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The heroic Cuban poet Jose Marti once said, “A selfish man is a thief.” How true, as selfish people can rob you of parking spaces, pleasurable evenings out and even a peaceful night’s sleep. Unlike thieves, however, selfish people often don’t break any laws, even though it would be nice to file a complaint and turn the matter over to police. Instead, you’ll have to develop the skills to deal with the entitled and self-centered individuals in your life without resorting to the very behaviors you dislike in them.
“We teach other people how to treat us,” notes human behavior expert Patrick Wanis, Ph.D., on his personal website. When you’re dealing with people who are selfish, make certain to speak up for yourself as soon as the person begins to step on your toes. For example, if your spoiled nephew, who is 22 years old but acts 15, decides that stopping by your house every day to raid your refrigerator after work is preferable to buying his own groceries, tell him you need him to stop by the store and buy milk and sandwich meat on his way over tomorrow. If you don’t allow people to behave selfishly, they can’t.
If you’ve given a selfish and spoiled person the opportunity to change her behavior, and she chooses not to, walk away from the situation — figuratively, if not literally. This is easier when you’re dealing with a friend or acquaintance, but it can work with family members and coworkers, as well. For example, if your spoiled sister-in-law never bothers to write thank-you notes for the gifts you give her and her family, stop spending your hard-earned money on presents. When a colleague wants to waste your time yet again whining about how difficult a project is, excuse yourself and leave the room.
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well..its commonly faced problems by most of the organizations and primarily it rests upon the examples set by the top management.
HR should not in my view, directly confront them but first assess the situation as why this is happening and the frequency of the same.
I remember one situation where the functional heads did not mark their attendance and when it was brought to the notice of the MD he started marking his attendance as well n others followed the suit. 😀
Therefore these unwarranted behaviours are the reflections of the attitude of functional heads and one must deal with tact..
Maybe one needs to come out the rules & regulations pertaining to these situations with the approval of MD/CEO..
If the problem still persists, then deal with it softly first..am sure it would help..
Please refer to the article herewith:
Have a great day.. 😀
Handling Difficult Behaviours
People with negative emotions have a much greater chance of experiencing negative stress and distress and are more likely to experience dissatisfaction with their lives and jobs. Some of the results of negativity include increased absenteeism, use of medical benefits and, in many cases, can result in lowered productivity and happiness. By learning how to cope with negativity (both from self and others), individuals are more likely to find their life and work more satisfying and productive.
If an organization has negative customer service employees, these employees are likely to lose customers for the company. The loss of one customer a day for a year who typically spends $50 per week would cost a company nearly 1/2 million dollars a year. This is only the financial loss. What about the loss of emotional energy, self-confidence, and morale that was wasted in the process?
A difficult employee is someone who does not fully meet the performance standards of his or her job, as needed by the organization, and especially by the manager. A difficult employee is not necessarily a bad person, but someone whose level of performance creates a problem.
In fact, you may have been a problem employee at one time or another. Many if not most, employees, including managers, have times when they are not doing something as well as their bosses need or expect. Remember, when this situation occurs, a potential problem employee is not necessarily a bad person.
Your goal is to take the problem out if the employee, not to take out the employee. Termination is the quickest way to solve an immediate performance problem. Turnover, especially when done in the abrupt manner, is extremely costly. Here are some of the major costs to an organization from this kind of turnover.
Time, money to recruit & hire new employee
Re-training to bring new employee up-to-speed
Salary and benefit cost already paid out to terminated employee
Unemployment compensation & severance pay
Damage to morale of remaining employees
Possible wrongful termination lawsuit
Difficult employees come in varying degrees, from relatively simple to very difficult. The following is a description of the most common types or degrees of difficult employees: New employee Inconsistent employee
Unbalanced employee Mediocre employee
Marginal employee Intolerable employee
As a manager, the longer you wait to address a performance problem, the harder it will be to deal with it constructively and the worse the problem becomes. Employees do not start out as marginal or intolerable performers. Most often, they grow into these more severe problem employees when little corrective effort was made at the time performance was inconsistent, unbalanced or becoming mediocre.
In the 1980s, wrongful termination lawsuits became a fairly common practice, with employers losing many more cases than they won. The 1990s have reaffirmed the highly competitive economic climate we live in. In today’s business world, in the public sector as in the private sector, managers, more than ever, need to effectively manage the performance of their people.
