How to be the best

How to be the best

There is always a crazy inner voice in my head, always telling me how bad I am at something, basically, at anything that I do. I am pretty sure that I am not the only one who it happens with. We are perfectionists. When we pick a career, we want to be best at it (even though there would be many people in the world who would be far better than us in whatever we do), at least we want to put our best efforts and shine. There are obstacles in our journey and one of the biggest might be heavy competition. After all, where do you stand a chance when millions of others are doing the same thing as you do?

But this thought must not stop you from trying to improve yourself and being the best at whatever your goal is. You want people to approach you or appreciate your work. So, how would you not be mediocre?

Start with a baby step

How to be the best

Know that you aren’t perfect and you have just begun. Then, you won’t lose hope and would know that there are a lot of opportunities waiting at your door. Every morning is a new beginning. Even when you feel you are not good at something, but you still like doing it, then be consistent. Don’t give up only because you are not receiving the results that you want. You must be humble to begin as amateurs and one day, you will wake up and find yourself far from where you just began.

Get an education in that area.

You might have been born with the so-called natural skills but you still need good coaching to be best at it. Get a mentor and become serious about what you do and where you want to see yourself. If you end up wasting your days, working hard only in a figment of your imagination, you will never be able to succeed. I want to write a novel, but I have no idea where to begin, but when I interact with fellow writers I get a hint of how to begin and in the process, I learn.

Don’t live by the Rules

How to be the best

Rules have been built by society to distract you or maybe they were those areas where you could have been successful if you were born in 1800, eh? Did you become an engineer only because all your elder siblings picked up engineering and got a mediocre job and a mediocre life? Well, if you don’t take a risk and merely follow the footsteps, you might not be able to enhance your skill. Many people have claimed that others always thought their ideas to be “crazy” and later on, these very ideas turned out to be a hit. Thus, create your own game of life and go where your heart takes you.

Be consistent

Like I said before, nobody becomes famous in one day. It is a combination of years of hard work and sincerity that lead them to their success. You need to have patience but if you lack it, you might not be able to reach anywhere near your goal. Practice makes a man perfect, didn’t you know? Thus, even if you think that you are pretty bad at what you are doing, it’s best to keep doing it and learning more about it. If you want to make it happen, you will have the passion which would lead you to it.

Experience is crucial.

How to be the best

With consistency, comes a lot of experience and it makes people reach greater heights. Experience teaches you how to improve your areas. The experience involves a lot of mistakes and you move forward learning from them. Apply the knowledge that you gain from it, on a regular basis.

Schedule your life.

The routine might be boring, but you must spare out a particular time of the day to work on your performance. Moreover, you need to indulge in more things that could help you be best at what you do. Every minute counts when you want to accomplish something. But don’t stop living your life. It is when you are distracted from your goal that real ideas come to you.

Embrace all your fears.

How to be the best

Insecurities and fears are the worst things that can happen to us. Not only do they depress us, but they also let us believe that we won’t be able to do anything in life. It is true that everyone has a fear, but how you deal with it, is what matters. If you are scared of heights, you must go bungee-jumping (don’t jump off a building without a parachute though) as that’s how you are going to risk everything and win over your fears.

How to be the best

From kids to adults, we hear it all time; “Do your best!” “Be the best you can be” “Be confident” But what does all that mean? What does that really look like on a day-to-day basis? In a world where standards are raising, everything is more complex and more competitive, if we’re not doing our best – it feels like we can get left behind. But, being our best should not be a burden, it should be an opportunity, it should be fun. Become the best and create the life you want. That’s the ultimate goal. And he re are..

12 Ways To Become The Best Version Of Yourself

1 ) Own it

Who are you? Who are you becoming? When becoming our best, we first have to believe that becoming better is in our full control. Own who you are. Own what you’ve been doing up to this point. Be real with yourself. Know that it’s you that got you here and it’s you who will take you wherever you want to go. We are in the driver’s seat of our life, even when it doesn’t feel like it we are. And today, we’re moving in a different direction.

2 ) Learn

What is 1 thing you could learn how to do, that would have a dramatic positive effect on your life? Is it, becoming a better communicator, or writer, or better study habits, stronger time management skills, video editing…who knows, no one does, but you. Identify one thing that you can learn that would impact your life, work or school. And, move towards learning it.

