How to live in the moment

How to live in the moment

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How to live in the moment

As a former firefighter, Griff understands that we live in a stressful world, and now as a qualified meditation expert who holds popular seminars teaching us how to love ourselves and others, he wants to help you nourish your soul. Beyond that, he’s also a nutritional and emotional guide and strongly urges everyone to seek their optimal best.

We frequently get MindEasy users asking us, well almost everything…and we love it! So we’ll do our best to answer your questions. Feel free to contact us if you want to ask Griff… anything!

Dear Griff,

I’m finding it really hard to focus on the ‘here and now’ and it feels like my mind is constantly wondering off. How can I live more in the moment?
Max, Toronto, Canada

Being present takes a lot of special attention, it’s so easy to start thinking about everything and anything from, “What’s for dinner?”, “What am I doing next?” to “Did I feed the dog?”
It’s not a bad thing to allow yourself time to think, but if we allow ourselves to be overwhelmed by thoughts and lists of things to do etc… we can miss out on beautiful moments that are happening right now, right in front of you.

From personal experiences, I’ve found myself missing out on time with my family because I was thinking about work too much. I may have been physically present, but my mind was elsewhere, and do I regret that? Yes, of course. Ultimately we are what our memories dictate.

How to live in the moment

How to Be Present in the Moment

So the obvious answer I’m going to give for this question is; Meditation.
Really, the whole act of meditation is to practice and train your mind to live in the moment.

We spend a lot of our lives waiting for a moment in the distant future when our lives will become exciting enough or interesting enough to captivate us into the present moment.

This might be a holiday, a restaurant or a big night out with friends we have planned. We get the idea that these moments are landmarks where we will be present, and nothing else will matter. Some time’s this is true. Sometimes even when we are in these moments, they get spoiled by our worries of the past and future.

But if we practise meditation, we don’t need these moments of heightened experience to anchor us to the present. We can do it whenever and wherever we choose.

However, this practice will take time, but you’ll be able to find plenty of free courses on MindEasy to help you on your way and in the meanwhile here are a few more tips.

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Take a Calm Moment & Make a List

One way of making yourself live in the moment is to start the day off with a ‘calm moment,’ a short period of time when you purposefully tell yourself that you will stay focused on the here and now. Try some deep breathing exercises – the motion of feeling an inhale through the nose and then a long exhale via the mouth, can really snap you back to the present.

Also, take this time to write down your ‘to do list’. It’s often very helpful to physically write down things-to-do so that your mind isn’t racing around. Also, set a time for each different activity, this way, you won’t constantly be thinking when you’ll be doing XYZ because you’ve got an allotted time slot.

Worry or stress is also a major trigger for a racing mind, leaving us unfocused and distracted. Try meditation to help control these negative feelings. Often meditating will help you recognise unwanted feelings and give you techniques to help manage them.

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Put Down the Screen & Say Yes

Living in the moment can often mean that you need to put down your phone, iPad, or electrical device to limit distraction. I was recently at my nephew’s performance, and it seemed like so many parents were filming and watching the play through their phone’s screen rather than with their eyes. When you’re mentally and physically present, you’ll feel and experience more.

Why not try saying ‘yes’ more? So often our first response, when asked to do something unscheduled, is met with hesitation. Seeing the opportunity to enjoy yourself and ‘carpe diem’ (seize the day), and being spontaneous is certainly one way to feel like you’re living in the moment. Sometimes it’s worth throwing caution to the wind to experience new things.

Finally, one major way to live more in the more moment is to feel gratitude – to the world around you, your friends or relatives and most importantly, to yourself. When you’re appreciative of everything – from small things like the feeling of sun on your face, or the sound of the sea to larger things like your career, your loved ones – you’ll immediately start enjoying the present.

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How to live in the moment

Teaching others strategies to learn how to live in the moment is an easy task. Actually choosing to live in the moment is much harder. In fact, I have a propensity to race around like a chicken with my head cut off. I often over-commit myself.

Do you ever do that?

Whether it’s at school, sports or church functions, I see the gaps and barrel forward to pitch in. I say yes, Yes, YES. Before I know it the calendar is overloaded and I am overwhelmed. Instead of living in the moment, I’m barely surviving.

So I do the next logical thing (or so I think) and set the alarm earlier, stay up later and double up tasks. I wear my productivity like a badge of honor. Thinking proudly, look how much I’ve done today as if it somehow increases my value.

Usually, I continue this neck breaking pace until my joy slips out the back door without me noticing. I grow impatient and snappy with the people I love.

I promise myself… next week will be different, but it isn’t.

Do you make those same promises?

In order to live in the moment, I have to put 4 simple behaviors into practice…

  1. Focus thoughts
  2. Practice gratitude
  3. Do less
  4. Single-tasking

When I start to get side tracked from my goal to live in the moment, I’m trading joy for productivity and efficiency. Nobody ever looks back and says I’m glad I spent so much time being productive. Right?

While we wait, let’s talk about what we can do to live in the moment now with these 4 new habits.

Are you ready to reclaim some joy through the practice of applying truth to your life? Me, too!

Let’s dive in and take a closer look.

Strategy #1 Focus Thoughts on Now

There are 3 different time frames our thoughts can settle on. Thinking about the past, present or future.

Which timeframe does your mind settle on?

My default is to settle on the future. Do you remember the GPS navigation devices in your car before we used our phones? Once you take a wrong turn it says “re-calibrating”. That is exactly what my brain does when my mental checklist has gone off track.

“Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”

Jesus clearly tells us not to worry about tomorrow (future), today (present) has enough trouble of its own.

Dwelling on the past (more on that here) is another area our minds can settle. Thoughts about the past can be focused on old hurts and fears. But God’s Word directs us to settling our mind on the present.

“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past.”

Thinking about past hurts or worries about the future, will rob us of joy and keep us from living in the moment.

Live in the moment practice…

Focus on the moment. Take in everything through your senses. Think about the conversation you’re having. Breathe in the smells and take mental pictures of your surroundings. Literally, live in the moment.

Strategy #2 Practice Gratitude

We have the ability to re-train our brains to find the good. Science reveals practicing gratitude increases our happiness level by 25% (check out 5 short/fun videos on gratitude here).

“…give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.”

1 Thessalonians 5:18

God knew our joy would be magnified as we count our blessings no matter what our circumstances. Firmly fix your eyes on the good despite your circumstances.

So how does practicing gratitude help us live in the moment?

Live in the moment practice…

As you scan your environment, looking for the good, thank God for each little thing in the moment… the present moment. Whether everything around you is chaotic or peaceful, practice gratitude.

The next way to live in the moment is my favorite…

Strategy #3 Do Less

That’s right, do less. Give yourself permission to do less… slow down!

“Better one handful with tranquility than two handfuls with toil and chasing after the wind.”

My husband and I visited Italy years ago. Everything literally shut down in the afternoon for a siesta. All businesses just close up and restaurants stop serving to take a break from the hustle. Can you imagine?

How would you spend your afternoon siesta?

Living in the moment practice…

Doing less allows for time to live in the moment. Schedule blank slots in your day.

Ready for the final way to live in the moment?

Strategy #4 Stop Multi-Tasking

You heard me right (I really need to listen up here, too), stop multi-tasking!

Do you tend to do several activities at once? If your a mom, the answer is probably yes!

Multi-tasking is a ‘living in the moment’ killer.

“Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the LORD, not for human masters,”

Living in the moment practice…

Adjust your focus to one task at a time. That’s not to say you should never multi-task, but give a single task your attention. See how your experience changes. Limit distractions so you can live in the moment.

Living in the Moment Wrap Up

Living in the moment while in the midst of an overpacked schedule requires saying, no. Just say no to thoughts that lead you way from the present moment. Choose to find the good in each task or interaction. Minimize your to-do list…do less! An finally, simply do one thing at a time when you can.

These four practices on living in the moment will greatly improve your ability to find joy in the day to day tasks.

Which strategy is the toughest for you? Why?

The concept of mindfulness and living in the moment has spread through our collective awareness in society. It sounds like a blissful, utopian practice, yet beyond the pale for most of us mere mortals. In our modern age, we are so concerned with the mundane drudgery of daily life between work, traffic, childcare, Netflix, relationships and arguments, social media and the like. We forget about the bigger picture, to stop and breathe, assess our thoughts, emotions and surroundings. Moreover, the preoccupations we all face in life have detrimental effects on our perception, relationships, reactivity and our physical, psychological, and emotional health.

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Live in the moment

Every day we create our own simulated realities. We busy ourselves with living within the deep thought of the past or future. Many of us constantly update our social media platforms with inane memes or perfectly created selfies of little consequence. Furthermore, we attend our organized jobs, but little do we take note of what is in front of us.

Living in the moment originates as a Buddhist principle of mindfulness, that posits the concept of self as an illusion and that there is no true, fixed or unchangeable self. Rather, this philosophy contends that human suffering stems from false or illusory delusions of ourselves, life, and others.

Meditative and mindful thought and practice is a central belief to attain a higher perception, end human anguish and suffering, banish egotism and achieve enlightenment. You are attempting to be present, sense your surroundings and environment and practice self-reflection, self-understanding to better regulate and analyze your beliefs. It also enables an enhanced awareness of your individual motivations and permits informed and unhindered empathy towards yourself and others.

This is not to say that you should not reflect on the past or think about the future. Uniquely, strike a balance and reflect on past events to gain insight, learn from mistakes or failed approaches, and give thought to positive feelings and experiences. Remember that nothing can be done to alter our pasts, and it is counterproductive to dwell and obsess. Therefore, we must utilize the tools at hand and lessons learned to make the best of the present.

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Concept in practice

Equally important, mindfulness or seizing the moment may seem like a changeable and abstract concept. But, there are certain tactics and mental exercises you may take on to begin this personal, psychological, and intellectual journey:

1) Take a deep breath, especially if you feel stressed and overwhelmed. Quiet your mind and adjust yourself to your surroundings, the sounds, and the sensations in your immediate vicinity. Consider removing yourself from the environment that is intensifying matters. Turn off your phone and other stimulating devices or sounds, simply relax into the moment.