Recognizing the important management responsibility, and understanding what constitutes a problem or difficult employee, are requisites for successfully resolving performance problems and achieving positive results.
REACTING TO DIFFICULT TYPES
When dealing with people, be ready to react to the actions of different personalities. Some examples:
Dealing with the aggressor, who is intimidating, hostile and loves to threaten.
What to do: Listen to everything the person has to say. Avoid arguments and be formal, calling the person by name. Be concise and clear with your reactions.
Dealing with the underminer, who takes pride in criticism and is sarcastic and devious.
What to do: Focus on the issues and don’t acknowledge sarcasm. Don’t overreact.
Dealing with the unresponsive person, who is difficult to talk to and never reveals his or her ideas.
What to do: Ask open-ended questions and learn to be silent-waiting for the person to say something. Be patient and friendly.
Dealing with the egotist, who knows it all and feels and acts superior.
What to do: Make sure you know the facts. Agree when possible and ask questions and listen. Disagree only when you know you’re right.
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Kids running you ragged? It’s time to rethink discipline.
What Is Spoiled?
No one wants to raise a spoiled kid. But would you know one if you had one? By grandparents’ definition, all of today’s children — with their Disney videos, Baby Gap wardrobe, and Gymboree classes — could be considered spoiled. Also, few parents have the iron hand of previous generations, and for the most part that’s good. But sometimes in the effort to be kinder, gentler parents, moms and dads let their sweet little darlings get the upper hand. Some parents put up with truly awful behavior.
Of course, all toddlers interrupt, whine, and throw tantrums, says Rex Forehand, PhD, coauthor of Parenting the Strong-Willed Child (McGraw-Hill, 1996). Those behaviors are normal ways for kids to assert their independence. What’s important, he notes, is how parents react. Spoiling occurs when kids are predominantly in charge in the family. The parents have minimal authority, and kids continually get their own way by acting up. In other words, your child isn’t spoiled because he whines; he’s spoiled if whining consistently works to get him what he wants.
Granted, all toddlers have bratty and less-bratty days, says child psychologist Sal Severe, PhD, author of How to Behave So Your Child Will Too (Viking, 2002). And all parents have days when they cave in instead of standing by the house rules. But when whining, nagging, and misbehaving to get their way becomes a constant, repetitive behavior, you have a problem, says Severe.
To figure out where you stand, ask yourself the following questions:
- Do you usually give up in exhaustion rather than enforce limits during a typical day?
- Do you let your child regularly butt in and take over adult conversations?
- Do you keep buying toys in an effort to avoid tantrums and keep your child happy — even though your house is already overflowing?
- Do you avoid taking him to the supermarket because you can’t handle another embarrassing scene?
If you answered yes to more than a couple of these questions, you may be looking at a spoiled child in the making.
It’s important to address spoiling now because you’re setting up patterns that will stay with your family for years to come. If your 20-month-old has never heard the word no, for instance, how will she handle hearing it when she’s 13 and wants to get her navel pierced?
Spoiled kids are those who never had a chance to handle disappointment early on, says Claire Lerner, a child development specialist at Washington, D.C.-based Zero to Three. The lessons they learn as toddlers — delaying gratification, acting within limits — will carry through to adulthood.
Why Spoiling Happens
Too much sugar, too many toys, and not enough rules are some of the main ingredients of spoiling. But why do we do it? Here are some of the most common causes.
1. You feel guilty. Today’s family dynamics often set the stage for spoiling, says Gail Gross, a child development specialist in Houston. In families where both parents work, or in single-parent homes, the feeling is, “I have so little time with my child, I want it to be fun.” Guilt-ridden parents tend to overindulge and underdiscipline their kids, she adds, which makes home life anything but pleasant.
2. You don’t have the energy to be consistent. One day you refuse to let your child have pudding for breakfast, despite the tantrum; the next day (when you’ve been up all night with the baby and are exhausted), you think “Oh, it won’t kill him,” and give in. Such behavior teaches your child that rules aren’t for real.
3. You offer too much help. When a toddler is frustrated, many parents want to jump in and help right away, says Lerner. (Rushed, stressed-out parents do the same thing.) Kids get spoiled because they start relying on Mom or Dad for everything — getting dressed, finishing a puzzle, fetching a juice box. Your goal is to encourage your child to do things for himself, so he can say, “I can handle this” — not do it for him, notes Lerner.