3 ) Create

When was the last time you creating something? For example, a blog post, a thank you note, a recent chapter in your book, or a new workout routine. Imagine if you got into the habit of creating every day. Of convincing yourself, that you can actually create anything you want. You can create the life you want. Start small. Start today. What is one small meaningful thing you can create today?

4 ) Move and Push

What will other people think? What if I fail? How difficult will it really be? OK, enough…it’s time to move. Reflecting and analyzing is great and can help you make better decisions, but overthinking is deadly. Overthinking kills your courage, creativity and consistency. Move forward. Pay attention. Adjust. Move again. Make sure you spend every day moving just a tiny bit closer to your best.

5 ) Surround yourself with great people

Do the people around you bring out your best? This is a simple question, that just can’t be avoided. This is one of the most important things you can do for self-improvement. If I were to ask you, “During the hard times, who contributed to the pain, failure and lack of progress? You could probably give me a list, right? The same is true about our great times. Great times come from being with great people. Commit to only surround yourself with amazing people only! If you can’t find any, look in new places. They’re out there, and they’re waiting to meet you, and believe in you. Say it with me now, “Only great people!”

6 ) Stay excited

Are you happy? No, no, no, more importantly…are you excited about your life? I wish I could tell you that working on yourself and your dreams is easy. Most of the time…it’s not. To be blunt, most of the time you will feel like quitting. And for a short while, you just might. The idea here is to get excited about what you’re doing and remind yourself all the time of all the great things you already have within you and all the great things that are coming into your life. Stay excited about your work. Know that your best days are ahead of you , no matter what your age is.

7 ) Explore

Where have you been lately? It doesn’t matter if it’s abroad or within your own self. It’s time to travel. Routines and habits are incredibly powerful overtime, but so is the need to explore new places, new people, new ways of looking at the world, new perspective on problems and exploring new interests that we didn’t even know we had yet. It’s very difficult for us to know what we want in life, if we haven’t explored our life enough to see what’s really inside of us. And, what’s really inside of us only gets mixed up and brought to the surface when we explore, get out of our comfort zone and force ourselves to figure things out. So the next time you have an opportunity to explore, just simply go for it. You will never be the same again.

8 ) Have fun

Becoming a better person, a leader, a success story – all takes times. Trust me there will be days where it feels like you are making no progress at all. There will be times when you are convinced that all this effort is not worth it. That’s when you know you’re taking everything a little to serious and you need to have fun again.

Be excited about the problems you have. See them as blessing. Most problems people have, are really, really good problems. For example, if you’re having a hard time starting your business, think about the amazing and rare opportunity you have to even start one, own one, and get it going. People would kill for that kind of problem.

Or even if you have lost a loved one, thing about the amazing relationship that you were so blessed to have, knowing that not everyone has that same opportunity. Take a step back, have fun and know that it’s all part of your beautiful journey. Understand that everything we are going through at this moment is there to teach us something that will help us go to the next level.

9 ) Disconnect

There will be times when you need to completely turn off and shut down. Literally, just like your computer. It’s amazing how that thing works 10X better when you restart it! Ha! You’re the same way. Whether you’re working on yourself, a new work routine, rebuilding a broken relationship, changing careers…find time to pause, rest and chill.

10 ) Love yourself

Another huge one right here! Loving yourself is huge! It’s everything. Just take a second now and say, “I love myself.” Breath. Say it again. See how that feels. None of us are perfect and we will never be. We can’t become better people if we are constantly putting ourselves down and injecting shame into our life. Shame is one of the most powerful negative emotions we can feel and will stop us dead in our tracks to growth. Love yourself. All of yourself! “No one deserves your love more, than you” – Rumi

11 ) Love others

Think about some people in your life who support you. Have you told them recently how great you think they are. Think about someone who has wronged you, criticized you or talked behind your back. Are you still angry with them? Will you love everyone, of course not. But, it’s fair to say that everyone deserves forgiveness and, that loving others makes you feel better, in control and stronger. We have all made mistakes. And, we have all appreciated when someone forgave us. Pay it forward. When you love someone who has wronged you, you are taking full control of how YOU feel and are no longer allowing them to run the emotional show in your mind.

