The Secret to Brushing Your Little Girl’s Hair Without Tears
It’s the morning and we are, for once, on track to arrive on time. Kids dressed, bags packed, about to step out into the chill Autumn air. Kids lined up neatly. I am the perfect parent. We are the Sound of Music. I glance at Celeste to see her beautiful ivory hair. Not so beautiful. It is less than elegant. In fact, it resembles a straw jungle. Think “wind swept gone wrong”.
No worries, I think, 2 seconds with the hair brush will sort it out. Five minutes later, after kicking and shouting and screaming, we are now late. We are the Sound of Music played by a flock of distressed sheep.
Her hair is still a disaster zone.
Having 3 boys and a girl, I’ve never previously worried about how to brush hair. I’ve simply cut it short and that’s it.
I’m not sure that technique is going to cut the mustard with my little princess and her snowy white baby hair. She has really fine hair and brushing it is a nightmare.
Until I discovered the secret of how to brush my daughter’s hair without tears.
I have to confess at times, we would drop her off at nursery without daring to reach for the bristly thing. At times, she’d come back with beautifully quaffed hair, in two little bunches. Look at my “cuitas!” She’d dance around admiring herself in the mirror.
Except, when I tried to do super cute cuitas (pony tails), you’d think I was giving her a leg wax. With super glue.
I even went as far as to buy her a little pink brush and some hair clips. She loved the clips. So much so that she lost them all in ONE day. I gave up on that idea.
I could see it becoming an expensive habit.
So life went on with our daily battle to get her looking respectable for school. I considered applying the “boy hair style”. She’s a modern girl right? Quick and convenient.
It’s still my backup plan.
Then one morning, it happened.
I discovered the secret. The secret to tear-free hair brushing.
I’m always encouraging the toddlers to use words rather than shrieks. The shrieks get a little wearing. This particular morning, she used words. She actually told me what the problem was.
“My ears! Ow, my ears!”
That was it. Our epiphany. The white fluffy stuff fell from my eyes. Blankets of it.
Now we have no more tears, no more screaming (except when I have to use my hairbrush because I can’t find hers.)
No more hair brushing battles.
I cover her ears with my hands and brush her hair.
Did you miss it? That’s it, it’s so simple!
I cover her ears with my hands.
Tips to Stop the Hair Brushing Battles
- Use conditioner.
- Don’t wash every day. It strips the hair of it’s natural oils. I only wash the children’s hair once a week.
- Use a good hair brush. Many of my readers recommended Tangle Teezers but we just use one from local supermarket. Ours is pink. It must be good. (You can buy Tangle Teezers from Amazon US or UK. These are affiliate links.)
- Distraction. Read a book, watch a youtube movie, play with a toy.
- Use leave in conditioner. (Rhythm’s of Play has a lovely recipe if you can buy glycerin. Sadly, I can’t get hold of it so I can’t try it, but it sounds amazing.)
Now it REALLY does only take two seconds to brush her hair and we’re done.
For approximately 2 nanoseconds each morning, we really do look like the Sound of Music. Neat and Tidy.
Last Updated on March 18, 2022 by Michele Tripple
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Does your toddler hate her hair being brushed? Are you tired of the tears while brushing? Today we are sharing secrets to ending the hair brushing battle with these 10 secrets to brushing your toddler’s hair without the tears!
How to Brush Your Toddler’s Hair Without Tears!
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Help My Daughter Cries When I Brush Her Hair!
My toddler hates her hair being brushed! Every time I used to tell her that it was time to brush her hair she would run away screaming and crying telling me how much she hates getting her hair brushed. Let’s be honest… I would too, especially with her super thin hair that tangles all the time! I mean literally, her hair is like a giant rat’s nest most of the time.
In the past, I have been known to go a few days without brushing her hair, but now that she goes to preschool, we have to brush it whether she wants it brushed or not. I knew I had to come up with a solution to be able to brush her hair everyday without all the tears. And guess what? We finally have found the perfect solution to brushing little girls hair without all the tears!
So, today I am sharing all my secrets to brushing your toddler’s hair without all the tears!
The first secret to brushing toddler girls hair is to use conditioner. You want to use a quality conditioner made for kids! We love Fairy Tales Tangle Tamer ! This works great for getting started getting those knots out!
I used to be worried about using conditioner in my toddler’s hair, but I just make sure to be careful not to get it in her eyes. I have her lay down in the tub and I use this hair washing bucket to dump the water on her hair.
Spray Her Hair
Once your toddler’s hair is washed, it’s time to brush it! All of our favorite parts right? Before you begin brushing, you will want to spray it with a detangler . This is by far the only detangler that actually helps and trust me we have tried a lot!
Use the Right Tools
Using the right tools makes all the difference! This includes detangler (like we mentioned above) as well as the right brush! Over the past several months we have tried two different brushes, this detangler brush was the first one we tried, and then we tried this detangler brush. I felt like both of them worked great, but Talie preferred this brush best! (In fact, she actually brushes her own hair with it! #winning! Regardless of whichever brush you use you want to make sure it has flexible bristles.
Once her hair is sprayed, I always put Talie on the counter for brushing. I turn her towards me and she gives me a hug. As she hugs me I hold her head and gently brush through the knots. By hugging your toddler through hair brushing it not only comforts her, but it holds her head from bouncing around so her hair is not pulled as much!
Divide the Hair Into Small Sections
When brushing your toddler’s hair you will want to divide her hair into small sections and just brush that section at a time. If your little girl has thick hair or curly hair divide it into even smaller sections.
Brush From the Bottom Up
I know it is a habit for us to start to brush our hair at the root, but we need to change how we brush our hair, especially our daughter’s hair. We need to start brushing at the bottom and work our way to the root.
Hold the Hair Right Above the Knot
When you get to those stubborn knots, don’t just start trying to get them out. Hold the hair right above the knot and slowly and gently brush through them. Holding the hair above the knot limits the pulling at the root so it is not as painful.
Keep Them Busy/ Distracted
Keeping your little girls distracted is my super secret for brushing your little girl’s hair when she hates getting it brushed. While you brush sing songs, play I, spy. Do anything that takes their mind off the fact that they are getting their hair brushed.
Of course, we are in a rush to brush our toddler’s hair so we can move on with our other tasks, but as you brush be gentle. I remember as a kid my mom yanking my hair every which way trying to brush it and style it… It hurt and I cried a lot! So, take the time to be gentle. We don’t like our hair being ripped out when we have a knot and of course, they don’t either.
Don’t Put Off Brushing Your Toddlers Hair
My last secret to brushing your toddler girl’s hair without the tears is to don’t put off brushing it! I know how easy it is to just say, “I’ll brush it later…” Trust me, I used to do that all the time, but to be honest, putting it off just made it worse. The small rat’s nest kept growing and growing and growing and by the time I brushed it, it was a half-hour of tears. So, don’t put off brushing, brush her hair morning and night to keep the knots in check.
There you have it! All my secrets to brushing your daughter’s hair without the tears!
What would you add to the list of secrets? Tell us in the comments!
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If there’s one thing toddlers won’t stand for, it’s standing still. So don’t be surprised if brushing your little one’s hair becomes an epic battle, complete with shrieks and screams (um, hers, not yours). But the benefit of brushing is more than just beauty: It’ll make toddler hair care easier by detangling and loosening up the dirt, grime, and who-knows-what in her hair — and for kids with dry scalps, it’ll help bring more oil to the surface. With the right toddler hair products and tools, and a few tricks of the trade, you’ll be able to brush in peace and manage an adorable toddler hairstyle.
- Head tangles off at the pass. The best strategy for dealing with troublesome tangles is not to have them at all. Of course, you can’t eliminate tangles altogether (especially if she has a hair twirling habit), but keeping your toddler’s hair short, or putting it in a ponytail or braids will definitely help. (Another tangle trick: Be gentle while shampooing and pat shampoo through the hair rather than rub hair into a big sudsy froth.)
- Get the right tools. You don’t need to get fancy when it comes to toddler hair products, but having the right tools will make brushing much easier. To take tangles out painlessly, you’ll need a comb with nonscratchy teeth that are spaced far apart. Brushes should have bristles with rounded ends, and should be flat rather than curved. For kids with hair that’s very thick or tight and curly, you should use brushes with bristles that are long, firm, and widely spaced, and choose combs with similar-type teeth. And remember that sharing combs and brushes can spread head lice and other nasties, so be sure your child has her own and wash them in a sudsy bath from time to time. Also handy: a leave-in detangler not only makes hair easier to comb but tames fly-aways and frizzies. (Plus, a little spritz can simplify removing food from hair when there’s no time for a shampoo and your little one’s wearing lunch in her locks.)
- Make it fun. The great thing about toddlers is they’re always game for a game — especially playing pretend. On that note, all it takes to open a salon in your bathroom is a chair, a hairbrush, and some acting chops on your part. If you call your little client “Ma’am” and make a fuss about pampering her, she probably won’t mind as you work your brushing magic. Boost the fun by suggesting she do some primping on a customer of her own (a long-haired doll).
- Give her a chance. Sometimes all it takes to get protesters to pipe down is to cede some control over what’s going on. Let your tot take a shot at brushing her own hair and creating her own one-of-a-kind toddler hairstyle. Take turns, letting her go first — and you go last to smooth out the tangles. Or if you’re feeling really gutsy, give her a go at styling your ’do (but not on date night).
- Add some glitz and glam. After you get what you want — tangle-free, shiny locks — give your budding fashionista what she wants: a choice of bows, barrettes, hair clips, and the like. Make an occasion of shopping for hair accessories and keep them in a special drawer or satchel. And be sure anything you buy is large enough to prevent a choking hazard and securely fastened so she can’t pull it out.
When you’re preparing yourself for impending parenthood, you know a couple of things for sure – you’re going to be tired, you’re going to feed a lot, you’re going to change a lot of nappies, you’re going to feel overwhelmed at times …
It’s doubtful, though, that when you were pondering the unknowable challenges of parenting ahead, you put ‘hair washing’ on the list. But there is definitely a phase of life when gearing up to washing your offspring’s hair feels like you are preparing for a take-no-prisoners battle.
