” says Engle. “Stay in the moment and give the person you’re phone-sexing the same attention you would if they were physically with you.”

How to be romantic on the phone

Maybe Valentine’s Day isn’t for another month, but that doesn’t mean you can’t show your partner some special attention now. In fact, I invite you to join me in this experiment. The plan is to show your love for your partner in a small and different way each day for a whole month and see what magic happens.

Here are a list of 50 simple ways to be romantic. If things aren’t good between you and your partner right now, this might be just the thing to slowly melt the ice between you. If things are already good, this will strengthen your relationship further.

By the way, there is nothing expensive on this list, so there is no excuse not to give this a shot.

  1. Write “I love you” in the steam on the bathroom mirror after he takes a shower.
  2. Offer a back massage with some good smelling lotion.
  3. Write a poem. After that, use Google Translator to translate a poem into either French or Italian. Then,write it out with the translation on the back side. Or better yet, greet your partner at night and read it to them with passion. Hand them the translation after.
  4. While in public, declare “I love you, Matilda!” (not Matilda, but your partner’s name.)
  5. Make a CD with a few songs that are meaningful to your relationship.
  6. Invite him to take a bath complete with bubbles, champagne, candles, and maybe a little Barry White music.
  7. Surprise her at work and take her out to lunch.How to be romantic on the phone
  8. Put together a little gift on his pillow. Chocolates and a note that says “Your love is like chocolate: sweet and delicious” is a great example.
  9. If your partner has a work presentation at an off-site location, have flowers and a note of support delivered there.
  10. Dedicate a song to him on the radio and send him an email telling him when to listen.
  11. Cook a special love meal of your partner’s favorite foods. Play his favorite music and turn the lights low for a romantic dinner.
  12. Give your partner a pedicure and foot rub.
  13. Send a text message or email that says “I love you!”
  14. Mail a card and inside write down the top 10 things you love about your partner.
  15. Give him a picture of you for his wallet that says “I love you.”
  16. Leave a love note in her car telling her to have a great day.
  17. Carve your initials in a tree.
  18. When your partner least expects it, give him a great big kiss, even if it’s in public!
  19. Go see a romantic movie, sit in the back row, hold hands, and cuddle.How to be romantic on the phone
  20. King for a Day/ Queen for a Day. Declare that you will dedicate a particular day just to your partner to do whatever they want. Maybe start with breakfast in bed.
  21. Buy a tree and invite your partner to plant it with you. Explain that the tree represents the love between you that will grow over the years.
  22. In the midst of talking about how your days went or the chores that need to be done, interrupt and say “I have something important to tell you. I love you and here’s why.” Then, list 5 things (or more) that you really appreciate about your partner. Finish with a kiss and say, “Ok, so you were talking about the water heater.”
  23. Write an old fashioned love letter and mail it. Be romantic and lavish. Have some fun with it.
  24. Before going to a party together, come up with some secret code words you can use during conversation. You can be telling each other “I can’t wait to get you alone tonight!” without anyone knowing!
  25. Find a hotel that has a Jacuzzi and book it for a night of fun.
  26. Place an ad in the classifieds declaring your love. Then, take the newspaper, wrap it in a bow, and put a little note on it saying what page to look on.
  27. Blindfold surprise. Blindfold your partner and drive them to the place where you had your first date and have that date all over again!
  28. Write a love poem for her.
  29. Make an early valentine. Cut out some paper in the shape of a heart. Write something sweet on it in red and put it in her purse or his briefcase.How to be romantic on the phone
  30. If your partner is going on a business trip, secretly hide a love note inside his luggage.
  31. Offer to help them with some dreaded chore they must complete and make it into a fun time.
  32. Do something romantic and spontaneous, like picking a flower and giving it to her right on the spot.
  33. Invent a meal and name it after him or her.
  34. Buy some body paint and write your love message on your body.
  35. Record yourself reading a romantic love poem for your honey. Then, give your partner a CD and tell them to play it in the car on his way to work.
  36. Make a small postcard sized love collage. Then,cover it with clear packing tape. Write a love message on the other side and mail it!
  37. Keep a box with mementos of fun things you’ve done together. When the box is filled, arrange them on a board and have it framed.
  38. Buy some underwear with special messages on it. Or buy your own and paint a special picture or message with fabric paints.
  39. Make a donation to charity in the name of your love for your partner. Give your sweetheart a card that tells how grateful you are to share your life with her.
  40. Keep a box with special cards, letters, photographs, and other mementos. On your anniversary or on Valentine’s day, take a little time to share fond memories together as you review the contents.How to be romantic on the phone
  41. Create a mindmap of all the things you love about your partner and make it into a card.
  42. Take a walk on the beach together. Run up ahead, write a message in the sand, and call your partner to see what you “found”.
  43. Say “I love you” often, slowly, and with feelings.
  44. Play hooky together. You work hard and today, take a day to work easy. Call it an “I love you day.”
  45. Send an e-card to your sweetie to brighten his day. Here are free e-card resources: BlueMountain, Hallmark.
  46. Make little “I love you” posters with either crayons, markers, collage, or paint. Post them in surprising places: the bathroom, the closet, the car, under her pillow, on her pillow.
  47. Create a small website or blog dedicated to your partner. Write a short love message each day for a month…or forever.
  48. Complete that chore or favor that your partner has wanted you to do for a long time.
  49. Be super kind for a whole day. Act like you would with a new love, a child or a frail person. Show lots of kindness, generosity, and love no matter what for a whole day.
  50. Take an interest in your partner’s interests. For a woman it might be watching a football game with your guy. And for men, it might be going to see a chick-flick. Do it with a spirit of enthusiasm and love. Have fun.