12 ) Take Risks and Have Faith

When was the last time you did something that scared you? And, it doesn’t have to be skydiving, or shark cage diving. Even though, I can’t wait to do those things! Ha!Maybe, it’s making a phone call. Maybe, it’s looking for a new job, taking a class or learning a new skill. Maybe, it’s finally putting down the concern of other people’s opinions of what you should be doing with your life. Take the risk. Take the plunge. Take the leap. You’re worth it and you will figure it out. Have faith.

I recently gave a TEDx talk on Becoming The Best Version of Yourself! Check it out!

Final Questions:

How do you know you are at your best? If you are not at your best, what are you waiting for?

“Be The Best – At Everything You Do”

Every single time I’ve said this to someone, they come back with an argument:

“But how can I be the best in the world at everything? Or even anything?”

I then explain and clarify:

“I never said ‘best in the world’. I only said ‘be the best’.

So, what’s the difference?

One is comparing yourself with everyone else in your universe, and engaging in a futile struggle to be ‘better’ than them. The other is only looking within at yourself – and asking “Did I give it my all? Could I have done more?”

Look, in the ultimate analysis, there is only so much you, me, or anybody else can do. We all come with our built-in limitations, restrictions and boundaries. No matter how eager and determined he is, a man without legs cannot win the world high jump competition, and a lady without eyesight can’t shoot brilliant world-class photographs.

But d’you know what matters? Not that you do better than everyone else, but that you do as best as YOU can. And that’s within reach of every single one of us.

When Being Merely Ok Is Enough…

How many times has this happened to you before?

You hardly prepare for a test, but score the highest in your class – because the others studied even less than you.

You delivered a barely adequate project, but were warmly praised by the boss – because the others were not even on schedule.

You uploaded a bare-bones draft of your new ebook, spelling and grammar mistakes galore, just because you were too bored to correct and edit it – and anyway made a barrel-load of sales.

We have all experienced situations where simply being “good enough is good enough”.

And, sadly, many of us have settled for that norm.

Why strive for excellence when ‘barely good’ is more than sufficient? Children adopt this paradigm at school. Adults at work. And many of us do even around the house, or in our family lives.

Yet, in an over-crowded marketplace where everyone is screaming for attention and an audience, there is one thing that overwhelms and dominates – and that is EXCELLENCE.

Being the best is what you can take to the bank!

Authority Charms Crowds

When you walk into a bookstore, which books do you see in the front display rack? Nine out of ten titles will be written by best-selling authors, names that you are already familiar with, and whose other books you have probably read before.

On the poster of a blockbuster movie (or when the opening credits play), who gets top billing? The famous superstar whom audiences love and rave about.

It’s the same everywhere. Authority charms crowds.

And broadly speaking, the authority these people wield comes from being the best in their field. You know James Patterson or Stephen King as the best novelists in their genre. You know Johnny Depp or George Clooney as the best Hollywood actors. You know Venus Williams and Roger Federer as top tennis stars. You know Albert Einstein and Stephen Hawking as brilliant scientists.

These are folks who are at the top of their game. The very best.

And that’s a good reason to strive to be the best.

Perfection Is A Lifestyle

But… but… but didn’t we just talk about how hard it is to be the best at anything? So how can you strive to be the best at whatever you do?

“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.”Aristotle.

Habits are tough things to establish – or change. It takes repetitive and intentional action. If you want to create a habit of waking up earlier in the morning and reading for an hour, then you must intentionally set your alarm for an hour sooner, act when it goes off, force yourself out of bed, and sit down with a book. And you must do this repeatedly, over and over again – until it becomes almost automatic.

That, in essence, is also how you become the very best at anything you do.

You start by intentionally deciding to give it your very best. You follow up on that intention by making sure you put the right kind of focus, effort and energy into it. And you remain consistent with that attitude for as long as it takes for it to become a habit.

And then, suddenly, you’ll discover that “doing your best” has become a habit! A part of YOU.

2 Secret Keys To Doing Excellent Work

Let’s face it. We’re never going to be excellent or top-class or brilliant at everything. Even Einstein couldn’t find his way to the neighborhood grocery store! (He said, famously, “I don’t clutter up my mind with trivia!”)