2) Acknowledge and accept your feelings, attempt not to dwell, and ponder on your issues and on the past, or they will consume and prevent you from moving forward. Moreover, let them go and seek justifiable solutions to your problems.

3) Forgive yourself and others for past wrongdoings.

4) Try to experience, appreciate and savor the present moment and where you are, and reflect on the positive aspects, no matter how bleak or disguised they may be.

5) Try yoga as a way of grounding yourself. Focus on your body, the flow of each inhalation and exhalation of breath. Focus on the relaxation and the slow and planned flow in the stretching postures provide. You can also try other activities you enjoy, such as gardening, swimming or dancing. If, however, you find body pain or arthritic pain holds you back from engaging in joyful movement, choosing low-impact movements, starting out small and easily, or taking a joint supplement such as JointFuel360 to relieve pain and inflammation, may help get you get moving with more ease and less agony.

6) Keeping a journal or diary is a terrific way to express and identify how we feel, how we respond and reflections on what else could have been done or conducted differently to achieve a more favorable result. It also helps one with moving on and providing clarity.

7) Set aside a given period of time each day to practice mindfulness. Consider planning your day and visualize your goals to increase productivity and purpose.

8) Practice positive thinking and search your mind for things to be grateful.

9) Consider taking a walk or hike outside and enjoying nature. Walking, especially an excursion outdoors, can help relieve stress and anxiety. It refocuses the mind on the ambience surrounding you, and is beneficial to improving fitness, bone and cardiovascular health.

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Benefits of seizing the day

As we previously discussed, living in the moment, attempting to achieve self-realization or self-actualization and taking the time to accept what is, let go of what has already happened, and taking steps for the future, has value for our psychological, emotional and physical health:

  • It relieves stress, anxiety, and depression. If one becomes too focused on their problems and unpleasant aspects of life, they can be quickly overwhelmed by the swamp of their thoughts. Therefore, letting go of one’s ego, and allowing the mind to acknowledge, interpret and identify how we feel and what we truly value, helps to let go of bad experiences and perceive what is real and important in life.
  • Likewise, mindfulness improves our relationships by removing distraction and inner turmoil, allowing one to appreciate and be present with those we love. It also improves perceptions of ourselves and lets go of negative feelings such as shame, guilt, and failure.

Relieving stress and the very act of slow purposeful breathing, can benefit health by lowering heart rate, blood pressure and the stress response brought about in the body characterized by the release of stress hormones called catecholamines, which if heightened chronically, can be detrimental to health. Too, meditative mindfulness may also have benefits for weight loss and smoking cessation. Moreover, people who are happier, more emotionally fulfilled and less stressed, are less likely to engage in activities or lifestyle patterns that compromise health such as drug abuse, lack of exercises and poor eating habits.

Seizing the day and living in and for the moment can help us achieve enlightenment, calm stress and negative feelings, helps us appreciate the now, and leads to better mental and physical health. So, take some time to simply feel the air enter and leave your lungs, feel the sun on your face and let go of the things you are unable to change, and let happiness and comfort filter through.

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How to Live in the Moment

Is your day consumed with regret from the past or fear of the future? Do you ever have times in your life when you say to yourself, “Whew, where did the years go…”? I have.

Maybe it’s because I’m getting older. Maybe it’s because I have more responsibilities. Or maybe it’s because I–like most people–can struggle with being present in the present.

What does that mean?

Wherever you are…be all there”. That’s an easy way of saying it, but a hard concept to put into practice–at times. On the other hand, however, it’s quite possible that there are some of you that do not struggle with this at all. In fact, for some of you, it’s hard to relate to not being present in the present. It could be that your personality is more bent to making the most of the time. It could be that you have truly learned to discipline yourself not to try and plan too much for the future, and so you don’t waste brain cells or energy figuring and framing. It could also be that you have accepted the past as the past, and something to learn from and to not let it burden you down in the moment. There are myriad other reasons why a person might not struggle with being present in the present, but suffice it to say that there are probably more of us who–at varying times in our lives–do. And maybe to those who do not at this moment, you will find this article helpful in the future.

Is there any encouragement for those of us who do–at times–struggle with being present in the present? Glory…there is!

“Therefore be careful how you walk, not as unwise men but as wise, making the most of your time, because the days are evil.”
Ephesians 5:15-16

In essence, one step to being more present in the present is to have clarity on the present. And so the apostle Paul instructs to:

  1. Be careful how you walk…
    • Careful simply means to process information by giving thought to or directing one’s attention to something (BDAG, 179). In other words, Paul is saying consider, weigh, process, and then proceed on your journey, your decision, or your day. The idea is that as you live, consider what you’re doing, i.e. be present!
      • Thus, living is not careless, but considerate. It takes discipline to be considerate, but practically it’s worth our investment of time.
  2. Not as unwise, but wise…
    • Unwise means, one who lacks the power of proper discernment (BDAG, 144). In other words, being unwise is like being blind–to social cues, to self-awareness, to one’s own path, etc. Wise here means more than just the ability to know or understanding one’s own direction, but also to do it with God in mind. In other words, the wise person that Paul is referring to is one who recognizes that this life is really lived on a spiritual battlefield. “For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the powers, against the world forces of this darkness, against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places.” Ephesians 6:12
      • Thus, to live carefully and wise is to acknowledge that there are evil forces in this world that seek our harm. They want to distract those who are following Christ with every form of temptation possible. The wise person recognizes this and carefully considers how he walks in this life.
  3. Making the most of your time…
    • To make the most of your time means to redeem and to redeem means to exchange. In other words, one who is focused on redeeming their time is one who considers Paul’s previous words in Ephesians 4:22-24: “…that, in reference to your former manner of life, you lay aside the old self, which is being corrupted in accordance with the lusts of deceit, and that you be renewed in the spirit of your mind, and put on the new self, which in the likeness of God has been created in righteousness and holiness of the truth.”
      • Thus, one way of being present in the present is to exchange the lesser for the greater in life. To choose not to satisfy one’s own passions, desires, or selfish ambitions, but rather to choose the best for someone else, to invest in their life, in their betterment, and in their success. Don’t sacrifice the best on the altar of the acceptable.
  4. Because the days are evil…
    • Essential Paul is saying that the culture they were in (as well as the culture that we are in) is characterized by being morally or socially worthless (BDAG, 851). In other words, the reason to be present in the present, to exchange the lesser for the greater, to make the most of the time is directly related to the evil that permeates the culture and its ability to distract from God’s best.
    • In other words, Paul goes on to write immediately after verse 16 of chapter 5, “So then do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is.” In essence, not being present in the present, not focusing on the exchange of bad for good, and not making the most of our time distracts us from understanding the Lord’s will.
    • To put it another way, not being present in the present is directly related to not being careful how we walk, to not being wise as to the spiritual nature of life, and therefore not redeeming the time. As this happens, how can one be surprised how muddled the Lord’s will seems to be clear in their life. And as a result, they are not present in the present. Life can take on much regret as the years pass by without due consideration to the way one redeems the time.
      • Thus, being present in the present is stimulated by being careful how you walk, being spiritually aware and wise to the evil that permeates your culture through temptations, and exchanging the lesser things for the greatest things.

It’s important to point out that God works all things for good, and He can and will use your wasted and shameful acts and years for good. And so, start now…today. Consider your day now as one where you will be known by and have the experience of being careful how you walk, as one who is wise and who redeems the time.

May we together be present in the present by being careful and wise as we redeem our time! Glory!

We all want to be living in the moment or living in the now, but what does that actually mean? If we don’t know what it means to be living in the moment, it generally makes it difficult to actually live in the moment. How can you know what to do to live in the moment if you don’t completely understand what it means to experience the present moment or to be living in the moment.

Our thoughts broadly fall into two main categories: psychological thoughts and functional thoughts. Psychological thoughts are the ones that decide whether something is “good” or “bad”, and these are the thoughts that create our suffering. For simplicity, our psychological thoughts are nearly all of our thoughts that have opposites. This is because if a thought has an opposite, then we will almost certainly consider one side to be “good” and its opposite to be “bad”. For example, if we think it is “good” to be rich, funny, skinny, and intelligent, then we would consider it “bad” to be poor, boring, overweight, and unintelligent. Our minds tend to be filled with the same psychological thoughts repeating themselves over and over again.

Functional thoughts are mostly answers to the question “How do I do that?” Functional thoughts determine how to build something, how to get somewhere, or how to solve a particular problem at work. Purely functional thoughts don’t create suffering, only psychological thoughts do. However, most of the time, our functional thoughts are tainted by psychological thoughts. For example, if we think about our tasks for the day (the to-do list), this would be a functional thought. However, these thoughts are often layered with thoughts like “it would be bad if I don’t get everything done” or “it is bad that I haven’t completed as many tasks as I wanted to”. These thoughts would then create our unwanted emotions.

In any moment when we have no psychological thoughts, or we don’t believe our psychological thoughts, what remains is the experience of the present moment. Whenever our psychological thoughts aren’t creating our experience of life, we get to directly experience whatever is happening in a given moment. The direct experience of any moment is the experience of the present moment.

In general, we rarely get to directly experience whatever is happening in a given moment because our experience is constantly being created by our thoughts of what was “good” or “bad” in the past, what is “good” or “bad” right now, or what may be “good” or “bad” in the future.

We don’t just experience meeting a person, we experience our thoughts about how that person is “attractive” or “ugly”, “respectful” or “disrespectful”, “smart” or “stupid”. We don’t just experience our tasks at work, we experience our thoughts about how our work is “perfect” or “not good enough”, how “boring” or “fun” the rest of the day will be, and whether our boss will be happy or unhappy with our work. These thoughts are what create our wide array of emotions.

When we don’t have or believe the thoughts that create our unwanted emotions, none of these emotions are experienced, and we get to experience the present moment (we get to be living in the moment).