Your blood pressure starts to go up, you start giving yourself motivational pep-talks, you set yourself a deadline to get the job done. Who could have known that such a small routine task – a task your baby once loved – could have become, in the toddler years, the thing that makes everyone cry?
What happened to happy bath times?
Firstly, it’s worth knowing that all this hair washing hate is definitely a phase. You – and your child – will come out the other side and it will be sunny days again at bath time eventually.
While most children are happy to splash around in the bath until the water is freezing – it’s often the shampoo/water on the head thing that they object to, so it is this bit that needs some attention.
There are a couple of reasons for this:
1. Fear of stuff getting in their eyes
Whether it’s water or shampoo, you just need to get something a bit stingy in your eyes a couple of times before you start to overthink whether it might happen again. Washing hair when your baby was little was easy – you just lay them back against your arm and everything that went on their head naturally drained away from their face and into the bath. Not so easy to accomplish once your little one is sitting up in the bath.
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2. Fear of being tipped backwards
Many little people, not unreasonably, don’t love to be forcibly tipped backwards when they’re already sitting on a slippery surface. They just don’t feel secure or safe. Of course, we as adults know that we have a good strong hold of them – but it’s a hard thing to communicate calmly when everyone is screaming at top volume.
3. Tactile sensation
A lot of young children develop a real aversion to getting their head scrubbed – some are sensitive to touch sensations in general and show a preference for specific types of touches. Some love a firm scrub, while others can only tolerate gentle touches. Hair washing gets a whole lot less stressful once you have worked out what your child likes.
The big solutions
Getting your child comfortable having their face submerged in water is the big game-changer when it comes to hair washing drama. Usually, this is a job that is not done so well in the bath because everyone is already tense and mostly spending all their energy trying NOT to get water on the face!
Other ways you can start this acclimatisation process are:
1. Swimming lessons
Getting your child into swimming lessons sooner rather than later is life-changing. Not only does your child learn an important life skill, but you hand them over to a teacher who has all the patience and experience to help get that little face in the water and happily blowing bubbles while they’re there.
2. Swap the bath for the shower
When you’re standing in a shower, there is no tipping backwards at all to wash your hair – so this is a no-brainer if this is the issue at your place. Strangely too, kids seems to tolerate water on the face a lot better when they’re standing in the shower. Even better if you are in there with them. Be sure to keep an eye on them at all times – just like you do when they’re in the bath – to avoid any possible accidents.
3. Hand over the shampoo bottle
If your child is having issues with the tactile experience of hair washing, the best and fastest way to combat this is to hand over the job to them. Place the shampoo in their hands and let them have a go. They will get the pressure and the rubbing motion right for them. And yes, they will not do the best job ever, but you can give them a sneaky hand at the end when you help them wash it all out.
Hair washing tips to try
Smaller tricks you can try in the bath that can help at hair washing time include:
1. Put goggles on
Putting a pair of swimming goggles on at rinse-out time will help make your child feel more confident about keeping their eyes dry. Yes, it makes the rinsing of hair a little more challenging but the bonus here is that you are less likely to have a squally squirming child on your hands while you do the job.
2. Have a dry towel handy
Before you start the dreaded hair washing, show your little one that you have a nice dry towel at the ready to sweep away any trickles of water that are bold enough to make their way onto their face.
3. Look up at the sky
Teach your child to ‘look up at the sky’ when you need to rinse out the shampoo. That way, you won’t have to tip them backwards yourself. Job done!
4. Place a washcloth over their eyes
A warm wrung-out washcloth folded neatly over the eyes can have a lovely soothing effect – and the added bonus is that if any water does come near the eyes, it will be absorbed by the cloth without anyone needing to know.
5. Make a game of it
Being asked to make a stressful situation ‘fun’ feels waaaay too hard, right? But I do have to say that everything felt calmer when we started playing ‘hairdressers’ at hair-washing time when my daughter was a toddler. I pretended to be the hairdresser and spent quite a bit of time making crazy hairstyles out of her wet bubbly hair, which she loved. I offered her a cup of tea (cup of cold water) which she sipped while we did hairdresser talk. And before we both knew it, her hair was washed and squeaky clean – with NO TEARS.
Little kids and long hair…it can be a daunting realm for some parents, as we know that kids don’t necessarily want to (or know how to) care for for their long hair, even though they swear with one hundred percent certainty that the world will end if they get a haircut.
Or, the roles might be reversed and you (the parent) are the one holding on tight to those long, luxurious locks.
Whichever the case (and we fully support gorgeous, long hair on those kiddos), it’s important to know how to care for those lengthier toddler-to-big-kid tresses, in order to minimize crying, whining and complaining from both parties involved.
So, if short hair just isn’t an option, from washing and drying, to brushing and styling, we’re here with some maintenance and care tips for your little ones’ long hair.
Little kids long hair care and tips
Whether you’re the type of parent that likes to read up and research everything before it happens, or you’re more of a fly-by-the-seat-of-your-pants type, there are still some basics to know about caring for long hair.
If you have (or ever have had) long hair, you already know that it can be a challenge to minimize tangles and damage, while keeping your hair looking fantastic and healthy.
And if you’ve never had to care for longer hair, prepare yourself now for what may lie ahead in your future with determined little minds.
Brush hair daily, or even two to three times daily to minimize tangles. It’s best to use a wide-tooth comb or paddle brush as not to pull hair too much and cause breakage. Start brushing toward the ends of the hair first, then work your way upward toward the head. This does not mean to back-comb the strands toward the head; rather, start with a section a few inches from the bottom and brush that section, then, on the same strands, start higher up on the next brush stroke, and so on. If the hair is tangly, you don’t want to try and brush the tangle throughout the entire length of the hair.
You’ve probably heard that it’s not ideal to wash your hair every day, and that’s very true. We recommend washing hair two to three times per week, for a few reasons.
First, the hair has natural oils that help it stay hydrated and shiny, and washing the hair too often (like every day) can remove this helpful oil, causing unnecessary dryness and a flaky scalp.
Second, and more related to our little kids’ long hair topic, do yourself a favor and avoid the struggle of washing, drying, combing and styling EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. You’re welcome.
When you do wash your little one’s long hair, be sure to use conditioner to soften and moisturize the hair. If the hair is prone to dryness, or has a thick or coarse texture, opt for a deep conditioning treatment once per week to encourage smoothness.
You may also want to try a detangling spray or leave-in conditioner that can be used after the shower or bath, for longer-lasting tangle resistance.
After washing, just like with your own hair, gently squeeze extra moisture out of your child’s hair with a towel (or even an old t-shirt!). Be careful not to rub the hair back and forth or tousle too much, as this can cause extra tangles.
Opt for air-drying when possible, but if you must use a hair dryer, try to minimize the temperature and time spent under the heat. Less is definitely more when it comes to drying kids’ delicate strands.
To maintain long, healthy locks, it’s important to loosen up on your styling technique, at least some of the time. Styling hair in a tightly pulled back ponytail or barrettes can cause damage to the hair, hair breakage/loss and pain on the child’s head.
Try different hairstyles lke a low, flipped ponytail, half-up style or stylish braids to keep your kiddo’s hair looking healthy and stylish, while minimizing extra effort and time spent on your hair care routine.
Also, use snag-proof elastics (without a rubbery texture and the metal clamp) when securing your style. Now’s a great time to jump on the scrunchie-revival bandwagon and get creative!
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We recently took a trip to NYC and visited the DevaCurl salon in SoHo. It was an amazing experience and I can’t wait to share with you what I learned. I wanted to take as many notes as possible. As I considered the stylist hair experts and I wanted advice to take back to our daily curl hair routine. One of the biggest take aways? How to detangle kid’s curly hair without tears!
First, if you haven’t heard of DevaCurl I highly recommend their hair care products. Through the years we’ve tried different brands, but somehow we always come back to DevaCurl. I first found out about them because I was googling curly hair care products without paragons, sulfates or silicone. We haven’t looked back since.
So we were thrilled when DevaCurl asked if we wanted to come to NYC for a complimentary haircut!
The staff was great with our daughter and she felt comfortable right away. Here are some of my biggest takeaways and tips for how to detangle curly hair:
How to Detangle Curly Hair
Lesson 1: If You Think You Are Using Enough Product, Use MORE!
I knew I used a lot of conditioner in my daughter’s hair, but I was amazed how much product the stylists used! I was also impressed that they only used their fingers to detangle her hair. After, she had such curl definition and they acheived it without a brush. It motivated me to get better at finger detangling (I usually use a Wet Brush because it just seems easier and faster).
After her haircut and styling session!
One way they could detangle so easily? They used a TON of the Wash Day Wonder slip detangler. You actually use this product before you shampoo, mask or condition. It’s so silky smooth and makes detangling a million times easier.
Lesson #2: Separate the Curls into Small Sections
I was trying my best to soak up every technique I saw at the DevaCurl salon. One thing I noticed, they detangled very small sections of our daughter’s hair at a time. It can be tempting to do a whole section because you think “I want to get this over quickly.” But in the long run if you want to detangle your kid’s curly hair without tears it’s best to start in small sections.
Clip back the sections you haven’t done and slowly separate the curls. Start detangling at the bottom of the hair and work your way to the scalp.
Lesson #3: Prevent Extra Tangles BEFORE Your Next Wash
I thought we had a good styling routine down, but I learned a few new tips to help reduce tangling and frizz. First, always wash hair with warm water. This helps open the cuticle and get some of that thick moisturizing conditioner into the hair. When you are ready to style rinse the hair with cool water. This helps lock the cuticle back up.
I also noticed the stylist used a ton of water throughout the process. When he detangled, conditioned and styled he was always adding more and more water to her hair. This makes the whole process easier and less painful.
Finally, he suggested after you style the hair to put a little bit of Wash Day Wonder on the ends so it doesn’t tangle up as easily before the next wash.
Lesson #4: Refresh Curls and Detangle Daily
We don’t do a full detangle routine each day, but if my daughter is wearing her down hair, I spray it with water and conditioner. Then I use my fingers to detangle the curls. This makes a tremendous difference on wash days. If you wait 3 to 4 days to detangle, it will difficult.