Anyway, we don’t need to be the best at everything – just the things that really matter. And those will vary from you to me to someone else.

There are two keys to making sure that you do your best at what counts or matters to you:

1. Being Able

The thing you decide to give your best to must be within your capacity to carry out. If you read an inspiring tale about heroes who conquered Mt.Everest, and state with passion and fire that you are going to attempt to scale the world’s highest peak too – but you have never even tried trekking up that tiny hill in your town – well, let’s just say you’ve got a long, hard climb ahead of you!

But if it’s something you already do, or are capable of doing, and you just haven’t thought about putting in your very best effort to execute flawlessly, then that’s an ideal place to begin. Intent. Practice. And soon, it becomes a habit.

Pick an area or activity or niche that you can dominate by focusing on being the best, and you could soon establish a beach-head that no competitor can storm. Your effort to do YOUR best will end up making you THE BEST of all!

2. Being Willing

The other factor that makes it easier for you to do your best is to have passion for the job. Ask a fan of World War history if they want a copy of Winston Churchill’s six volume account of WW2 (4,736 pages!) – and they’ll jump at your offer! That’s passion at play.

The enormity of the task, the challenge of getting it done, the hardships along the way – everything fades away into the darkness when the brilliant light of passion is shone upon it.

Bringing passion to whatever you do is a guaranteed way to make sure that you give it your best shot. So you can select only those things you’re passionate about – or you can become passionate about anything you want to be the best at. Either way works.

Be The Best

Make this a simple challenge you set yourself for this week. Pick a task. Anything. It should meet the two conditions – you should be able to do it, and it should be something you’re passionate about.

Then set out with the conscious intention of putting your best into it. Practice it over and over again, until it becomes second nature. Then come back and tell me how it feels to be the best!

Remember, authority stems from being the best at what you do.

How to be the best

What do Susan Boyle, Paul Potts and J K Rowling all have in common – apart from they happen to be British? Their success did not come about overnight, or easily. Not for any of them came instant fame, and recognition in the spotlight.

“The soul is placed in the body like a rough diamond, and must be polished,
or the luster of it will never appear”

Daniel Defoe

No matter how frustrated, troubled or dispirited on the surface, deep down everyone I have met is truly extraordinary. However hidden, the human spirit, the diamond is always there; in you, in me.

For many of us, these times are rough. Perhaps now we can come to know and appreciate more fully our capacity for endurance and the brightness of our human spirit. What is more, we can take the polishing more into our own hands.

Here are some tips you might like to consider:

1. Know what you want

Maybe you have a talent you have longed to express and develop. If not, you probably know how you would like to be experiencing your life – perhaps with more happiness, better communications with the ones you love, greater fulfilment in your work.

Knowing is deeper and stronger than wishful thinking or hoping. It is a conviction so solid that you can base your life on it.

“There are three things extremely hard: steel, a diamond, and to know one’s self.”
Benjamin Franklin

2. Engage with your intention

Daily nurture your vision – see, feel, hear how you will be experiencing the fulfilment of your the life you want, both inwardly and in the world. Use your imagination.

J K Rowling’s Commencement Speech at Harvard is inspiring and real:

Watch Part 2 here and Part 3 here.

3. Practice your passion – take action

If you have a talent, keep working with it. If you would like to be happier, do things that make you happy. Better communications? Be willing to learn, practise, improve – and make mistakes from time to time. Your intention will speak volumes. Fulfillment? Adjust your attitude.

“Nothing will work unless you do.”
Maya Angelou

4. Raise your energy – turn up the heat

Love yourself and be grateful for all you have in your life, right now. Pay attention to your blessings. Look up. Learn to forgive and laugh at the mistakes you make along the way. Each day, feel the enthusiasm for your vision, as if it has already happened. Stay open for the remarkable to take place. It will.

“There are two ways to live your life – one is as though nothing is a miracle,
the other is as though everything is a miracle.”

Albert Einstein

5. Gather positive people around you

At the very least, spend time with people who are supportive and for you. Enrich yourself by getting to know others who are actively creating the best for themselves, and learn from them.