Regardless of how “bad” our circumstances may seem, when we experience the present moment (when we are present), we are free of all insecurities, anger, sadness, doubts, fears, anxieties, stress, depression, judgment, hatred, internal conflict, drama, arguments, jealousy, impatience, frustration, worries, and irritation. When we are present, what remains is an unconditional peace, freedom, contentment, and happiness. This peace is everything we have ever wanted. It is complete satisfaction.

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How to live in the moment

Do you ever feel as though things can be too overwhelming for you and you want to know how to live in the moment? Do you focus on your past and future? Maybe you worry about what’s to come, or things that may have happened to you previously?

Being present can be very hard to keep up, however, once you have learned how to live in the present, it can become much easier to stick with. Living in the now is something that we are told to do quite a bit, and for good reason. Let’s take a look at why it’s important that you should be living in the now.

Why Is It Important To Be Present?

Being present can be a very useful skill to have, as you can be truly focused on living in the now and not be constantly worrying about the future or the past. When you can stay present, you can start to live your life in a positive and exciting way.

Some of the reasons as to why it’s important to live in the moment are:

  • Less worrying and overthinking. Being present can help you to focus on your life as of now, and not focusing on the past or worrying about the future.
  • You can appreciate the world a little more. When you are more present, you can really see the world more in-depth as you won’t be analyzing or worrying about other things that are not currently happening.
  • You can find out what might be bothering you very easily. Living in the present can make it much easier to recognize when you are not feeling quite right.
  • You may start to feel more relaxed. Because you are living in the now, any fidgeting or stresses can die down, helping you to have a clear view of you and your life and start feeling more relaxed.

How To Live In The Moment

If you are able to live in the now you can start to work on yourself and your life, with no other distractions. Stresses and worries may also calm down a little because you will be focusing on what is happening in the present and not what could or has happened. Keep reading to discover how to live in the moment today with 5 simple steps.

5 Ways To Live In The Present

Now that you know the benefits of living in the now; here are my 5 ways to live in the present.

1. Stop Worrying About The Future

If you can become aware of your thinking, which should be much easier to do when living in the present, then this can really benefit you. Recognize when you are worrying and what you are worried about, and if it hasn’t happened yet, know that you can’t control the future but you can control the present.

Focus on what you are doing right now and bring yourself back to the present. Once you can recognize when you are worried about your future and learn to stop, you will be one step closer to living in the now. When you are truly present, the future will not matter as you should be focusing on where you are and what you are doing.

2. Fully Appreciate The Moments Of Today

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If you can stay present, you can focus on the world around you a lot easier. Try and fully appreciate every moment of your day. Think about things around you that you possibly would not normally focus on, such as:

  • Sounds
  • Smells
  • Sights
  • Your emotions

When you start appreciating everything around you, you can start to live in the now.

If you are thinking about other things or worrying, then you are not truly present. When you are appreciating each moment, when they happen, you may not have time to even think about the future or the past, or any stresses you have, as you will be too busy appreciating your day.

3. Love Your Job

It may seem odd, but if you think about how much time you spend at work, this should start to make sense. When we hate our jobs and dread going in, wishing for the weekend, we are wasting most of our week. We spend a lot of time working, so being able to work somewhere you love, and doing what you love doing, is perfect to help you live in the now.

If you love your job, you are more likely to not want to wish away the week, and more likely to focus on having a positive day. If you really dislike your job, maybe try and find something you can do that you will enjoy. Either way, being able to love each day while you are working will really help you to learn how to stay present.

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4. Redirect Your Mind When It Wanders

It is very common for our minds to wander and think about other things. If you want to stay present, your mind will also need to stay present.

Try and recognize when your mind starts to wander and then refocus back to the present moment. Don’t think of it as a mistake or a failure, instead, accept that you escaped the present moment for a little bit, and then carry on with your day and carry on with being in the now.

When our mind wanders it can often be because we are worrying about something or we are over thinking, so if you can learn to refocus your mind, this will really help you to learn how to live in the moment.

5. Practice Gratitude

Practicing gratitude is not only great for living a positive and fulfilling life, but it can also be great to help us stay present. When we are thinking or even speaking and writing down what we are thankful for that day, we are focusing on our present emotions.

Throughout the day, try and pick up on things that you are thankful for, such as it being sunny, or not having any traffic to drive through in the morning; these little moments will help to remind you of what you have to be grateful for. They will also help you to focus on the present moment and live in the now.

The Law Of Attraction can also be a great tool to use to help you to live in the moment, to find out what is holding you back, take our quiz.

In this modern age, most people are not actually present. Either they’re dwelling in past or thinking about the future. And some are doing this consciously even. The major question here is how to live in the moment and stop worrying about all this? Let’s get into this.

Most of the time we’re stuck in the past or thinking of the future. Sometimes you’re doing something and you’re not consciously aware of things you’re doing because your mind is not present at the present moment. Suddenly something happens and then you come back to the present moment. It sometimes happens with me too.

But let me tell you one thing this not to live in the moment and constantly worrying are a real matter of concern. This is time-consuming and also the root of the cause of suffering. But there are some ways out to know better and they’ll help you answer:

Let’s know ways to live in the moment and stop worrying?

Focus on your breathing

Start feeling your Aliveness

You know that you’re alive; you know that you’re still breathing, organs are completely working. First of all, you should be thankful for this. Because when you’re breathing right now, somebody else is taking his last breath at that time. So have gratitude for this.

To live in the moment and stop worrying; Sit at a calm place, rather than thinking about the outside, start thinking about the inside. Start observing what’s going on inside. Observe how your heart is beating, feel the sound of that. Feel your breathing. Start observing the movement of your stomach when you’re breathing. Observe the movement of your body. These things can trick your mind to be in the present moment and allow you to be live in the present moment.

The Touch

We don’t usually aware of this thing. We touch many objects the whole day but we don’t usually aware of it.

Sit somewhere and allow yourself to feel everything you touch. Feel that your buttocks are touching the surface. Hold something in your hand and touch that feel that. How your skin is touching that object. How you’re feeling while touching the object. This thing is very basic but this is one of the best methods to live in the present moment.

Chanting Mantras

Mantra can be a single word, a sentence of a few words. When I’m saying Mantra that doesn’t mean something religious. Or related to particular regions. Here I mean is being spiritual.

It’s like in Hinduism there are many Mantras but “OM” is the root of all mantras.

In Buddhism, monks chant the name of Buddha again and again in monastery.

In Islam there’s La ilaha illallahLa ilaha illallah. That means there’s one God name Allah.

So apart from religious and spiritual significant Mantra plays an important role in meditation. And it is helpful to live in the present moment.

Awareness of silence around

When everything is quiet around us we usually dive into our thoughts. And those thoughts are mostly about our past or our future.

Try to observe closely. Your surroundings can never be quiet. There can be the sound of birds, breeze, and sound from the lane. Even if you’re stuck in some soundproof place if you’ll observe deeply there is the sound of your heartbeat. Sound of your breath. So be aware of these all things when you’re getting into your worrying thoughts. This will definitely help to get back into the present moment and to live in that present moment.

Train your mind to live in the moment

You’ve only one life. Try to train your mind to be in the present moment. To live in this present moment. Make plans, write up your dreams, ambitions, make your bucket list.

Focus on daily happenings closely. Focus on what you’re saying; what you’re doing and what you’re listening to. Be thankful for the moment. It’s not tough once you’ll start doing it. You’ll eventually stop worrying and you’ll be in the present moment. Just try for something better.

How to live in the moment

How to Live for the Moment in Addiction Recovery

Entering treatment can be a daunting experience. It’s always frightening stepping into the unknown. Life without drugs or alcohol for an addicted individual is just that: unknown territory. For many addicts, it’s not just the future but a haunting past filled with addiction-fueled behaviors making them uncertain of their path in addiction recovery. Whatever the reason, fear of treatment can be basically eliminated with the right outlook. You may have heard the phrase “live for the moment” as it relates to addiction treatment. This refers to the outlook that a recovering individual must embrace to get over fears that come with beginning a recovery journey.

The Importance of the Present

Many philosophers and influential people have been quoted for their beliefs on how important the present moment is. Namely and most largely quoted is the face and founder of Buddhism, Gautama Buddha, known for saying, “The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, worry about the future, or anticipate troubles, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly”. To live for the moment simply means not to worry about the past or future so that one can be successful in the here and now. If you think about it, nothing is more important than each present moment, because we cannot change the past and we cannot determine the future. Worrying about things that we cannot change only gives us added stress that has no positive purpose in life.

Battling with the Past and Future

Some believe that ignoring the past is a way to repeat past mistakes, but there is a difference between recognizing them and dwelling on them constantly. Additionally, many believe that their future will not be as bright if they do not focus on it. However, there is a difference between apathy for the future and an unhealthy obsession with it.

Treatment may be a daunting experience for you because you cannot imagine your life without drugs or alcohol as a staple priority. Thinking about who you are now and where you will be 5 years from now, that person might be fuzzy since it’s a whole new person. The point of treatment is not to get sober in one day. It takes many days of living life for the moment to the best of your ability to get to where you want to be.

An analogy akin to “living life for the moment” involves getting into the mindset of a person who just lost a foot race. If you dwell on the past, you may not ever race again for fear of repeated failure. If you worry about winning in the future, you never opt to run today’s race. Living in the present gives individuals in addiction recovery a timeframe they can handle. Saying, “I won’t drink today” is easier than saying, “I won’t drink for the rest of my life”. Dealing with present moment gives the recovering person the strength they need to get through the only day that counts; today.

Tips on how to Live for the Moment

Mindfulness: Practicing being mindful is theoretically the same as living in the present. Instead of letting your mind race about other things when you are doing something, focus on the task at hand. This will ensure that you are really in that moment.

Meditation: This quest for inner peace gives you the tools to be aware of the present moment. This state helps you to focus on what is happening right then; breathing, clearing the mind of outside factors and focusing on what is going on in your life that needs addressing at that time. Spending time reflecting inward to the self-promotes awareness that is hard to accomplish elsewhere.