A few more tips, invest in a silk pillowcase or bonnet to prevent nighttime tangles. Also consider easy protective styles like banding to help protect tangles and the curls.
There are so many ways to care for curly hair and I’ve learned over the years it’s a process. I learn something new all the time and it’s okay to experiment to see what works best.
The stylist gave me great product recommendations. I can get overwhelmed by all the options when I search the web myself. “How do I know which product will work best with our daughter’s curl pattern?” It helped to get a second opinion.
I highly recommend visiting the DevaCurl salon in NYC if you get a chance. If you don’t live nearby you can find a local stylist who has been trained by DevaCurl!
So how do you detangle kid’s curly hair without tears?
I’d love to hear your curly hair tips in the comments below.
Thanks DevaCurl for sponsoring this post!
Q: My toddler hates it when I wash or brush her hair. What can I do?
A: Your child may be either frightened by or very sensitive to the feeling of water splashing in her face and the tug of the comb through her hair. Kids who have this kind of tactile (touch) sensitivity tend to react to a range of sensory experiences, finding certain clothes uncomfortable and itchy, or disliking seams on their socks and tags in their shirts.For hair washing, you can use a handheld sprayer or support her as you lean her head back into the water — like at the salon. There are also bath visors (sold at baby stores) to keep the water off your child’s face. And you might introduce regular water play in to your daughter’s routine so that she can associate bathtime with fun, positive experiences.For hair brushing, try wide-tooth combs and lots of detangling solution or conditioner to make combing a bit easier. Distract her with a favorite snack or an interesting toy to play with. You can also give her a brush she can hold onto or use to comb a doll’s hair or a stuffed animal’s fur.If all else fails, decide whether combing her tresses is an absolute necessity or if you can let grooming go for now. For children with fine, silky hair, it won’t matter much, while kids with coarse, thick locks that tangle easily will need more attention. As your daughter gets bigger and can help out with this task — feeling more in control of what happens to her body — she will likely be less resistant.
Originally published in American Baby magazine, October 2006.Updated 2009
- Ease the fear
- Go with the pros
- Get tricky
- Sweeten the deal
- Find a distraction
- Do it in waves
- Work it out with TLC
- Try tough love
- Know when to get help
Many a toddler is known to shrink in fear at the sight of the haircutting scissors or shriek hysterically when held still for a snip. Parents who’ve faced down the problem share their best tips for cutting back on haircut trauma.
Ease the fear
“As a licensed hairstylist and mom of a 17-month-old, my advice is this: Don’t call it a ‘haircut!’ Kids associate the word ‘cut’ with pain. Tell them they’re getting a ‘trim’ instead.”
“We used electric clippers for my daughter. It helped to have her favorite baby doll there (who has plastic hair) and to have them take turns. Seeing her baby doll’s hair get ‘cut’ helped her see there was nothing to be afraid of. (We just put the clippers near her doll’s head.) Now she’s almost 3 and tolerates haircuts just fine.”
“We play ‘haircut’ and use kitchen tongs instead of scissors. It gets our daughter used to hearing a noise and seeing something shiny bobbing around her head. (We also drop shredded paper around her to imitate hair falling.) Then when it’s time for a real haircut while she sits on the kitchen floor, it’s not so traumatic. So far, so good!”
“For my son’s first few haircuts, we let him watch my husband get one first. I think seeing Daddy in the chair made him curious instead of scared. Then when it was his turn, I sat in the chair with my son on my lap. That seemed to work. He gets fidgety but not upset.”
Go with the pros
“Ask around and see if there’s a place in your area that caters specifically to kids. We have a place like that where we live. They have toys my son can play with while we’re waiting to get his hair cut, a chair that’s like a little car with a motor and horn, and DVD players at every station. My son gets so distracted by these things he hardly notices he’s getting a haircut. He doesn’t sit perfectly still, by any means, but it’s nowhere near as horrible as it could be.”
“I take my 21-month-old to a children’s salon. To keep him still and happy, I always take him right after a nap and bring a sippy cup filled with milk. I ask the stylist to finish the haircut before the milk is gone. It works like a dream.”
“My 19-month-old hates getting his hair cut, so I do it at home while he’s sleeping. I do one side, then flip his head and do the other.”
— A BabyCenter member
“My 18-month-old was a nightmare at the hairdresser’s! He’d scream and run away and even swing at me and the stylist. (Luckily she’s a friend.) Finally I asked our babysitter to take him. When she did, he was an angel! She’s taken him back a few more times and now he gets excited when I tell him it’s haircut day. He sits there the whole time, saying what a big boy he is getting his hair cut and not crying!”
— A BabyCenter member
“My son has cried hysterically at every haircut ever since he was 9 months old. We finally figured out why around the time he turned 3. It turns out the buzzing noise of the clippers was what bothered him! So now whenever we go to the salon, he makes us promise to cover his ears we haven’t had any tears since!”
Sweeten the deal
“I found that lollipops that come attached to a ring work great! My son is far too busy with his lollipop to notice what’s being done to his hair. This is the only time we give him candy, so he loves getting his hair cut!”
— A BabyCenter member
“I’ve always cut my twins’ hair myself. I usually try to put in a movie for them while I’m cutting and tell them that if they do a good job sitting still they’ll get a reward. Stickers or snacks that they’re only allowed to have on special occasions work very well.”
Find a distraction
“With our toddler, we put stickers all over the gown, and he’s so focused trying to take them off that the cut is over before he knows what’s going on.”
“My son was fine with his first two haircuts. I was very surprised when he freaked out the next time. We tried everything from having him watch my husband get a haircut to bribing him with bubbles and cookies. Nothing worked. Finally one day this summer I cut his hair while he was outside playing at the water table, which he loves. He was still a little annoyed, but it went much better. The lesson? Experiment.”
— A BabyCenter member
“My friend who’s a hairdresser gave me this tip that she uses with her own son: Give your child a haircut in the tub. It’s easy to cut hair while it’s wet, and the hair falls into the water so it’s easy to clean up. Your child is so distracted with playing that he doesn’t even notice what you’re doing. I tried it with my son, and it worked like a charm.”
— A BabyCenter member
“My son is now 23 months old. Because cutting his hair is so messy, I like to do it outside in the backyard while he sits on his tricycle. I let him hold and play with a favorite toy during the haircut. If he gets really restless, I push him on his tricycle for a minute or two and continue cutting.”
Do it in waves
“I cut my son’s hair in phases. First we fought the battle to get his bangs trimmed and called it a night. A few days later, while he was busy eating in his highchair, I snuck up behind him and snipped off the sides. Later while he was distracted in the bath, I trimmed his curls in the back.”
Work it out with TLC
“My son (who’s now 5) normally takes things in stride, but he hated haircuts and I can see why: I’d told him over and over that scissors are dangerous, and then I got out the scissors to cut his hair! It took patience and lots of reassurance to get him to see that haircuts aren’t so bad. For a long time, I had to cut his hair in stages to teach him how to cope. I think as parents we need to look at the world around us from our children’s perspective and remember that they’ve only been here for a short time. There’s so much for them to learn, and it’s easy to get overwhelmed.”
Try tough love
“My son hates haircuts, but I just make him sit there until the job is done. He doesn’t like it, but that’s just too bad. He gets over it. And now he accepts haircuts because he knows they’re going to happen regardless of his desires, and he’s come to realize they’re not so bad. I think sometimes we baby our kids too much and actually encourage tantrums in the way we respond to them.”
Know when to get help
“If your child’s reaction to haircuts seems over the top, consider the possibility that he has a problem processing sensory input. My 4-year-old screamed like a maniac during haircuts. Only after he was diagnosed with sensory integration dysfunction and treated with six months of occupational therapy did haircuts – and other things – become a little easier. Just a thought for when the typical techniques fail.”
“My son has autism and the book, It’s Haircut Time, by Michele Griffin, helped him to understand that haircuts are nothing to be afraid of.”
Have you ever had to cut out a knot in your daughter’s hair? I had to cut knots out pretty regularly because she just would not let me completely finish brushing her hair. The knots would just grow and grow especially at the nape of her neck. It is still a struggle everyday to completely brush her hair out but I have found a few tricks for how to detangle hair quickly and without her screaming and crying.
I even recently cut a few inches off her hair to make it easier on us but I just love long hair. I put out a call to my friends to find out what everyone was using to make the whole process easier.
Tips for How to Detangle Hair
1.Conditioner + Detangling Spray – I don’t know why I didn’t think of this earlier. I had always just used baby shampoo on my boys but when my daughter hair grew a little longer when she was about 2 years old we went to get a haircut. The beautician immediately asked me if I was using conditioner on her hair. I said no, I hadn’t even thought about it. I always used detangling spray and didn’t know that I should also use actual conditioner. She could tell that her hair was dry and told me that I needed to add conditioner to our routine. I can’t believe I hadn’t even thought about needing conditioner. I switched to a shampoo + conditioner immediately. The difference was dramatic, her hair was so much softer.
2. Wide Tooth Comb/Wet Brush – The Wet Brush has been awesome for us. I started using it instead of a comb and it made the process of getting her hair untangled even faster. Plus, sometimes she even likes to brush her hair herself. The brush is easier for her to use than a comb.
3. Brush her hair before starting the bath – This is another a-ha moment for me. I have to do this for myself so why hadn’t it occurred to me to do this for my daughter. We both have super fine long thin hair. It helps tremendously to do a light brushing before we even start a bath. If we start the shampoo process with tangles it is just going to make our hair even more tangled so it is better to start with the least amount of problems.
4. Hold her hair above the tangle – I think most women know this but some that have always had short hair may not. If you hold the hair above the tangles with slack between your hold and their head it stops the hair from yanking at their scalp. The pain is always at the scalp so if you can keep the hair from pulling their then your child can’t even feel the pull of the hair.
5. Regular trims – This is where I have been going wrong. I was letting her hair grow for 6 months and then getting a couple of inches cut so that would mean only 2 haircuts per year. It is not worth it. If I keep her hair about the same length with regular trims the ends are healthier. Plus, there are less tangles which means less drama. Totally worth it!