“If you have zest and enthusiasm you attract zest and enthusiasm.
Life does give back in kind.”

Norman Vincent Peale

6. Get rid of what is unnecessary

Clear the clutter! Live lean with only that which you need around you. The feeling of freedom you gain will liberate you closer to what you really want.

7. Organize yourself for success

Find ways of dealing with life’s necessities so that you are not distracted by them. Only agree to do what you will actually do. Learn to say no to what does not fit for you.

“If we did all the things we are capable of doing,
we would literally astound ourselves.”

Thomas A Edison

8. Set no time limits

Learn to live in the present moment and respond to your intuitive guidance. There are times when to act; times when to hold. You will get to know which is which.

“We have time enough if we will but use it right.”
Johann Wolfgang von Geothe

9. Believe in yourself – believe in your vision

Feeling doubtful? In these challenging times, young children may teach us something. As adults, we can also be persistent in going for what we value.

Consider the words of Imogen, walking with her father in the park, and Stephanie, her tv heroine:

So I’m in the park with my just-turned-three-year-old daughter when she asks:

Daddy, can I have an ice cream?
I don’t think we have time. We’ve got to go soon.
There is always a way, Daddy.
What?
Stephanie says, there is always a way!
Who says?
STEPHANIE!

“A visionary is one who can find his way by moonlight,
and see the dawn before the rest of the world.”

Oscar Wilde

10. Treasure yourself

Do the things that show you care for yourself: eat foods that serve your body; drink plenty of water; get enough sleep; exercise regularly; make time and space for fun; stay focussed on your vision and intention. Taking care of your health is a wise investment of your time and attention.

“The diamond you are, you wear within you.
You can call on its beauty and power when you want to stand forward and dazzle.”

Random Soul 7

Being the best teacher ever is a rewarding label, isn’t it?! Just being a teacher is one of the best jobs ever. It has its moments, but we don’t need to focus on those. What we need to focus on are the little children in front of us each day who count on us to make a difference in their lives. We have much more than just a years’ worth of impact. Our impact moves into a lifetime.

How to be the best

When we start each day as a teacher, keep in mind that the little things that we do make a huge difference in the outcome of not only our day but our students’ day.

Here are 10 ways you can be the best teacher yet!

1.) Be consistent. Consistency is huge. To have excellent classroom management and classroom community, students need a secure environment that feels stable. The best way to make it feel stable is to always make it consistent. Then, there are no surprises, and they know exactly what to expect at all times. In some students’ cases, the classroom is the most consistent area of their lives.

2.) Always assume the best. I’ve actually learned over the years to not assume at all. But if you are going to assume anything, make sure it is the best in people. There is always a reason people do things.

3.) Learn to let the little things go . I know this is easier said than done. I know I struggle with this from time to time. The reality is, we just have to because if we don’t, we get weighed down by all the stress piling on. We make the choice of what’s important to cling to. If it’s not going to matter in five minutes, five months, or five years, then drop it.

4.) Focus on being the teacher. I remember when I first started teaching, I wanted every student in the class to like me – no, LOVE me. I was so hung up on being everyone’s friend. Of course, when you are the students’ friend, suddenly you make enemies with the parents, co-teachers, and administration for not doing your job properly. If you are friends with students, then it becomes a bit hard to discipline them. You have to focus more on being a teacher first and a friend second. It’s great to be a friend to students and show that you care, but you cannot put that before doing your job. Does that make sense?

5.) Be organized and prepared. These two go hand in hand. I say this because when you are organized, it’s easy to be prepared. When you are not prepared, the students use that time to get off task. It’s just time wasted. And when you are organized and prepared, it helps you feel confident and like “you’ve got this!”

6.) Give lots of choices. I’m always surprised when I’m talking to my colleagues, and they reveal that the only choices their students are getting are “straighten up or lose recess.” While I laugh when they mention it, I can’t help but think that if students are given more choices, they’d have fewer discipline issues. I was a bit of a rebellious teen (I’m sure my mom will at some point write in the comments!). My mom was a bit overprotective and because of this, we had many limits. My dad would say, “Well, where do you want to go today?” Not my mom. She would say, “Only up and down the driveway. I don’t want anyone taking you!” You see, it frustrated me. I got that taste of choice from my dad but not my mom. While I know I was a kid at the time, and my mind didn’t fully understand life, I just remember thinking my mom didn’t trust me. The point is that sometimes as teachers, we don’t let students make choices because we fear what will happen, and as a result, students feel mistrusted and rebel. We can give choices that are controlled a bit and still have happy students. Just give choices.