Awareness: Notice the little things going on around you. Ask yourself questions about what you see to promote awareness. Drugs and alcohol rob you of your conscious because they are an escape from emotions and reality. Sobriety will give you the opportunity to recognize current emotions and situations you would not have noticed while using.

Live for the Moment in Addiction Recovery

No matter which methods you choose to practice how to live in the moment, integrating a present state of mind will help you advance in addiction recovery. It will give you the confidence to take on each new day as a challenge to defeat and help you be determined to tackle every moment. Always remember, there is help out there it only takes the present moment to make that decision.

Lost love and failed employment from my past life continue to haunt me in Asia. Did I make the right choice to work abroad?

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The goal before I left Gotham to live and work in Asia was to live in the present. People with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) tend to suffer from a fireworks display of thoughts; thrilling, beautiful, and fleeting, and usually diverting our attention from the task at hand. I have been reading Psalms and trying so hard to focus on the here and now. I tell myself that just because I can’t see the future — 15 years from now seems so far away, as does six months — doesn’t mean I’m doomed to a life of uncertainty.

It was in the spirit of trying to be in the here and now that a weekend trip to Wal-Mart felt like an adventure. It involved braving the public transportation in a city where the infrastructure consists of cracked, flooded, and crowded roads. I never imagined that so many live things could fit on one road at one time — chickens, cats, dogs, and an amazing number of bicyclists who looked like they were carrying just about everything — family, furniture, food — all balanced on a single bike.

Yet here in this backwater industrial Chinese city, loneliness and fear have caught up to me. My Adderall supply is running low, everyone speaks another language, and it has been a great challenge just to get the SIM-card phone to work and figure out the string of numbers before dialing the area code to whatever country is out there. There are many days when I long for a place where everyone speaks English, where I can push around a cart at a Target, and where I am understood. Over the past few days, whenever I hit a kink in travel in this small city in China, I have realized that I am living like someone half my age, which is now physically exhausting.

My 35th birthday looms in the air like a coming storm. That day is exactly a month from now, and I am panicked. It hit me last night that it will be almost a year to the day that the ex-boyfriend and I celebrated my birthday together. He had taken a whole day off of work, driven four hours just to walk through Central Park and celebrate over a steak dinner, and somewhere between the hardships of travel, the bumpy traffic-tangled road to Wal-Mart, and the memory of last year’s birthday, I cracked and burst into tears. This tiny city has tropical weather and is cursed with mosquitoes, which descended upon me and feasted on me. I spent a sleepless night wishing I were living a normal life and scratching frantically at the chain of red welts all over my body.

After crying myself to sleep, I awoke to a phone call from the father. He said that maybe after finishing up this gig, I should come back home and settle someplace. He could help with the mortgage for an apartment — not the penthouse but some apartment around New York, maybe Jersey. I would have my own place, a mortgage, a home. He could not help or promise that I’d find a Prince Charming — that is fate, we agree — but maybe a home of my own would at least give me a sense — if not a superficial sense — of being a real adult.

“That is really kind of you,” I said as I swallowed the lump in my throat. “But I’m an adult, and I really should figure this out myself.”

Even though I have a supportive family and a career that I enjoy, I have so much trouble living happily in the moment. Does my ADHD contribute to my insecurities? Is that why I’m always looking for the next big thing?

Earlier today I did a 25 km bike ride in beautiful sunshine with my children aged 10 and 11. It was in aid of the local hospice and as my husband was off doing a tortuous bike ride in the Welsh hills I agreed to take them.

How to live in the momentAs we reached the finish, I was so proud of them completing it without any wingeing or moaning that I wished Mike was with me to share the moment.

Then I questioned myself, why wasn’t it enough that we had this great moment, did I really need to share it with someone else or post it on Facebook for it to be complete?

Sharing moments is great but appreciating the moment as it happens is surely more important. It’s almost as if, if we haven’t got a record of a passing moment, or shared it with others, then we haven’t really experienced it.

It started me thinking about how this feeling, that a moment is not enough, could affect our lives. It means we have/are:

  • A constant feeling that we should be doing more or being more. Which leaves us believing we’re not enough
  • Comparititis – the need to compare your moments with other people, especially on social media
  • An inability to relax. As there’s a constant feeling that there’s more to be done
  • Not being present when we’re eating. Instead feeling the need to catch up online, read emails or do work. So we don’t taste and savor our food, isn’t it enough just to focus on eating?
  • Missing out on really experiencing the great moments in our lives. Because we’re worrying about whether we’ve captured it, or if it’s quite right or if we’re appreciating it enough
  • A lack of purpose in our lives. As we don’t recognize all we have experienced and achieved already. Which leads to a feeling of not yet having done enough and not being enough

What if we were to really live in the present and accept that every moment, however brief, is enough exactly how it is?

Then we would be free to, as the saying goes, “Stop And Smell The Roses”. The definition of which, I found out, means – stop stressing out, overthinking or complaining, put your troubles in perspective and enjoy your short time on earth.

So what would be the benefits of living in the moment?

  • We have more clarity. We’re able to focus clearly on what is happening and not be distracted. Clarity is what we must have in order to acheive our goals in life and business success.
  • We feel relaxed. As we’re not ruminating on the past or worrying about the future we will gain a calmness from being in the moment
  • Our emotions are more positive. As we aren’t focused as much on the negatives of the past or the future, we can fully enjoy the positives of the moment

I love this quote:

“The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, worry about the future, or anticipate troubles, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly.

To achieve this we need to start to work towards being more present in the moment:

#1. Start small

Begin by making small changes to your routine, such as being mindful for 3 mins a day, or switching off your phone during your lunch break (take a short lunch break, not at your desk, if you don’t already!)

#2. Learn how to bring your mind back when it wanders

The practice of mindfulness is all about redirecting your mind back from your thoughts to the present moment or whatever you’re focusing on. Success isn’t about clearing your mind but being able to draw it back when it wanders, which it will. Focusing on your breathing or eating or a sensation in your body is helpful.

#3. Notice the small things

This can be as simple as a child’s smile, listening to music or the taste of ice cream

#4. Realise your thoughts aren’t real

The world we create from our thoughts especially when we’re worrying about the future isn’t real, even though it seems to be. So instead of creating lots of what if scenarios, try and focus on what actually is

#5. Stop multitasking

Not only does this mean your not doing all the tasks effectively but it stops you really focusing on each one

#6. Be kind to others

Giving compliments to others or acts of kindness will refocus your attention on what’s happening now.

#7. Be grateful

Appreciating the things in your life which you love and enjoy helps you keep in the moment.

I’m still thinking about putting a photo of my kids with their medals on Facebook, but maybe instead I should accept that the moment has past and focus on what’s happening now instead.

Let me know your thoughts and ideas on how to stay in the moment.

When my therapist asked, “How do you feel?” I had no idea how to gauge my feelings in real time. Learning to notice my thoughts, emotions, and bodily sensations has helped me live in the moment for the first time — and enjoy it.

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Before my ADHD diagnosis last year, living in the moment was an unknown concept to me. In the journey following my diagnosis, though, I became aware of how NOT present I was.

For much of my life, my mind has been distracted by everything except what is happening in the here and now. Favorite themes include dreaming about infinite possibilities, reflecting on memories, and chasing after the many ideas ricocheting inside my head.

In therapy, I was asked regularly, “How do you feel?” “Uh…” I’d say, my response hanging awkwardly in the air. My therapist’s question confused me because I honestly had no idea how to gauge my feelings in real time.

I think of my heart, mind, and body as cats. Sometimes they’re all super excited, playfully pouncing here and there in pursuit of prey. During those times, I feel invincible — like anything is possible.

But when my mind is laser-focused on researching some esoteric topic, or my heart so enamored with a movie character that I can’t stop repeatedly watching all of their scenes, my “cats” frustrate me. My ADHD frustrates me.

Getting stuck like that makes my finger start rapidly tapping on the computer mouse. Tapping, angrily tapping, because the cats aren’t cooperating. They’re doing their own thing and I’ve been sitting still for three straight hours, way overdue for a bathroom break, and held hostage by a mind or heart stubbornly refusing to stop so my body can get comfortable.

In the Moment

A little over a year ago, as I was describing these maddening situations, my therapist suggested I try noticing the present moment. She said it would help me and she continued to suggest this technique throughout the next several months.

At first, I thought, Pshh, what is she talking about? It sounded impossible to me. Like trying to get the cats to perform a tap dance routine in sync – ludicrous!

But the more I thought about it, the more it started to make sense.

Then one day I finally got it. I’m a singer, and singing requires the mind, body, and heart to come together. Without cooperation from those independent parts, I don’t know what words and notes I’m singing, and I can’t sing them at the right time or express them with feeling. It’s not easy.

Singing is the hardest thing I do. Before my ADHD diagnosis, singing practice was really tough. I had to use sheer will to goad myself to stop procrastinating and get to work. By the time my practice began, I felt anxious and tense, which is not very conducive to free and expressive singing.

I decided I needed a kinder, more effective way to practice. This meant somehow coaxing those wandering cats — my heart’s desire to watch cute dog videos, my mind’s worries about all those unfinished tasks, and my body’s reluctance to get up and move — into a singing-friendly state, where all the parts of me were present and ready to work together.

Taming the ADHD Cats

A year of experimenting led me to my current warm-up for singing: rocking out to my favorite pop songs, counting to 10 for each stretch, and noticing how tense or not tense my neck, shoulders, and other muscles feel.

Being aware of little changes like that from day to day has been a remarkable vehicle for transformation. It goes something like this: “Oh, my hips are tight, maybe I’ll take a walk!” The next day I might notice a lack of tension in my neck. “Hurrah, my neck hasn’t felt tense for three days now!

I’m finally starting to see why my therapist made all the fuss about being in the present. It may not seem significant, but it is. Gaining awareness of what’s going on inside myself is helpful and pretty cool, too!