Print this list out and do one each day. You can also make up your own. You don’t have to tell your partner that this is something you are doing. Just do it. Who knows, maybe you’ll establish a positive habit of expressing your love on a daily basis.

Please share your favorite ways to tell your partner you love them!

Many people underestimate the flexibility that talking on the phone can give you. There are no doors to open, no fancy dresses to wear, you don’t have to worry about how you look or how they look, how much you should spend, or anything like that. A telephone conversation is pure concentration on the other person, the sound of their voice and the thoughts they are conveying to you.

Activities that you participate in over the phone together grant you the same luxury. All you have to concentrate on is bonding with that special person and having a good time together. The activities we have provided in this article can make you feel closer and keep the two of you feeling like the wonderful couple that you are –with just your telephone.

1. Conversation Cubes

When conversation becomes slow, whip out your trustee conversation cubes! These can be homemade. You can make as many as you want.

Place random conversation topics on each side, and toss them around to see what your topic for the day is. Try movies, TV shows, previous conversations, music, something random, etc.

2. Watch a Movie together

Watch a movie together while on the phone. Make it a new release or an older movie neither of you has ever seen before. Rent it together or watch it online. For a fun twist, try a silent film! Take a role and read off the written parts in a voice you imagine the actor/actress who is ‘speaking’ to have.

Rent a foreign film and mute it, trying to improvise the dialogue. Or don’t mute it, and see if you can figure out what’s going despite the language barrier (and possible lack of subtitles.”

3. Trivia Night

Use trivia about celebrities, places or things to try to stump one another. Invent your own trivia cards about yourself, and see if your other half can guess the answers correctly.

4. Sing a duet

Love to sing? Do you have a favorite song or a couple’s song? Sing to each other over the phone. Sing together at the same time. Be as romantic or silly as you want. Try to be fearless, even if you aren’t the best singer.

5. Crossword puzzle swap/race

Print out a crossword puzzle from online or purchase a puzzle book from a local store. It can be the exact same puzzle, or two different puzzles that have the same amount of words to be found.

Race and see who can complete the puzzle first. Compile photo evidence and text it to one another.

6. Watch the skies

Look at the moon or stars together while having a romantic conversation on the phone. Is there a meteor shower in the forecast? Take some time out to watch it together, if possible.

Wake up early and catch a sunrise together, or stay up late to watch the sunset. On a rainy day, sit by your separate windows and watch the rain together.

7. mpersonations

Would either of you happen to be a comedian? Try some silly impersonations. You might be surprised at how good (or how awful) you both are.

Impersonate someone from a movie you’re sure your loved one has seen and have them try to guess what movie the character is from, or who the character is –without any hints!

8. Bedtime Stories

Pick a book and schedule a time to read ‘bedtime stories’ to one another before you drift off to sleep. You can take turns reading paragraphs, or you can alternate days.