7.) Let the students do the talking. I love to listen, though my husband might disagree. He swears I have 100,000 words I have to get in each day. (This post is likely getting close, am I right?) When you step back and say nothing – at first, it’s awkward. It’s silent, and the kids think, “Oh boy, we made her mad.” But if you reply with, “No, I’m not mad. I’m waiting for you all to discuss the book.” Then, just continue to wait, and you will be amazed. Especially if you continue to act like you are a fly on the wall. When students sit back and keep looking at you like they aren’t sure if they are doing it right, or like they need you to ask the question next, it may be time to teach some independent skills and/or discussion skills. When you let students do the talking – really talking – you will learn so much about your students and about what knowledge they are really gaining!

8.) Hands-on, hands-on, hands-on. Students learn best when they can manipulate materials and when they can physically see it, and it’s just more engaging. Plus, it will totally save you time on grading. Who wants to do a boring worksheet? If you need ideas for hands-on activities, just take a scroll around my site here.

9.) Take time for yourself. Hey, stop laughing. I’m serious. I know that it’s tough to not take work home or to barely have time for your family, let alone you — BUT YOU MUST! You have to. Here is the thing. If you have a cup of sugar, you and each person in your daily life take a granule of sugar out of it each time. Eventually, that cup is getting empty, unless you put more in. How are you putting more sugar, or Dr. Pepper, or whatever it is, back into your cup? Don’t let people remove from your cup without you taking the time to put back into it. Because eventually, you just end up an empty, broken cup.

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This Is How You Can Be The Best Girlfriend.

How to Be the Best Girlfriend – Ladies! This might be the most valuable article you will ever read on how to be the best girlfriend and by extension, be the best life partner of your boyfriend. No, it is not about you using fake beauty makeovers or cheap seduction tactics. A great girlfriend is way beyond these outer facades or pretending to be someone you are not.

If you are lucky to be in a relationship with a sensible, caring, smart, and intelligent boy, he surely looks beyond these trivial things. Instead, you want to be someone with whom he would feel lucky to spend the rest of his life.

So, without further adieu, check out these 11 tips to know how to be the best girlfriend in the world:

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1. Be Confident in Your Skin

A bit of modesty is okay and at times cute. However, when that becomes self-doubt, and you persistently ask him about how you look and look for his validity, it is a big turn off. Just be confident and self-assured in our skin and do not stop yourself from putting your real self in front of your boyfriend. He loves and respects you for it.

2. Know What You Want

This goes for trivial, day to day stuff and more for your long term desires and expectations from a relationship. When you know what you want from your life and relationships, it will become easier for him to understand you on a deeper level. It will also ensure that he does not hurt you unintentionally in future.

3. Speak Up Rather Than Dropping Vague Hints

How to be the bestMen absolutely hate it when instead of telling things in a straightforward manner, you decide to drop vague hints and expect them to understand. They are not as good as you in detecting your emotions and feelings without saying anything. So, speak up more if you want him to understand you.

4. Be The Life Support For Him

Just like he is always there for you whenever you go through a low phase, you must be there for him as well. Your boyfriend may go through various ups and down in lives, and you must act as a constant life support for him. Just be there with him, hold his hands, and make him feel that he is not alone in it.

5. Intelligence is Sexy. Turn it On.

There is nothing sexier to males than plain, raw intelligence. It may be cool for some to get attracted to bimbos in college times, but most men prefer their partners to be smart and intelligent enough to carry a real conversation with him. For some, it might be a huge turn on as well. So, turn on your intelligence. It is sexy!

6. Compliment Him On His Finer Qualities

How to be the bestOccasionally it is okay to boost his ego and compliment him on his abs and how great he looks. However, some men will always look better than him unless you are dating Brad Pitt. Instead, focus on the finer aspects of his personality which make him different and unique from others. A genuine compliment always works!