With these tips and sometimes even using an iPad to distract her I have been able to finish. I can thoroughly brush her hair and get out all of the tangles. Now I wish she would let me put some braids in her hair and do a fancy up-do but one step at a time. 🙂
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“Let’s brush your hair!” – these are words that spark terror into the hearts of children. and honestly, can you blame them? Brushing out knots and tangles after a long day can be very painful, and is the last thing that a child or parent wants to do. The process is one full of tears, jerking away, and stern frustrations that simply repeats day after day.
Thankfully, we are here to help! We’ve done our research and spoken to top-notch parents to get the dirt on detangling and styling kids’ hair without the screams and tantrums. Hopefully, you’ll find a few tips in here that you can try out on your little one to make wash day just a little bit more fun.
First things first, make sure that you are using the right tools for the job. Typically, the best tool for detangling hair is a wide-toothed comb (try one with rounded tips), as they are gentle and don’t cause damage to the hair, but still do a good job getting to the root of any knots.
There are also hair brushes that are made specifically for wet hair and detangling, so keep an eye out for those at the store if your child is sensitive to a comb and prefers a brush instead.
In addition to a good comb or wet-hair safe brush, having a set of clips on hand is incredibly helpful. Check out the Up For Grabs clips. These are amazing, because they have a soft matte touch and wide alligator grip that makes sectioning a breeze.
It may seem like “too much stuff” for simply brushing through hair, but sectioning the hair into sections to break down the detangling into less painful pieces is key to working with kids’ hair. It will actually save you time in the long run, because it causes less crying and pain like when working through larger sections of tangles.
Finally, the last tool for your arsenal – a GOOD detangling product! Attempting to brush through the matted tangles of a long day at school or playing without a detangler is not a recipe for success.
We recommend the Tribology Bright Spot Shine Spray. It works wonders as a detangler, provides hair with shine and moisture, and has a great smell that kids will love.
Okay, so we have got all of the tools lined out. Next step? The detangling!
First things first, make sure that your child is distracted and comfortable. We know that this is half the battle.
Parent Pro-Tip: Make it fun for them! When the child feels included in the detangling and styling process, they’re much less likely to cry or focus on the pain. Include them by giving them an important “job”, such as handing you the clips while you section, or holding the brush in between pieces.
You can even take it a step further by having a designated drawer/cabinet with the supplies you use, and have the child be “in charge” of getting everything ready before combing/brushing time! Kids usually are excited to have an important job and contribute – it’s also great bonding time.
If they are too young for the above, or if having a responsibility isn’t their motivator – that is okay! Instead, keep them entertained by playing with a tablet, phone or reading a book. Ask lots of questions and keep them talking or engaged as you work through each section so they are less focused on the brushing, and more focused on the conversation.
After they’re settled, start by parting the clean, wet hair horizontally from ear to ear and clipping the upper section of hair onto the top of the head to keep it out of the way.
Spray the bottom section of their hair liberally with your detangler of choice (3-5 spritzes of Bright Spot is our recommendation!).
Make sure to apply enough so that their hair feels well coated, but not overly saturated. Separate a single section of hair (about 1 or 2 inches) and hold it firmly near the hair ends. The key to detangling painlessly is to start combing from the end of the hair, not at the roots. Brushing or combing a tangle downwards from the root will only push the knot down into one huge clump! So, start at the end of your section and work your way upwards, little by little, to the root.
Parent Pro-Tip: Always hold the hair by grasping just above the snag you’re working on to prevent tugging at the scalp when you comb. Pulling on the scalp is what hurts the most and causes kids to jerk and cry.
Work your way through the bottom section of hair, just a little bit at a time.
Once you’ve gotten the bottom fully detangled and soft, let a bit more hair down from the section in the clip. Repeat this process until all of your child’s tresses are tangle free. If you come across any tangles that need extra help, spray another spritz of detangler right onto the knot.
Parent Pro-Tip: End your detangling with a hug! Making the experience as positive for your child as possible will make them less leery of brushing time in the future.
Now that you have a freshly washed and detangled head of hair in front of you, it is time to face the next step: styling the wet hair. There are several options, like a protective style, heat styling, or even simply letting the hair air dry.
Depending on your child’s hair type and texture, you may choose to opt for a protective style. We have a full blog dedicated to protective styling.
If your little one is off to bed, try styling their hair into loose braids, or a loose ponytail. This helps them to sleep comfortably without the worry of creating more knots as they toss and turn in their sleep.
It’s a good idea to braid or style the hair in an updo if they are going to play sports or physical activities, as well as help cut down on knotting throughout the day. You may want to opt for a tighter hairstyle if it is going to be worn all day long.
If your child hates sleeping with wet hair, or wants to rock some sleeker strands – check out the RevAir Reverse Air Blow Dryer. The RevAir dries hair by using low heat (low enough that you can even stick a finger inside the wand to feel) and tension (reverse-air) to dry the hair straight while sealing the cuticle for a smooth finish.
The tension is easily customizable with 7 different settings, none of which will pull and cause pain like a hair brush and blow dryer.
It’s super easy to use! Kids even love to use the RevAir themselves, with some monitoring from Mom or Dad, because it is so easy that they can do it all by themselves – holding the wand at the root is the only step.
Want to see some unbiased reviews of kids using the RevAir?
We don’t blame you! The safety of your child always comes first, and we want to provide you with easy and healthy options to style their hair. This mom and daughter duo created a videoreviewing the RevAir for different hair textures.
We hope that this blog has brought you a few tricks to make your next washing and detangling day a bit easier! As always, feel free to reach out to our team if you have any questions about products, usage, or the RevAir itself.
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How To Wash & Style Toddler Hair
Our simple 3-step routine makes caring for your toddlers’ hair quick and painless for both of you! Have a look at the video below to learn how to care for your little ones twirls and tangles.
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Style baby or toddler hair using a wide tooth comb or brush and Johnson’s® No More Tangles® detangling spray.
Did you know?
Compared with adult hair, children’s hair is thinner and more prone to tangling and breakage.
Hair Care Tips & Tricks
Sing a song, tell them you’re giving them a “spa massage” as you lather baby shampoo, or even let them blow bubbles. Distraction is key so get to planning those bath time activities!
Time for styling! With the right haircut, your toddler’s hair should be relatively easy to care for. If your child has curly hair, you may want hair all one length with no bangs. If your child has very thick or wavy hair, a layered haircut can help cut back the tangles.
Knots can be a pain for both you and your child. Get ahead of them by combing toddler hair with a wide tooth comb as soon as you’re done washing and conditioning his/her hair. To help with manageability, always have your hair care best friend handy: No More Tangles ® detangling spray.
Watch out for Knots
There’s magic and love and power in every tendril. Your toddlers’ twirls and curls could become wild or unruly after a day of play, but win the tangles tug-o-war with our No More Tangles ® collection. For easy combing and detangling consider using a 2-in-1 shampoo that provides the convenience of shampooing and conditioning in one easy step. For extra detangling use No More Tangles ® detangling spray.
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Did you know?
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Parent Hack: How To Comb the Dreads Out of Your Kiddo’s Hair. Without Tears
I don’t have much blog material these days.
As you may have noticed.
I’m pretty nauseous, pretty druggy. But I feel a desire to blog, which I think is a positive sign of life. And so I’m digging up some old ideas to post. Bear with me. And you might learn something!
Lesson: How to Get the Nature-Made Dreads Out of Your Preschooler’s Hair
Step 1: Wash your child’s hair with the shampoo of your choice. I find having a removable shower-head and a nearby towel handy for this, in case soap goes in her eyes. Thoroughly rinse.
Step 2: Condition your child’s hair with a generous amount of conditioner. My favorite is “Yes to Carrots: Pampering Shampoo” (available at health food stores).
Step 3: Leave the conditioner in for a few minutes . Let your kid resume playing in the shower/bath while the conditioner loosens the knots. This is key.
Step 4: While the conditioner is still in your child’s hair, begin to gently comb the knots out. This is another key point to doing this whole thing effectively and without tears When combing, always start at the bottom of their hair. I find this style of brush to be the best in terms of minimal pain and maximum effectiveness:
Step 5: Once you’ve combed all through your child’s hair, give it a good rinse.
Step 6: Once you are out of the bath/shower, combing it through again should be fairly easy. Still, I like to use a good de-tangler. I like this one because it has calming lavender in it, and actually seems to work:
Step 7: If you decide to go one step further and blow-dry your kid’s hair, we’ve found the adorable Maru-the-Cat videos on YouTube to be most helpful for distraction. Also, this stuff is helpful for reducing your child’s stress (or your’s):
To re-cap, the main points to remember here:
** Leave the conditioner in for a little while while your child plays in the bath/shower.
** Comb out your kid’s hair with the conditioner still in it, still in the bath/shower.
** Find a conditioner and de-tangler you really like.
** When combing, start at the bottom and go gently and calmly. Take breaks as needed (for both of you!)
October 30, 2020
Author: Regalo Baby
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Washing your toddler’s hair can present an incredible challenge. Some toddlers take to it naturally, while others have a meltdown as soon as you move toward them with a cup of water to rinse off their hair.
If you have a little one with long locks, it can be even more challenging to get everything clean! As parents, we have tried many different techniques, here are a few that have actually helped us in washing toddler’s hair.
Why Toddlers Struggle with Hair Washing
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First, we need to go a few reasons that your toddler may be struggling with getting their hair washed. (We realize there are way more than a FEW reasons). You will probably recognize many of these common reasons for struggles with hair washing:
- They’ve gotten soap in their eyes in the past and associate hair washing with pain.
- They have sensory issues that make hair washing or brushing very uncomfortable.
- They’re fearful of water covering their faces (especially if they’ve inhaled water during hair washing in the past.)
- And the #1 reason, they have a mind of their own and are struggling to stay in control of their lives. On this particular day, they simply don’t want their hair washed.
Thankfully, we have found a few strategies that can help prevent bath time from turning into a tear-fest every night.
Tips to Make Washing Toddler’s Hair More Peaceful
It’s time to wash your toddler’s hair, and you can practically see the meltdown coming! While you’re certainly not alone in this struggle, there are several things you can do to make washing toddler’s hair easier.