In 2019 I received a wonderful gift: the ability to appreciate the present moment. Of course, remembering to do it in the first place and taking the time to take stock and notice how I’m feeling puts my sometimes-unreliable memory and patience to the test. But, hey, checking in for a split second even three times a day is a win because that’s three little “presents” I wouldn’t have otherwise noticed!

The best part is this: Each time I live in the present, I get to discover a different combination of emotions, thoughts, and sensations — sometimes chaotic, sometimes difficult, sometimes beautiful.

I find my ever-changing experience of the present moment exciting. It makes me the unique and dynamic person that I am — someone capable of making profound art and just as awesome for existing.

Emily Chen enjoys singing classical compositions and says singing helps her channel her sometimes excess energy in a meaningful way. Here is Emily singing “Moonlight’s Watermelon” composed by Richard Hundley.

How to live in the moment

How to Live in the Moment

  • Post author:Wil Dieck
  • Post published: December 19, 2020
  • Post category:mindful awareness

If you are like most people, it’s hard for you to live in the moment. But, when you aren’t taking the time to be fully aware of the present moment, it’s impossible to enjoy life to the fullest.

While most people are constantly living in the past or the future, life can only be lived here and now, in the present. If your mind is preoccupied with multiple things, none of which is happening right now, you will never be able to get the most from your life. .

Why is it so Hard to Live in the Moment?

Your mind is very active and is always moving. Instead of being present, your mind is constantly jumping from one thing to another, visiting the past, the future, and thinking about pure fantasy.

While it’s good to prepare for the future and learn from the past, when you learn to live in the moment, you will accomplish a lot more with the time you have here on earth. You’ll also have less stress and become calmer and more tranquil.

Simple ways to live in the moment

1. Let go of worry.

Why do we worry? We worry when we look with dread into the future. No matter how hard you try, you cannot do anything in the future. By keeping your thoughts on your current activity, what you are doing right now, you can make a better future. Leave the future to the future.

2. Let go of regret.

Where does all regret live? In the past. When you live in the present moment, there is no regret. Stop thinking about the past. The past is over and exists only in your memory. If you made a few mistakes, learn from them and move on.

3. Turn off electronic leashes, at least for a little while.

Today we have cell phones, computers, iPods, and gaming systems that distract us from the living in the present moment. While you do need to stay in touch, learn to turn these devices off for a certain amount of time, let’s say 30 minutes, each day. Live in the moment, enjoy the real world around you rather than living in an imaginary world or in social media. Being here and now will focus your mind on what’s important and real.

  1. Focus on one thing at a time.

There is a myth that we can multitask. Experts will tell you that this just doesn’t work very well. In fact, current research is overwhelmingly in favor of single-tasking.

Instead, do one task at a time. Focus on the one thing that will make a difference right now. You’ll find you perform the task faster and at a much higher level.

When you are multitasking you cannot live in the present moment because you are moving from one thing to another. Let go of multitasking. You’ll get more done while working in the present.

  1. Eliminate unnecessary items.

Marie Kondo has gone around the world spreading her methods of organizing and letting go of unnecessary possessions. Let’s face it, having too much stuff is more of a burden than an advantage. When you own too many things, you clutter up both your physical environment and your mind.

Take an inventory of the things you own. If you don’t need it, consider giving it away or selling it.

6. Let go of grudges

You can’t live in the present moment if you’re holding a grudge from the past. Even worse, the person you’re holding a grudge against is probably not even being affected. The only one suffering is you!

Let go of grudges. They only block you from enjoying the current moment.

7. Don’t rush

When working on a task, allow yourself to go slowly and deliberately. When you rush, you make yourself stressed and anxious. Instead, give yourself the time you need to work on or to enjoy the current activity. Remember to work on only one task at a time and give it your full attention.

8. Listen with intent.

Most people pay little if no attention to another person speaking. If they listen at all, it is with the intent of breaking in as soon as possible to make their point.

Instead, listen with the intent of understanding the other person as they speak to you. Give them your full attention. Clarify things you don’t understand. Do your best to fully participate in the conversation and get the most from the communication.

9. Mindfully take in 5 minutes each hour.

If you want to live in the moment take 5 minutes every hour to mindfully be here and now. Take this time to describe everything you see, hear, smell, and feel to yourself. This mindfulness exercise is an easy way to bring your mind back to the present moment and keep it there. You cannot do this exercise without bringing you mind to the here and now.

10. Chew your food slowly

Most people eat their food without thinking. They just gobble it down. Instead, eat slowly and enjoy your food. Eating slower allows you to enjoy your food more. An added benefit is that you’ll also eat less.

An excellent exercise to start is to eat an entire orange one piece at a time. Chew each piece slowly, focus on the fragrance and flavor of each bite.

11. Leave room in your schedule.

Many people have so many meetings and tasks in their schedule that they hardly have time to go to the restroom. This type of crowded schedule makes it hard to focus on the task at hand and fills your mind with anxiety. You cannot live in the moment when you fill your schedule to brim.

Give yourself some space between obligations. This will allow you time to reflect, regroup and restart the next activity with the energy it deserves.

Start to Live in the Moment Today

Spending time in the past or the future wastes the time you have today. This is time that you will never get back.

Instead of wallowing in worry and regret, learn to live in the moment. It’s a skill anyone can learn and a habit that will completely change your life.

It’s a phrase we hear often in today’s digital age. In a life where we’re constantly chasing the next big thing or getting caught up in the the live’s of those around us, it can be hard to stay focused on the reality that’s right in front of us.

We lose ourselves to our phones, constantly scrolling through social pages one after another- absorbing how our friends are living their best lives while downplaying our own.

When it’s time to work we get sidetracked, avoiding our responsibilities even though deep down we’re fully aware of the shortcomings and consequences of our actions.

We anxiously sit and await the future while living the in the present full of regret over our past.

Life escapes our grasps and years from now we’ll find ourselves wondering where the time went.

These 3 books helped me take back control and start living in the moment.

“As soon as you honor the present moment, all unhappiness and struggle dissolve, and life begins to flow with joy and ease.”

” rel=”noopener ugc nofollow” target=”_blank”> The Power of Now is a manual to keep your ego, the little voice in your head in check. It’s a guide to living life fully, without distractions from your future or your past to achieve the most honest version of you.

Eckhart Tolle has a brilliant way of speaking to you; his words flow through the pages making the most complex concepts easy to understand and follow; engraving his teachings to memory.

I read this book a couple years back when I was going through a dark time in life- the messages and methods in this book played a pivotal role in me understanding myself and not letting the circumstances of life ruin me.

” rel=”noopener ugc nofollow” target=”_blank”> The Power of Now is a handbook to living a happier, more peaceful life. It teaches you how to be more aware and conscious of your thoughts and emotions. With topics ranging from traumas of your past, anxiety of the future, detrimental relationships, parental problems and so much more; each chapter building off the other.

Regardless of your spiritual views, this book will help you start living in the present.

“We take a handful of sand from the endless landscape of awareness around us and call that handful of sand the world.”

Follow a father and son as they go on a motorcycle trip cross America’s Northwest that ultimately leads to self discovery, growth, and acceptance.

” rel=”noopener ugc nofollow” target=”_blank”> Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance is a story written by Robert M. Persig that has been revered as one of the most influential books of this past century and rightfully so.

It’s a book read from the father’s perspective and understanding of the world, or as he tries to develop an understanding of it.

The book is filled with deep philosophical ideas and notions taken from the minds of great thinkers such as Socrates, Plato, and Phaedrus.

The philosophical concepts the narrator proposes will have you questioning your beliefs while trying to understand his own- concepts such as what Quality actually means, the different methods people use to try to understand and make sense of the world, acceptance of our past selves.

The scenes in this book are painted using such vivid words, reading it became an escape. I would lose myself within the mountainous trails the narrator would hike up on or the endless roads he would drive down with his son on the back of his bike.

Get lost within the chapters of this story and come back with a better understanding of yourself.

“There are no ordinary moments.”

One night, a world class gymnast meets an old gas station attendant- a meeting that starts his life changing journey.

It’s a book that makes you realize how precious life is.

There are so many crucial moments and experiences in life that we ignore and throwaway while valuing things that are relatively unimportant.

This story sheds light on those little moments and shows how grand they really are; simple mundane acts such as eating, breathing, and thinking.

Enjoying your meal fully; not rushing through to eat but savoring every bite.
Correcting your diet to eat more nutritional food
Taking control of your breathing; inhaling and exhaling fully
Observing your mind as it wanders from one thought to another; not allowing the distractions around you consume you.
Exercising the body

Dan Millman wrote this as reflection of his own life- his journey from college athlete to searching for enlightenment.

All the timeless lessons he learned are taught by Socrates, the mysterious gas attendant who becomes Dan’s mentor.

How to live in the moment

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The former nun is the creator of the Charter for Compassion, whose signatories (Prince Hassan of Jordan, the Dalai Lama) fight extremism, hatred, and exploitation throughout the world.

“Sometimes you wake up at 3 A.M. when everything seems dark, and you think, “Life isn’t fair. I’ve got too much to do. I’m too put-upon.” It’s a rat run of self-pity! But when you feel compassion, you dethrone yourself from the center of the world. Doing that has made me a more peaceful person.”

How to live in the moment

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The former CEO of Patagonia has, along with her husband, bought up 2.2 million acres in Argentina and Chile to create new national parks.

“The millions of species with whom we share the Earth have intrinsic value. We have to reach, if not perfect harmony between man and the natural world, at least a truce. I have a border collie–like personality—I’m happiest with a job to do. I glaze over if things are going smoothly, and excel when faced with very big problems. You see something that needs to be changed? Jump out of your chair and put your shoulder to the wheel.”

How to live in the moment

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The Caldecott Honor winner is best known for her painted story quilts, which include “Dinner at Gertrude Stein’s” and “Dancing at the Louvre.”