4. You want to give him everything you didn’t have. Of course, buying stuff for your kids is fun, especially when they move beyond the playing-with-the-boxes phase. But giving kids too much can backfire, leading them to always be looking for the next new thing instead of being satisfied with what they have.
5. You believe he’s the ultimate cutup. We’ve all seen parents who smile as their kids talk back, push other children, or knock over breakable objects. These parents are clueless about how to stop the behavior, so they rationalize it as being cute and funny, points out Severe. It’s easier to do that than to face the problem. Other people, however, are much less charmed. And kids who aren’t given limits have a difficult time respecting other people and their belongings.
Unspoiling Your Child
The good news is that now is a relatively easy time to reverse the spoiling. For starters, experts agree that parents should set consistent limits; toddlers who have clear boundaries feel secure and are less likely to act out with bratty behavior.
It doesn’t really matter what the rules are; it’s how consistently you apply them, says Severe. With a toddler, it’s best to stick with just three or four nonnegotiatble rules, like “No hitting,” “Don’t interrupt adults,” and “Pick up your toys,” because too many orders can overwhelm kids and adults.
If your child throws a tantrum when he doesn’t get his way, try to ignore the wailing until it’s over. Once your child learns that he won’t get the desired attention, he’ll be less likely to repeat it. Redirecting is another great ploy. Try diverting your toddler’s attention by getting him interested in something else, like his favorite toy.
As difficult as it may be, try not to look at tantrums as a sign of being a bad parent, but as a chance to nip spoiling in the bud, says Lerner. Be firm and clear: “I love you and I’m sorry you’re mad, but I’m not giving in and you can’t hit or throw things when you don’t get your way.” It also helps to acknowledge his feelings of frustration. Saying something like, “I know it’s really hard to stop playing but it’s time to go home,” validates his feelings and can make him more cooperative.
It may be tough to resist spoiling now, but the payoff will be huge. Your child will learn how to manage feelings, cooperate, follow rules, and have self-control. These lessons will be beneficial throughout your child’s life.
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A relationship is supposed to be between mature adults who care about one another’s needs. However, some relationships are between one mature adult and one overgrown child who only cares about him or herself. Are you in love with a spoiled brat? Welp, chances are if you’re reading this, you are, because, well, why else would you have come here? But just in case you’re wondering:
1. They expect the world in exchange for a finger-painting.
You work all day, you clean the house, you cook dinner, you do laundry, you give head, and not one “thank you.” He just thinks he deserves it because he’s cute and he exists. They’re basically what most Republicans assume welfare users are like.
2. They don’t bother helping out because you’re not the boss of them.
You ask them to clean the house while you’re at work because your parents are visiting. A spoiled brat might say “yes” but you come home to a messy house anyway because you’re not their Dad. And even their Dad is glad to be rid of them because they’re the f*cking worst.
3. They throw tantrums.
If they kick, scream and spit, guess what? You’re dating a spoiled brat. What’s wrong with you?
4. Everything is your fault. Everything. Ever.
Did they get fired from their job? It’s your fault. Did they stub their toe on the kitchen table? It’s your fault for leaving that kitchen table where it always is everyday. If they step on a LEGO they left out, it’s your fault for not putting it away. The dinosaurs went extinct because you never bothered protecting them. Everything in the world is your fault because you’re a bad person and don’t understand how perfect they are. If you could just be better then they wouldn’t have these problems.
5. Nothing is ever his fault. Ever.
He is perfect and adorable. You are inferior and you owe him.
6. They think they can have candy for dinner.
Because their moms never said no because they never shut the f*ck up.
7. They name-call.
If you don’t feel like having sex or cleaning their socks or babysitting them when they’re drunk, your name changes from “Jen” to “Butthead.”
8. They’re not potty trained.
If he doesn’t put the seat down, he’s a brat — he clearly doesn’t give a sh*it whether you literally fall into the toilet. Or they just soil themselves and expect you to do the laundry.
9. They take but never give.
Because they don’t have to. They deserve everything. Stop whining. They showed up; isn’t that enough?
10. You can never get a word in edgewise.
Because everything he says is more important than anything you could ever possibly contribute to a conversation.
11. They expect you to change everything about who you are.
He knows better than you do. Just listen. Why won’t you just listen?
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12. He cheats. Consistently.
If you would just be there for him, he wouldn’t have to bang 16 other people. Someone let Elin Nordegren know.