Check your shampoo.
In many cases, using a shampoo that causes irritation to the eyes is the biggest culprit in bath time struggles. Take the time to check out your shampoo to make sure that it’s tear-free. We also switched to using all-natural shampoo and conditioner, which has helped reduce tears from stinging shampoo.
Try different methods for getting your little one’s hair wet and rinsing it.
- Some toddlers will enjoy taking a shower, which will make the entire bath time move faster.
- Use a shampoo visor or a regular sun visor to help avoid their eyes when pouring a cup of water over their head.
- If they are open to it, have them lie down in the tub to get their hair wet. Then you can suds it up and have them lie down again. Is this the absolute cleanest way of washing hair – nope! But it may avoid them crying, and that is a win.
- Stick an object to the ceiling and have your child look up at it when pouring water on their head.
Change your timing.
Try washing your child’s hair first. That sounds like it will cause a meltdown but it may prevent hair washing from being associated with an end to the fun of bathtime.
Show them on a toy first.
In many cases, it’s less scary to see a doll or other toy go through the process of hair washing first. In extreme cases, check the haircut. You might be reluctant to give up your child’s long locks, but it’s no surprise that the shorter the hair, the easier it is to get through washing their hair, brushing it, and other important daily grooming tasks. Going with a shorter cut until bath time struggles are over can make it easier on both of you.
Talk to your child.
Many toddlers are more articulate than we give them credit for and this was a game changer for us. We actually asked our child what would make getting their hair washed better. They said they wanted their dinosaur to wash their hair. So Manny the Dinosaur started washing their hair every night. You just never know what may work.
If Your Little One Struggles with Sensory Processing
Raising your toddler to adulthood may be a challenge. The good news is, by the time they grow up, they will probably be willing and able to wash their own hair! In the meantime, keep them safe in the tub and implement these strategies to make bath time easier.
15 Tips to Improve Tolerance with Hair Washing
Does your child have a difficult time tolerating getting their hair washed? Hair washing can be overwhelming to children with sensory processing concerns due to it overstimulating the tactile, vestibular and auditory senses. Here are 15 tips to help make it a more tolerable and enjoyable experience for you and your child!
By: Kathryn Hatter
As your little one moves past babyhood and into toddlerhood, her hair might need some extra attention. You may encounter challenges as your child’s hair goes through a stage of uneven wispiness. Stay the course if you’re growing it out, though. With a little patience, before you know it, her hair will be ready for ponytails and pigtails.
It may take time for your toddler’s hair to become thick and long, according to physician Karen Sokal-Gutierrez, writing for Fisher-Price. Hair growth for babies and toddlers varies. Some children start with little hair and don’t have a thick head of hair until age 3. Others develop thicker and longer hair more quickly. It’s also common for a toddler to have uneven hair, which could be a leftover from babyhood from rubbing hair off in places. Hair growth pattern could also begin unevenly. Stay patient with your little one’s hair growth and realize that eventually it will even out.
How to Get Lint Out of Black Toddler Hair
Pay attention to your toddler’s diet to make sure she eats nutritious meals and snacks. The B vitamin biotin is important for a healthy scalp and hair growth, asserts nutritionist Joy Bauer, author of “Joy Bauer’s Food Cures.” Supplementation is not necessary, but make sure your toddler eats foods such as:
- whole wheat bread
- avocados for a diet rich in biotin
Hair Care without Tears
Toddlers often don’t have time to sit still for primping, but caring for your little one’s hair will help make the growing-out process more manageable. Don’t shampoo your toddler’s hair more than necessary or you could dry out her scalp. A weekly suds might be enough for toddlers with dry hair, but you might have to wash more often for a dirty or sweaty tot. Take the time to detangle your toddler’s hair, but do it gently. Use a wide-tooth comb or a brush with ultra-soft bristles to work carefully on your toddler’s locks. Try spritzing a bit of detangling spray on stubborn snarls to ease them out without tears.
Styling the ‘Do
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The process of growing out hair should be as pretty as possible, so fix your toddler’s hair regularly with bows, ribbons, headbands and elastic hair bands. Your toddler might not care initially about how cute she looks with a big bow in her hair, but eventually, she will probably enjoy primping. With consistency, even an uncooperative toddler will likely learn to tolerate hair fixing. Pull your tot’s hair back from her face with clips or a headband so it doesn’t bother her. Containing her hair in a short ponytail or pigtails keeps it neat while it grows out.
Keeping it Neat
Once your toddler’s hair reaches her shoulders, it might be time to consider a little trim to even up the straggly ends. A trim doesn’t have to take much hair off, but it can do wonders to help make hair look tidy. Whether you tackle the trim yourself or opt to have it cut professionally, choose a time of the day when your toddler has rested and eaten recently, for optimal results. It might help if your toddler sits in your lap for the trim so you can comfort and distract her while someone else snips. The bottom line of a haircut at this age is speed and proficiency — get the trim done as quickly as possible before your little one has a chance to object.
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Hair care can be torture for some kids with sensory issues. While all of us have sensory preferences, for kids with Sensory Processing Disorder or autism, having their hair washed, combed, or cut can go beyond just being unpleasant. I’ve put together a list of tips to help kids who struggle with sensory issues when it comes to their hair.
Lately, a lot of readers have been contacting me for advise about their child’s hair. I understand this concern well as one of our sons used to cower in the corner when he saw me reach for the hair brush. He would scream and beg me not to comb his hair.
Mornings became difficult for both of us. His beautiful curls became knotted if I gave in to his pleas not to comb it which only made it worse. And bath times were another battle ground as he hated the feeling of the water on his face when rinsing the shampoo off.
Obviously with his scalp being as sensitive as it was, there was absolutely no way he would allow a hairdresser near his head.
We got to the point where we just shaved his hair super short so that it didn’t have to be such a daily battle.
Since then, I’ve learned a lot about sensory and together, he and I have come a LONG way! He is a teenager now and actually enjoys getting his hair cut at the barber. He does prefer to keep it short still, but is happy to have it washed and cut.
A lot of sensory kiddos are super sensitive about having their hair washed, cut, combed or even touched. There are many reasons for this.
Sensory Reasons for Hair Struggles:
Vestibular – Some kids are sensitive to having their head tilted backwards or forward for rinsing when having their hair washed. Your vestibular system controls your body’s sense of balance and motion. Kids with vestibular issues can feel unsteady, uncomfortable, or even afraid when tipping their head.
Olfactory (Scent) – Your child may be sensitive to the smell of the hair products you are using on them.
Tactile – Many children with sensory issues have very sensitive scalps or are sensitive to touch in general from hands, brushes or combs, and even water. Water on their face, in their eyes, or having shampoo get in their eyes can be difficult for all kids, let alone ones with higher sensitivities. Tactile is the most common reason for problems with hair care in kids with sensory sensitivities.
Auditory – Some kids struggle with the sound of the clippers at the hairdresser or the sound of the water in a shower.
Tips for managing hair care and sensory needs:
- Determine the root cause. Talk to your child and also make your own observations and see if you can determine what the biggest sensory issues are. That way, you’ll be tackling things accurately.
- Acknowledge to them and to you that this is not a child being difficult. This is a real thing that is causing them real pain or discomfort. Doing this will give you more patience and empathy.
- Wash their hair less often. Kids do not need their hair washed daily (unless your physician has given you a medical reason why your child does). Every third day should be sufficient unless they happen to play in the mud on the in between days. You can also use a dry shampoo for the days in between if you’re concerned about the cleanliness of their hair.
- If shampoo is your main battle, skip the shampoo. Wash with water and a conditioner and use dry shampoo.
- Give your child more control in the process. Allow them to choose their hair products. Let them smell shampoos and conditioners at the store and decide what they like or buy unscented. Let them comb and style their own hair.
- Choose a low maintenance hair style for them. This was easier for me to do with my son than it was when one of my daughters had a hard time with having her hair combed and wanted it cut short, but I knew that “pretty hair” wasn’t worth the tears it would take every day to get there.
- Don’t expect your child to hold still while you comb or style their hair. Give them a fidget to play with or a weighted lap pad. Let them play Lego or watch TV or both. It won’t be easy for you to comb hair on a moving target, but it will be less stressful if they are less upset.
- Make changes. (see list below)
- Try a different comb such as a Tangle Teaser or Wet Brush.
- Try a bath rather than a shower or a shower rather than a bath.
- Wash their hair in the sink rather than in the bath.
- Try dumping water on their head using a Rinse Cup rather than having them tip their head back.
- Have your child use a Bath Visor to avoid getting as much water on their face. You can also use this during haircuts to avoid pieces of hair getting on their face.
- Allow your child to wear swim goggles or a snorkel mask in the bath or shower.
- Be sure you are using an excellent detangler so that knots are not making the hair combing situation even worse.
- Use a visual timer so that your child knows how long they have to “endure” having their hair brushed.
A note about haircuts:
Our hairstylist comes to our house and used to cut our kids’ hair where they are comfortable while they play with toys or read or watch TV to distract them. If this isn’t possible for you, pass these tips along to your salon to help them be more sensory friendly.
You also may want to ask them about the calming clipper kit. This sensory friendly barber kit is made just for kids with sensory needs. You can also use it yourself at home where your child is most comfortable.
Biggest tip about hair and sensory needs:
As odd as this sounds, don’t work at all on trying to increase your child’s ability to handle having her head or hair touched. Leave the hair alone as much as possible and instead, focus on increasing other sensory activities: sensory play, heavy work, sensory input.
If you are working with an OT, ask them about dry brushing. This type of brushing is for the skin, not the hair, but is best under the care of an OT.
By increasing your child’s range of sensory experiences (sensory diet), it will eventually begin to be easier for them to have their head and hair touched.
Get a copy of Sensory Processing Overload Signs to print off and keep as a reminder here.
Constantly brushing hair out of your kid’s eyes? Time for a trim. But while you may have visions of an adorable, Instagram-ready moment, to your child, the experience can be traumatic. Here, are 9 genius tips to get you through your baby’s first haircut, without the tears.