“Back when I was starting out, someone at a party asked me what I did, and I said, ‘I’m an artist.’ And a friend of mine said, ‘Faith, would you please stop telling people you’re an artist? You’re not an artist. You’re an art teacher.’ I thought: ‘That’s interesting that she thinks she can tell me who I am. I’m the one who determines when I’m an artist. And that’s right here, right now.'”

How to live in the moment

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The author of the 2005 poetry collection The Niagara River is the 16th Poet Laureate of the United States.

“I remember lying in bed as a young teenager and deciding to hypnotize myself by saying these words: ‘Be what you are, be what you are, be what you are.’ I said it hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of times, the intention being to protect me from what I felt was going to take me away from myself. And to this day I still say that when I think I’m trying to fit somebody else’s expectations.”

How to live in the moment

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Founding editor of the Whole Earth Catalog and author of the new Whole Earth Discipline, Brand is president of the Long Now Foundation, whose goal is to promote “slower/better” thinking as a counterpoint to today’s “faster/cheaper” way of living.

“I’m a great believer in boredom as a motivator, particularly when things are going well and whatever it is you’re doing, you can do in your sleep. Well, if that’s how you feel, chances are, you are doing it in your sleep. So I try to notice when I’m getting bored, and I either let it build up, so I can feel motivated to haul off and do something weird, or respond to it right away. A combination of curiosity and boredom is what motivates me. Passion, I’m not so sure.”

There have been numerous times when I’ve read the phrase “Live in the moment” but today I got a question in a quiz wrong according to which “Live for the moment” is the correct usage.

Then I checked online and found Live for the moment is a phrase while I can’t find live in the moment defined anywhere (in known and reliable dictionaries).

My question is, have people been using the phrase “live in the moment” incorrectly from a long time?

EDIT: Yes, I know use of “live in the moment” is not uncommon. But why is it I cannot find it in any known and reliable dictionaries? I even got a question wrong in quiz.

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Just for your info, Macmillan online lists “live in/for the moment” as meaning “enjoy the present and not worry about the future”.

I don’t know where you found information on “live in the moment” being incorrect. It’s quite common in Australian English.

In fact, here’s a Google search result for wikiHow:

How to live in the moment

How to live in the moment

There is a difference in connotation.

  • Live for the moment

You might say this of someone who does risky thing just for the thrill of it. They might plan these exciting “moments” ahead of time, and anticipate them. So even before that moment, they are living “for” that moment. Similarly, even non-thrill-seekers may say they “live for the weekend”, meaning they think all week about the activities or relaxation they will enjoy during the weekend.

  • live in the moment

These people might not plan any particular “moments” to enjoy, they just seem to have the knack of enjoying (or at least accepting) whatever comes their way. Actually, this attitude/habit can be learned through meditation, particularly the kind that is now called mindfulness. It is exemplified by the motto “Be Here Now”. These people do not seek “moments”; they seek for the serenity to accept calmly every moment, good or bad, without being distracted by thoughts of the past or the future.

As for this not being in your “reliable” dictionaries—well, you’ll just have to take it up with the editors of that dictionary.

How to live in the moment

“There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.”

Just when you think you have the whole living in the moment thing down, a four-year-old comes along and shows you how it’s done.

I’ve been working hard on this, actually, keeping a gratitude journal and everything. I was feeling pretty good about my progress yesterday when I decided to take said four-year-old on a walk rather than rushing through the to-do list burning a hole in the back of my mind.

“I’m going to be totally present,” I reminded myself as we headed out. I took deep breath and said a silent thanks for the beautiful day.

Like I said, I was feeling pretty proud of my progress. Then my daughter blew me away. She schooled me in everything I have been working so hard on, and she wasn’t even trying.

Her commentary on the walk went exactly like this:

Ohhhhhh, what an amazing house!

What an amazing garbage can!

Oh wow, what a wonderful tree!

Look at the rocks!

I hear a wind chime!

Mom, do you hear that dog? It’s perfect!

Do you feel the wind? It is so soft!

Look at the beautiful cactus,

She was so amazed by things that I never notice or worse, complain about.

Now, I wasn’t completely unaware. I was thankful for another spring day before the summer heat, and I was enjoying this rare one-on-one time with her.

But I had no idea that the neighbors had wind chimes. I have never looked at a garbage can and called it amazing (at least not since I was four). This perfect dog is the same one that I complain about to my husband. The wind was messing up my hair.

There were at least a thousand other concerns competing for my attention while she was content to watch ants on the sidewalk.

Sometimes I wish I could be a little more like her.

She didn’t care if I sent out that attachment with that email. She didn’t care about how many calories we burned on our walk. She didn’t mind that her clothes didn’t match because she picked out exactly what she likes.

I was not going to let this fade from my memory to be overtaken by another thousand concerns.

“Be amazed,” I thought.

I repeated it to myself the way you do a telephone number.

“Be amazed,” I scrawled as fast as I could on the first piece of paper I found when we got home.

I set a reminder in my calendar. I made a post-it. I wrote it down in my journal.

I don’t want to forget this feeling. This absolute clarity.

My mind can be the most hardened criminal against my own happiness. It snatches the joy right out of my hands. It confuses busy with important, urgent with significant, and difficulty with meaning.

My mind gives the future and the past too much space. It wanders over to what the neighbors are doing. It reminds me of what I have yet to accomplish. It wants to speed up time, and it plows right through those moments to be amazed by.

With this clarity also came sadness. My heart broke for the lost opportunities to just be and appreciate.

I guess that’s the bittersweet part of life. You can’t wait until this one tough part is over, but then it’s gone and you can’t go back. There’s a new stage to take its place, and the cycle continues.

Soon, you find yourself telling wide-eyed new parents and self-conscious teenagers (and basically anyone in one of those stages that you wanted to rush through when you were there) that these are the best years.

“Enjoy this while you can. It goes so fast,” you say.

Looking back, the times that I once wished would pass by quickly actually turned out to be the hardest to let go. I could scold myself for this, or I could remember to be amazed now.

One way or another, time marches on. Old becomes new, new becomes old, and you get another chance to be amazed.

Each new stage is also another chance to be nice to yourself about the whole thing. It isn’t humanly possible to love every second of life while it’s happening. Even four-year-olds aren’t amazed all the time.

This little walk with my four-year-old reminded me that even the simple things are amazing, and the things I complain about? They’re life, and they’re doable. Sure, life now is different from life pre-kids (and pre-husband), I’m doing different things than my friends, and maybe my life doesn’t measure up to someone else’s definition of amazing.

I can be amazed anyway.

Starting now, these two words will be a compass guiding me when it feels like I don’t have it all together. They will remind me what direction I want to go even when I feel completely lost.

Be amazed. Take a step back and look at your life with gratitude every now and then.

Be amazed. Squeeze every last ounce of goodness out of what is around you. Savor it. Soak it up. Luxuriate in it.

Be amazed. When you’re burned out, bone weary, and bedraggled, use amazement to fill yourself back up. Seek out those situations, people, and activities that remind you of what it means and how it feels to be amazed.

And those painful parts? You know, the ones that really, really hurt. The ones you barely survive. Maybe there’s a little room for amazement there, too.

Amazement when you make it to the other side.

Amazement for how much the heart can hold.

Amazement for your resilience, your ability to heal, and your capacity to keep loving and hoping.

Be amazed by your spirit. Your tenacity. Be amazed by that part of you that refuses to give up.

You only get one shot at life, and you don’t have a whole lot of control over what happens to you in it. Take advantage of the choices that you do have.

I will choose to be amazed.

How to live in the moment

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How to live in the moment

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I was taught by a dear friend of mine, Judy, the importance of living in the moment when I was going through breast cancer. I guess it had never occurred to me before then…

I was sitting with her in the sunshine on her porch and I had just been diagnosed and was feeling fairly traumatized by the notion that I had an unwanted “guest” in my body.

Judy was listening to my long litany of things I was worrying about – chief among them being “What if everything I do turns out not to be enough?” Judy gave me a gift that day, by saying “Well you can certainly go down that road and worry yourself endlessly. Or you can choose to just live in the moment. Appreciate the here and now as fully as you can.” That turned out to be life-changing advice, and I thank my friend Judy from the bottom of my heart for that beautiful lesson.

We Can Get Lost In the Past and Agonize About the Future

Being a human isn’t easy. Our brains, which are so marvelous at figuring out complex things, can also be the bane of our existence. We can listen to the tales our brain tells us – worrying endlessly about what happened at a party last week, what people will think, how big our credit card bill is – on and on and on.

Sometimes our brain gets fixated on the future, however, and if we are anxious or fearful about that, it can be paralyzing. The trick is not to let our mind control us, rather, to take hold of the mind and direct it where you WANT it to go.

The reason I believe that living in the moment is important when you’re going through breast cancer is because there are so many things about which to be anxious and fearful. Living in the moment truly strips that away and helps you to be more fully alive NOW (which is really all that matters – the here and now!)