13. He whines.
He wouldn’t have to if you’d just do what he wants when he wants it. What’s wrong with you? You’re the worst.
14. He never wants to go to sleep.
So he just screams and cries and gets fussy when he’s tired and that becomes your problem. Here’s hoping you have Benadryl or a hammer to knock him out.
15. His favorite word is “no.”
But only if he’s saying it.
Amy Morin, LCSW, is the Editor-in-Chief of Verywell Mind. She’s also a psychotherapist, international bestselling author and host of the The Verywell Mind Podcast.
Ann-Louise T. Lockhart, PsyD, ABPP, is a board-certified pediatric psychologist, parent coach, author, speaker, and owner of A New Day Pediatric Psychology, PLLC.
Almost every parent has experienced a few cringe-worthy moments where a child’s ungrateful attitude becomes evident. Whether your child says, “Is that all I’m getting for my birthday?” after opening a pile of presents, or you hear, “I never get to do anything fun” as you’re driving home from a fun-filled day at the park, the lack of gratitude can be frustrating.
While it’s normal for all kids to have moments where their sense of entitlement becomes evident if you are like most parents you don’t want your child’s ungrateful attitude to become permanent. But instilling a grateful heart is about more than teaching your child to say “yes please” and “thank you.”
Being grateful comes from within and is more of a mindset than an action.
If your child is ungrateful more often than you’d like, the good news is, there are things you can do. Here are some discipline strategies that can help your child learn to be a bit more thankful.
Point out Ungratefulness
When you hear your child say or do something that shows an ungrateful attitude, point it out. Be specific without being insulting. For instance, avoid saying something like, “Stop being a brat.” Instead, say something like, “Complaining about not getting more presents is ungrateful. Your friends and family were kind enough to buy you a gift when they didn’t have to buy you anything.”
Consistently pointing out incidents that portray an ungrateful attitude will help your child see what behavior constitutes entitlement. Just make sure your comments are aimed at raising awareness, not shaming your child.
You also can head off ungrateful behavior by talking to your child before a birthday party or holiday where gifts are given. Discuss the fact that gifts cost money and that people often spend a lot of time thinking about what to buy. Remind them that the gift giver is usually excited to see them open the gift.
So, responding with an ungrateful attitude could be really hurtful. Getting them to see the money and effort someone else puts into a gift helps them appreciate it a little more. And, it is more likely they will respond with a more grateful heart.
Kids need help in understanding how their behavior affects other people. You can do that by teaching your child empathy. Talk to them about how their words or behaviors impact others. Say things like, “When you say you never get to do anything fun, it hurts my feelings. I try to make sure we do plenty of fun things together, like go to the park or play games.”
You also can use situations in books and movies to get them to consider how others might be feeling. For instance, when you are reading books or watching TV together, pause and ask how certain characters might feel. Ask questions like, “When that boy said those mean things, how do you think his brother felt?” Help your child identify and label feeling words.
Showering your child with endless material items and countless indulgences will spoil her. Kids cannot be grateful for what they have unless they’re given an opportunity to delay gratification.
For instance, it is OK to say no when your kids ask for a new toy or an expensive gadget. Instead, tell them they need to wait until their birthday. Or, you could teach them how to save up their allowance for something they want.
Another way to delay gratification is to link privileges, like screen time and playdates, to good behavior. However, never confuse a bribe with a reward. Bribing your child will only fuel an ungrateful attitude. Saying, “Here’s a balloon, now be good,” is a bribe. A reward, on the other hand, is about saying, “You were really well behaved today. I am really proud of you. You earned a balloon.”
You also may want to implement a reward system. This type of plan helps children feel good about their accomplishments. They also learn to appreciate their privileges much more when they have actually earned them.
There are many steps you can take to foster gratitude in children. One of the most important steps is to be a good role model of a grateful attitude. Talk regularly about all the things you have to be grateful for each day.
Express gratitude for things that can easily be taken for granted, like spending time together, seeing a beautiful sunset, or finding a great parking spot.
Also, strive to establish family habits that foster gratitude. Create a gratitude jar where everyone writes down one thing they’re grateful for every day. Then, on a specific date, like New Year’s, read through all the slips of paper.
You also can make it a habit to talk about gratitude each day at bedtime or around the dinner table. Ask everyone, “What was the best part of your day today?” Then, discuss why you are grateful for the good things in your day.