1. Timing is everything
Schedule a trim during a time that works best for your child. “Avoid scheduling it during nap time, snack time or whenever your kid is typically fussy,” advises Cozy Friedman, founder of Cozy’s Cuts for Kids.
2. Distract, distract, distract
Let your kid bring his favorite toy, pacifier or book with his to keep little fingers occupied (and comfort him, too). You may have a no-tech rule at home, but times like these are when a video on your smartphone can be extremely helpful. “If your child is a wiggle worm, having them sit in your lap will make everything go much smoother,” says Friedman.
3. Have them watch you get a cut
Take away some of the scary factor by familiarizing your kid with the salon experience beforehand. Bring her along for your own trim or to an older sibling’s haircut—hopefully this will help her get excited about having her own turn someday.
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- How should I deal with hair-washing battles?
- Can any products help?
How should I deal with hair-washing battles?
Almost all toddlers go through a stage of not wanting to have their hair washed. Your toddler may object if she:
- has previously had shampoo in her eyes or mouth
- is scared of the water
- finds sitting in the bath uncomfortable
- is asserting her independence
Whatever the reason for your toddler’s bathtime tears, here are a few tricks that may help you calm her hair-washing tantrums.
Don’t wash her hair as often
You don’t need to wash your toddler’s hair at every bathtime. Once a week is fine, as her hair is unlikely to get that dirty. If you give it a bit longer between each wash, she may forget whatever was bothering her and be open to trying it again.
When it’s not a hair-washing night, let your toddler know. That way, you can both relax and enjoy the special closeness of bathtime.
Instead of focusing on whether or not to wash your toddler’s hair, think about how to wash it. If she’s old enough, you can ask her what bothers her most. Maybe she doesn’t like water over her face, or when you rub in the shampoo.
Once you know what part of hair-washing is causing the problem, you can work around it. You may find that she’s happier if it’s done in the shower rather than the bath, or that she prefers to rub the shampoo in herself. She may even prefer washing her hair in the kitchen sink! Work together to find the best solution.
Dolly does it, too!
Try letting your toddler wash the hair of her dolls, action figures or other favourite toys. Watching how she does it may give you a clue about why she doesn’t like having her own hair washed.
You could try copying your toddler as she’s playing. For example, when she’s wetting her doll’s hair, you can wet her hair and so on. Or once she’s finished, you could ask if dolly wants to help wash her hair in return.
Do it together
Have a bath with her. Let her wash your hair and make funny shapes when it’s foamy. Now’s your chance to find out what you’d look like with a mohawk, or as a unicorn! Once she’s had her fun, she may realise that it’s no big deal when you want to put the bubbles in her hair.
Distract your toddler with noisy hair-washing songs or by giving her foam bath shapes to stick on the tiles.
You could also play a body game where you ask, “Where is your nose, where is your tummy, and where is your knee?” If you’re quick, you can get her hair washed by the time you’ve named all the major body parts.
Putting a funny picture or mobile on the ceiling above the bath makes a fun distraction too. It also encourages her to look up, making it less likely that the water and shampoo will drip into her eyes.
Make it fun
Put a plastic mirror at the end of the bath and help your little one to make shapes with her shampoo-covered hair. Horns and haloes, curls and twirls will all distract her and make her giggle. She may not even notice that her hair’s being cleaned at the same time.
Can any products help?
- Shampoo rinsing cups have a brim that follows the curve of your toddler’s forehead. This makes it easier to keep the soapy water away from her face and eyes.
- Shampoo shields fit on your toddler’s head like a cap or sun visor, shielding her eyes from water and foam. Alternatively, your toddler could hold a clean flannel or small towel over her eyes as you rinse out the shampoo.
- No-tears shampoo is designed specifically for babies and toddlers, and won’t sting your little one’s eyes if some gets in by mistake.
If hair-washing remains a battle, try not to worry. Most toddlers grow out of their dislike for hair-washing as they get older. You can always ask your health visitor for advice if you’re struggling.
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Toddler wont let me tie up her hair. What can I do?
If you’re a parent to a toddler girl then you’re probably all too familiar with their dislike for the hair brush.
I have two girls and the number one cause of yelps and screechs in our home are hairbrushing battles (followed closely by bath time tantrums and not wanting to hold hands outside). My girls hate getting their hair brushed and getting their hair tied on some days is literally an all out battle.
So why do toddlers hate getting their hair tied up and what can you do about it?
Toddler wont let me tie up her hair. Why?
The biggest reason your toddler won’t let you tie up her hair is because she doesn’t like the sensation of a hairbrush scraping her scalp. She also dislikes the tugging sensation when her hair is being tied up or braided.
How do I get my toddler to let me do her hair?
Try changing your hairbrushing technique. Use a gentle hand and a hair brush with soft round bristles. You can even use finger brushing to help prevent the tugging sensation. Using distraction and giving a toddler choices are also popular parenting strategies for getting a hairstyle up.
Toddler won’t let me tie up her hair – 7 hacks you should try
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1. Change hairbrushing technique
When brushing your toddlers hair you have to remember that their scalp is more sensitive than ours. It’s super important to brush in a way that it doesn’t hurt them/cause a tugging sensation. Ideas include:
- Using a hairbrush with soft rounded bristles that don’t dig into the scalp
- Using a gentle hand with soft strokes when brushing
- Holding the ends of the hair and brushing out any tangles from them before brushing at the roots. This prevents the tugging sensation that bothers kids and makes them screech
- Regularly oiling your child’s hair with coconut oil to keep them tangle free, super soft and shiny
- Using a detangling brush that smoothly glides through the hair without hurting your child’s scalp (read the raving reviews from parents about this brush HERE)
2. Try finger brushing hair
This is a hack I use when Im running late and I need to quickly get out of the house with my kids looking (atleast halfway) presentable.
Finger brushing is brilliant because toddlers prefer your soft fingers running through their hair than a hairbrush. So you manage to gently brush back the hair and get the hair tied up with little to no resistance.
When it comes to toddlers, distraction is your best friend. It’s your secret weapon that will work with handling (almost) anything toddler related.
Distraction usually works. So it’s a great option for managing your child’s behaviour in many situations.
When my little one started sprouting some hair I began trying to tie it up. But she’d always squirm away or else yank out the clips/pony tails the second it was in her hair.
So I’d put her in the high chair and give her a snack or a toy (or the tablet as a last resort). And it would always work. She wouldn’t mind me brushing her hair or tying it up. So if youve been frequently facing the “my toddler wont let me tie up her hair” delima then this can be a convenient solution particularly on busy days.
Toddler won’t let me tie up her hair – 7 hacks you should try
4. Show her the look in the mirror
Sometimes letting kids know what you’re doing and showing them the final result can make them more cooperative.
So while brushing her hair, talk through what you’re doing. And then show her how she looks in the mirror.
Sprinkle in a few positive comments like “Oh how nice you look with your hair away from your face” or ” What a pretty bow!” or “You look just like (insert your child’s favorite aunt or cartoon character”)
5. Make doll’s hair
Many moms use this hack and it seems to really work. Try brushing your toddlers dolls hair with her. Take turns with her in brushing the dolls hair and comment on how nice her hair looks once it’s been brushed and tied up.
The next time you’re brushing your toddlers hair you can even ask her to imitate you and make her doll’s hair. It keeps kids busy and also makes them feel grown up.
6. Give her choices
Toddlers are all about choices. When you let them choose from different options, it makes them feel happy to know that they have some power and control over the situation.
Also, kids can be finicky about different things. Some girls hate clips in the hair but are fine with pony tails. Other times it’s headbands that bug them but they’re fine with hair elastics.
So let your toddler choose between different hair accessories and styles. Be sure to only give them two options at a time otherwise you’ll just confuse them. So try asking ‘should we wear a headband today or clips?’ or ‘would you like a pony at the back or pigtails?’
You could also give her the choice of brushing her own hair if she likes. Again, this would make her feel more grown up and more interested in the idea of hair brushing (you could tell her your turn will come last – so you can brush out the tangles and have that hairstyle in place).
7. Cut hair short
If all else fails, you can always cut your toddlers hair short! Choose a style that looks nice even when it’s not tied up.
Hating hair brushes and getting hair tied up is a temporary phase. By the time her hair grows out she’ll be a whole lot more cooperatative and maybe even enthusiastic about having her hair done. In the meantime, NOTHING trumps your sanity.
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Do tangles have your daughter running from you with the brush in hand? There is a simpler way to brush your daughters hair, ease the pain and stress of brushing her hair.
Do you cringe at the thought of combing or brushing your little girls hair? There is an easier more pain free way to detangle your little girls hair getting the tangles out without all those tears.
I have two curly haired girls with thick hair. I can’t count the times they took off running when they saw me with brush in hand. Oh those dreaded tangles. I love doing my daughters hair making them look adorable. I was determined to find a way to ease the tension of combing, brushing, styling and getting the tangles out without the tears.
The Best Way to De-Tangle Childrens Hair
Teaching kids how they can get the tangles out of their dolls and animals hair is a great tool.
I got so tired of my daughters crying no matter how gentle I was. It seemed they cried to keep me in check making certain I wouldn’t run to quickly through a tangle. Bottom line is they were scared and that was the problem I knew I must address carefully and with a gentle hand.
Don’t get me wrong curly thick hair is hard to manage and it gets really tangled. All the more reason it needs brushed and combed on a regular basis.
If you let it go those tangles quickly turn into a matted mess that is impossible to remove without tears or damaging the hair.
There is no getting around it the tangles must be removed by brushing or combing. Using a detangler spray makes tangles melt away and combing easy.
Painless Hair De-tangling for Kids
The best way to get your child to agree to this process is to make her a part of the process.
Giving your daughter a doll, or stuffed animal with long hair and a brush for them to detangle works as a great deterrent for arguments and tears. Explain to your daughter how she will fix her baby or stuffies hair while you fix hers. Let her know she will be showing you the best way to do it and you will follow her lead taking her instructions.
Getting Her Involved Relieves the Stress and Focus on Fear
The Easy Method of Combing a Childs Hair
Let the child take charge and be involved to ease the stress.