My Favorite 9 Tips On Living In The Moment

  1. Release Your Self-Conscious Anxiety – If you can, release your worries about what people are thinking of you. Most people are so focused on themselves, they really are not thinking about you as much as you think they are. Who cares what they think anyway? It simply does not matter.
  2. Truly Savor The Present Moment – Be alive to it, use all of your senses. Really hear the song that is playing or what your child is telling you, totally immerse yourself in the beautiful colors of a sunset, truly feel your clothes touching your skin, taste that mouthful of food you just took – endeavor to identify exactly what you’re tasting. If you’re doing something you perceive as boring (like walking to the bus stop), treat it as a meditation and observe with new eyes each thing you see on the journey – a bird, another human (smile at them!), a squirrel rushing past. Your world is changing constantly – be alive to it.
  3. Be Very Mindful – All The Time! – This works especially well in your relationships with others and initially can be a little hard to do. But the more you practice it, the better you get at it. Simply put, it involves NOT reacting with anger in situations where you normally would. Take a moment and really think about what is being said, how it’s meant. The Buddhists call this recognizing the spark before the flame. In short you are inhabiting your own mind more fully, by not reacting and pausing a moment to think about things you are being fully present. When you do respond, do your best not to respond in anger but with thoughtfulness.
  4. Don’t Avoid Pain – By pushing away painful thoughts (or even physical pain) you are simply postponing dealing with it. By facing it fully, accepting it for what it is and then releasing it (whether via a talk with your psychotherapist or a massage or whatever you need to do) you bring yourself fully into this moment.
  5. Meditation Assists – Living in the moment gets easier with meditation because you are actively clearing thoughts from your mind (like the wind blows clouds from the sky) when you meditate and concentrating on an affirmation or your breath. When you notice your mind has wandered, simply bring it back to the present moment and your breath.
  6. Forgive What Has Happened In The Past – That old saying “To err is human, to forgive divine” has never been more true. When you forgive someone for a wrong you perceived they have committed, you free yourself from the past and this allows you to be more present now.
  7. Do One Thing At A Time – When you are multi-tasking (and I know you are… we’re all guilty!) you are quite unable to focus on any one thing and give it your full attention. Resist the urge to rush through it. Do it slowly, thoughtfully, mindfully, like it was the single most important thing you ever had to do. Try smiling while you’re doing it.
  8. Leave Blank Holes in Your “To Do” List – Resist the urge to schedule things really close together for 14 hours straight. Give yourself a little wiggle room to breathe, meditate, take a walk or simply sit and do nothing! We have become human DOINGS rather than human BEINGS. Just sit and “be”.
  9. Do Something Nice For Someone – Whether it’s for someone you love or a total stranger, nothing helps you to be more in the moment than to let someone know you care by doing something nice for them. Even just smiling at a stranger as you pass by could have an impact on their entire day. Hold a door open for someone, give up your seat on the bus to an older person, cook your spouse their favorite meal unexpectedly, tell someone how much they mean to you. It feels really good – to them and to you.

A final note: When I am stressing about something it’s almost always because I’m reaching too far into the future and feeling concerned about it. It helps to bring yourself back to “right now” by asking yourself “Am I okay right now?” If the answer is yes, then feel gratitude and stay with that feeling for as long as you can. Because right now is all we have. 90% of the things we worry about never happen.

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She skipped and twirled into the room, her pink and purple tutu skirt like a streak of pastel watercolor. It was my granddaughter’s sixth birthday, and she couldn’t contain her excitement. Her unicorn headband, sparkly nail polish, and braided hair with a huge purple bow had been carefully chosen by her for her big celebration.

Her unbridled laughter brought an unexpected stab to my heart.

I raised three girls, so I know about that sixth birthday.

It’s the bridge to being a big girl.

And I wasn’t quite ready to see our little girl go.

I wanted to hold on to her affection for twirly skirts and stuffed animals, dolls and read-to-me books, singing at the top of her lungs, and dress-up clothes.

How to live in the moment

Letting Go

My granddaughter opened her gifts and, without being prompted, paused to thank each giver. She was acting like a big girl, and I smiled at the realization that growing up is nice, too.

Big girls tell funny stories and have long conversations in the car. In time, they learn how to reach out to others and what it means to be a good friend.

In all honesty, I enjoyed every season of my own three daughters’ growing-up years. First there was the fascination of infancy, the wide-eyed innocence of preschoolers, and the matter-of-factness of early childhood. Then came the self-identification of middle school and the absolute blast of high school before they ventured on to make their own way at college.

I loved each evolving season more than the previous one.

As my granddaughter invited her friends to circle up and dance with, I prepared my heart for what I knew was right around the bend.

There is a right time for everything” (Ecclesiastes 3:1, TLB), even letting go of the precious, fleeting season of being a little girl.

HOW TO LIVE IN THE MOMENT

No matter how many times well-meaning (normally older) people tell you to “embrace the moment,” time flies while you’re trying your best to “live in the moment.” For a lot of moms, that kind of helpful advice turns into yet another reason to feel pressure and/or guilt because, let’s face it, not every moment is one you feel like embracing.

VIEW YOUR LIFE IN SEASONS

In the deep South where I live, summers are long, hot, and humid. After a few weeks of sleeveless tops and visits to the lake or a pool, I find myself longing for fall. Then, once I’ve had my fill of apple cinnamon and pumpkin everything, I’m ready to bundle up on cold winter nights. But it doesn’t take long for me to grow weary of the cold, and soon all I can think of is the first warm day of spring.

That’s how it is with the seasons of our lives. Each one brings a mixture of joy and relief.

We won’t necessarily want to embrace every moment of our lives, but we can embrace each season. Every season is filled with embraceable moments.

RECOGNIZE THAT SEASONS DON’T LAST

Living in the moment is more attainable with the recognition that where you are is a season that won’t last. Each season brings moments that make you giddy and others that make you want to pull your hair out. But eventually the season will be gone, making way for a new one.

No one described the passage of time better than King Solomon. Interlaced within the beauty of each season is the reality of moments that are difficult:

There is an occasion for everything, and a time for every activity under heaven: a time to give birth and a time to die; a time to plant and a time to uproot; a time to kill and a time to heal; a time to tear down and a time to build; a time to weep and a time to laugh; a time to mourn and a time to dance; a time to throw stones and a time to gather stones; a time to embrace and a time to avoid embracing; a time to search and a time to count as lost; a time to keep and a time to throw away; a time to tear and a time to sew; a time to be silent and a time to speak; a time to love and a time to hate; a time for war and a time for peace.
(Ecclesiastes 3:1-8)

So, live in the moment by being acutely aware that it’s a season of life that won’t last. And when life is hard, hold on to the sure hope that a new season is just around the corner.

How many times have people said to you, “Live in the moment”? Dr. Ian Ellis Jones explains how mindful living is more than that.

  • By Ian Ellis-Jones
  • April 28, 2011

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It is said, quite rightly in my view, that one cannot actually live in the moment. The reason is fairly simple. The so-called “moment” is so brief, so ephemeral, that no sooner has it arrived, it’s gone. It’s the past. One cannot live in the moment because the moment, although ever-present, is always changing … into the next moment … and the next … and the next! Consciousness is nothing more than awareness from one moment to the next.

Some people criticise mindfulness on the ground that it asserts that one must live in the moment or the now. Not so. Mindfulness is concerned with being present, and living with awareness, from moment to moment, that is, from one moment to the next. Existentially, it is not possible to live in the moment but it is possible to live, and be fully aware, from one moment to the next. That is the important thing.

Mindful living is all from moment to moment … being aware step by step, breath by breath, thought by thought, feeling by feeling, memory by memory, sensation by sensation, and so forth. Such is the flow of life, for what is life but the ongoing moment-to-moment livingness of living things and beings living out their livingness from one moment to the next.

So, don’t try to live in the moment or in the now, well-intentioned though such advice might be. Live, with choiceless awareness and bare attention, from one moment to the next … and be fully present while you do so.

Q: How to Enjoy Life?
A: Live in the Moment.

Be here now. Be more mindful. Live in the moment…

These sentiments all express a similar motive: being present in your daily life .

Words like these get tossed around so much that they have almost lost all meaning. They conjure up images of pumpkin spiced lattes being purchased in yoga pants. Or sagelike kung fu cliches in 70s B movies, imparting vague but seemingly important knowledge on troubled youths who go on to save the day.

In reality, the simple wisdom contained in these oft-abused buzzwords (if practiced) can teach us how to truly live in the moment. Eliminate unhealthy preoccupations with the past and future. Make your life more joyful.

The present moment is quite literally the only thing that’s real. Everything else only exists in our minds. That’s why practicing mindfulness is so important.

To live joyous lives, we need to learn how to remain calm in the midst of turmoil. Be relaxed when work is stressful. Be patient with our loved ones. And ultimately, be understanding with ourselves.

Learning how to live in the present moment teaches us self-knowledge, wisdom, and self-awareness.

Be present. Be real.

Stop Living in the Past

You can’t change the past. No matter how much you dwell on it. You can ponder it, learn from it, and grow from it – but you can’t change it.

Depression often occurs when a person is stuck living in the past. They focus too much mental energy on the choices they’ve made (or failed to make). Over time, this pattern of overanalysis can overtake the mind and overwhelm the senses. This makes people depressed.

Bad things happen. We mess up. Sometimes feel hopeless. Sometimes we even make the same mistakes for years.

Our past defines us only as long as we allow it to. Instead of using the past as a scapegoat for present circumstances, a more productive approach is to acknowledge and learn from it. Put the past where it belongs. Use the lessons of past experiences to inform decisions made in the present.

If something isn’t working for you, don’t be afraid to change it. Learn to let go of attachments. Meditation is great for this.

You’ve got this, grasshopper.

Stop Worrying About the Future

The future does not exist. You can (and should) plan for it and be prepared for it – but keep in mind that the future only exists as an abstract idea. It hasn’t happened yet and most likely won’t unfold as you’ve imagined it.

Anxiety is depression’s ugly cousin. The main difference between depression and anxiety is, while depression is rooted in attachment to the past, anxiety is overly fixated on the future. When people spend too much time ruminating on future events they become anxious. Stay anxious too long, you develop an anxiety disorder.

The best way to feel good about the future is to prepare for it in the present. Rather than getting all worked up and worrying about it, a more proactive approach is to start planning. When you plan yourself for the future you position yourself to better handle any unforeseeable events that may arise.

This is productive.

Figure out what your needs are, now and moving forward, and make small but attainable goals that align with what is important to you. Make a commitment to yourself. Over and over – day after day. By breaking large goals into small goals, we lessen the burden of feeling like we have to scale Mt. Everest all at once. Rinse and repeat for any area of life that you want to improve.

It’s just that simple. But simplicity can be deceptive. Simple isn’t always easy.

It’s important not to confuse what is simple with what is easy. Easy is doing what you’ve always done. And if we’re being honest with ourselves, we could always be doing better. Knowing that, it’s important to be compassionate and understanding with ourselves and others while on this journeys.

We can do this by diligently practicing mindfulness.