Focus on Helping Others
Make kindness a family habit. Take your children with you when you help an elderly neighbor or give them an opportunity to help you make a meal for someone who needs a helping hand.
Get your child involved in volunteer work too. Teach your kids that they are never too young to help other people. Helping others in need will decrease your child’s self-centered outlook. It also will help foster compassion, which decreases the likelihood that your child will be ungrateful.
Talk about being kind often. Make it a daily habit to ask, “What is something kind you did for someone today?” or, “How did you help make the world better today?” When kids perform acts of kindness, they’ll be more likely to focus on what they can give, rather than what they think they deserve.
A Word From Verywell
Keep in mind that it’s normal for kids to be a bit egocentric at times. It’s also normal to at times behave as the world revolves around them. So, don’t get discouraged. But, over time, an ungrateful attitude should be getting better, not worse. When you see your child act entitled, take a step back and think about what steps you can take to foster a more grateful spirit.
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It can be frustrating dealing with a spoiled adult who is all give and no take. He acts entitled, expects others to do things for him and is not used to hearing the word “no.” He is self-centered and does as he pleases, regardless of who he affects. Dealing with this kind of behavior, especially on a regular basis, can take a toll on your stress level and even your self-esteem. Learn to stand your ground and let him know that you won’t tolerate certain behaviors.
Imagine life through her eyes. Consider how she may have grown up to better understand why she acts the way she does, suggests business and communications consultants Brian Salter and Naomi Langford-Wood in “Dealing With Difficult People in a Week: Teach Yourself.” If her parents did everything for her as a child, she may expect others to do the same for her in her adult life. Her attitude of entitlement can also be a result of insecurity and attempts to protect her self-esteem, says marriage and family therapist Neil Rosenthal in response to a question on HeartRelationships.com. Keep in mind that she takes any negative criticism as a personal attack and rejects having to face the reality that she’s not always right.
Acknowledge his feelings. You don’t have to always agree with the spoiled adult, but validate his feelings to show that you understand and have heard his point of view. An insecure, spoiled adult will be on the defense and will be less likely to listen to what you are saying if he feels attacked. Show some sympathy and understanding to put him at ease, Rosenthal says. Although you are acknowledging his feelings, don’t apologize if you are not to blame.
Establish boundaries and refuse to enable her behavior. While it’s important to sympathize with a spoiled adult, it’s also important not to make excuses for her. Tell her what you will and will not tolerate, says psychotherapist Beverly Engel in “AARP The Nice Girl Syndrome: Stop Being Manipulated and Abused — and Start Standing Up for Yourself.” Keep your voice and body language assertive, but don’t get into an argument. Omit any personal blame or criticism from the conversation. Make it clear that you do not agree with her and try to leave it at that. Arguing may be a waste of time.
Stress that he must take responsibility for his own feelings. He may play the victim when you refuse to accomodate his spoiled behavior, says psychologist John B. Arden in “Stop Spoiling That Man!: Turn Your Needy Guy Into an Equal, Loving Partner.” After you have acknowledged his feelings, make it clear that you do not feel sorry for him. Tell him in an assertive, but respectful, tone that you are not to blame for how he deals with his own emotions. Walk out of the room if he refuses to listen or continues to yell. This will show him that his attempts to blame you for his feelings do not work with you.
“Spoiling doesn’t prepare your children for anything but heartache later in life.” – Laying Down the Law
A spoiled child normally grows to become a spoiled adult. This will affect them in maintaining a steady job, keeping friendships, having a spouse, and experiencing a healthy life. Spoiled people are selfish and self-centered. But, how do you know if they are spoiled? How can you help them see how destructive their behaviors are to others?
Here are 6 behaviors that create spoiled people (and how to avoid them):
1. Giving into everything.
Spoiled people have never known boundaries. Parents and friends cater to their every whim. These are the children who, with every tantrum, get exactly what they want. As adults, they have louder and more volatile tempers that implement the same behavior. “I want what I want when I want it.” Because they are used to getting what they want, they will torment anyone who doesn’t give into their demands. They border on mental illness because they can’t see reality from the delusional state of desires.
You can’t return to their childhood. You can, however, establish boundaries of what you will tolerate. The word “No” can anger these individuals. But, being consistent in your pursuit to help them recognize their behavior is important (and vital for their mental health). They might not stick around. If they do, know you have accomplished a beautiful task!