9. Love Notes

Throughout the day, write cute little notes to each other or whatever pops into your head. Include where you are and the time when you wrote the note.

The next time you have a telephone conversation, read your notes to one another and explain why you decided to write what you wrote, and when you wrote it. This can also be done across days, weeks or months.

10. Ice cream date

Take a walk over to your nearest ice cream parlor and share a deliciously ice cream filled telephone date. Try new flavors you both may never have before. Order your loved one’s favorite ice cream, and have them order yours. Choose the same flavor and see how you both like it.

11. Meaningful Conversation

Tell each other how much you love one another. Try to think of something for every letter in the alphabet. Tell each other your most sacred secrets/fears.

Make a list of reasons stating why you love each other, together. Try to reach 100 reasons. Remember your dreams and tell one another about them. List your loved one’s best qualities in alphabetical order.

12. Cook/Have Dinner Together

Have a dinner date over the phone. Order pizza or Chinese or cook together and share the whole experience together. Use speakerphone to keep your hands free and make chatting together easier.

13. Leave a Message

Call your other half at a time when you’re positive they won’t be able to answer. Leave a sweet or romantic message on their voice-mail.

14. Fall asleep

Talk until you can’t anymore and fall asleep on the phone together.

15. Poetry Readings

If you are both artistically inclined, have a mini poetry reading. Share your library of poems and read them to one another. Rent poetry books from a library and read those together. Pick your favorites.

16. Learn Something

Learn to do something together. Try learning a new language, or a new way of doing something. Take a class together, or take the same class (in different locations) and come together over the phone to study.”

17. Picnic in the Park

Pick a beautiful day to relax at the park. Take a walk, while talking together. Have a little telephone picnic. Describe your surroundings to one another and talk about the next time you can have a real picnic together.

18. Close Up

This activity works best for couples who have texting and media capabilities. Take really close up pictures of items you have around you. Try to make sure the object is still distinguishable from just a blob of color. Take turns sending the photos to one another and seeing if either of you can guess what the object really is.

19. Mystery sound

This activity also works best for couples who have texting and media capabilities. Record small 5 second snippets of random sounds or songs and send them to one another. See if either of you can guess the source of the sound, or what the sound really is.

Here are a few pointers from sex experts to help alleviate any awkwardness.

How to be romantic on the phone

How to be romantic on the phone

Phone sex might not have been something you ever seriously considered doing with a partner up until recently. With COVID-19 keeping us indoors and separated from our partners, we’re looking for novel ways to connect and experience sexual release. So if there was ever a time to start exploring phone sex, it’s right now. “Keeping connected to your sexuality during this time of social chaos is really important for mental well-being and staying grounded in your body, pleasure, and happiness,” says Gigi Engle, Promescent brand advisor and author of All The F*cking Mistakes: a guide to sex, love, and life.

It’s important to block off time within your day where the conversation isn’t about the coronavirus, says Daniel Saynt, founder and chief conspirator of The New Society for Wellness (NSFW), a private members club for the adventurous. “We’re being bombarded by bad news right now, and the added stress is affecting our libidos and many of us are seeking any kind of release,” he says. Scheduling a time to have a conversation focused on intimacy and mutual pleasure can help you find this release—“offering you a moment of bliss that also helps another person in lockdown do the same.”

What’s the appeal of phone sex?

Phone sex is a way to share a sexual experience with your partner when you’re not in the same room together. It’s not a requirement, but you and your partner might choose to masturbate as you hear each other’s voices and surrounding sounds through the phone.

“Oftentimes, talking on the phone will encourage you to open up in new ways, as you won’t be distracted by trying to interpret your partner’s body language or facial expressions,” says Dr. Jess O’Reilly, Astroglide’s Resident Sexologist. “And some people find that they’re willing to explore fantasies over the phone that they’re too nervous to discuss in person as there is no pressure to act on them from a distance.” So, for example, perhaps you fantasize about being gagged, but don’t want to feel the pressure to follow through; the distance of phone sex can assuage feelings of undue pressure.

Dr. Jess loves the idea of phone sex (as opposed to video sex) because she thinks it can feel less intimidating and leaves more room for the imagination. Additionally, she notes that many people are aroused by sounds, from the melody of a lover’s voice to the rustling of sheets in the background.

What do you say during phone sex?