Mindfulness Definition – What is Mindfulness?

Mindfulness is a mental state attained by focusing one’s awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations. As practitioners of mindfulness get more advanced, it is often practiced as a moral and philosophical system of guidance.

How to Practice Mindfulness

Mindfulness Meditation

The best way to practice mindfulness is through meditation. There are many different styles and types of meditation. It’s best for each individual to find a mode of meditation that works for them. A good starting point is through mindfulness meditation .

Here’s a great starting point for learning how to practice mindfulness meditation .

Mindfulness meditation is a simple practice that yields great strides in our journey towards being more present in our daily lives. By focusing our thoughts, feelings, and senses on the here and now , we are better able to focus on what truly matters to us. This practice takes self-discipline . You have to show up consistently for an undisclosed duration.

But over time, the effects of mindfulness meditation are transformative.

Practice Mindfulness through Reading

Reading is another great way to practice mindfulness. In our fast-paced smartphone world, I’m wagering that most of us tend to skim a lot.

We all know that you are what you eat . But we seem to forget that you are what you read. Garbage in, garbage out.

Make a commitment to yourself to read books to better yourself . Reading can help you develop new skills. It also improves focus and empathy. It’s like gymnastics for the mind.

By making a commitment to reading books that make you better , you will be improving the quality of ideas and language that you allow to enter into your reality.

Don’t overlook this concept. It’s huge. Don’t be a skimmer. Be the kind of reader that writers write for. Devour the language and ideas. Digest them so thoroughly that the concepts become the very fiber of your thought process. That is the very essence of mindfulness.

The entire history of human thoughts and ideas is available, for free, just about everywhere in the world. Ripe fruit just waiting to be plucked. Dive into the accumulated knowledge and wisdom of humanity. Again, it’s simple but isn’t always easy. But the easy thing is rarely the right thing to do.

Be intentional. Focus. Be mindful.

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Joining us today is Mary Lauren from My 3 Little Birds. She is talking about how to slow down life’s frantic pace and live in the moment.

How to live in the moment

As moms, we’re trained to rush. Breakfast to backpacks. Drop off to dentist. There is lunch to prepare (How quickly can you get those apples sliced?) and work to be done.

There are times I feel like I’m competing in an imaginary race to bedtime. My opponent is invisible and trash-talks me all day.

You’re not moving fast enough, she says. She tells me one hundred ways I’m not measuring up, not working hard enough, not being good enough at this motherhood gig. Are you competing with her, too?

Today I want to talk about how really winning the race requires slowing down. After all, when we’re moving that fast we miss the good stuff.

The way your daughter admires her brand-new pierced ears in the hallway mirror.

The smell of the bread as it bakes (it reminds you of your grandmother).

The light, falling in slats through the blinds in the bedroom, making the walls glow yellow.

The sound of his voice on the phone, telling you he loves you with the same words he used when he was 25.

What happened to the 25 year old girl? She grew up, had a baby. Then another. She focused on a career, focused on the kids, focused on him. And somewhere along the way she began to see life as a race and stopped really living.

So how do we slow down, live in the moment?

1. Look at the Life You’ve Created

On lunch breaks as a working mom, I’d look at a picture of my baby while I used my breast pump. The books all told me this would encourage let-down. I stared at his face, the tiny cleft in his chin, the eyes that were blue but would turn to brown. I felt myself relax. Breathe. I could do my job for him. I could produce the fatty milk, ounces and ounces of it, enough to fill a freezer and then some. Looking at his face slowed me down. Is there a way we can look at our families now as a reminder to slow down, to take it all in?

2. Focus on the Big Picture

When you look at life as a series of items to check off a never-ending list, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. But guess what? You’re living the life you dreamed about for all those years of broken hearts and doodles on a notebook page. You have it all now. Take a deep breath and enjoy your family.

3. Make a Happiness List

Just for one day, instead of staring at a page of to-do’s, record the moments that made you smile.

4. Play

Do you know what happens every time you get on the carpet with a four year old and succumb to the pressure of playing with Matchbox cars? You have fun. And so does he. Incorporate play into every day.

5. Soak It All In

This summer I found myself impatient for the routine that fall brings– the regular rhythm of the school year. And then I realized that this is the last summer that she will be two, that he will be four, and that my oldest will be eight. They will never be this young again. Will she curl up in my lap at three? Will he need even need me to read to him at five? And nine- that is the hardest one of all. Nine will bring big-kid challenges that I cannot begin to imagine. So I decided to relax. Soak in the summer. Enjoy the season with everything it means for our family.

Slowing down really just means being present. Available. There will always be tasks to complete and chores to be done. But in the end, what’s most important is worth slowing down for.

And that invisible opponent? She’ll have to wait.

About the Author:

How to live in the momentMary Lauren is a social worker turned mother turned blogger. Long before she was any of these things she was a writer. When she’s not writing at her blog, My 3 Little Birds, you can find her drinking too much coffee, pretending she’s crafty, and finding excuses not to exercise. She’s a contributing writer at SheIt and is developing a career as a freelancer.

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To be here and now, detached from the past, carefree of the future, to know how to savor the small pleasures of everyday life. Why is it so difficult?

Yet, focusing our attention on what we are living, here, on what we feel, now, is an exercise whose benefits are extremely powerful, the best anxiolytic there is!

Do you also constantly feel that your days are too short? Do you feel like you’re always running? Are you constantly looking for inner peace?

It’s not always easy to deal with everyday life when your head is constantly full of information.

Did you know that our brain produces 60,000 thoughts a day ? Enough to easily feed our little inner hamster!

The over-stimulation we experience in today’s society leads us to disperse easily , to lock ourselves in virtual reality, disconnected from our sensations. It is not easy to live fully in the moment .

Studies have been conducted to understand why some people have a real propensity to be happy, positive, and enterprising. These studies have shown that these happy people live mainly in the moment .

What Is to Live in The Moment?

How to live in the moment

“If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present.”

Perhaps you have already read this quote from Lao Tzu? I think it illustrates and sums up very well what it is to live in the moment.

Since the beginning of time, the human species has been programmed to react efficiently to danger . Our bodies deal with these situations by generating stress, which can be positive or negative, by awakening our senses and by modifying what is happening in our bodies to respond effectively. We are naturally inclined to anticipate the future and to remember the past so as not to make the same mistakes in the future.

This takes us away from the present moment and what is happening in our bodies, here and now.

Our society is accelerating, everything is going very fast, we have no time for anything. We want everything, right away, and are constantly looking for a feeling of immediate pleasure. And this, in a consumer society where everything pushes us to look for happiness in material things rather than inside ourselves.

But we forget one important principle: we have no control over the past or the future .

How to Be Present in The Moment?

To live in the moment is to live in full awareness . It is to be aware of your thoughts and the emotions they generate at the exact moment they arrive. Then, it is to choose whether or not you want to continue thinking about them.

At first, it is an effort, a training, that then becomes as natural as breathing.

Living in the present moment is choosing to live fully what you are experiencing NOW. By connecting body and soul, being aware of our environment, of what is happening in us and around us.

Living in the moment is being able to let go of the emotions that may arise without judging them or trying to control them.

Living in the moment is taking a few minutes every day to slow down, to appreciate a state of inner peace in full awareness.

Living in the moment is about centering yourself. It is to align with oneself.

Living in the moment is trusting life.

To live in the moment is to rediscover your childlike soul. Without preconceived ideas or expectations, just being open to the world.

And finally, I would say that living in the moment is to become a channel open to intuition. It is a choice without control.

Letting Go, the Key to Happiness

How to live in the moment

To appreciate and accept the present moment, you must be able to understand and put into practice the notion of letting go. It is not about surrendering or giving up in the face of this or that situation. It is rather about accepting what is.

Letting go is about accepting the present moment unconditionally and without reservation.

It is by living only in the moment, by accepting it, and by letting go, by focusing our attention on the “doing” (present) rather than on the result (future) that we can reconnect with our true being and our inner peace.

The Benefits

Being fully in the moment allows one to develop sensory acuity, and to see life’s beauty more easily . It also confers a sense of freedom .

Being aware of the present moment helps us to realign our body and mind , which are overburdened by our daily obligations, our busy schedule, and our responsibilities.

By focusing on our breathing, our environment, and our emotions, our mind pauses and our body naturally becomes less tense. Our muscles loosen, our breath becomes deeper, our belly relaxes, and our mind calms down for a moment.

The benefits are then measured on our general health , physical and mental. And with a good complementary lifestyle , we sleep better, our sleep is deeper and more restful.

With practice, living in the moment helps us to release the pressure when we feel overwhelmed, stressed. It contributes to better self-development and allows us to expand our intuition to gradually find serenity.

Living in the moment can be a work in progress. You can work on it on a daily basis, thanks to numerous techniques.

What Are The Techniques to Live in The Moment?

How to live in the moment

The most effective and affordable way to live in the moment is to learn mindfulness meditation . There are a lot of apps or very good videos on YouTube available for free .

Yoga, conscious breathing, and sophrology are also very accessible and excellent choices. These approaches have many benefits that have been scientifically proven for many years. By connecting to the body, we connect to the present moment.

Practicing gratitude, writing down your positive thoughts every day in a small notebook will also help you to see your life in a more positive way and to take the time to consciously appreciate what is happening around you.

And you can also simply live as consciously as possible in the moment through the small gestures of your daily life.

When you take your shower, for example, enjoy feeling the water flowing over each part of your body , listen to its sound, observe it flowing, enjoy the caress of the soap on your skin, from your feet to the nape of your neck.

When you walk, concentrate on your steps , the roll of your arch, the sounds, the smells. Or the light, the nature, or the architecture that surrounds you.

When you spend time with your children, pay attention to your movements, to your children’s movements , to the verbal exchanges, to the exchanges of glances. and to all that this evokes in you.

Practicing these techniques only takes a few minutes a day. Regularity is the key to success.

A Sentence to Remember

The only time we really exist is in the present moment .

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