Giving your child this power is an amazing tool as kids love taking charge. The magic is in the distraction. She will be so focused on combing her baby or animals hair plus instructing you that she will forget about what you’re doing. Carefully begin following the combing process as outlined below as your daughter concentrates on what she’s doing.
The only comments you should make are encouraging comments as to what a great job she’s doing with her detangling. Keep complimenting her engaging her in the task at hand all the while focusing on combing her hair. The focus on her work on her doll are stuffed animal will distract her from her own hair.
The Tangle Tamer for Kids
Detangler mist and sprays are priceless I have these useful tools on hand all the time, won’t be without them.
I learned very quickly the tangle mist, sprays, combs and brushes work.
How it Works
- Start at the ends of the hair by sweeping the hair around to the back with your hands.
- If hair is thick use a wide toothed comb or detangling brush.
- Mist the ends of the hair, begin combing from the absolute ends working your way up gradually.
- Spray more detangler on as you work your way up.
- Take your time and continue this process until you’ve made your way through the entire head of hair.
Enjoy a beautiful head of hair as you build your child’s confidence.
As she realizes the power in this task you may encourage her to fix babies hair, by braiding and or other styles.
This ritual will grow and evolve as you both build confidence. Combing your daughters hair will become a enjoyable bonding time you share together.
I have very unfond memories of growing up with long hair. There were the what seemed like ENDLESS hours of sitting and crying while my mom brushed out my hair tangles. Hair tangles suck.
Low and behold, I have a daughter. She is now 11 and has long hair. She’s gone short once, but has since grown her hair back out. Like me, she has thick hair which means the evil hair tangles have struck her as well.
We have tried a mix of everything over the years to cure the hair tangles, but only until recently have we found something that consistently works. And it’s a brush, and it works tears free meaning no crying when brushing hair. My hair dresser (who also has a girl) recommended this brush and coincidentally, the company who makes the brush, The Wet Brush offered us a free brush to try out. We were eager to see if it indeed cured the hair tangles without tears.
And the review? My daughter has been sick the last 24 hours. Her hair in a pony tail, not brushed for the last 2 days…. So what does she think of the wet brush?
She said it just brushes differently. It’s like she doesn’t feel her hair pulling, so definitely NO tears! I guess Wet Brush wasn’t kidding.
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• The Polytip ball on top of the bristles cushions the bristles’ contact with the scalp, ensuring smooth and gentle massage actions that stimulate circulation at the follicle which is a proven benefit for overall hair health
• The brush’s soft floating cushion compliments its super flexible bristles to provide even more flexibility and protection, making it more responsive to tangles and knots while providing a barrier between the brush and the scalp
• Longer bristles allow for more elasticity when brushing through any type of hair, making it easier to comb through knots and more comfortable than with smaller bristles; longer bristles shorten the detangling process
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- Taking Care of Baby: Baby Baths
- Taking Care of Baby: Cradle Cap
- Taking Care of Baby: Cutting Nails
Unfortunately for new parents, babies don’t come with instruction manuals. So when it comes to even the simplest tasks, like baths and nail trimming, some parents feel confused.
If you’re unsure about the baby grooming basics, here’s a handy guide to help make hygiene as easy as loving your baby.
Taking Care of Baby: Baby Baths
Until your baby’s umbilical cord falls off, which usually happens after the first week, don’t give any baths. Instead, give your baby a sponge wash, or вЂtop and tailвЂ™. Circumcised boys should not be bathed until the penis has totally healed. Here’s how:
- Lay your baby on a towel. If it is cold, you can take off one item of clothing at a time while you wash your baby.
- Gently wash your baby’s face with a lukewarm, wet washcloth. Don’t use soap.
- Add soap to the wet cloth to wash your baby’s body. Wash the diaper area last.
- Rinse your baby off with water and pat your baby dry.
- Cup your hand under warm water and gently pour it over your baby’s head to wet your baby’s hair.
- Put a small amount of baby shampoo on your baby’s hair. Gently rub in a circular motion, and then use a plastic cup or your hand to rinse off the shampoo.
Don’t use any lotions on your baby, and especially avoid adult products.В
Once the umbilical cord stump has fallen off, you can graduate to baths. Your baby doesn’t need a bath every day — two to three times a week should be fine.
Whether you bathe baby in a baby bath, the sink, or the bathtub is up to you. But considering that babies are slippery when wet, some parents feel better able to handle giving a bath in the smaller space of a baby bath or the sink.
The most important thing to remember about baths is to never leave your baby unattended. Babies can slide down and quickly become submerged in even a few inches of water. Using a baby bath seat is no assurance that your baby will be safe in the bathtub. Many seats can easily tip over. If you need to leave the room, wrap your baby in a towel and take them with you.
Here are tips for giving your baby a tub bath:
- Put the washcloth, soap, and shampoo — everything you’ll need for the bath — close by. That way, you don’t have to leave the room once your baby is in the tub. Also, lay out a diaper and clothes where you can easily reach them after the bath.
- Fill the tub with 2 to 3 inches of water. The bath should be warm but not hot. To be sure the water is the right temperature, test it first with your elbow. Make sure your water heater is set to no more than 120 degrees Fahrenheit so that you can’t accidentally scald your baby.
- Wash baby’s face gently with a wet washcloth. Use a wet cotton ball or washcloth (no soap) to clean your baby’s eyes and face. Wipe from the inside of each eye to the outside. Make sure you get any dried secretions out of the nose and eyes.
- Soap the washcloth (use a gentle, no-tears baby soap or wash) and clean your baby’s body from top to bottom and front to back. Make sure you clean inside all of the little folds. Wash the diaper area last.
- Fill a cup with water to wet baby’s hair. Put a small amount of baby shampoo on their head. Rub in a gentle circular motion. Keep your baby’s head tilted back so the shampoo doesn’t run into their eyes.
- Fill the cup again with clean water to rinse your baby’s hair and body.
- When lifting your baby out of the bath, support their bottom with one hand and the head and neck with the other. Make sure you have a firm hold so your baby doesn’t slide away.
- You don’t need to use lotion, but you can apply it after the bath if your babyвЂ™s skin is especially dry.
- After the bath, wrap your baby in a towel and gently pat them dry.
Taking Care of Baby: Cradle Cap
It’s common for babies to develop flaky, red patches of skin on their scalp called cradle cap. It’s not a big concern and is easy to treat. Here’s how:
- Before a bath, massage a little bit of petroleum jelly, olive oil, or baby oil into your baby’s scalp to loosen the dry skin.
- Gently rub the oil into your baby’s scalp with a soft brush or washcloth to release the flakes.
- Wash baby’s hair with a gentle baby shampoo.
Cradle cap should get better on its own. If it sticks around or spreads to baby’s face, neck, or other parts of the body, see your doctor. You may need a stronger prescription shampoo for your baby’s hair and a cortisone cream for your baby’s body.
Taking Care of Baby: Cutting Nails
Because your baby’s fingernails grow very quickly and babies can easily scratch themselves, file or cut the nails about twice a week. Your baby’s toenails don’t grow as quickly. You can probably get away with cutting them a couple of times a month. Just watch out for any jagged edges that you may need to trim.
Whether you opt for baby scissors, a baby nail clipper, or a nail file is up to you. Considering the tiny size of baby’s nails, decide which one you’re most comfortable using. Filing generally runs less of a risk that you’ll cut your baby’s skin. Never bite off your baby’s nails — you could give them an infection.
Here are some tips to make cutting nails easier:
- Cut nails after a bath, when they’re softer. Sometimes it helps to trim a baby’s nails when the baby is asleep and relaxed.
If you use scissors or a nail clipper, press the skin under the nail down so you can get to the nail more easily. It may help to have your partner hold the baby’s hand steady the first few times so you can concentrate on cutting.
- Trim theirВ fingernails following the natural curve of the nail. Cut toenails straight across.
- Use a nail file after clipping to smooth any jagged edges.
- If you accidentally nip baby’s skin with the scissors, apply gentle pressure with a tissue or piece of gauze. Use a tiny bit of ointment on the cut. Don’t put on a bandage because your baby could choke on it.
Dr Christopher Tolcher, MD, clinical assistant professor of pediatrics, USC School of Medicine; spokesman, American Academy of Pediatrics.
National Safety Council: “Baby-proofing your home.”
March of Dimes: “Giving your baby a bath.”
Consumer Product Safety Commission: “CPSC warns of drowning hazard with baby bath seats or rings.”
With a hundred and one things to do in the morning, every task that your child can do herself is a bonus, no matter how small. Getting your toddler to brush her own hair in the morning will mean you can get on with packing lunchboxes, making breakfast, changing baby, or perhaps sitting down for a few minutes with a cup of tea!
If that sounds desirable then here’s some child brushing hair tips to help get your little one brushing her own hair in no time.
* Let your child watch your brush your own hair then start by asking your toddler to help brush your hair. Go through the motions with her so that she has a general understanding of how to brush hair.
* Make sure that your toddler has access to a soft bristled comb when she brushes both yours and her own hair, as she may get a little enthusiastic which can prove painful with a hard-bristled comb.
Also soft bristled brushes do not usually have enough ‘strength’ to get out all the knots when being used by young children. In this sense a soft-bristled comb is preferable to a brush. Also choose a brush with a large, easy-to-grip handle, so that your toddler doesn’t keep dropping it.
* When your child has mastered brushing her own hair, move on to other things under your supervision, such as brushing her own teeth, dressing herself and putting her shoes on.
Soon you’ll have so much time in the morning; you won’t know what to do with yourself!
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Knots and tangles mean tears and trauma for many tots. A few easy tips can make the daily detangle an enjoyable time for kids and caregivers alike. These tips work wonders for both wet and dry hair and thus can be used in the morning and before bedtime.
Gather supplies in advance to ensure that the process goes quickly. You will need a wide toothed comb, Hot Tot’s Conditioning Detangler, and a hair clip.
Section the top half of your child’s hair off and pin it up with a hair clip. Small sections are best. Start with the hair closest to the neck.