7. Never Nag For Small Things

Yes, we know that you want your boyfriend to listen to you and talk to you. However, it does not do too good if you are always nagging and complaining about even tiny things. Do not take yourself too seriously and do not sweat the small stuff.

8. Share Your Dreams and Ambitions

How to be the bestWomen with aspirations and dreams are very attractive. Your boyfriend will appreciate and love you even more if you could share your deepest desires and goals. He will also act as moral support for you and inspire you to follow your heart and be the best version of yourself.

9. Motivate Him

Never fail to inspire your boyfriend and motivate him in tough times. He expects you to be on his side in times of need, and you must make sure that you provide the necessary moral support to him.

10. Do Not Be Afraid To Take Initiative

Surprise your boyfriend by planning things and taking initiative for a change. Men love women who are not afraid to take charge. Do not always expect him to plan everything in advance. He will appreciate your gesture and start loving you even more. And then your friends will ask you how to be the best girlfriend!

11. Encourage Him To Spend Time With Friends

How to be the bestGuys are closer to their college buddies than you can imagine. So, if he wants to spend a weekend with his gang watching games or going out for movies, do not become needy all of a sudden and allow him freely to do so.

You can even go a step ahead and ask him to invite his friends at your place, and you can bond with his friends as well. It is an excellent gesture which will make him grateful that you are making an effort to become a part of his life.

If you follow the above rules, you will not only come out as a great person but also will never need to ask how to be the best girlfriend for the love of your life. Some of these rules may require you to come out of your comfort zone and do things which you may never have done.

However, what is life without having the courage to face your fear and move out of your comfort zone? So, implement these commandments immediately and be the best girlfriend he has ever had!

So you’ve mastered the core skills of a legal secretary. How do you set yourself apart as an in-demand secretarial professional in the legal field? The answer is learning how to be a good legal secretary by going above and beyond to master these seven important work traits.

Be Reliable

How to be the best

A legal secretary is the attorney’s right-hand person, so reliability is a crucial work trait that will ensure success. This goes beyond showing up promptly. You might occasionally find yourself called upon to stay at your desk long after other offices have closed for the day.

Your attorney may have to appear in court first thing in the morning—with an orderly file so he can put his hands on whatever he needs at trial without rummaging.

Make adjustments to your personal life, if necessary, to ensure that this doesn’t become a stressful problem and your office knows they can rely on you. Line up emergency child care for these situations if you have kids. Put the phone number of your favorite take-out restaurant on your phone so you can call on the fly when you finally head home.

Be a Self-Starter

The most successful secretaries possess drive and initiative. They don’t sit waiting for an attorney’s instructions or assignments; they stay on top of what needs to be accomplished in any given time period. They anticipate their employer’s and clients’ needs. They’re willing to step beyond their comfort zones to learn new skills that will help keep the practice running smoothly.

Be Efficient

Efficiency translates to dollars in a law firm, a valuable work trait of any successful legal secretary. It can yield cost-savings that your employer is sure to notice. Secretaries who perform their jobs quickly and efficiently contribute to the bottom line, making themselves indispensable.

Be Discrete

Legal secretaries handle confidential client files and data, so discretion is essential. Disclosing confidential information, inadvertently or on purpose, is one of the quickest ways to end your legal career. Just as you should leave your personal life at the door when you arrive at work, leave work at work when you close the office door behind you. Avoid rehashing your day with family members or friends. It’s easy to slip and say something you shouldn’t.

Be Pleasant

This goes hand-in-hand with compassion. No one likes to work with a grumpy, demanding, or negative employee. Secretaries who are friendly with co-workers and courteous with clients go far in the workplace.

That client who’s grappling with a serious problem will appreciate a calm smile, but be prepared for anything and remember that you’re probably meeting him at the worst point in his life.

Keep smiling even if he’s surly and rude. If he needs to be alone for a moment, offer him coffee or a glass of water, then go get it for him. Patience is key. The secretary who handles these issues with diplomacy and tact, smoothing over differences or forging solutions, can become an invaluable member of the legal team.