2. Reinforcing negative behavior.
Spoiled people trampled on anyone who gets in their way. They take what they want. They have zero concept that the world doesn’t revolve around them. They will make their way into an office and step on anything that prevents them from moving up the ladder of success. They will also use people and relationships quickly and then dump them without a single ounce of regret.
In order to disarm their behavior, you must use positive forces. For every negative action, you will need to establish several positive ones. So if you have witnessed the selfish behavior of someone who has been nasty to another to get what they want, you may want to let them know that the behavior can (and will be) returned in the same manner. Nothing upsets the spoiled person more than believing they will get punished. They don’t know what it is like to set limitations.
3. Picking fights.
A spoiled person will create drama to get attention. They will pick fights to deviate from what they want and then stab you from behind. It’s manipulation at its finest. They will devalue your opinion and turn around and utilize it for themselves. They truly don’t care how they get what they are after. They are determined to get it to all cost.
Pick your fights wisely. Not every argument needs to become a battle of wits to feed the ego. You stand your ground. Keep your boundaries. The spoiled person will soon forget what you were trying to accomplish. They are off on their next tantrum.
4. Destroying your image through manipulation.
People who are spoiled are narcissistic. They will manipulate through abuse, degrading, and control. They will make you feel horrible for not participating in the things that they want. They feed off your weaknesses or insecurities to get you to do things for them. These people don’t care how they hurt you as long as they get what they are after.
A spoiled person doesn’t accept that they have any weaknesses. It’s not about pinpointing those insecurities to them, but about turning the tables so they can see that things hurt when you are vicious. They have their weaknesses. Stay humble and use humility as your armor when dealing with these master manipulators. Stand your ground. Show them forgiveness but also discipline. Do not let them abuse you with their anger.
5. Rewarding poor actions.
Spoiled people brag about how they got that new job or the new girlfriend. They will create these stories with Oscar-winning talent. They want the attention even though it’s toxic. Rewarding poor actions and behavior encourages the self-centered and spoiled person to continue doing these things. It’s giving them permission to get what they want regardless of the consequences.
Create incentives for good behavior. Just like a parent does with a child, you must reward positive actions. Become a positive role model in this person’s life. You don’t need to brag about the things you do, but allow them to witness compassion, goodwill, and empathy through your examples. Let them know that the act of receiving is just as beautiful as giving.
6. Lack of consideration.
Spoiled people have no consideration for the feelings of others. They are aggressive in behavior. They will bulldoze over anything to get attention. Their actions are sneaky and premeditated. These folks plot and scheme to con anyone into doing anything. The famous Cuban poet Jose Marti said, “A selfish man is a thief.” He will steal your heart, your money and your livelihood if you let them.
We have been taught to satisfy our needs however we can. The spoiled person takes it on a completely different level. You do not have to satisfy their needs. You don’t have to participate in everything they want. Once again, boundaries are important. Show this person love. Most spoiled people are missing structure in their lives. They didn’t have set rules growing up. Everything was supplied to them. Now as adults, they don’t understand why the world has to be so structured.
Spoiled, selfish people are everywhere. You can deal with them in a healthy manner that won’t suck you into their drama. You don’t have to entertain them and give into everything. You can use your awareness and knowing to teach them little by little what it is to be a functional adult with healthy behaviors.
How to deal with their bratty behavior
As previously mentioned raising children is a very difficult task, and there’s definitely not a perfect way of doing it. But even though you love them unconditionally, it’s still your job to make sure they get the best education and manners.
While dealing with a spoiled child is definitely not easy and it will take a lot of time, it’s beneficial for you both in the long run. Firstly, and very important, they need to understand that no one likes a spoiled child, so their attitude is not good. Focus on positive reinforcements instead of negatives, and always be gentle with them.
It’s important to set rules that your child has to follow with no exception, even if they don’t like it. If they don’t follow the rules, there will be consequences, and try not to give in. But just as it is recommended to punish their bad behavior, do not forget to acknowledge the good behavior as well, and reward them when they do something good. But do not give them materialistic goods, and focus on love and spending quality time with them.
Moreover, try not to let your emotions control your actions. Your child needs to know that you have the authority, and they have to listen to you. Learn to say no when needed, even if it’s not that easy.
And try not to be overly restrictive and overprotective with your child, allow them to make their own mistakes, because this is how they’ll learn. I know that spoiled children are not easy to deal with, but with a little effort and patience, you can teach them to behave nicely.