Spray the hair with Hot Tot’s Conditioning Detangler. A little goes a long way. Begin combing. Start with the end of the strands and work towards the scalp. Use your free hand to hold the section of hair to minimize tugging and discomfort. Short strokes are best, as they will help prevent hair breakage.
As each piece is free of knots, add a bit more from the section in the clip. Repeat the process until your child’s tresses are tangle free.
Prevent future problems by keeping hair clean and using Hot Tot’s Conditioner daily. A loose braid can help prevent knots at night and make the morning routine a much easier.
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No tears when brushing hair. Make hair brushing time more enjoyable. Does your little one hate having their hair brushed? My daughter absolutely hates her hair brushed. She has long, thin hair that goes to her lower back. She loves it, calls it her Rapunzel hair, but when it comes time for brushing and styling her hair she would start crying. I don’t mean a few tears and a pout face, I mean sobbing crying with tears pouring out of her eyes, boogers everywhere and a squeal every time I got to a knot. It would make me feel so bad because I remember when I was younger and hated my hair brushed.
She would always ask if I could do her hair later on but I knew she meant never. Her hair is also always in her face and I don’t want it in a ponytail all the time. I love braiding and doing her hair. She loves the way it looks when I am done but hates when I am doing it. I knew I had to figure out a way to brush her hair without the anxiety and tears.
Of course, I asked friends and family what they do with their kids and no one really had a solution that worked. A lot of them seemed to have the same problem. One friend suggested letting her watch TV while I brushed her hair but she doesn’t really get sucked into shows so it didn’t really distract her enough. I tried quite a few things until I found what really worked.
6 Steps to No Tears
- When showering I use conditioner, I do not use a shampoo and conditioner that is combined these just don’t make her hair smooth. I also don’t use baby shampoo on her anymore but I do try to find ones that are gentle. Most important is to find a conditioner that really makes her hair smooth and silky feeling. My favorite is L’Oreal Paris Ever Pure. It is Sulfate free, vegan and it leaves both of our hair feeling skilly and shiny.
- Do not brush or comb their hair when it is wet. If I wait till her hair is dry the brush or comb goes through much easier. Also, hair breaks more easily when it is wet so this helps keep her hair looking healthy. You are going to want to use a brush that is soft but not to soft so it will get through the knots. I usually use a nylon brush like this one.
- Always use detangler. I have found some work better than others. This Barbie Detangler is our favorite and it smells so good.
- When brushing I start at the tips and work my way up. I hold the hair higher up so if there is a knot I can stop it from pulling on her scalp.
- This is the Most effective step – I brush her hair in the bathroom and fill the sink with water and then put her bath toys in there so she is distracted while I brush. This step truly helps the most she loves water and has so much fun playing in the water she doesn’t seem to care that I am brushing. She still says ow when she has a knot but there are no tears. If your child loves to play in the water this should really help.
- Always try to braid her hair before bed. This way when she is tossing and turning at night her hair doesn’t get knotted or matted. When I take her hair out in the morning there are maybe two knots in her hair but nothing too bad. This also leaves her hair wavy like it was curled so it looks like I took time to do it.
That is it, these are the easy five steps I take. I really wish I would have figured out number five earlier. She still asks for me to brush her hair later but once I fill up that sink she doesn’t mind. I really hope this helps you and your little ones during brush time. I would love to hear what you guys do to keep your little ones from hating to have their hairbrush. If you are looking for other ways to bond with your child check out my post on 13 ways to be a playful parent.
Curly, coily and Afro-textured hair can often get very dry and brittle if you don’t use the correct products on it. It’s important to keep your kid’s curly hair happy and healthy. Therefore, at Mother & Baby, we’ve made it our mission to find the best hair products for kids with curly hair.
These products are also great for helping you to style your tot’s hair with ease, which you’ll most definitely want if your little one is about to start school – cue the school run hairstyle stress!
Unfortunately, curly hair tends to dry out easily and, therefore, craves moisture. So, you’ll need to avoid washing out the natural oils. Likely, you will need to invest in hair products that add moisture to your kids’ hair in the form of oils, butter, proteins, and natural plant extracts. Ingredients like coconut, argan, or keratin are things you should be looking out for. These are the best natural oils to keep Type 3 or 4 hair healthy and curly.
Whilst you can test the leading hair care brands on your family’s hair, it’s important to make the most of those natural curls by looking at other companies that focus on Type 3 or 4 hair, too. They usually know best. When looking for some haircare for your curly-haired tot, it’s a good idea to go for a shampoo, conditioner and styling product that will be gentle on their delicate hair, as well as their skin.
We’ve rounded up some of the leading curly kid’s hair products on the market to help you find the right products for your family. Don’t worry – we’ve got you covered.
What kid doesn’t love water! Water spells fun. If your child loves bath time, yet seems horrified by or dreads hair wash time, you can thankfully rule out fear of water. Washing and styling your child’s hair should be therapeutic and fun; not dreaded. Let’s evaluate a few factors that will hopefully enable you to reach the root of the issue. Here are six tips for washing and styling your child’s natural hair without tears.
Evaluate and ask questions.
If your child can effectively provide you with feedback–Ask questions. Inquire about their likes and dislikes about the process. (If they are less verbal) maybe they can communicate through a drawing that will give you an idea as to what distresses them about hair wash time. Try to identify when hair wash time seems to go left with your child. Does it happen during prewash (while taking down a style. The tangles of dry hair can be painful.)? Does it happen during shampooing? While detangling wet hair? During styling? What time of day is your child’s wash time? Where do you wash your child’s hair (sink, tub, shower, etc.)? Are they comfortable? What is the position (upright, reclined, etc.)?
2. How well do you know your child’s hair?
Having knowledge of the type (hair pattern: wavy, straight, curly, coily), texture (fine, medium, thick), and porosity (absorption/retention of moisture: low, normal, high) will enable you to select beneficial products. Natural hair types of 4 (coily) shouldn’t be washed as often as the other hair types. Hair types that have a tighter curl pattern (coily) tend to need more moisture. Washing this hair type more than once a week can strip the hair of moisture. Washing this curl pattern once every week may still place the hair at risk for drying out. You should wash your child’s hair at least every 7-14 days. If your child’s hair seems naturally oily, then he/she may need more (once every week, twice a week…depends upon hair type). Even if you feel your child isn’t very active, the elements of perspiration, dirt, and product build-up are present. In colder months they probably can go a bit longer (2-3 weeks). Washing your child’s hair often is essential to keeping their hair and scalp healthy.
Testing the porosity: 1) Touch test: Take a strand of your child’s hair and run your fingers down the strand. If it is smooth (no roughness or bumps) your child has low porosity hair. This means that the hair cuticle is tight. It’s challenging for moisture to penetrate the cuticle. The products you use will seem to just sit on the hair and not be absorbed (will be able to feel the residue). If the strand feels slightly bumpy your child’s hair is normal porosity. This means the cuticle is slightly raised and moisture can enter. If you can feel roughness and bumpiness, then your child’s hair has a high porosity. This means the cuticle is highly raised, allowing moisture to swiftly be absorbed (and easily dry out).
2)Water test: Use an 8 oz. glass or small bowl and fill with water. Take a few strands from your child’s comb/brush and place it in a glass or bowl. Wait 4-5 minutes. If the strands sunk to the bottom, they are high porosity. If they floated, they are low porosity. If it’s between, they are normal.
Read the labels of products. Select products that are all-natural(gentle, sulfate/paraben free) for natural hair care, and children’s hair care. You may find that adult products may work better for your child, but stick to age-appropriate products. Adult products can be stripping for their young hair or not the healthiest for their scalp. Reading labels will enable you to better select a product that’s appropriate for your child’s hair. Olive, avocado, argan, and Jamaican black castor ingredients are better for high porosity hair. Coconut and shea ingredients are better for low porosity.
3. Using the right hair tools
Not only is it important to use the right hair products but it’s important to use the right hair tools for your child’s hair to reduce damage and discomfort. I often will use my fingers and then a wide-tooth comb to detangle my daughter’s hair. The wide-tooth comb is the most preferred because it can detangle and removed shed hair with minimal damage and pain. Using the right hair tools can make washing and styling your child’s natural hair easier.
4. Ready, Set, Protect!
For some kids, their fear is a result of shampoo getting in their eyes. It stings and is very uncomfortable for them. So do your best to prevent shampoo from entering their eyes, either by having a washcloth available so you can wipe the suds away or using a hair wash shield. There are a few products on the market made to protect eyes and ears during the hair washing process. You can often purchase them on Amazon, Walmart, and Target. For extra protection: Place cotton in ears and fit a thin washcloth over the eyes fitted snugly under the visor. If your child is over the age for visor, use a thick washcloth over eyes and cotton in ears. Fitted goggles may also help. Hopefully, with these tools in place, it will protect your child from shampoo eyes (a no tears shampoo is helpful as well).
5. Provide Comfort.
If you’re using your counter top for hair washing, be sure to pad the surface for comfort. A thick towel or kinder mat should help. The Shampoo Buddy will provide head/neck support like a salon basin.
Many parents prefer having an all-in-one session (hair/bath), choose a separate time. Try to designate a day for wash time. Wash time is lengthy. Your child may be tired from his/her day and this added process will cause them to be irritable and impatient.
Children may also have a fear of how water is being used on them. So, evaluate whether their fear is being triggered by water being poured down over their heads. Positioning is everything. If you choose to use a cup, be sure to recline your child instead of having them in an upright position.
6. Wash your hair with them
Try having a bath with your child and wash their hair while you do. Children always want to do what their mothers do, so you can even turn it into a plaything and let them play with you wet soapy hair, forming shapes, and just having a fun time.
7. Make it fun
Making wash day fun can be as simple as adding a lot of toys and dolls to the mix. They always want to play, so make it just like any other play activity, just a little bit more fun with songs (silly songs and their favorite nursery rhymes).
These toys, together with the singing, acts as a distraction and pulls their mind away from the washing process in most cases and makes the hair wash process more enjoyable for some.
Washing and styling your child’s natural hair does not have to be a pain. I hope these tips helped to make hair washing and styling easier for you and your child. Remain encouraging, so they will learn to trust the process.
Until Next Time,
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