Be Patient

Attorneys have high-pressure jobs that keep them extremely busy and dependent on their assistants and secretaries. Like all workers, they bring with them certain work habits and attitudes that may require patience. Some are chronic procrastinators. Others are pretty sure they’re always right, and some are woefully disorganized. An ability to handle all personality types and work challenges with grace is a crucial work trait of any successful secretary.

Be Compassionate

Though all of these work traits stand out as hallmarks of a successful legal secretary, the most important might be compassion. Clients entrust your law firm with issues that are fundamentally and critically important to their lives—something they feel so strongly about they enlisted the help of a law firm.

Handle everything with this understanding and you might find yourself at the head of the pack before you know it. Clients will appreciate it, and the attorneys you work for will as well.

How to be the best

Being good at your job is something they don’t teach you at school. Here’s what you need to know.

Higher education does a great job at teaching technical skills- from accounting to marketing, finance to engineering and everything in between. This is important because organizations need people with specific skills to get the job done.

But what is equally needed, yet under emphasized in higher ed, is what many may refer to as ‘soft skills’. Adaptability, accountability, positivity and communication just to name a few.

Universities are not teaching the etiquette or grit that’s needed to become a high performing employee and you, and your managers, are suffering because of it.

Why is it that there’s no emphasis on how to thrive in an office? No course on how to be a good employee or colleague? The first ten years of work sets the trajectory for the rest of your career, so knowing the secrets of high performers early will help you become irreplaceable, promotion-ready and raise-worthy.

Perhaps some people believe these are traits or lessons that can’t be taught, but I disagree. I think anyone can learn how to thrive at work if they have the right information and the motivation.

While this information is especially critical for new graduates, the lessons are applicable no matter where you are in your career journey. After speaking with a few high performing managers, here are their secrets on how to be the best employee.

1. Always put your hand up.

Being a team player who takes on more than the job description is a key to being a great employee and showing value. When your boss asks for help, raise your hand to take on the extra challenge. Standout employees always take on additional projects.

2. Be proactive.

Better yet, don’t wait to be asked. Be motivated to seek out challenges, propose ideas or ask your manager to take something off their plate. The best employees are not passive, they take initiative and run with things.

3. Work hard to create value.

In school you could get away with slacking off or not putting in your full effort all the time. But not in the office. Top performers work hard and put in their greatest effort all the time. Prove yourself different than your colleagues- look to where you can add value to the team, your boss and the organization— make yourself invaluable.

4. Bring solutions, not just problems.

Problems and challenges will come up in every job. It’s inevitable. The best employees do not just bring the problems forward to their boss and let them deal with it- they come with solutions. While you may not always have the perfect answer, help your boss by showing that you’ve thought through some possible options.

5. Don’t complain.

No one likes a whiner and that is especially the case in an office setting. Managers can’t stand employees that complain about little issues that are outside of their control. Keep your complaining to your friends and family and maybe your best friend at work, but not your boss. Try to have a positive attitude- this doesn’t mean you can’t challenge ideas or question things.

6. Know that you are replaceable.

Ouch. While this sounds a bit harsh, it’s the reality, especially early in your career. Having the mindset that someone is waiting for your job, can give you the extra motivation you may need to go the extra mile at work.

7. Make your own development plan.

Top performers make their own development plans, they do not wait for their manager to create something for them- because often that doesn’t happen. Chart your own path for growth and bring forward your goals to your manager. It’s important that you understand that while your organization wants to see you succeed, it’s still an organization with its own goals.

8. Never stop learning.

The best employees know they don’t know everything and strive to continue to learn. Top performers still make mistakes, but what defines a top performer is that they learn from it.

9. Be adaptable.

Circumstances change all the time. The best employees are able to modify their expectations and adapt to new situations. While it may be uncomfortable, top performers know that it is inevitable and strive to be flexible. This is especially true in the social impact sector.

10. Don’t expect a promotion. Earn one.

Everyone is not entitled to a promotion after a year. Promotions are earned when you show sustained great work.

What do you think- did I miss anything? What do you wish every new employee would know?

New Graduate Cheat Sheet:

1. Always put your hand up.

3. Work hard to create value.

4. Bring solutions, not just problems

5. Don’t complain.

6. Know that you are replaceable.

7. Make your own development plan.

8. Never stop learning.

10. Don’t expect a promotion. Earn one.

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