Most of us aren’t born phone sex pros, so it’s helpful to have a rough idea of what you want to say (or topics you want to discuss) while having phone sex. According to Dr. Jess gave some suggestions for what to talk about: what you’ve done in the past; what you’re doing right now; what you want to do in the future; your most exciting sexual memories; your hottest sexual fantasies; and fantasies you may not want to explore in real life, but turn you on nonetheless. That last option speaks to one of phone sex’s strengths: There are certain things that you might not want to do in real life, but you can explore over the phone.

The DOs of phone sex

Set the mood

Even though your partner can’t see you, you should still create an arousing sexual atmosphere for yourself. “Light some candles, bring the lights down low, and wear something that makes you feel sexy—or don’t wear anything at all,” recommends Saynt.

Get rid of all other distractions

You want to be as present as possible during the conversation. “Give yourself at least 30 minutes where you’ll be uninterrupted,” says Saynt. That means lock your dog in the other room and don’t have any calls planned for after the session; it would suck to be in the middle of something hot and then need to hang up because you have a work call you need to take.

Turn your phone on to “Do Not Disturb,” says Engle. “Stay in the moment and give the person you’re phone-sexing the same attention you would if they were physically with you.”

You don’t have to be a poet laureate to come up with romantic texts to send your partner, but finding the right words to properly appreciate them can be a bit of a challenge. If you have cold feet about saying “I love you” over text message — or even if you haven’t gotten to that level yet — don’t worry. As long as the both of you are batting your gooey eyes at one another, there are lots of ways to say how you feel without scaring them off or even relying at all on those three little words.

Sending an “I love you” text during the work day fills your significant other with a warm, glowy feeling from how much you care. It’s the perfect way to give them something to break up their routine and make sure they know how much you appreciate them. Sharing a song that reminds you of them or a couple of words about how you felt the last time you saw them nourishes your relationship, makes your emotional ties stronger, and builds the anticipation for the next time you hang out. So what are you waiting for? If you don’t know where to start, here are some ideas to help you begin your own sweet text serenade:

1. Express What You Wish You Were Doing

You know that feeling when you wake up to your alarm, snuggled up in your lover’s arms, and you have to tear yourself out of bed and go to work? They say that love is agony, and I don’t know any greater agony than having to get up when you’d rather spend all day in bed. Let them know it’s real.

2. When You Think Of Them, Let Them Know

If you find yourself grinning like a moron on your lunch break thinking about something cute that they said, or if you’re reaching for your phone to tell your best friend about an adorable thing your partner did, text your boo and tell them instead! They’ll appreciate it so much more than your single friend who’s tired of hearing about your relationship anyway. (In case you were wondering, I’m that friend.)

3. Tell Them How They Make You Feel

Love is just as rare as it is fleeting. If you’re in love right now, then you should find a way to express exactly how much value your partner brings to your life while you can.

4. Send A Text Of Worship

If you’re dating someone who constantly wows you with their otherworldly sensitivity and intelligence, then you should let them know by praising them just as much as you already do in your head.

5. Own The Cheesiness

Who cares if love is kind of corny? It’s way better to give in to all the feels than to let your pride seize the wheel.

6. Tell Them A Story

There are plenty of myths about love and relationships that bust way out of the Sleeping Beauty archetype. Find one that captures exactly how you feel and then tell your cutie about it! This one is pretty much how I’m feeling about all relationships this Scorpio season.

7. Send Them A Song

You don’t have to come up with cute, lovey-dovey texts all on your own. Plenty of people have come before us who have said it better than we ever can — and with music! Sending along a song that reminds you of your lover will make their day. Better yet, make them a personal playlist.

8. Give Them A Superlative

I adore getting to that part of a relationship where you both know how the other feels with complete confidence, and you have the absolute freedom to gush. When you don’t have any hangups, you can go all out with your feelings, and that means it’s time to celebrate your boo at every opportunity.

9. Thank Them For Being There For You

You don’t have to plan some grand, romantic gesture to express how much you appreciate someone. Saying a simple “thank you” lets the other person feel all of your love and gratitude without burying it in anything too performative or over-the-top.

10. Tell Them What You’re Looking Forward To

If you have a cuff already this season, that’s a total perk. Don’t let it go to waste, because trust me, it’s getting chilly out here, and you’ll want that body warmth.